Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by jf66312

gtg for meeting...update u guys during lunch..

I am wondering, why so long auntie's story and dragging so long??? Get to the point will be nice.

[jf66312]

so bro naemlo ,

was thinking abt getting straight to point too..

well here goes...
we did manage to get married last year even though my parents did not approve..
my parents were upset as they felt it was too rush & my dad was also in the midst of matchmaking for me...

well..of cse i did not tell them where i met her..just told them knew her through a frend...

now she is pregnant & my parents told me its my choice & i should live with it & they hope she turns out to be good...

but i can still feel their reservations abt her...

when i knew her , i was working for my dad but i left when they objected to my marriage as my dad was so upset that he said he would not support...

but now things getting bit better..i am back in his company helping him out but me & my wife are not living with my parents at the moment...

[xyman]

Originally Posted by jf66312

so bro naemlo ,

was thinking abt getting straight to point too..

well here goes...
we did manage to get married last year even though my parents did not approve..
my parents were upset as they felt it was too rush & my dad was also in the midst of matchmaking for me...

well..of cse i did not tell them where i met her..just told them knew her through a frend...

now she is pregnant & my parents told me its my choice & i should live with it & they hope she turns out to be good...

but i can still feel their reservations abt her...

when i knew her , i was working for my dad but i left when they objected to my marriage as my dad was so upset that he said he would not support...

but now things getting bit better..i am back in his company helping him out but me & my wife are not living with my parents at the moment...

hmmm.. you have not tell us what the reason for your wife not asking you to pick her up after work....

[jf66312]

oops, thanks bro for reminding...

well, i only knew the real reason after some time...
she said she wanted to avoid me seeing what i saw that day thats why...
she didnt want me to feel bad...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by jf66312

when i knew her , i was working for my dad but i left when they objected to my marriage as my dad was so upset that he said he would not support...

but now things getting bit better..i am back in his company helping him out but me & my wife are not living with my parents at the moment...

Sounded like what Bro cassanova03 story but his case was mother initially strongly objected...but happy ending la...hope the same for you too...

Watch your wife carefully...like what bro SingViet said before after more than 3 years than he started trusting his wife...

If possible, tell your wife dun contact all her WL frens here anymore...WL frens are the common source of problems...

[xyman]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Sounded like what Bro cassanova03 story but his case was mother initially strongly objected...but happy ending la...hope the same for you too...

Watch your wife carefully...like what bro SingViet said before after more than 3 years than he started trusting his wife...

If possible, tell your wife dun contact all her WL frens here anymore...WL frens are the common source of problems...

Agree... WL frens is the source of problems. .. Like lot of the bros here, they will ask the WL if they got any girlfriends to introduce to their friends or themselves. Many times, my bx's frens will call her and ask if she want to join them to dinner or thai disco or what... sickening...

[xyman]

Originally Posted by jf66312

oops, thanks bro for reminding...

well, i only knew the real reason after some time...
she said she wanted to avoid me seeing what i saw that day thats why...
she didnt want me to feel bad...

so did she really go to hotel with customers? Sorry for asking cos i believe a lot bros go thru the same ordeal and need advice to overcome these...

I use advice here because advise is a noun...

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by xyman

so did she really go to hotel with customers? Sorry for asking cos i believe a lot bros go thru the same ordeal and need advice to overcome these...

I use advice here because advise is a noun...

The past is not important. The future counts.

To answer you, answer was obvious.

I quote "well, i only knew the real reason after some time...
she said she wanted to avoid me seeing what i saw that day thats why...
she didnt want me to feel bad..."

Originally Posted by jf66312

me: why u came from outside? tot u at work..
she: customer bring me go out..
me: bring you go where? can go out during work?
she: why u ask so much.. u know i working right...please stop the car.. i go back myself...
i was stunned
me: ...nono...i send you back...

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

WL frens are the common source of problems...

Originally Posted by xyman

Many times, my bx's frens will call her and ask if she want to join them to dinner or thai disco or what... sickening...

If galfriend or bx is strongminded and not easily influence, is ok to continue contact with the WL friends.

My galfriend has many WL friends around her.

Those WL friends who come sillypore to work but never earn enough money, those who keep going out with customer to have fun but never collect money, those who fall in love with guys... they will kana scolded jialat jialat by my girlfriend

In vn, those WL friends who are lazy to work, those who always go out with guys to disco, those who anyhow spend money, those who get to know guys who are poor (i.e drive xe om).... they will also kana scolded jialat jialat by my girlfriend.

Originally Posted by SureScore

The past is not important. The future counts.

Dwelling on the past will only bring unhappiness.
Think of future and work together for it

[shysaint]

I guessed he has already married her and the wife is pregnant with his baby .....

Whether she does go to hotel or not, guessed it's not important anymore since he choose to accept her at the first place and then developed their relationship into now.

If he choose to dwell about it , at some point of the relationship, it will turn into something bad ....

Like Bro KT say, past is past, build your future together is more important ....

[xxxx4]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Watch your wife carefully...like what bro SingViet said before after more than 3 years than he started trusting his wife...

What i need to understand or to know is..., what happen if you are already well off on your own. I meant if you already own your condo, 2 houses back in your home country (inheritted) and some saving. Dont you think the risks are too great to take to marry someone that you dont trust and takes 3 years to trust her?

Singviet's case is different since what i read here, he hasnt made his fortune when he met his wife. I could be wrong.

This is what bothering me in thinking marrying my vn gf.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by xxxx4

What i need to understand or to know is..., what happen if you are already well off on your own. I meant if you already own your condo, 2 houses back in your home country (inheritted) and some saving. Dont you think the risks are too great to take to marry someone that you dont trust and takes 3 years to trust her?

Singviet's case is different since what i read here, he hasnt made his fortune when he met his wife. I could be wrong.

This is what bothering me in thinking marrying my vn gf.

Well bro...life is a gamble...you can always dun trust her...ask your lawyer to draft a wedding contract and let her sign it...

Whether you can trust a Vn spouse...to me is like whether you can trust a local SG spouse who learn all the laws here...or any other foreign spouse...

If you are afraid then remain single and just be unmarried spouse...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Those WL friends who come sillypore to work but never earn enough money, those who keep going out with customer to have fun but never collect money, those who fall in love with guys... they will kana scolded jialat jialat by my girlfriend

In vn, those WL friends who are lazy to work, those who always go out with guys to disco, those who anyhow spend money, those who get to know guys who are poor (i.e drive xe om).... they will also kana scolded jialat jialat by my girlfriend.

Bro KT...not sure what you are trying to guide brothers here...seems that your wife to be is not a good influence to the Vn gals who are her frens...

It also seems that you are practising the direct opposite of what your wife preached...but you did all those FOC to the gals you wooed...so if those gals were your wife to be frens then kena scolded jialat jialat...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by jf66312

we did manage to get married last year even though my parents did not approve.. my parents were upset as they felt it was too rush & my dad was also in the midst of matchmaking for me...

How long have you know her before you decided to marry her?

Show to your parents that you love her and at the same time you show love to your parents too , and also can manage your famiy business.

Originally Posted by jf66312

well..of cse i did not tell them where i met her..just told them knew her through a frend...

Well, for my case, I told my mum where I know my wife and what she do and why she come here work?

Communications is important !

Originally Posted by jf66312

now she is pregnant & my parents told me its my choice & i should live with it & they hope she turns out to be good...

Well, at least your parents still give their blessings to you .... back to that , COMMUNICATIONS is very important!

Originally Posted by jf66312

but i can still feel their reservations abt her...

Your parents is not the only one in Singapore that do have reservations .... about foreign bride ....

Originally Posted by jf66312

when i knew her , i was working for my dad but i left when they objected to my marriage as my dad was so upset that he said he would not support...

SO this could be the reason why they still have reservations ....

Originally Posted by jf66312

but now things getting bit better..i am back in his company helping him out but me & my wife are not living with my parents at the moment...

No worries , like I said , COMMUNICATIONS is very important part of building relationships... remember you are the link bridge .... Your BX is important and need to be happy, so does your parents ....

[xxxx4]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Well bro...life is a gamble...you can always dun trust her...ask your lawyer to draft a wedding contract and let her sign it...

Whether you can trust a Vn spouse...to me is like whether you can trust a local SG spouse who learn all the laws here...or any other foreign spouse...

If you are afraid then remain single and just be unmarried spouse...

Thanks Pak Hurricane.

"ask your lawyer to draft a wedding contract and let her sign it." - Yes, have to inform her when the time come, and lets see