How often do you have sex with your wife?

[parrotkid]

My wife has beeb giving me sex only about once a month for the past 3 years. She doesn’t blow me as well and refuses to let me livk her pussy. Is this normal?

How often do you fuys get sex from your wife? Any BJ? Can lick pussy?

[Xyberduke]

Kidding? If my wife does that to me, I will be out for FL/ML every other day.

69 is the litmus test for how much your partner is comfortable with you

[parrotkid]

Really? I haven’t had it even once. She says it is dirty to lick her pussy and suck my dick.

[Stimsia]

Really? I haven’t had it even once. She says it is dirty to lick her pussy and suck my dick.

To qualify,i am not married but some suggestions for TS
a) passive education by watching av film so wifey may get attracted to what TS desire
b) convince wifey on oral hygiene using mouth wash

Once a month seem below average freq
But is the session long or short and satisfying that the afterthoughts can linger for the next 29 days before the next tryst?

For a high sex drive male with a low sex drive wifey may need to find alternate avenues to quench the desire

Once a month, meaning the wife resist if TS seek for sex inbetween?
What were the reason given?

I used to have a gf, though she she state that she can restrain from sex for a year, we still make it out every other day for the period she was with me ;)

[larue]

Your wife probably wants a mouth on her pussy and a cock in her pussy and/or mouth, just not yours.

What’s surprising is that she gives you any at all.

[alexsptrader]

My wife has beeb giving me sex only about once a month for the past 3 years. She doesn’t blow me as well and refuses to let me livk her pussy. Is this normal?

How often do you fuys get sex from your wife? Any BJ? Can lick pussy?
U must ask yourself r u the problem. Can u get a full erection. Can u hold the erection until she cums. If cannot consider training ur didi. Women have needs also.u must unlock her desire to have sex. No bj 69 etc no prob. Missionary is enuf if u have a hard erection.

[JacqueMerlin]

My wife has beeb giving me sex only about once a month for the past 3 years. She doesn’t blow me as well and refuses to let me livk her pussy. Is this normal?

How often do you fuys get sex from your wife? Any BJ? Can lick pussy?

Based on that,
Your wife is having an affair.

[parrotkid]

U must ask yourself r u the problem. Can u get a full erection. Can u hold the erection until she cums. If cannot consider training ur didi. Women have needs also.u must unlock her desire to have sex. No bj 69 etc no prob. Missionary is enuf if u have a hard erection.

I have a good erection. I also let her come almost every time.

[Stimsia]

I have a good erection. I also let her come almost every time.

"Almost" is not exactly good statistic for something that occur every other 30 days?

[toptop]

My wife has beeb giving me sex only about once a month for the past 3 years. She doesn’t blow me as well and refuses to let me livk her pussy. Is this normal?

How often do you fuys get sex from your wife? Any BJ? Can lick pussy?

I think is not normal . If a woman love you she will BBBJ for you even she don’t like . So far my woman complain she don’t like BJ but if I like she will do for me to make me happy. Bro , before your married was it the same situation ?

[parrotkid]

Before married also never lick pussy and have bj. I thought she is shy mah. Maybe married already less shy.

[leakypipes]

I haven't fucked my wife for almost 5 years. In fact, the last time, she got pregnant hahaha. I have fingered her to climax a few times in the last few years. But I never got a climax from her.

Every Shag in the last 5 years has been ktv, escort, bargirl. She doesn't seem interested.

We're on good personal terms, she just doesn't seem interested in sex. And she's more a taker than a giver. (See first paragraph).

Frankly, it hurts me on a deeper emo level. Like I feel guilty for cheating but I got needs leh.

[parrotkid]

I haven't fucked my wife for almost 5 years. In fact, the last time, she got pregnant hahaha. I have fingered her to climax a few times in the last few years. But I never got a climax from her.

Every Shag in the last 5 years has been ktv, escort, bargirl. She doesn't seem interested.

We're on good personal terms, she just doesn't seem interested in sex. And she's more a taker than a giver. (See first paragraph).

Frankly, it hurts me on a deeper emo level. Like I feel guilty for cheating but I got needs leh.

But why wouldn’t she need sex? Does she at least give you BJ? I cannot feel close to my wife on a personal level when sex is rare.

[leakypipes]

But why wouldn’t she need sex? Does she at least give you BJ? I cannot feel close to my wife on a personal level when sex is rare.

No bj. I won't say for other couple but for us I think now I understand that she simply derives more enjoyment in her life from other stuff...like work.

[parrotkid]

No bj. I won't say for other couple but for us I think now I understand that she simply derives more enjoyment in her life from other stuff...like work.

Wow! Her work must be so enjoyable that even sex cannot compare to it. What is her profession by the way?

[samyboys]

My wife has beeb giving me sex only about once a month for the past 3 years. She doesn’t blow me as well and refuses to let me livk her pussy. Is this normal?

How often do you fuys get sex from your wife? Any BJ? Can lick pussy?

your wife is a home maker? got kids?

many reasons can cause a lost interest in sex.

try a different approach to sex, eg, dating, build the mood, lots of foreplay, make her wild, let her beg and soon she may spread open for u

[Highjoys]

Well, it is common nowadays that many couples lost interest in sex. I even had luck twice with two mrried ladies before... Their hubbies totally lost interest and even had mistresses but they turned a blind eye to it... and instead let me do with them secretly as they find new thrill and interest to do with a different man... but they are comfortable with me as I keep secrets well and wear condoms always...Hehe.. they don't like condoms for blowjobs.. so I am lucky to have bbbj from them. Actually they are quite good at bbbj so it is a waste that their hubbies lost interest but they never waste their youthful times by allowing sex with me.. enjoy while they can before menopause... We lie only once. So why not?

[samyboys]

Really? I haven’t had it even once. She says it is dirty to lick her pussy and suck my dick.

if both are faithful, properly cleaned before intimacy, why not?

but some woman feels their down there dirty, thus men also no better

[samyboys]

I have a good erection. I also let her come almost every time.

some woman fake 'cumming'

[samyboys]

I haven't fucked my wife for almost 5 years. In fact, the last time, she got pregnant hahaha. I have fingered her to climax a few times in the last few years. But I never got a climax from her.

Every Shag in the last 5 years has been ktv, escort, bargirl. She doesn't seem interested.

We're on good personal terms, she just doesn't seem interested in sex. And she's more a taker than a giver. (See first paragraph).

Frankly, it hurts me on a deeper emo level. Like I feel guilty for cheating but I got needs leh.


she takes, then u give her MORE

[leakypipes]

Wow! Her work must be so enjoyable that even sex cannot compare to it. What is her profession by the way?

Hai she just not interested la. We both work same place. But job scope a bit different.

[parrotkid]

For me without the sex and physical intimacy, I cannot feel close to the person.
It is hard to communicate with her now when she starts to compare this and that without knowing such comparisons hard relationships.
I guess she is just a person who sets the wrong expectations and then practises the blame culture. When she is unhappy then of course hard to have any physical intimacy.

[Penguin23]

Before married also never lick pussy and have bj. I thought she is shy mah. Maybe married already less shy.

Bro, that is the biggest misconception any man can have. Sex NEVER improves with marriage (even worse after the kids come along).

If sex with her was never great to start with, it will never be great.

Sorry bro. It looks like your wife has some intimacy issues. Convince her please for both of you to see a counsellor, not with the aim of "correcting her" but for her to understand the central role that sex plays in a marriage.

Unless of course, she is willing for you to go eat outside.....

[Penguin23]

For me without the sex and physical intimacy, I cannot feel close to the person.
It is hard to communicate with her now when she starts to compare this and that without knowing such comparisons hard relationships.
I guess she is just a person who sets the wrong expectations and then practises the blame culture. When she is unhappy then of course hard to have any physical intimacy.

This is a common quandry - wife expects husband to be the perfect man, and when he does everything right and all the moon and stars in the galaxy align, she may be in a mood for sex. And she expects husband to wait until this celestial event happens, and spend all the days and weeks in between constantly making her comfortable and happy.

Husband expects regular sex, period. And wife can't understand why husband's needs can be so....constant. And she feels like a "piece of meat" who is "not loved". It's a chicken and egg issue without a good solution, so long your wife chooses to hold her point of view.

I do not believe you can take the waiting and only pcc in the meantime. So that's a hard conversation that you need to have with her.

[riotspace]

Hai she just not interested la. We both work same place. But job scope a bit different.

Feel you bro, mine also enjoys working more than sex. And she doesn't quite know how to excite me, even after all these years. Bo pian, go look elsewhere for my own excitement. But other than that we're good with each other.

[alexsptrader]

I have a good erection. I also let her come almost every time.Sit down n talk with her bro. If u can make her cum but she doesn't like to do often ask her directly. Don't guess. When we guess we always guess worst case scenario. Hurts the relationship.

Just ask directly what's bothering her. Scared to have kids or religion or painful down the or doin u makes her think of some unhappy things etc... Stop the guesswork

[YELLOW]

yup agree.... in time become strangers


For me without the sex and physical intimacy, I cannot feel close to the person.
It is hard to communicate with her now when she starts to compare this and that without knowing such comparisons hard relationships.
I guess she is just a person who sets the wrong expectations and then practises the blame culture. When she is unhappy then of course hard to have any physical intimacy.

[jameschong1]

[QUOTE=parrotkid;18200249]My wife has beeb giving me sex only about once a month for the past 3 years. She doesn’t blow me as well and refuses to let me livk her pussy. Is this normal?

u give house allowance on time every month?

[parrotkid]

[QUOTE]
u give house allowance on time every month?

I pay the bills at home all by myself if that is what you are referring to.

[YELLOW]

u basically summed up my marriage ....

For me without the sex and physical intimacy, I cannot feel close to the person.
It is hard to communicate with her now when she starts to compare this and that without knowing such comparisons hard relationships.
I guess she is just a person who sets the wrong expectations and then practises the blame culture. When she is unhappy then of course hard to have any physical intimacy.

[Jessie]

I also put up with low sex drive or wifey for the kids. PCC myself until the heavens send me a girlfriend to love.

[parrotkid]

Seriously, why do wives here have such low sex drive?
After marriage they expect so much financially from us but don’t help us to relieve stress through sex.

[williamlum1]

I don't think woman don't have the urge for sex. I accidentally found my wife hid a few vibrators in the drawer. She purposely don't want to have sex with me, just want to punish me for not being able to provide lot of $$$$$ as compare to her friends' husband.
Recently, more worst, she would stay over at her friend house, that what she said, leaving kids to me to take care, said she need time off. SWhen washing her clothing after her stay over, I found that she was wearing very sexy nightgown, She don't wear those at home. This makes me very worry, but I don't dare to confront her as this would trigger a divorce finally. I just endure it for the kids.:(:(

[ibanezjem555]

Bro, this friend she stay overnight at is male or female ? And she wears the lingerie when she stays over ?:confused:

[williamlum1]

I suspect is a guy, anyway I don't know where she was and who she with. that why I am worry, but what can i do. :(

[macboy123]

I suspect is a guy, anyway I don't know where she was and who she with. that why I am worry, but what can i do. :(

That is a very dangerous situation. If worst scenario she's cheating on you, would you be willing to divorce her? I hope everything will be fine for your family bro William

[williamlum1]

now for me just take one step and look around before taking another. think i hijack the track, back to the question, the last sex i remember is like at least 3-4 months ago. Sometimes, own HJ can't satisfy, will go geylang to release. Quite sad, have to end up do that.

[parrotkid]

If she doesn’t even bother to let you know where she went and who she is with, that means she doesn’t respect you anymore. If can catch her committing adultery, better divorce her. Don’t worry about the kids. You are already taking care of them yourself so why you need her to be around.

My wife also complain money not enough although I spend almost my whole salary on the family. That is like more than $6000 a month.

[Gikko]

I used to have a gf of 5 years. After we got married, we didn't have sex for 2months, after which I filed for annulment. Sex is a NEED for men.. If wife cannot give, then not wife material. Although now got gf but I still enjoy sex with others.as long
As not married, its free for all. Hahahahaha.

All jokes aside, buy your spouse a vibrator and play with it together (not in your ass). It will bring yall closer.

[wally888]

If she doesn’t even bother to let you know where she went and who she is with, that means she doesn’t respect you anymore. If can catch her committing adultery, better divorce her. Don’t worry about the kids. You are already taking care of them yourself so why you need her to be around.

My wife also complain money not enough although I spend almost my whole salary on the family. That is like more than $6000 a month.

$6K is alot of $$$ unless your family eat at restaurants every meal Lol!

[Ember]

I used to have a gf of 5 years. After we got married, we didn't have sex for 2months, after which I filed for annulment. Sex is a NEED for men.. If wife cannot give, then not wife material. Although now got gf but I still enjoy sex with others.as long
As not married, its free for all. Hahahahaha.

All jokes aside, buy your spouse a vibrator and play with it together (not in your ass). It will bring yall closer.

I respect you for having the balls to file annulment. Not many guys do the same, and many end up getting stuck in same scenario with only minimal amounts of sex for many years.

[Canoneos]

In general, it is not normal for women not to be horny. Mother nature wired our brains to fuck and procreate. If not, the human race ends. It is simply survival of the species. There must be some issue if your wife doesn't want to spread her legs and fuck. Do you treat her like shit and then expect her to blow you? If it is simply upbringing that sex is dirty and a sin, that can be changed quite easily.

[parrotkid]

No leh. My wife don’t let me lick her pussy and hardly blow me becaUse she says it is dirty. Still trying to change it after a decade. Any tips?

[ch18]

I don't think woman don't have the urge for sex. I accidentally found my wife hid a few vibrators in the drawer. She purposely don't want to have sex with me, just want to punish me for not being able to provide lot of $$$$$ as compare to her friends' husband.
Recently, more worst, she would stay over at her friend house, that what she said, leaving kids to me to take care, said she need time off. SWhen washing her clothing after her stay over, I found that she was wearing very sexy nightgown, She don't wear those at home. This makes me very worry, but I don't dare to confront her as this would trigger a divorce finally. I just endure it for the kids.:(:(

This type of wife, still keep for what? Dump lah.

[ibanezjem555]

I suspect is a guy, anyway I don't know where she was and who she with. that why I am worry, but what can i do. :(

Bro Williamlum,
Get a PI and secretly gather evidence. It is obvious she has shown the signal to you by letting you wash her sexy lingerie which she does not even wear at home.

With the evidence you can decide what to do. :cool:

PS: I not saying you divorce but got S2 info intel is good for the battlefield. I have seen cases where the wife stray then turn around and say husband actually stray. Then, worse get kids to side with her, say husband is the philanderer n cruel one !

Kids` inheritance she makan n gasak or keep under her custodial care. Get relatives including her in-laws to side her.. then the man is destroyed, goes to his younger brother sleep on the sofa and despised by his younger brother n his wife.

Handsome man become white hair haggard.. know the deck of cards you dealth with, know the players, anticipate the next cards in the deck bro...

[EtherC]

There are also cases of paternity fraud where the husband realizes that none of the kids are his. The wife still had the cheek to ask for half the assets & alimony.

[Lewislow]

There are also cases of paternity fraud where the husband realizes that none of the kids are his. The wife still had the cheek to ask for half the assets & alimony.

Can counter claim against her?

[tomatosalad]

Most of the guys seldom have sex with their wife after the first few years. Where there is the 7 years crisis in every relationship

[Tab6]

Most of the guys seldom have sex with their wife after the first few years. Where there is the 7 years crisis in every relationship

Oh is it? Didn't know that

[Vanda]

I don't think woman don't have the urge for sex. I accidentally found my wife hid a few vibrators in the drawer. She purposely don't want to have sex with me, just want to punish me for not being able to provide lot of $$$$$ as compare to her friends' husband.
Recently, more worst, she would stay over at her friend house, that what she said, leaving kids to me to take care, said she need time off. SWhen washing her clothing after her stay over, I found that she was wearing very sexy nightgown, She don't wear those at home. This makes me very worry, but I don't dare to confront her as this would trigger a divorce finally. I just endure it for the kids.:(:(

She is having an affair outside. That is obvious

[alicialow09ww]

In general, it is not normal for women not to be horny. Mother nature wired our brains to fuck and procreate. If not, the human race ends. It is simply survival of the species. There must be some issue if your wife doesn't want to spread her legs and fuck. Do you treat her like shit and then expect her to blow you? If it is simply upbringing that sex is dirty and a sin, that can be changed quite easily.


Women like sex more than man. But women need the right environment and emotions to have sex. To them, feeling and emotion is more important. For guy, they can fuck anytime anywhere. For women, it is more of emotional attachment, environment and security from man before they fuck the man.

Women need to find a good reason to have sex. For guy, they just need to be horny just to have sex.

[alicialow09ww]

She is having an affair outside. That is obvious

That is so obvious. Wife having affairs. Nightgown and vibrators. She wearing it for the outside man

[alicialow09ww]

This is a common quandry - wife expects husband to be the perfect man, and when he does everything right and all the moon and stars in the galaxy align, she may be in a mood for sex. And she expects husband to wait until this celestial event happens, and spend all the days and weeks in between constantly making her comfortable and happy.

Husband expects regular sex, period. And wife can't understand why husband's needs can be so....constant. And she feels like a "piece of meat" who is "not loved". It's a chicken and egg issue without a good solution, so long your wife chooses to hold her point of view.

I do not believe you can take the waiting and only pcc in the meantime. So that's a hard conversation that you need to have with her.

When the alpha guy come into her life. She give sex to him without anything. Just wow. Lol

[Vanda]

Sorry bro TS, I dun want to break up family but nightgown and vibrators are very obvious signs. It is very heartbreaking to witness these but you got to deal it very coolly and logically. Getting a private detective or you catch it yourself is up to you. Once a woman who spread her legs to another man, the precious family relationships is destabilize. If a woman can think she will be sensible if not she will be a willful one. Sex is very powerful to bond man and woman. A woman should not be having affairs for being married or by folly she was seduced by another man. Very hard to swallow but you need to communicate and seek your friends advice or counsellor advice to handle such sensitive delicate issues that will lead to impending divorce. Hope that you remain cool and logical to minimize damages to all party involved in your family. Once you have objective evidences of her and her boyfriend. There is nothing for her to defend but to lay out negotiations terms of what are next steps.
Try not to be vengeful as there is bad karma and bad consequences. Do not use violence or get physical. As long as you are clear conscience, do whatever you can to salvage this marriage. If it cannot be help. You decide.
I used to love my wife but she do not help to contribute as a family unit constructively.

[JohnBoLanPaJi]

Women like sex more than man. But women need the right environment and emotions to have sex. To them, feeling and emotion is more important. For guy, they can fuck anytime anywhere. For women, it is more of emotional attachment, environment and security from man before they fuck the man.

Women need to find a good reason to have sex. For guy, they just need to be horny just to have sex.

Good to know from a woman's view!

[coypredator]

I don't think woman don't have the urge for sex. I accidentally found my wife hid a few vibrators in the drawer. She purposely don't want to have sex with me, just want to punish me for not being able to provide lot of $$$$$ as compare to her friends' husband.
Recently, more worst, she would stay over at her friend house, that what she said, leaving kids to me to take care, said she need time off. SWhen washing her clothing after her stay over, I found that she was wearing very sexy nightgown, She don't wear those at home. This makes me very worry, but I don't dare to confront her as this would trigger a divorce finally. I just endure it for the kids.:(:(

very sad case. i know a few cases but usually happens with the wife, not the husband.

it's not easy to confront/divorce esp if you guys loved each other alot last time.

what caused you all to reach this stage, TS?