GF asks for breakup. What should I do? [Chase her back or turn her to FkBuddy?]

[DotaEr]

Originally Posted by frostiee

If she did mentioned there's another guy despite you "forcing" her to say... Then there's another guy.

Some girls can be even more of a flirt than guys. So if you have managed to up her already... It's time to move on. Have been in your shoes before and sad to say, it hurts a lot in the initial stage.

There is really no point in taking or begging her to come back, once decided, some girls can be very cold hearted. Also, if she did it to you once, she will most likely betray your trust should she come back.

My advice: Move on... Get yourself into some really time consuming activities and let your friend know about your situation. If they truly are your friends, they will tide you through this down period. Else, get yourself to GL or call some escort... Won't be much but at least they satisfy your craving...

DO NOT GO TO KTV/CASINO! You will end up spending more than you will ever imagine... I used up $30k within a month; KTV & Casino everyday (Was planning to used it on my wedding with that bitch)

when she broke up on me on whats app, i asked her if there is another guy. her reply was "no. its not because of other guy". then when i met with her to talk things through i asked her again and she said "if you dont believe me and you want me to say that there is another guy, then yes there is another guy. If that is what you want to hear from me to make you lose heart"

sorry to hear about your plight. girls are just as scary as guys. i am not sure if i can trust girls again. how long did it take you to get over your ex?

[DotaEr]

Originally Posted by alvinskoh

Bro;

You came from rich family.

You plan is not best plan, go and get a part time job(Tuition or do some charity work....) to make some money. Feed yourself not depending on parent.

Now I understand your mentality.

She is right that she leave you.... you are a whimp!!!

Cheers

Bro,

Previously I had a 3 months internship during my previous break. After which, I continued on working part-time in the same company for about 5 months when my study-term was ongoing.

My other savings and income also comes from shares investment, army savings and poly internship and other institutional financial grants.

I am not relying on money given by my parents to feed me. I am using my savings. And my savings is enough to tide me till I start working full time. Of course I am not able to afford my uni fees which comes up to around 8k per year - this i will slowly pay back the loan to my parents when i start working.

Another reason that I do not wish to work is because next sem is my final semester, and there is a very tough module. I would like to spend more time to brush my up on my basic foundation and to be competent in that module.

[maxpee88]

Bro TS,

My heart goes out to you man. I feel sorry for you.

But you have to move on. She obviously have thought through her breakup process without you in the picture and without you to discuss with.

So give her up and move on.

Men always on the verge of breakup realises that they are gonna miss the free fuck and then all hell break loose and they get desperate to promise to change and compromise yourselves

Move on. If she was meant to be, she will respect and love you the way you are and not the way she wants you to be .

her coming back at 4am every Saturday? Hmmm... I dunno. She was with guy friends too I guess.

her actions to her circle of friends is to reflect SHE IS NOW AVAILABLE becuase you are not with her. And that's why she can party till early hours.

Dude, you lost the battle, but it doesn't mean you lost the war.

Put up a brave front, suck it all in, go out with your guy buddies, have a drink, and move on to celebrate your freedom.

And hopefully you will find someone who apprecaites for who you are.

[pikapikapikachu]

All in all, just give her up. Why bother to see how she is doing on her Facebook? Waste time only. Since you already know that she have move in well, then why are you still looking back? Hope that she will turn around and come back to you?

[DotaEr]

Originally Posted by pikapikapikachu

All in all, just give her up. Why bother to see how she is doing on her Facebook? Waste time only. Since you already know that she have move in well, then why are you still looking back? Hope that she will turn around and come back to you?

pika, because i still think about her. and also i want to see how is she coping. and yeap, i do wish that after sometime she will miss me and think about me and after sometime come back to me. but i know the possibility is low.

i know i should move on. i guess its because of the happy memories i shared with her and the huge amount of effort i put into the r/s.. and suddenly all was gone when i least expected. makes me shocked and a little difficult to move on for this initial period.

[DotaEr]

Originally Posted by maxpee88

Bro TS,

My heart goes out to you man. I feel sorry for you.

But you have to move on. She obviously have thought through her breakup process without you in the picture and without you to discuss with.

So give her up and move on.

Men always on the verge of breakup realises that they are gonna miss the free fuck and then all hell break loose and they get desperate to promise to change and compromise yourselves

Move on. If she was meant to be, she will respect and love you the way you are and not the way she wants you to be .

her coming back at 4am every Saturday? Hmmm... I dunno. She was with guy friends too I guess.

her actions to her circle of friends is to reflect SHE IS NOW AVAILABLE becuase you are not with her. And that's why she can party till early hours.

Dude, you lost the battle, but it doesn't mean you lost the war.

Put up a brave front, suck it all in, go out with your guy buddies, have a drink, and move on to celebrate your freedom.

And hopefully you will find someone who apprecaites for who you are.

ya bro, i know i should move on. i guess it will take sometime.

i agree with the points you mentioned. she told me that she thought about it for a long time that I am not suitable for her. Since march, she had been thinking about it. but she put it off because she wanted to see if she can get the love feel back.. and she didnt want to hurt me during the school term.

i was also taken aback when she just messaged on whatsapp to breakup. it makes me question how sincere and serious she was about the r/s. since if she truly want things to work out, she would have arranged for a face-face chat to work out the problems.

about the free fuck part.. its also partly true. its not just about sex, i am also looking to spend time with her and to shower her with my love and to be part of her life because slowly throughout the r/s, i find myself being more attracted to her and falling deeper in love with her. and i know couples have differences and flaws.. so i am prepared to change my flaws for her.

about the late weekends, she always hangs out with a group of friend. doing stuff like pubbing, playing mahjoing, playing cards, prawning etc till the wee hours only on sat.

i guess in a way the end of this r/s might be a blessing in disguise. who knows, maybe i will be in a r/s with another girl who truly loves me for who i am, appreciates the things i do for her and being there for each other and workings things through if there are problems.

when she shut the front door shut, someday, somehow, i hope another girl will walk through the front door into my heart.

[Toyota Honda]

TS is just anothyer spoilt brat who wants things his way and if it doesnt, he starts to whine.

Please lah...

[playboybunny]

Dump her before she dumps you and learn from heartbreaks.

Notice that 's'? It signifies plurality.

[alan4368]

Bro I think you don't contract her 1st let her miss you if she really miss you she will look for you.. Or put it this way if you really lover her you should change for her.. Don't just think of asking her being yr FB. If she really need sex she can look for other guy don't need to wait for you unless you ate very good at it..

[kensheeh89]

Originally Posted by DotaEr

ya bro, i know i should move on. i guess it will take sometime.

i agree with the points you mentioned. she told me that she thought about it for a long time that I am not suitable for her. Since march, she had been thinking about it. but she put it off because she wanted to see if she can get the love feel back.. and she didnt want to hurt me during the school term.

i was also taken aback when she just messaged on whatsapp to breakup. it makes me question how sincere and serious she was about the r/s. since if she truly want things to work out, she would have arranged for a face-face chat to work out the problems.

about the free fuck part.. its also partly true. its not just about sex, i am also looking to spend time with her and to shower her with my love and to be part of her life because slowly throughout the r/s, i find myself being more attracted to her and falling deeper in love with her. and i know couples have differences and flaws.. so i am prepared to change my flaws for her.

about the late weekends, she always hangs out with a group of friend. doing stuff like pubbing, playing mahjoing, playing cards, prawning etc till the wee hours only on sat.

i guess in a way the end of this r/s might be a blessing in disguise. who knows, maybe i will be in a r/s with another girl who truly loves me for who i am, appreciates the things i do for her and being there for each other and workings things through if there are problems.

when she shut the front door shut, someday, somehow, i hope another girl will walk through the front door into my heart.

u sure er nt bro??? but somehw i feel tt u dun really noe hw to advice ur ex gf... havin an attachment in a company does not relate to havin alot of work experience... u will need to really be in a job before u even noe anythin evil tt can happen in the office... and there are alot of other problems tt can pop up... sometimes gals they need constructive comments... not just everythin is goin to be alrite... u can say tt to her... just tt u will need to explain to her the pros and cons as well as other solutions... wat she needs are answers... not assurance... assurance can be put in the beginnin or endin.... but nvr just assurance and FULL STOP... get it?

[DotaEr]

really hurts me to say this,

she has a new boyfriend already. she has been going with a new guy and she has posted updates on whatsapp.. showing heartshape, kisses and love.

Less than a week after she dumped me, she has a new boyfriend. What is this man?

[pikapikapikachu]

Originally Posted by DotaEr

really hurts me to say this,

she has a new boyfriend already. she has been going with a new guy and she has posted updates on whatsapp.. showing heartshape, kisses and love.

Less than a week after she dumped me, she has a new boyfriend. What is this man?

Hmmm. I have been following this thread as I would like to see how whimpy, whinny and young boy you are at this age. Sad to say, even I do not know you, by reading these post, I would not even think falling for you.
You are just 1 typical MCP that want things your way, then for what cone here look for people to give you advice? Wasting people time?

TS, please wake up. She is no longer your girl, for what continue to track her life? So what if she update her whatsapp status with love, hearts and kisses? Does that really mean she has a new boy? Have you seen with your own eyes?
So what if she have 1? It does not matter to you anymore and it is non of your business. Like what you have stated above, she have been thinking about the breakup for quite sometime. So I do not find the reason why she cannot fall in love with another guy in such short period

[DotaEr]

Originally Posted by pikapikapikachu

Hmmm. I have been following this thread as I would like to see how whimpy, whinny and young boy you are at this age. Sad to say, even I do not know you, by reading these post, I would not even think falling for you.
You are just 1 typical MCP that want things your way, then for what cone here look for people to give you advice? Wasting people time?

TS, please wake up. She is no longer your girl, for what continue to track her life? So what if she update her whatsapp status with love, hearts and kisses? Does that really mean she has a new boy? Have you seen with your own eyes?
So what if she have 1? It does not matter to you anymore and it is non of your business. Like what you have stated above, she have been thinking about the breakup for quite sometime. So I do not find the reason why she cannot fall in love with another guy in such short period

yes i have seen it with my own eyes. the thing is that she said that she do not want to get into another r/s for now and anymore.. is all bullshit.

within a week and she has a new bf.

[pikapikapikachu]

Originally Posted by DotaEr

yes i have seen it with my own eyes. the thing is that she said that she do not want to get into another r/s for now and anymore.. is all bullshit.

within a week and she has a new bf.

But what has it going to do with you now? This is the question that you have to ask yourself. She is no longer yours, so what she told you that she do not want to have any relationship anymore? Wake up and get a life of your own!!

You have seriously throw the face of all guys in the world. Stalking your ex girl to see what she is doing is not what a man should do. Anyway, are you sure that you are 26 this year? From all your replys and actions, you really do not seems to be 26, I guess you are more like 14 or 15.
I totally agree with what all the brothers have say here, stop thinking about her and concentrate on your studies, why because of 1 girl and give up the whole forest?

Stop acting like a whimp please!!!

[DotaEr]

she could have dumped me to get with him right? and they might have already had feelings for each other when i was with her. if not why she was able to get a new bf so fast? thats just within 5 days

should i ask her about this?