Yo
Just my two cents worth - Apologies in advance first cos I am going to be very blunt.
The saying that "your gf will come eventually, it is just not your time" will not work if we are just going to sit there lepak until the gf magically pops into existence before us. The saying, as I see it, is meant to tell us that we shouldn't obsess over the pursuit/acquisition of a soulmate when there are a lot of other things we can do to improve our lives as a whole. Like building our self esteem, getting out of whatever funk that we are in, putting in place the foundation blocks that we can build our future upon.
I will go as far as to say that I feel that your priorities are quite warped, and that if you don't find intrinsic motivation to push yourself forwards then there is not much that any of us here can help you with.
As a person working in digital marketing, I will tell you straight up to stay away from social media. A lot of it is MeiTuXiuXiu in the sense that people glam up whatever they post online in order to appear more successful, when they actually aren't. Very easy to fall into consumption and confidence traps when you stay on it for too long.
Marketing yourself is not inherently wrong, but it is not what you should be focusing on right now. No matter how new and shiny a $2 note is, it will never have as much value and appeal as a crumpled up $50 note.
You mentioned in one of your replies that you are unable to get a perm job because your resume is bad. Try and find sometime to go do volunteer work. Explore the gig economy. Focus solely on building a resume for the next two years, if you don't mind the rejection, mass apply for perm jobs every six months. The first parts improves your connections, credibiility, consistency. Treat the mass application for perm jobs as scouting. Try to land as many interviews as you can - observe the kind of questions that the companies ask so that you know where you can plot next.
Ty for your reply, but I need to sleep now, I will reply tmr morning.
Does anyone know where do people have sex with their dates or gf considering that you can't bring them to your home if you live with your parents and you can't purchase your own home either cause you are single and you can't buy a house until age 35? The only obvious answer is hotel? Ty in advance. If hotel is the answer how do people hint or ask their dates or gf during dating that they want to go hotel to have sex then?
.. how this thread became relationship/ bonking for starter thread LOL.
mai aneh la, bring some balls, set up the date go dinner go movie and go 'rest'.
no need to be overnight that kind but keep it manageable from 9pm-12am that kind.
anyway share about FR. curtain joint if LUCKY you can find those 2 lady or single lady one.
Then no distraction liao. else, it is as what other bros shared, confirmed plus chop will be distracted... and if you fancy that ML/WL, aim for some off-hour makan, go somewhere else.
.. how this thread became relationship/ bonking for starter thread LOL.
mai aneh la, bring some balls, set up the date go dinner go movie and go 'rest'.
no need to be overnight that kind but keep it manageable from 9pm-12am that kind.
anyway share about FR. curtain joint if LUCKY you can find those 2 lady or single lady one.
Then no distraction liao. else, it is as what other bros shared, confirmed plus chop will be distracted... and if you fancy that ML/WL, aim for some off-hour makan, go somewhere else.
Hi Bilibiliboi bro, could you share the location of this curtain joint if lucky we can find those 2 ladies or single lady one? Thank you.
.. how this thread became relationship/ bonking for starter thread LOL.
mai aneh la, bring some balls, set up the date go dinner go movie and go 'rest'.
no need to be overnight that kind but keep it manageable from 9pm-12am that kind.
anyway share about FR. curtain joint if LUCKY you can find those 2 lady or single lady one.
Then no distraction liao. else, it is as what other bros shared, confirmed plus chop will be distracted... and if you fancy that ML/WL, aim for some off-hour makan, go somewhere else.
Thank you for answering my question, but once in the hotel already how are you going to initiate sex?
3. Those youtube content you watching are not meant for you unless the gals you are targeting are teenagers or bimbos. If these are the gals you looking for, please continue to listen to them and skip our advice here. You are 34 years old and have O levels so I would suggest you work on your book smart or street smart as soon as possible.
That said, even if you want more IG followers, how are you going to get them if you are neither rich or outgoing? If you are rich and outgoing, you wouldn't have issue getting gf in the first place. It's a chicken and egg issue.
5. The fact that you are on this forum asking us how to find a gf, I would think you are definitely nowhere near having a gf as yet, so don't waste your time thinking of such scenarios. Even if you have a gf now, it would take a lot for the gal to pay first and expect you to step up. No pride eating soft rice anyways.
You are right abt the 2 statements which you shared. Those are words of encouragement to console you.
The hard truth is you need to work on yourself, to be a better version of yourself everyday.
Between Love and Bread, bread would almost always come first. Even if you have ntg now, you need to prove to the girl you have some sort of potential before she wants to committe to you.
You also need to work on your social skills as it seems to be lacking based on your replies to the other bros here.
You need real friends to show that you are likeable and so that ppl willing to intro girls to you.
That said, no harm visiting ML or hookers to lose your virginity or to destress until you can find a gf.
I do not have the time now to reply the huge chunk, but I forgot to add on that my counsellor said either women pay for downpayment first OR I borrow from bank first, I forgot to add on the latter. Is it feasible now with the second option?
Yo
Just my two cents worth - Apologies in advance first cos I am going to be very blunt.
The saying that "your gf will come eventually, it is just not your time" will not work if we are just going to sit there lepak until the gf magically pops into existence before us. The saying, as I see it, is meant to tell us that we shouldn't obsess over the pursuit/acquisition of a soulmate when there are a lot of other things we can do to improve our lives as a whole. Like building our self esteem, getting out of whatever funk that we are in, putting in place the foundation blocks that we can build our future upon.
I will go as far as to say that I feel that your priorities are quite warped, and that if you don't find intrinsic motivation to push yourself forwards then there is not much that any of us here can help you with.
As a person working in digital marketing, I will tell you straight up to stay away from social media. A lot of it is MeiTuXiuXiu in the sense that people glam up whatever they post online in order to appear more successful, when they actually aren't. Very easy to fall into consumption and confidence traps when you stay on it for too long.
Marketing yourself is not inherently wrong, but it is not what you should be focusing on right now. No matter how new and shiny a $2 note is, it will never have as much value and appeal as a crumpled up $50 note.
You mentioned in one of your replies that you are unable to get a perm job because your resume is bad. Try and find sometime to go do volunteer work. Explore the gig economy. Focus solely on building a resume for the next two years, if you don't mind the rejection, mass apply for perm jobs every six months. The first parts improves your connections, credibiility, consistency. Treat the mass application for perm jobs as scouting. Try to land as many interviews as you can - observe the kind of questions that the companies ask so that you know where you can plot next.
I do not have the time now to reply the huge chunk, but I forgot to add on that my counsellor said either women pay for down payment first OR I borrow from bank first, I forgot to add on the latter. Is it feasible now with the second option?
.. how this thread became relationship/ bonking for starter thread LOL.
mai aneh la, bring some balls, set up the date go dinner go movie and go 'rest'.
no need to be overnight that kind but keep it manageable from 9pm-12am that kind.
anyway share about FR. curtain joint if LUCKY you can find those 2 lady or single lady one.
Then no distraction liao. else, it is as what other bros shared, confirmed plus chop will be distracted... and if you fancy that ML/WL, aim for some off-hour makan, go somewhere else.
I don't know how to proceed from date to sex, that's why I asked. If I knew I wouldn't have asked. So please don't say the first few statements...
No, there is a difference. For other people they are not forced because they are able to find a gf or wife. For me I am unable to find one, plus I am 34 years old with little savings and bad or no career largely due to past bullying traumas.
Btw is Locanto a good or bad website?
Largely due to past bullying traumas and wrong career choices*
18-11-2024, 11:19 PM
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