My friend sibei CHUM

[macrotouch]

I got a friend, my cheonging kaki last time. Ever since he met a thai ger, and decide want to be with her, he changed a lot. He changed a lot for the ger. This ger actually go thru his handphone, and called up his female friends telling them she is his new gf and going to get married.
She saw the ex gf call her beau, take the phone tell her don't call anymore because he is going to get married. She knew the boyfriend last time cheong thai disco and got contact 1 singer, she went down to the pub want to find the singer and tell her not to disturb him. Now I don't even sms my friend, because this girl will see his handphone. If I call him, I will have to ask him is his gf with him.

Everytime they quarrel, it is a known secret that 1 week 7 days, 3 days good, 4 days quarrel. They are not yet married but in the process.

Will you guys marry such a ger?

[Vampire Slayer]

Will you guys marry such a ger?

Definately not my cup of tea.
Maybe your friend is not chum... maybe he feel very shiok ;) becos got people control him :D

[colins]

Yeah your friend sibei CHUM. But if he din choose to live his life otherwise, we can only say he choose for things to happen this way. Doing nothing is also a choice. It just happen to be this girl, I guess other girls would have treat him the same way being his gf. Its just him, susceptible to being manipulated.

Oh dun worry abt the quarrels, it will subside once he gives in. Quarrelling will then become a daily ritual for her to want more control and him giving it up at the end of the day. Things will get better once he loses his soul. ;)

[HCKing]

Will you guys marry such a ger?

no way man, me still wanna chiong till the end of time.:D

[macrotouch]

Yeah your friend sibei CHUM. But if he din choose to live his life otherwise, we can only say he choose for things to happen this way. Doing nothing is also a choice. It just happen to be this girl, I guess other girls would have treat him the same way being his gf. Its just him, susceptible to being manipulated.

Oh dun worry abt the quarrels, it will subside once he gives in. Quarrelling will then become a daily ritual for her to want more control and him giving it up at the end of the day. Things will get better once he loses his soul. ;)

The thai ger's good friend ever tell us, this thai ger is very insecure to those she love. In her world she wants her boyfriend only to have her and no one else. Because of this conversation between the thai ger's good friend and me, this thai ger tell my friend to give me a call.

My friend on the phone tell me to not get involved in their relationship. I feel so weird. It was just a normal plain conversation, I also never say anything bad about the thai ger. From the conversation with him, I find it very weird. This friend never talk like this. I suspect his thai gerfren is beside him and want him make that phone call to me. True enough, in 10 minustes, she use his handphone and send me an sms tell me not to kaypo. WTF is this.

I damn hot, send her an sms tell her that her boyfriend may be scared of her, but I am not her boyfriend, neither am I scared of her. I give my friend face, never fuck her vulgar on the sms. This really shows an utter lack of respect for my friend. How many of you will let your wife/gf use your phone and sms his friend and scold him?

[macrotouch]

Yeah your friend sibei CHUM. But if he din choose to live his life otherwise, we can only say he choose for things to happen this way. Doing nothing is also a choice. It just happen to be this girl, I guess other girls would have treat him the same way being his gf. Its just him, susceptible to being manipulated.

Oh dun worry abt the quarrels, it will subside once he gives in. Quarrelling will then become a daily ritual for her to want more control and him giving it up at the end of the day. Things will get better once he loses his soul. ;)

U are very right. This girl is manipulating his life too much. Every day he has to call her at certain timings. I thinking, why live a life like this. True enough, he is the one to always give in. Everytime they quarrel, my friend is the quiet one while the thai ger keep scolding him non-stop. Even the thai ger's friend say that everytime hear my friend keep quiet let her scold.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Its clear y this ger wants to do wat she's doin.
Total DOMINATION with ZERO distraction or external influences
Thus, he'll be all hers to manipulate the way she deem fit.
Now, as a friend, find an opportunity to talk to your bro, tell him this thing i said above.
If he listens, then advise him to wake up.
But if he starts giving u 1001 reasons, shut the fuck up, and leave him to his fate.
By then, u as a friend, BO KIAM YI LI YOU forever

[joew2005]

it's his life,he chooses it & allow it 2 happen tis way.
but if he keeps on giving in,he would be suffocated veri soon.

[fee3fow]

ya find some time to talk with him ALONE. Hopes he still can listen

[daggerboy]

If the shirt you are wearing makes you itch then change the shirt. If you like the shirt so much that you cant bear to replace it then you must bear with the itch. It the same as the saying "If you want to eat eggs then bear with the cackling of the hens."

[pewpew]

You friend have step into hell, maybe he love to be control girls?

[ekemono]

Your friend must learn to love and respect himself more, otherwise one of these days when he hit the last straw, all hell break loose.

Anyway, was it some incident of betrayal that causes the gal to be so paranoid?

I really dun know if the gal truely likes him or wanted to gain something out of him, but regardless when we are an item with someone, we must feel complete, instead of being torn into pieces even more.

Get you friend to delay the ROM and tell her marriage is a life time matter and better for both to take time to understand each other, and regain the trust with each other. This will help the relationship and/or reveal any hidden agenda

[Kiddo]

IMHO, there's nothing much you can do. 一个愿打, 一个愿挨. Moreover, even if you advise your friend out of goodwill, he can blame you if anything goes wrong with the relationship as he seems to can't listen to good advice anymore. 好人难做!

[lacoruna69]

Zi Zuo Nie....:(

[lcbguy]

After he is married he'll be more "chum".No offence but the way I see it,divorce will set in and his fortune has to be split up with the gal.Such type of so-called relationship will not last,trust me.

[macrotouch]

Your friend must learn to love and respect himself more, otherwise one of these days when he hit the last straw, all hell break loose.

Anyway, was it some incident of betrayal that causes the gal to be so paranoid?

I really dun know if the gal truely likes him or wanted to gain something out of him, but regardless when we are an item with someone, we must feel complete, instead of being torn into pieces even more.

Get you friend to delay the ROM and tell her marriage is a life time matter and better for both to take time to understand each other, and regain the trust with each other. This will help the relationship and/or reveal any hidden agenda

My freiend is a cheongster. But no more. The thai ger knew that long ago. It's like absolutely no trust in him. I start think, if no trust why she still stick with him? I have heard of abusive husband and less of abusive wives. I think if get married, my friend may get abused just by looking at things now. For his character is those type quiet quiet lan lan kenna abused type.

I think he loves her. But to what extent, I don't know. However I think no matter how much you love her, there is only so much one should take. Today she can close up his friendship circle, one day she can close up his family circle making his whole world revolve only her and her alone

[mike1304k]

I canot comment whether S's fren s chum or not because it is up to him mah. Let me just say that it is not because the Thai ger is different or wat. My ex was alo the same man. No calls to or from other char bor, no sms, have to pick her up in morning to send her to work and den pick her up to bring her to dinner after work. No porn... kenna caught... oso kenna scolded... And she as a normal local girl.

My experience wif Thai, very protective, but also considerate. They know we cheong, but lan lan... before we eat, they clean our plates and forks and spoons. This was so for both normal and some WL. So I guess that you cannot say which is wat lah... Just that he was unlucky to find someone who is a bit more controlling.

The next question is whether he can accept that or not. Doesn't matter if she is WL or normal. Whether he wants to be controlled or not. Further to this, as you mentioned, she is insecure, so it is up to your fren to make her believe him. You are also worried and perhaps sore because you may have "lost" fren. But for me, if I were in the same situation, I'd accept the lady, help your fren to make her feel secure. Once she trusts you and him, the world is your oyster. It was the same with my fren too. His wife was scared that he was not serious with her in the beginning and he was also insecure. But in the end, both worked things out well.

[pussyman72]

what so chum about ur friend if he choose to be like that... so long he song song what u said doesnt mean anything to him then what his ger said to him ;)

he kanna tom yum koon liao lar poison too much till he cannot even remember his surname.....

as i always said To each his own..... it takes 2 hands to clap just dont come running back n cry can liao :cool:

[norigo77]

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The next question is whether he can accept that or not. Doesn't matter if she is WL or normal. Whether he wants to be controlled or not. Further to this, as you mentioned, she is insecure, so it is up to your fren to make her believe him. You are also worried and perhaps sore because you may have "lost" fren. But for me, if I were in the same situation, I'd accept the lady, help your fren to make her feel secure. Once she trusts you and him, the world is your oyster. It was the same with my fren too. His wife was scared that he was not serious with her in the beginning and he was also insecure. But in the end, both worked things out well.

That's a good advice. The best way to handle a control freak or emotionally insecure woman is to gain trust asap. If not life will be hell. Either accept it and work on trust building, or move on.

[yongzhen]

After he is married he'll be more "chum".No offence but the way I see it,divorce will set in and his fortune has to be split up with the gal.Such type of so-called relationship will not last,trust me.

100% true!
Mayb soon, mayb later.
Since u r on the way of losing a friend.
Y not just b a real true friend and tell him how u feel?
But in a nice way.

[Jarko]

heng ar.. i been with my thai gf for 7 years liao. but so far she onli nag if i go chiong. thats y she hand me credit card when i go out so she can noe my locations. but i more clever den her la.spare cash always around.

[Tai_zi21]

Just wondering how long ur friend can tahan?

Till the time he buay tahan,i guess dun say married la... maybe break 1st before getting married liao

[macrotouch]

Just wondering how long ur friend can tahan?

Till the time he buay tahan,i guess dun say married la... maybe break 1st before getting married liao

Oh, she has access to his email account. Handphone numbers, and tell off the ex-gfs not to contact him any longer. Possesiveness is 1 thing, but I wonder can such a relationship stay long. I thought that was it, now she can even use him to tell me off and use his handphone to sms me. :eek:

[HornyBonk69]

The thai ger's good friend ever tell us, this thai ger is very insecure to those she love. In her world she wants her boyfriend only to have her and no one else. Because of this conversation between the thai ger's good friend and me, this thai ger tell my friend to give me a call.

My friend on the phone tell me to not get involved in their relationship. I feel so weird. It was just a normal plain conversation, I also never say anything bad about the thai ger. From the conversation with him, I find it very weird. This friend never talk like this. I suspect his thai gerfren is beside him and want him make that phone call to me. True enough, in 10 minustes, she use his handphone and send me an sms tell me not to kaypo. WTF is this.

I damn hot, send her an sms tell her that her boyfriend may be scared of her, but I am not her boyfriend, neither am I scared of her. I give my friend face, never fuck her vulgar on the sms. This really shows an utter lack of respect for my friend. How many of you will let your wife/gf use your phone and sms his friend and scold him?For my opinion this kind of bitch sure must give her a gd solid fxxx then she will wake up her fxxking idea!:mad:Even if your fr don't understand also 'bo bian' liao..Remember once my fr got this kind of experince too just after 2 months ROM!But lucky he still sober enough to ask her leave.:rolleyes::)

[sammyboyfor]

Everytime they quarrel, it is a known secret that 1 week 7 days, 3 days good, 4 days quarrel. They are not yet married but in the process.

Will you guys marry such a ger?

Your friend is a moron.:rolleyes:

[AhLunn]

If this is my gf i sure will ask her go away!

[Royster79]

this type of r/s will definately no last... sooner or later, the guy will try to break free from all these nonsense...:rolleyes:

[LostALau]

heng ar.. i been with my thai gf for 7 years liao. but so far she onli nag if i go chiong. thats y she hand me credit card when i go out so she can noe my locations. but i more clever den her la.spare cash always around.

Haha, so it is a case of 'you know how to lock me in, I know how to bore a hole.' (to get out) :p:D

[meder]

Dun worry, yr friend will break off with him very fast

[HCKing]

this type of r/s will definately no last... sooner or later, the guy will try to break free from all these nonsense...:rolleyes:

maybe becos the gf is pretty and sexy, wait till another prettier and hornier babe comes along maybe the guy will start thinking of running off liao.

[Jarko]

Haha, so it is a case of 'you know how to lock me in, I know how to bore a hole.' (to get out) :p:D

hahaha ya man.

[kkjiao]

what so chum about ur friend if he choose to be like that... so long he song song what u said doesnt mean anything to him then what his ger said to him ;)

he kanna tom yum koon liao lar poison too much till he cannot even remember his surname.....

as i always said To each his own..... it takes 2 hands to clap just dont come running back n cry can liao :cool:

I also think maybe he chose to let himself be tortued by the girl. Some people must beat, must slap then they orgasm. I think......:o:o

[Cheri Bebe]

Whoa, this girl's manic love style certainly reminds me of my ex-boyfriend. (Yes, I'm a girl.) The relationship can really be living hell, freakin' suffocating and extreme.

From my personal experience, the reason why they're acting this way is due to the fact that they have low self-esteem, and place much importance on their relationship. They tend to speak of their partners in possessives and superlatives, and feel they "need" their partners. They are often anxious or insecure, and view marriage as ownership.

I really empathize with your friend. Perhaps he could try bringing his girlfriend for therapy? :/

Well, it took me 3 whole years to realize that things weren't gonna work out if the other party ain't willing to do their part. It takes two hands to clap afterall. Let's hope that either the girl tries to change (ideally), or your friend wakes up and looks at the bigger picture after love stops blinding him.

All the best!

[Civil]

I also think maybe he chose to let himself be tortued by the girl. Some people must beat, must slap then they orgasm. I think......:o:o

Well said bro! For some people "Chum" may mean "Song".

[mike1304k]

Whoa, this girl's manic love style certainly reminds me of my ex-boyfriend. (Yes, I'm a girl.) The relationship can really be living hell, freakin' suffocating and extreme.

From my personal experience, the reason why they're acting this way is due to the fact that they have low self-esteem, and place much importance on their relationship. They tend to speak of their partners in possessives and superlatives, and feel they "need" their partners. They are often anxious or insecure, and view marriage as ownership.

I really empathize with your friend. Perhaps he could try bringing his girlfriend for therapy? :/

Well, it took me 3 whole years to realize that things weren't gonna work out if the other party ain't willing to do their part. It takes two hands to clap afterall. Let's hope that either the girl tries to change (ideally), or your friend wakes up and looks at the bigger picture after love stops blinding him.

All the best!

Hi Sis, good words, but then it boils down to 2 reasons. Either the lady wishes to hook the guy and never let him go (she dat she can bleed him dry later) or she is really insecure and has low esteem. If she hooks jus for the sake of bleeding, I truly pity the girl. But if it is because she is insecure, then I am sure that therapy is not necessary. You see a lot of the guys making very degrading remarks about the girl because she is Thai and she is a WL, but then lets face it, a lot of us guys are pussy whipped when we are faced with normal local girls too. The lady is feeling insecure. She wants to start a new life and she loves this ex-cheongster. She needs him to show her that he is and will be there for her. And this will only be shown in time and effort.

As I mentioned and you mentioned, being in an oppressive relationship feels like sh*t.... but it really depends on the individual. If you actually prefer to be controlled, then it is ok. The thought that it he is being pussy whipped till he turns on his khakis is a sore point for the TS, however maybe in the mind of the fren, he wants to cut all and den start a new life. I know I felt the same way when I decided to marry my wife. So I cut all my cheonging and also all my contacts with other girls.

But if he is doing it because he is blinded by the sex part, then I can only say that God have mercy on his soul. But like you also said... it happens to normal people... so why make such a big fuss about a WL?? Normal people have their own jealousies and insecurities and so on too... so why not WL and FL? So like I said before.... as a fren... TS should be helping instead of mouthing off the girl... Unless she is clearly taking his fren for a ride... but all I see is that she is being possesive and controlling.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Some men were born to live like kings
Some men were bron to live like men
Some men were born to live like slaves
Some men were born to live like dogs
Some men were born to live lives worst than insects
Choice??? Not really....you fit your own portfolio
So, from the above, TS, dun pity your friend, if i were you, i'd buy the popcorn and enjoy the show cos it'll be a hot topic to be chatting amoungst friends for years to come.

[Panamera]

A friend of mine same same, got hook to a Thai singer..falling head over heels, everyday like clock work, supported her at the Thai disco, showered with expansive gifts and dinner..Tried my utmost to talk him out but failed, wont listen, I shut-up, back-off few steps but on standby if he ever needed help or in trouble, this is what as a friend I will and can do for him....Stupid or wat, I cannot comment because its his heart not mine...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

A friend of mine same same, got hook to a Thai singer..falling head over heels, everyday like clock work, supported her at the Thai disco, showered with expansive gifts and dinner..Tried my utmost to talk him out but failed, wont listen, I shut-up, back-off few steps but on standby if he ever needed help or in trouble, this is what as a friend I will and can do for him....Stupid or wat, I cannot comment because its his heart not mine...

Wat you can do you've already done.
Let him ride it out, cos if you try to be more friend wif him, i.e as to persuade or advise him, it'll backfire...but once it's over, dun worry, he'll either be too ashamed to see u again or he'll crawl back to you for a shoulder to cry on and also confess what a dickhead he was.
But if he comes back as says he still loves her and ask you for help to get her back, tell him to go F spider cos he's already FINISHED!
Cruel but its the only way dude

[Panamera]

Wat you can do you've already done.
Let him ride it out, cos if you try to be more friend wif him, i.e as to persuade or advise him, it'll backfire...but once it's over, dun worry, he'll either be too ashamed to see u again or he'll crawl back to you for a shoulder to cry on and also confess what a dickhead he was.
But if he comes back as says he still loves her and ask you for help to get her back, tell him to go F spider cos he's already FINISHED!
Cruel but its the only way dude

Thanks bro, frankly I know he will be fucked in a big way, to enlighten him further, I also tried to jio him to go Bangkok to party with me and see for himself what is called smart, beauty, good background Thai gals and also exclusive Thai clubs.....

[sexfrenzy]

Thanks bro, frankly I know he will be fucked in a big way, to enlighten him further, I also tried to jio him to go Bangkok to party with me and see for himself what is called smart, beauty, good background Thai gals and also exclusive Thai clubs.....

better not man.. wait ur fren get mesmerised by a thai lady there lagi worse.. :rolleyes:

[Panamera]

better not man.. wait ur fren get mesmerised by a thai lady there lagi worse.. :rolleyes:

I just want to educate him that his thai gal is only a show gal and that they will "entertain and friendly" with anyone who bot them flowers and Thais are sawadi krup culture - friendly to everyone, nothing special....I think he is a gonner..as he have yet to bonk the gal and still investing....Thai gals can be an angle but they can aslo turn into a demond many times more scary & destructive than PRC gals..

[HCKing]

I just want to educate him that his thai gal is only a show gal and that they will "entertain and friendly" with anyone who bot them flowers and Thais are sawadi krup culture - friendly to everyone, nothing special....I think he is a gonner..as he have yet to bonk the gal and still investing....Thai gals can be an angle but they can aslo turn into a demond many times more scary & destructive than PRC gals..

i dont think it will change alot, after educating him he will still think his girl is 'SPECIAL' and try to speak up 4 her. same goes 4 the TS's friend, no matter hw hard his friend try to help, cannot go in. gotta leave them to their fate liao.

[FL Lover]

i dont think it will change alot, after educating him he will still think his girl is 'SPECIAL' and try to speak up 4 her. same goes 4 the TS's friend, no matter hw hard his friend try to help, cannot go in. gotta leave them to their fate liao.

Bro, Dont kapo too much. You talk too much and your friend wil REALLY THINK u are trying to interfere into their private life....

IF I AM U, I WILL JUST BUY A POPCORN, A CUP OF KOPI SIT DOWN AND ENJOY THE SHOW.... just a matter of time your friend will come running to u for help...

My stand on this issue... U R JUSTA FRIEND TO HIM NO MATTER HOW CLOSE U R TO HIM... Now HIS GF IS EVERYTHING TO HIM..

[suteerak1099]

feel so sorry for your fren, he's buried more than 6ft under. if this girl continues, very soon, she'd be shitting over his head literally.

[Cheonging101]

Actually, look at this way...

You friend fucks hot Thai ger physically and gets fucked by her verbally.

You don't get to fuck hot Thai ger physically and yet, she gets your friend to fuck you verbally.

I think you more chum than your friend. :D

[sibaysong4u]

I think my friend & your friend are Twins brother,same story,all Sibay Chum...butt they still can Tahan.
My friend aready Tahan for 4 years liao.:confused:

[ManInCheong]

I got a friend, my cheonging kaki last time. Ever since he met a thai ger, and decide want to be with her, he changed a lot. He changed a lot for the ger. This ger actually go thru his handphone, and called up his female friends telling them she is his new gf and going to get married.
She saw the ex gf call her beau, take the phone tell her don't call anymore because he is going to get married. She knew the boyfriend last time cheong thai disco and got contact 1 singer, she went down to the pub want to find the singer and tell her not to disturb him. Now I don't even sms my friend, because this girl will see his handphone. If I call him, I will have to ask him is his gf with him.

Everytime they quarrel, it is a known secret that 1 week 7 days, 3 days good, 4 days quarrel. They are not yet married but in the process.

Will you guys marry such a ger?

Definitely!!!
U never saw thai horror movie ar. i you no marry this type of girl, wait later kena "gong tao" then u know.

[wow7"]

Bro, cantonese saying : if you have a peaceful life in the mountain, why bring a tiger onto the mountain ? Sibei Gong NOT CHUM !

[fanaticd]

the insecurity in the girl will prmopt to do something evil to your friend and maybe you! you need to get prepare for those voodoo stuffs especially that it is so advance and common in thailand.

you are chum also as she knows you are involved. hope that she dun put a penis rotting curse on you.

Good Luck! Oh! nearly forgot, love is blind but reality is available for all to see

[lamtaetae]

It is not a normal relationship and your friend is in deep shit.
You better get him to a Thai temple to have a look by the Luang Phor whether he kena nasi kangkang or not.

[gonz]

maybe is true love for him, ur friend know what she is doing, and did't manage to stop or break-up wid her, mean somewhere some how he allow her to do so, is his choice isn't it. dun totallt disconnet from him, one day things happen he will need you by his side, that is friends for. and he will never listen to you liao la, dun bother tokin to him abt his gf, his ear is seal. wait for stone fall from sky to wake him up.

if you agreed just up me. just my point of view