Feeling hopeless over physical appearance

[StoolPigeon]

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

bro, I understand your frustration as you are single and dealing with your bald hair. I am in my mid thirties, single and some parts of my front hair are getting thinner and after getting exposed to sunlight can see some bald part.

Many say getting bald is sign of bad luck and turn off for girls. I agree with that. However, although I am much older than you and I do not pressure myself to get married.

I see no point, as divorce is also on the rise these days too.

As for my bald head thing, luckily it's not that serious yet. When I comb my hair properly the bald part can still be concealed.

Believe or not last time I rejected a relatives idea trying to introduce a single lady for me to get married. My excuse is that for marriage thing I can handle by myself. In this era I do not believe in match-maker thing anymore.

I do have one married male ex-classmate who is already bald by the age of 30 years and start a family oredi (one child).

However, after getting married he rejected the idea of turning up for the ex-classmate reunion. He used to do that during his single days.

Could it be of his bald head that he refused to turn up? The bald head topic always rises when we mention his name. Is he feeling inferior due of his bald
head? I think very much so.

If that the case I think you should not look down on yourself due to your physical outlook. Do not give pressure on yourself. Just live as normal as possible and ignore what other people say behind your back.

I would stay away and avoid the relatives that are saying all sorts of nasty things behind me. Why do you need them to kepo about your private life?

They simply do not understand what you are going but keep pressuring you to get married. Do you want to be emotionally ruined until you lose your job someday?

Simply lead a happy single life and ignore what other people say. Of course I am not suggesting you to be single forever. For sure you can start and try dating again. I am sure there would be someone who can accept you of your current condition.

[xxNoobzxx]

Use 'caboki' to cover up the baldness. Trust me it works like magic. Use minoxidil (available over the counter) and propecia (doctor prescription) to prevent your hairloss from getting worse. Hope my first post help save you years of headache

[lanus]

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

I am short like you. hairline is getting deeper too. But I seriously do not think being single and not starting a family just because you are 30 is of an issue.
Reason being, i do not start a family because i do not want to. I am 30 like you. We are pretty similar bro. I am not handsome guy. Just got to believe and if your colleagues think they are some smart ass by giving some inconsiderable remarks on you.

Work hard, out smart them and they will look up to you.

[lixiao17]

If height is 1.68 is considered short for asian then... there are a lot of guys are below 1.68...

The glass is half empty or half filled makes hell lots of different...

[Intltuk]

Think u've low self-esteem issues. Like a bro says, u're always looking at a 1/2 glass of water as 1/2 empty rather than 1/2 full. Cont'd on like this and u will only hurt urself further.

Eg, u view 1.68m as short.....but u're taller than majority of women. Some men wish they had ur height.

Body can be sculpt to be wat u want....go bodybuilding, exercise. Receding hair......stats show 40% of males lose their hair...urs is a little sooner than most but I know friends who are bald, in their 30s and are happily married.

Think u need professional help to change ur perception of urself.

[ColdBlood99]

If you are looking down yourself then nobody can help you.

[Advanced]

Bro, if your considering your issue bad.. There is worst out there.
Some are even suffering with daily pain while having to bare the family responsibility.
And i know some whose at mid 20s which are suffering from liver issues cause of family heritage illness like gout.

[Big Sexy]

this fellow has the same physical attribute as you do. i heard he is married and doing well. actually going bald is a good thing.. you save on your hair cut..

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

This guy is in a far worse state than you are but he's had no problems getting a girl.... a very sexy and gorgeous one too

[real_king]

i thght he was talking about me.

i am 1.68, skin sensitive, bad breath..etc. heng i managed to shed all my kilos from 90kg to 75kg..and plus my head is super big. body things.

You see yourself no up = nobody will see u up.

[lixiao17]

Bottom line is... what makes a man attractive is not really the pretty face. Its his confident and his wallet...

[black88]

there is always someone for you.

Singapore is a dot but also got so many people.

No need to scare.

[porscheclub]

Dude, I'm about your height & was a pilot trainee. 5feet 6 is not that bad since many regional gals are shorter than 1.6.

Two of my ex were over 1.7 & they can't live without 3-4" heels It's pretty cool to have a taller lady purring on you like a kitten & I don't even have 6" cock but still dated them for few years, in fact both are nymphos. One even fucked me while I was on the hospital bed with pipes hooked up to my hand!

Balding is not a choice but your genes and might help with the food you eat + drink. Shave it all & be cool then hit a wardrobe specialist. Sounds like you should also take up gym.

Everyone's a champion, you just need to find it inside you.

[3someking]

Bro remember this rule, Love yourself before loving others.

How are u suppose to give love to others if you u dun love urself.

Its the same concept as if u are not able to feed urself, how are u suppose to feed someone else's daughter?

Good luck!