Sex Life after Marriage - Page 10

Frankiestine · #**136** 23-03-2010, 04:34 PM

Problem is if the wife keeps denying the husband the "love", then what else can they do but to seek "love" elsewhere...

Fade · #**137** 23-03-2010, 04:43 PM

Xiaochunzi, ur comment scare me but make me happy also. Haha..
How do you train yourself by the way? And what is your reason for avoiding sex with your wife? Care to share?

Monster bro, yes i know what u mean. The person you love most is not the person you F most.

Frankiestine · #**138** 23-03-2010, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Fade

Monster bro, yes i know what u mean. The person you love most is not the person you F most.

You couldn't have put it any better...

xiaochunzi · #**139** 23-03-2010, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Fade

Xiaochunzi, ur comment scare me but make me happy also. Haha..
How do you train yourself by the way? And what is your reason for avoiding sex with your wife? Care to share?

Monster bro, yes i know what u mean. The person you love most is not the person you F most.

I not sure this apply to most of the men,after seeing my wife give birth,i really get turn off after that.

Even after my kid was two years old,i dont even dare to touch her.Then at that point my career start to sink as well,so i seek some RELIGIOUS help.Was tolded for a man to build his career,1st must maintain peace(love) at home.So i deeply believe that,and try my best to change myself and i did it. And this really helps.you and ur hubby maybe can give it a try.Gd luck to u.

see see only · #**140** 23-03-2010, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Fade

Thanks for your offer See see bro. How much do you charge?

If i did not read your reply wrongly ..............

(between the line ??)

I felt so insulted .... me ... me .... me...

...........straight one ok

S.B.Y · #**141** 23-03-2010, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Fade

Thanks for your offer See see bro. How much do you charge?

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Originally Posted by see see only

If i did not read your reply wrongly ..............

(between the line ??)

I felt so insulted .... me ... me .... me.. ...........straight one ok

Yes see see only 'how much' heheheheh

Actually Fade if you pay attention to see see only's avatar he is actually finding for P#$$!3$ - get my drift.

Pak P here walking away giggling to the How much Thingy can't help it Mas see see only .Maaf Ya

Eager2enter · #**142** 24-03-2010, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Fade

Some updates bros and sis..

Everything remained the same = no update at all.
Sex is a taboo subject between me and my hubby. I have learnt to live without it and yes its very torturing. Out of anger, I threatened him that i will go and look for an affair but he just say nothing and pretended he did not hear a thing.

Questions raised in earlier posts:

Financial stability:
Yes we are doing OK, Not millionaire though, but we can get by our everyday life and afford whatever things that we need to buy.

Would really like to thank people who have shared so much with me to let me know i am not alone.

sis fade,

it is good to hear from u after so long but u bring us bad news.

pls hav a talk with ur hubby again.
make sure he noes that wad u said abt having an affair was juz something to pinch him. not truly wad u will really do.
if not... ur marriage can be as good as over.

Fade · #**143** 24-03-2010, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by see see only

If i did not read your reply wrongly ..............

(between the line ??)

I felt so insulted .... me ... me .... me...

...........straight one ok

Oh.. Then how to tell whether he is straight or crooked? I thought u also into.... Oops.. No ah? haha..

Pak P cheerios!

kpkprivate · #**144** 25-03-2010, 02:14 AM

Fade, focus personal need onto your child and family. . . you may feel happier that way. Give yourself and him some space.
There are so much thing you can focus right now. . . and this is the only sacrifice you have to make to let this family grow.

You can do it!
Peace

salty · #**145** 25-03-2010, 02:36 AM

did you ask him why he's avoiding sex? if he refuses to answer, i suggest you 2 go down for counselling. It's very tiring to keep guessing his mind unless he tells you what he wants.

it is easy for a man to mess around, so many temptations in the outside world. but if he firmly believes in your marriage, then he should work things out with you.

kpkprivate · #**146** 25-03-2010, 03:19 AM

Fade, focus personal need onto your child and family. . . you may feel happier that way. Give yourself and him some space.
There are so much thing you can focus right now. . . and this is the only sacrifice you have to make to let this family grow.

You can do it!
Peace

SinDellman · #**147** 25-03-2010, 09:36 AM

I pity young women, like sis Fade who is in an inhuman situation, like many of the couples here. However, for guys, there are still so many ways to fulfill our sexual needs, but for Fade and the other sisters, both present and those old times like our parents, grandparents, etc, the society does not allow them to fulfill such basic needs from outsourcing.

So Fade, there is only one way to go .... put all your faith to HOPE (or a miracle). Hope that one day you hubby will "wake up". In the meantime, put all energy to the other family members, your career, your hobbies and interests, etc. Time will pass easier.

richie_rich · #**148** 25-03-2010, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by kpkprivate

Fade, focus personal need onto your child and family. . . you may feel happier that way. Give yourself and him some space.
There are so much thing you can focus right now. . . and this is the only sacrifice you have to make to let this family grow.

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Originally Posted by SinDellman

So Fade, there is only one way to go .... put all your faith to HOPE (or a miracle). Hope that one day you hubby will "wake up". In the meantime, put all energy to the other family members, your career, your hobbies and interests, etc. Time will pass easier.

agree totally. hope that sis Fade will soon post good news, not necessarily on the recovery of sex life with her hubby, but on how she's getting on with life generally.

poorman4sex · #**149** 25-03-2010, 10:56 AM

i tot only guys got this problem of wife not giving them sex..... didn't know it will happen the other way round.

hmm... isn't it always easier for the gals to seduce the guy~?

Fade · #**150** 18-11-2010, 12:09 PM

Dear all..
I am so glad and always find solace in this thread by reading all the replies that fellow samsters has for me. I read all replies word by word, over and over again whenever i am feeling down. Trying to cheer myself up all this while and focus on my work and child etc.. But end of the day, when i think about my marriage - i am such a total failure.

Deep inside my heart, i really feel this marriage is a sad case. How i wish he can tell me, sorry i am having an affair / i am actually gay- so that at least i know what's wrong instead of carrying on so meaninglessly.
These days if i talk to him about how i feel about our whole marraige, he will say i am nagging and love to complain, or he will just keep quiet and insisted that whatever i say is right and i win. I have learn to shut up totally and given up hope on him. Unless he say something to me, otherwise, we can dun speak for the whole day. This has been going on for weeks.

Sorry guys, i am just ranting as usual.. just think i am such a loser and failure in my hopeless marriage.