How to escape paying ailmony to my wife - Page 2

dgsk · #16 15-09-2008, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by nomoretimes

Have no kids divorce due to incorrigible difference also sian of her nagging gotta to get rid of her asap

Who is the one who wants kids? You or her?

Sorry bro, but you are behaving like a spoilt brat right now, AND that is not going to help you in this matter. I understand that you may be very frustrated and at your wits end right now, but take it from bros here who have been thru the big D. (BTW I'm happily married, but I've seen too many.)

Either humble yourself during this process OR be humbled by the whole process.

Trust me, you will not like the latter.

airbrush · #17 15-09-2008, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by sex4LiFe

Hi TS,

A divorce is already nasty, don't make it any nastier. It ain't good for you too. Nobody will be the winner in the end.

Agree no body wins in the end, be calm and discuss with you wife when she is in good mood.

ol'coyote · #18 15-09-2008, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by sex4LiFe

Hi TS,

Firstly, I'm not a lawyer but I've been through a quite messy divorce with my 1st wife so I do know a little on the FACTS OF DIVORCE.
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tks sex4life...
very informative...

nomoretimes · #19 15-09-2008, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by dgsk

Who is the one who wants kids? You or her?

Sorry bro, but you are behaving like a spoilt brat right now, AND that is not going to help you in this matter. I understand that you may be very frustrated and at your wits end right now, but take it from bros here who have been thru the big D. (BTW I'm happily married, but I've seen too many.)

Either humble yourself during this process OR be humbled by the whole process.

Trust me, you will not like the latter.

Both of us not ready to have kids, and she has been a house wife since we were married.

Royster79 · #20 15-09-2008, 02:00 PM

Does this means that the wife is also entitled to 50% of whatever savings i have in bankS??

dgsk · #21 15-09-2008, 02:44 PM

Bro Nomoretimes
If she's a housewife, for sure you'll be paying alimony. A significant one as well. The only way out is to quickly find someone to marry her after the divorce is finalised; then you can apply for the alimony to stop.

Question. Have you been a good husband, especially, financially? What has the nagging been about? Is about you not fulfilling your expected duties; i.e. paying the bills, money for groceries, etc?

Bro Royster_79,
Yes and No, she's entitled to ALL the assets accumulated during the marriage.

nomoretimes · #22 15-09-2008, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by dgsk

Bro Nomoretimes
If she's a housewife, for sure you'll be paying alimony. A significant one as well. The only way out is to quickly find someone to marry her after the divorce is finalised; then you can apply for the alimony to stop.

Question. Have you been a good husband, especially, financially? What has the nagging been about? Is about you not fulfilling your expected duties; i.e. paying the bills, money for groceries, etc?

Bro Royster_79,
Yes and No, she's entitled to ALL the assets accumulated during the marriage.

Nagging that i not earning enough to provide for her coming home late suspecting i fooling around outside etc, not spending enough time with her.

I still don think i should continue provide ailmony to her since she is still young, but she wants share of the hse that i am still paying then now mkt bad sell also make big loss aft divorce still have to see her.

Any bros can give some useful advise to a poor bro like me

wodemama · #23 15-09-2008, 06:41 PM

Seemingly impossible unless you got proof of her sleeping around with other guys, then the court might award it in your favour.

dgsk · #24 15-09-2008, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by nomoretimes

Nagging that i not earning enough to provide for her coming home late suspecting i fooling around outside etc, not spending enough time with her.

I still don think i should continue provide ailmony to her since she is still young, but she wants share of the hse that i am still paying then now mkt bad sell also make big loss aft divorce still have to see her.

Any bros can give some useful advise to a poor bro like me

Firstly, is she wrong in her accusations?

So how long have you been married? It seems unlikely that she will not voluntarily agree to an annulment.
It depends on when you bought your house. Are you sure you will lose money? If you bought it new from HDB and lived in it for less than 5 years, you have to sell it back to them. In most cases, with your MPs help, if you're not in opposition ward, can get back purchase price. No reno, no interest. That's gone. If you've owned the house for 5 years or more, whether HDB or private, I believe you should at least breakeven. What she will get is the nett proceeds after paying back to your CPF and take back your capital. The last thing you want to do is sell at a loss deliberately just to not give her anything. That would be stupid.