divorced women/widow will be alone

[Edyta]

Once a woman with kids is divorced or widowed. She probably has to resign to a fate of being alone whole life. Regardless of how good looking she is, there is no difference. Good looks just attract men who are interested in FB n ONS with her thats all. Its close to zero chance a man would want to assume the responsibility of a step father. And the path to get the kids to accept him as father will be full of obstacles. And his family? Will they accept a divorcee with kids as part of their family?
Of course in life there are always a few lucky ones who can find love again. Majority don't. You won't know how many of such women around as most are silent and go about raising their kids and accepting their fate.

[topcook1]

Not only gals...guys also affected as well...Whenever I tell local girls I am a divorcee mostly don't wanna go far with me. Left only foreign woman who dont mind. Local woman knows that dealing with divorcee is tough because of emotional baggage, alimony from previous marriage. Moreover a divorce guy would prefer not to have a grand wedding again....

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Not only gals...guys also affected as well...Whenever I tell local girls I am a divorcee mostly don't wanna go far with me. Left only foreign woman who dont mind. Local woman knows that dealing with divorcee is tough because of emotional baggage, alimony from previous marriage. Moreover a divorce guy would prefer not to have a grand wedding again....

Yup agree. Even if they do want the relationship with u eventually friends n relatives will try to persuade them not to. Well baggage is just a liability. Who wants a liability?

[acidicavex]

Dont give up bros aCtually i seen quite a few of successful cpl whom definitely look happier and more blissful in their current marriage.

But of coz they do not carry any baggage from their ex~marriage.......

[topcook1]

Gave up liaoz....Let nature takes it course.

[july3rd]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Gave up liaoz....Let nature takes it course.

TS she shd be a divorcee ma and you also then maybe can try out?

Whatever it is... Is meant to be it will be.. If not die of single also nvm la.. Better then being con?

[justl00king]

I feel that if u truly love someone, should embrace everything about her.
Even if she's divorced n the kids may take some time to warm up to the new relationship, if one genuinely loves the kids n take good care of them too, they'll soon feel it n offer their love in return.

Yes, there'll definitely be external pressures from friends, relatives, family etc.
But ultimately, it's two persons being in love n wanting to spend the rest of their lives together.

So for those that r in such a situation, dun give up hope!
There's always someone out there who'll love u just the way u r!
Good luck!

[july3rd]

Originally Posted by justl00king

I feel that if u truly love someone, should embrace everything about her. Even if she's divorced n the kids may take some time to warm up to the new relationship, if one genuinely loves the kids n take good care of them too, they'll soon feel it n offer their love in return. Yes, there'll definitely be external pressures from friends, relatives, family etc. But ultimately, it's two persons being in love n wanting to spend the rest of their lives together. So for those that r in such a situation, dun give up hope! There's always someone out there who'll love u just the way u r! Good luck!

Yaya actually I kinda agreed with you lol

If the guy got kids then I don't need give birth also good! Labor pain is bad! plus I'm too old to hv my kids too (:

[milfmilf]

if you are a younger guy may be is more difficult to accept a divorced woman. But older man may think otherwise. Most importantly that woman has no debt and preferably has a decent job and no longer has any link with the ex-husband and extended family... best is ex-husband already demised.... neater .... and if got kids .... that's the headache part ..

[acidicavex]

Having kids is indeed a headache. But if the kids are old enough and not those spolit brats. They would understand looking at their mum n dad.

I know a at colleague when i knew her she was 50+ brace thru all the to with the man she love or like or whatever.

Understand her marriage was loveless both holding back for the kids. Till she met the man older than her and know how to cherish her i guess.

I think is our culture when one fail in marriage he or she is deem condemn, failure etc.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by justl00king

I feel that if u truly love someone, should embrace everything about her.
Even if she's divorced n the kids may take some time to warm up to the new relationship, if one genuinely loves the kids n take good care of them too, they'll soon feel it n offer their love in return.

Yes, there'll definitely be external pressures from friends, relatives, family etc.
But ultimately, it's two persons being in love n wanting to spend the rest of their lives together.

So for those that r in such a situation, dun give up hope!
There's always someone out there who'll love u just the way u r!
Good luck!

What you just described is really lovely but its rare.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by acidicavex

I think is our culture when one fail in marriage he or she is deem condemn, failure etc.

U said what my heart felt

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

and if got kids .... that's the headache part ..

Yup! U nailed the real issue.
The woman can be very attractive, nice personality and financially capable but with her divorced status and kids she is doom. She will still get plenty of attention with men wanting just sex from her. If she does not give then these men will run like no tomorrow.
The best way to survive is probably keep a low profile n focus on the kids. Find interest/hobbies, charities to volunteer n friends that will see her till the end of life.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by july3rd

. If not die of single also nvm la.. Better then being con?

Its actually ok people lost their spouse to death some point in their lives too
Just tht divorced ppl embark on tht lonely journey much earlier where they are still in prime

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Yup! U nailed the real issue.
The woman can be very attractive, nice personality and financially capable but with her divorced status and kids she is doom. She will still get plenty of attention with men wanting just sex from her. If she does not give then these men will run like no tomorrow.
The best way to survive is probably keep a low profile n focus on the kids. Find interest/hobbies, charities to volunteer n friends that will see her till the end of life.

True most man will go for sex. On the other hand all woman would like commitments even she is a divorcee . Woman dont mind divorce many many times because she has nothing to lose . Many of my friends told me best is to stay single after divorce because you had gain freedom i.e a bird flies out of the cage and dont wanna get stuck again...