Falling for a LB

TnB25 · #1 09-03-2011, 06:19 PM

I'm know this whole story of falling for someone you paid to have sex with has been done many times, but I don't recall any for our fair LBs.

Obviously it's happening to me and I'm wondering if any out there have had similar experiences. To further complicate things, she's a pinay from VS.
Not a local girl.

I don't know if she's just gonna take me for a ride, or if this is actually possible. She's not after my money, since it's non existent. I'm pretty much broke all the time and she knows this.

Opinions? Maybe DickRick if you are still around?

Crazy_horse 02 · #2 09-03-2011, 10:06 PM

Hi bro congratulation for falling in. Unless u are prepared to moved to the Philippines or another country with "her", this is pretty much an impossible relationship regardless it's real or fake.

john707 · #3 09-03-2011, 10:50 PM

She had gone back already right??? She took your 'virginity'?

capcrunch · #4 09-03-2011, 11:53 PM

Bro, I personally don't have any experience of 'falling in love' with any ts. However, what I read from the bangkokladyboy.net forums is that it really is not advisable. Have your fun, and pull out. It's very very difficult to have a relationship with a girl from a different country, culture and background. Not to mention a transgendered girl. There will be a lot of humps along a very long road. Are you prepared to ride all those humps (pun not intended)? It must be something very very deep.

Especially in SG where there's a lot of social stigma associated with falling in love with firstly, a foreigner, secondly, a ladyboy, thirdly, a sex worker. Please consider carefully.

But if you're willing to go fully into it, then I wish you the best

You are a brave man. I wish I had the guts, the conviction and the carefree spirit to do it.

Dickrick, over to you!

Tap Water · #5 09-03-2011, 11:57 PM

What's yr age & this LB age?

TnB25 · #6 10-03-2011, 10:26 AM

She's slightly older than me and she ill be here for quite some time yet. As usual, she travels frequently as is often in Singapore. Still undecided but will see how things go.

xTrixiex · #7 10-03-2011, 05:03 PM

a:Seems alot of guys dont wish to even take local LBs so no chance of them 'falling' for any of us ;P

2) alot of 'falling in love' is actually sexual based. get the girl or LB a severe military haircut, don only cargo pants - bind her tits if any - remove the false lashes & make up, and then see if you even want to hang out with her.

iii- u fell in love with something u cant ever get - a: foreigner ii)tgurl c)sex worker. u pretti much wanted a 'm butterfly' scenario.

d: she is a person too who needs love. who knows, it may work out

dickrick · #8 13-03-2011, 06:37 PM

Ah yes, falling for an lb!
Ladyboys are the same as any girl - they want companionship. They may be in the P4P trade but most would want to settle down.
The biggest problem I've seen is always the same; money.
A ladyboy needs more money because of hormones, surgeries etc on top of the usual girl stuff like clothing and perfumes and don't forget sending money to her family. And unless the boyfriend has a thick wallet, she has to continue "working". There are very few boyfriends that would accept this and there the problem starts.
Assuming you accept this, the other tricky part is the physical distance - be it Bangkok or Manila there can be only so many times in a year that you can meet.
So in short, it's not easy.
However, chances of a long term relationship are greater if the ladyboy is in her thirties. That's the age when they start realising that money is not everything and they will find ways and means to overcome that hurdle if you are what they are looking for.
I would just see how things go and take it from there.
This is just a brief summary. You could browse my blog, tagged under relationships for more info. Hope that helps.

capcrunch · #9 13-03-2011, 10:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xTrixiex

a:Seems alot of guys dont wish to even take local LBs so no chance of them 'falling' for any of us ;P

2) alot of 'falling in love' is actually sexual based. get the girl or LB a severe military haircut, don only cargo pants - bind her tits if any - remove the false lashes & make up, and then see if you even want to hang out with her.

iii- u fell in love with something u cant ever get - a: foreigner ii)tgurl c)sex worker. u pretti much wanted a 'm butterfly' scenario.

d: she is a person too who needs love. who knows, it may work out

excellent observations I must say. To be honest, if you removed false lashes and make up and the long beautiful hair, I wouldn't like to be with the LB anymore. So for me, it is all sexual-biased. I really am just interested in a very beautiful and sexy girl, with the extra equipment between the legs.

Hey, at least I'm honest.

TnB25 · #10 14-03-2011, 09:45 AM

Thanks Rick! Read your blog and it was really good info!

Thanks to capn and trixie for your opinions too. Although yes, of course it is about good looks, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

I don't think anyone would enjoy dating another person who can't even be bothered to groom themselves presentably.

You take a "real" girl who "severe military haircut, don only cargo pants - bind her tits if any - remove the false lashes & make up" and I don't think she'd be appealing to anyone.

We can't choose the way we are born but sure as hell we can do our best to make ourselves look good at all times.

dickrick · #11 14-03-2011, 03:53 PM

Just to be sure we're all talking of the same thing - By "Falling for an LB" ,I mean having a relationship - boyfriend/girlfriend thingy. You like being with the person etc.
So if the lb doesn't use make up and dresses casually, I don't have a problem.
But so far, those that I've dated don't look much different with or without make up. For me it's also important to have a chemistry with the person. You share similar likes, do stuff together, joke, eat together.
I take a different approach in the sense that I take a lot of them as friends.

TnB25 · #12 14-03-2011, 04:35 PM

Yes we are talking about the same thing. We've been spending some time together. Out of the bedroom as well. For sure she isn't someone I'd be shy to be seen in public with, we do click together pretty well and her friends are pretty good company as well.

Was just replying to Trixie's comment on love being "sexual based"

adventurer · #13 14-03-2011, 06:36 PM

Dear bro TnB25,

I have been reading this forum for many years but never took the chance to share my life story. I decided to finally open up because for the first time I see a topic very close to my heart. Yes you guessed it...I am in love with a transexual from Philippines. We have been in the relationship for almost two years now and I can certainly confess IT IS NOT EASY. But if you ask me if it is worth it then I have to admit that, to me personally, it is worth every effort. Each and every one of those moments I laugh, cry or feel loved by her is precious to me.

I really don't know where to begin or what kind of info will be useful to you but all I can advise is follow you heart but don't let your heart rule over your mind unless you are financially capable of maintaining such an exotic distant relationship and is able to look over numerous trust issues that will definitely arise over time.

As some of the bros here mentioned...Singapore is NOT the place to settle down if you are thinking to be together. Neither is Philippines the best environment for what ultimately is a same-sex relationship. So please think and plan for long-term if you are serious. I know that the kind of situation I am in requires a lot of patience and hard work and I am trying my best. Good luck to both of us

TnB25 · #14 15-03-2011, 12:57 PM

Adventurer, thanks for posting, it's so nice to hear that you guys have been together for 2 years. Gives me hope.

Good luck to the both of us!

dickrick · #15 19-03-2011, 12:10 PM

Oh, one last throwing in my 2 cents.

You two guys are more fortunate to be with a Filipino lb - at least their English is better and believe me, if language is a barrier, that is one extra hurdle you don't need.
If any of you out there are contemplating a relationship or have fallen into one, make sure what you say can be understood by your partner.
Cheers