Probably a cheating?

[lawry]

Originally Posted by seekerJ

I able to find out that guy she having affair is our secondary school senior not her Uni friend. Btw we study the same school. So their rs can back track till that time and I found out from my close guy friend that guy has track record of playing around with girls even he's not handsome but having very good sweet talking skill.

I thought of some plan to get him but after much thinking it's really not worth of my time and effort to do all these. I believe what goes around comes around, karma will do the job for me. I have to let it go and focus on things that is important to me.

Let it go.
It takes two hands to clap.

[mushimushimo]

Originally Posted by lawry

Let it go.
It takes two hands to clap.

This is so true. Hope TS finds someone new and worthy

[ibanezjem555]

Bro TS,

If women loves you, they want to spend all time with you like superglue. Take you go and see their girlfriends, hold your hand, hug your arm, die die must be with you and will insists you be with them.

In short, they don't just want your money, they want your time, your soul and energy. So, really doubt she is really into you.

Like bros said, if got one time, got two times. Now confirm many times already. Say OT some more.. time to cut and run bro.

Steel yourself bro !

[hil169]

Agree. Who knows whether there's more than just that guy. Blatant lying to cover up. Acting all angel while devil's running workshop in the mind. I'm having low confidence in my gf now...

[voluptuousvenus]

Bro, a happy and satisfied gf will never go out with another man to Sentosa or anywhere else. If the guy is a friend, she will openly tell you about it, there is nothing to hide.

When i was still single, I'd go out with male colleagues for drinks and I tell my bf. He can join us if he wants - nothing to be guilty about. But if I it's someone I like, I definitely won't tell him. But that never happened coz I was so into him and all other guys are friend-zoned.

I'm very sorry that your gf could be cheating on u.

[a2014]

Originally Posted by voluptuousvenus

Bro, a happy and satisfied gf will never go out with another man to Sentosa or anywhere else. If the guy is a friend, she will openly tell you about it, there is nothing to hide.

When i was still single, I'd go out with male colleagues for drinks and I tell my bf. He can join us if he wants - nothing to be guilty about. But if I it's someone I like, I definitely won't tell him. But that never happened coz I was so into him and all other guys are friend-zoned.

I'm very sorry that your gf could be cheating on u.

True, more to come, I guess maybe good just to downgrade from gf to normal friend. Not that she is no good, but I guess she is those that once you sweet talk her she will buy in those kind. Therefore be it with you or with others next time, so long as there is a wolf around she will offer.

Unless you really got a very big heart and a very deep pocket that differ from other man.

Take Care @seekerJ

[turbokar]

Hi ts,

read thru your story. from experience what she said to you are all lies. just hold hand and kiss only? dont believe her bullshit. Has some mad pride and break up with her. Do not beg and contact her anymore. There isnt anymore love from her to you. Her heart has already left you and opening up for other guys.

again, do not beg or contact her anymore

[freezetheDB]

hold hand and kiss is just official lie only
the truth is always something more had been done

[smile_santa]

Originally Posted by hil169

Take care bro.

My gf once said she thinks messages should be kept private and not shown to anyone including bf. So i guess shes got something that she doesnt want me to see as well. That said, I'm fine with it. This day and age every guy and girl is talking to multiple potentials. Just like what the other bro said, hang on to one branch until another is secured. Difference is, i beg to differ, that it happens to both gender.

Actually thats the policy i instill in all my relationships. I guess I'm just somebody that really needs my own privacy. I've never "exposed" all of me to 1 single person. So i return the same privacy previledge on my spouse as she offers to me. I run solely on mutual trust because that's what 2 person in love should have in each other.

I'm never worried about being cheated on because if someone has the intention to do it, they will despite all sorts of restrictions. Besides, you can't possibly spend 24 hours with your spouse to monitor her. Both of you have your own lives to live.

[hil169]

Originally Posted by smile_santa

Actually thats the policy i instill in all my relationships. I guess I'm just somebody that really needs my own privacy. I've never "exposed" all of me to 1 single person. So i return the same privacy previledge on my spouse as she offers to me. I run solely on mutual trust because that's what 2 person in love should have in each other.

I'm never worried about being cheated on because if someone has the intention to do it, they will despite all sorts of restrictions. Besides, you can't possibly spend 24 hours with your spouse to monitor her. Both of you have your own lives to live.

I agree with you. Bro, are you married?

[Tomokashi]

when she lies to you, for another guy. you know something has happened.

do have a thought about it.

[devilborne87]

100% cheating.....time to move on......if u get married with her....u will be wearing green hat in no time....end it while its still early....All the best bro!!!

[porscheclub]

5 yrs in a relationship will get stale & girls want marriage as their biological clock ticks, well mostly.

There's two sides to a coin.

Put down your anger. You need to reflect upon yourself why she did that, how much effort have you been putting into this and what future do you see for the both of you. Hope you find some solace after that.

[seekerJ]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

5 yrs in a relationship will get stale & girls want marriage as their biological clock ticks, well mostly.

There's two sides to a coin.

Put down your anger. You need to reflect upon yourself why she did that, how much effort have you been putting into this and what future do you see for the both of you. Hope you find some solace after that.

Thanks bro for the advice. It's true as what you mention that there's two sides to a coin. I do have my fault as taking certain things for granted as she will be always be with me. Not taking further steps to solve problems but avoiding it to prevent unhappy argument. She choose not to open to me and i should trying way to open her heart with love and care. It will be a constant hardwork and effort to do it but as a saying it takes 2 hands to clap. There's so much I can do but if she choose not to response, it will be a draining for a person keep hitting a cold wall.

Btw I have proposed to her and over her expectation of her dream proposal (While she is seeing someone else behind me). She say yes to me with a bit of hesitation. She do know she should stop whatever affair and knowing she's committing to someone for life. She can stop while she can as I have no clue about the affair. But she choose to continue the affair and just nice I able to caught her red handed few weeks after the proposal.

I believe every rs and marriage will have their problem like lack of communication, lost of been in love but it doesn't give you the right of having an affair. It really show how bad you have put yourself own needs first and neglect your partner's feeling as the least priority of all. I think I will have many affairs during the rs after so many unhappiness and disagreement.

I have cooled my mind and heart about the affair and accept this really happened. I don see any future in us after this incident which trust is broken and solely depend on love will not last us long. After all the talking and I decided to break up with her and she volunteer to return the proposal ring to me. We have ended it.
But after a few days later, I don know what came to her mind, maybe she have regretted of what she have done or do not want to face the shit she have made and want us to get back together.

What I can say it's really too late to say or do anything to save the rs back while she have all the chances I have given to her. I do feel soft hearted after her plead and she really put down her ego & pride to save the rs. But I have made up my mind that it's the end and the most we can be friends and she can do whatever she need to gain back my love and trust if there's really a slight chance of us getting back. She still need to clear her own shit that she have done and face the music. Now it's like a turn of the table.

[seekerJ]

Hi All Bro & Sis that are been following my thread and showing your concern and giving me advises and opinions. I have seen all your replies and really appreciate all the love you have given.

I am back to single life and I have my freedom back. I can chase my dream that might nearly died if I chose marriage. I remain friend with my ex as that the most I can do.

Things get really complicated after the break up and patch back as friends. It's like those kind of drama you see in mediacock or K drama. It's kinda of drama that I don believe will happen in real life. I don wish to share in details what really happen as maybe someone we know might looking at this thread. Don wanna expose our identity and become some gossip topic among people we know.

Wish everyone good health and great love life.