Good Friend who goes after your wife

[vbvietnam]

It is sad thing that have happened to my life.... I thought all these only happens in the movie..... but it does really happen in my life.

Was busy working and traveling.... and my good friend who is also a business partner get close to my wife.... and along the way he expressed his feeling to my wife.... the affair have goes on for more than 6 months....

When i discovered it and obtain evidence...(emails and chat) that friend claimed to treat my wife as a sister and i may have mistaken... or perhaps some time he cross the time unintentionally. I have all the email which he send saying I love you very much, miss you etc..... and this is the first year that we spend time together as intimate partner... etc..etc..

After i confront him, This breast..... promised never to contact my wife again.... The matter has cool down for about 1 year...

Recently i discover again that he has been in touch with my wife again... phone call (i check from hp bill) and sms... again i try to confront him but he just hide and refuse to pick up my call. What should i do? How can i get my revenge on him.....

can someone advice me..... greatly appreciate your advices.

[kurosaki ichigo]

Why don't you confront your wife as well? Dump her and walk a free man if need be.

It takes 2 hands to clap. You sound like you're pinning all responsibilities on your "friend" which is not fair.

[vbvietnam]

Hi bro,

Thanks for your posting. Yes... i confront her as well and she is definitely also responsible for her action. Several things i wanted to walk away... and i wish i can.... but because of the kids.. so don't want to mess up their life as well. As usual the women will say it is all my fault.. do what you think will make you happy.... what should i do?

Why i blame my friend.. he is a friend for more than 10 years... a business partner in the business that my wife help to manage. Someone who i treat like a older brother.... Knowing that I have to travel and always away from home.... instead of helping out... he help himself.

He betrayed the trust that i have for him as a business partner as well as a friend of more than 10 years.... while my family suffer to the point of going to break up.. is it fair for him to escape and go away as a Free man?

[see see only]

Originally Posted by kurosaki ichigo

Why don't you confront your wife as well? Dump her and walk a free man if need be.

It takes 2 hands to clap. You sound like you're pinning all responsibilities on your "friend" which is not fair.

Hi TS,

Very true, it take two hands to clap, as what the bro kurosaki ichigo (bro you & ichigo_kurosaki very cuntfusing lei, alway mixed up) said.

Try talking to your wifey as well. If needed all 3 of you should sit down maybe, and if she already given her heart to him .... .

I think it is time for you to pack up and move on ... sad, angry, dishearted, etc ....... I still think you think about this path lah

[kurosaki ichigo]

Originally Posted by vbvietnam

Hi bro,

Thanks for your posting. Yes... i confront her as well and she is definitely also responsible for her action. Several things i wanted to walk away... and i wish i can.... but because of the kids.. so don't want to mess up their life as well. As usual the women will say it is all my fault.. do what you think will make you happy.... what should i do?

Why i blame my friend.. he is a friend for more than 10 years... a business partner in the business that my wife help to manage. Someone who i treat like a older brother.... Knowing that I have to travel and always away from home.... instead of helping out... he help himself.

He betrayed the trust that i have for him as a business partner as well as a friend of more than 10 years.... while my family suffer to the point of going to break up.. is it fair for him to escape and go away as a Free man?

Bro,

I feel its worse for the kids if there is no love between you and your wife. As for your "friend"... I say cut the losses and move on and don't have anything to do with him anymore.

Brudders who betray their own brudders for the sake of one pussy will not amount to anything good. Money and women bring about the downfall of great men.

[kurosaki ichigo]

Originally Posted by see see only

Hi TS,

Very true, it take two hands to clap, as what the bro kurosaki ichigo (bro you & ichigo_kurosaki very cuntfusing lei, alway mixed up) said.

Bro,

I'm the real deal. He's my twin

Just kidding. We share the same interest for the Japanese anime hence the nick

[vbvietnam]

Bro,

Thanks for your valuable advice....

I am in a stage that i can't differentiate what is truth and what is lie any more...
Many times, I tell myself with money, i can easily get a young sweet girl for myself... why should i make myself so upset... handling on to the memories and the "her" that no longer exist. The "she" that i know has died long time ago.

Hated have taken control of my heart and mind... and revenge is the only thing in my mind... I just can't let myself to let that guy go as a free man... he will need to pay (heavily) for what he have done to a friend. Betray not once... but twice... break his promises for the second time.

May God Bless HIM....

[kurosaki ichigo]

Bro, its up to you to decide what you want to do with him

But the other issue is that you need to give yourself and your kids the chance to start anew. Kids aren't stupid and will know if they sense something is amiss between mummy and daddy. Best is to tell them the truth and move on while taking care of them and nurturing them.

And yes you are free to bang any women once you're out of this shit. Just remember to use caps as well

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Hi TS, you may also need to resolve your business partnership matters with him.

Revenge? Like what my twin commented - its up to you to decide what and how you want to do with him. Just don't do anything that break the law. It is not worth it.

[vbvietnam]

Hi bro,

We have shut down the business.... i want to publish his photo and his deed on the internet and let the full world know about what he have done....

If you sue me... then i am going to produce all the email that he have written in court. I want to destroy his career and reputation in the market..

[kurosaki ichigo]

I'm not an advocate of revenge or violence unless its a dire situation so I urge you to rethink what you wanna do or at the very least think of the repercussions to yourself and kids.

Don't be overruled by your anger.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by vbvietnam

.... i want to publish his photo and his deed on the internet and let the full world know about what he have done.... then i am going to produce all the email that he have written in court. I want to destroy his career and reputation in the market..

天下事不能做到盡頭，留幾分餘地亦見度量。
Good luck.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by kurosaki ichigo

I'm not an advocate of revenge or violence unless its a dire situation so I urge you to rethink what you wanna do or at the very least think of the repercussions to yourself and kids.

Don't be overruled by your anger.

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

天下事不能做到盡頭，留幾分餘地亦見度量。
Good luck.

Wow finally, you guys meet face to face ....

I cant but to expose the truth .... you guys are my long lost twins

[Cheonging101]

Originally Posted by see see only

Wow finally, you guys meet face to face ....

I cant but to expose the truth .... you guys are my long lost twins

I guess I have no choice but to say... "I am your father. Join me... and we shall together... as father and son(s)."

[mansgp]

While I sympathise with your situation, you have not been exactly a faithful husband yourself, judging from your posts in 2006.

I was married to a devil once, who twisted the events of our lives, who wreaked havoc to my family, who stole my money, and was unfaithful to me despite me being a faithful husband. I endured all her nonsenses, her lies, her unfaithfulness, her mental and physical abuses for 10 years, on account of our only son.

On the first day of Chinese New Year 6 years ago, after being assaulted by her again that left me with cuts and bruises all over my body, I finally had enough. I filed assault charges against her and divorced her. My son had since live a happier life without having to hear his parents quarelling or seeing his mother hitting his father, or hearing his grandmother crying at home because of the devillish acts of his mother.

I am not encouraging you to divorce your wife but I think by dragging on a marriage without love, it is just a matter of time before something terrible or more davastating may happen.