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[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by V|ernar

i have my way ~ hehe ... and i slash the alimony to the lowest damage and 1 shot payment .. not those long term car installment .. and the car isnt drive by you .

Not too possible for Haojian cos he has 2 kids for custody fight and most probably a house and moreover his wife should not be holding a job in Singapore.

These reasons alone will justify long term alimony claims and monthly maintenance for the kids as the Family Court takes a very serious view of the welfare of the children.

The only way he can get outa this situation is simple, before going to PTC persuade the wife to give him full custody of the kids by offering a BIG lump sum amount so that she can retire back to Vietnam with her lover

Cheerios......SS08 ^_^

[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Process wise, correct.
But i did mine together... agree on the cause of divorce and ANCILLARY MATTERS within 1 hearing

KT kor kor oi, you give wrong advice to Haojian, how can he compare to your case??? You have no kids, no house and she is a Sinkie with a full-time job not needing your household allowances for sustenance, practically your ancillary matters are almost ZERO and her lawyer would have already advised her against making any claims as the chances of winning is very low

Moreover I think you totally forgot about the pre-trial conferences at the Family Court tio bo??

No need to argue further, this is extracted from the Subordinate Court website


A divorce is the legal procedure that ends a marriage.

When a Judge of the Family Court grants your divorce, he or she will hand down an Interim Judgment of Divorce. This is the end of the first stage of your divorce proceedings.

The Interim Judgment does not settle issues about the children, property or maintenance. In legal language, issues about the children, property and maintenance are known as ‘ancillary matters.’

The ancillary matters are usually dealt with after the Court has granted the Interim Judgment. This is the second stage of divorce proceedings.


Cheerios..........SS08 ^_^

[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by lasupkia

There are still loopholes in Sinkapor. The bloodsucking lawyer can backdate the separation date. For approval of the divorce application, you don't have to attend any hearing. The lawyer will let you know the date to attend the court. If there's no objections from both parties to the claims then u only need to attend the family court once. After the judgement about 3 months and u will get the papers.

For those cases where one spouse cannot be located, it's most troublesome and need to wait 7 years. Happened to a friend who married a Sabah girl who disappeared.

It's best to negotiate any claims or alimony whatsoever before going to court as this will cut down on the costs and time.

That is not a loophole my dear "Dirty Boy" You may be surprised to know that we are actually allowed to backdate as the Court have no way of determining when the "unreaonsble behaviour" of your spouse starts, moreover we are basing on past events to argue for the divorce

What you have stated is the same as KT, that is provided it is totally uncontested by both parties, but you also forgot about the pre-trial conferences (behind chambers) before the actual open court session (open chambers)

Your friend should have engaged a competent lawyer to fight his case instead of waiting 7 years, in my humble knowledge there should be no stated statutes of limitation for such issues so the 7 years wait is actually puzzling to me. An experienced lawyer would have advised your friend to do the following,

01) Serve the notice on her last known address and the NOK's at Sabah.

02) Put out advertisements on all major newspapers in Malaysia.

03) Engage a PI to track her down.

Once you have proven to the court that you have already tried and exhausted all avenues to reach her, the Court may then decide the divorce case in her absence.


Cheerios.........SS08 ^_^

[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by haojian

Please teach me how to send her back without paying alimony or maybe just send her back without a divorce???
Her work permit expires on april. I suspect she wants to go home to meet her lover. what can I do to stop her from coming.....?

See all my previous posts above, dun do dirty deeds as they may backfire, although the urge for revenge is definitely strong at this moment

If you want a simple solution be prepared to fork out a substantial sum for her to give up full custody and all ancillary claims, no more maintenance claims as she have given up custody, short & sharp.

Cheerios.....SS08 ^_^

[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by Thom07

Remember to visit that place which I had told Zaryl previously.

Chey.......... does this indirectly means you are not joing our JKT trip liao????

Cheerios......SS08 ^_^

[snipeshot08]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

no one vying with you for LB ma

VB is Viet babes, so LB is Laos Babes tio bo

Okay swee then you are right cos they really have Laos girls there

Cheerios.....SS08 ^_^

[adidas88]

Originally Posted by snipeshot08

VB is Viet babes, so LB is Laos Babes tio bo

perhaps LB is Lady Boy ??

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by snipeshot08

See all my previous posts above, dun do dirty deeds as they may backfire, although the urge for revenge is definitely strong at this moment

Good jobs on those previous posts !!!

[SaigonNoob]

Originally Posted by snipeshot08

KT kor kor oi, you give wrong advice to Haojian, how can he compare to your case???You have no kids, no house and she is a Sinkie with a full-time job not needing your household allowances for sustenance, practically your ancillary matters are almost ZERO and her lawyer would have already advised her against making any claims as the chances of winning is very low :

Moreover I think you totally forgot about the pre-trial conferences at the Family Court tio bo??

No need to argue further, this is extracted from the Subordinate Court website
Cheerios..........SS08

Originally Posted by snipeshot08

That is not a loophole my dear "Dirty Boy" You may be surprised to know that we are actually allowed to backdate as the Court have no way of determining when the "unreaonsble behaviour" of your spouse starts, moreover we are basing on past events to argue for the divorce

What you have stated is the same as KT, that is provided it is totally uncontested by both parties, but you also forgot about the pre-trial conferences (behind chambers) before the actual open court session (open chambers)

Your friend should have engaged a competent lawyer to fight his case instead of waiting 7 years, in my humble knowledge there should be no stated statutes of limitation for such issues so the 7 years wait is actually puzzling to me. An experienced lawyer would have advised your friend to do the following,

01) Serve the notice on her last known address and the NOK's at Sabah.

02) Put out advertisements on all major newspapers in Malaysia.

03) Engage a PI to track her down.

Once you have proven to the court that you have already tried and exhausted all avenues to reach her, the Court may then decide the divorce case in her absence.


Cheerios.........SS08

Wow!!! Very enlightening information from The Super Senior.

Addition information to add - It is very difficult (almost zero Chances) to prove Adultery unless confession or caught in bed with Video or Camera footage. SS used the term "Unreasonable behaviour" is the more common term for this case.

Try to talk it out with your BX, maybe there is some mis-understanding. Take your kids into consideration.

[情感王子]

Originally Posted by snipeshot08

Chey.......... does this indirectly means you are not joing our JKT trip liao????

Cheerios......SS08 ^_^

going another cuntry again...

Originally Posted by jackbl

Good jobs on those previous posts !!!

hand job or blow job?

Originally Posted by SaigonNoob

Wow!!! Very enlightening information from The Super Senior.

super senior go many information not shared yet...
long time no see you log in, noobie...

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by 情感王子

hand job or blow job?

Dun tell u. Tell u, u also dun go! Waste time typing out ..... if u can go out, alot of places, not high damage.

[情感王子]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Dun tell u. Tell u, u also dun go! Waste time typing out ..... if u can go out, alot of places, not high damage.

where?
Today I am going to a place with the least damage you want to join?

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by 情感王子

where?
Today I am going to a place with the least damage you want to join?

Out of retirement?

[情感王子]

Originally Posted by Thom07

Out of retirement?

when did i retire
retire from what?

em noi gi, a khong hieu

[haojian]

I paid $80 for the translations

02jan
him: I intend to go up there to my house. you are tired right? have you eaten anything?
her: give me a call
her: what are you doing? call me back now.

01jan 4 am ( she's asleep)
him: I'm sorry i drink alcohol because of the sadness. i drink trying to forget the feeling of sadness when thinking about you. but i fail. i am still missing you a lot every time i wake up.
him: i sincerely apologize, i pledge to you that i would not drink but every time i think about the sadness i cannot help drinking, because i cannot feel happy when you feel sad.
him: i know that alcohol only helps me forget the sadness just for a while, when you are sad i just cant stand on my feet. i am extremely sad here as i learn that you are struggling out there. i love you with a great deal of compassion and it hurts a lot when i can do nothing to help you out.

31dec
him: and also Vu just sent a message to sister Ha saying that they will make friends without romantic love, just good friends so that could seek each other and talk when they are in sadness.
her: yeah
him: i'm just kidding. you go to bed. good night and sweet dreams. make sure you dream of your lover.
her: are you really sleeping

after this my wife deleted all her msgs before returning home, can calls him instead of smsing..

I only want to see my babies grow up here. divorce or not, it doesnt matter to me. I have kept my babies's passports so she can never bring them back to vietnam. she can do what ever she wants here or in vietnam.