Do you still wanna bonk your wife?

[Yyzen]

hm... the wife should do her part to please the husband lah...

for me.. i always try to please my bf unless i am sick.... sumtimes even after a tough gym session + fk up day at work or almost dead drunk i will still wanna make my guy happy ... ML with my love brings joy, nothing beats seeing my guy feeling good kekekekeke

anyway im quite surprise to see most of the bro's wifey sex drive went down ... logically a woman's sex drive will be higher as they grow older .. all my 30s females all admit and agree to this fact.... guys i am not sure.. hahah

some woman are just lazy to ML ba i guess... but if she excerise it will definately boost the sex drive

the only time i will rejected sex will be i see a mini dick... a damn turn off... waste of my time.. sibey sian and wtf feeling will be switch on automatically... how skillful his finger or tongue also no use...

[my23]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

my23 / chenzong:
Ya lah, why you men so cheap one!! The one you cannot is always the best huh?? "The one that got away" syndrome.

well well, this is human psychology, doesnt juz apply to man, applies to woman too...

it's just like during courtship, if the gal got look/body/charisma/blah-blah, while sometimes 吊起来卖 abit, so called 吊胃口, it will trigger the guy's animal instinct more!!!

oh wat am i saying?? am i talking any sense? me too not sure... hehe

[Kinetics]

[QUOTE=ChowYunFat;4566945]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

Curious question: How many of the married blokes here still desire to have sex with their wives?

Have to "beg" n "book" my wife 2 or 3 days in advance to have sex
and she will still turn me down with the excuse "no mood" when I have stripped n waiting for her.

Worse still she set these conditions :
1) No touching n licking her nipples n pussy.She say
2) Can only do missionary style.
3) She never lick or even touch my cock.
4) The room must be pitch dark n I must not look at her breast or pussy.
5) Must wear a condom. I have forgot the feel of doing it without one

Any bro has a "better" wife than mine?
Or is TS a "better" wife than mine?

Brother,
For 1)....how will her pussy be wet enough for you to enter ?
For 3)....no lick or even touch cock, how will your dick gets erected n hard ?
Sorry but i really feel sad for you.

[chenzong]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

my23 / chenzong:
Ya lah, why you men so cheap one!! The one you cannot is always the best huh?? "The one that got away" syndrome.

I was translating the Chinese, Tyla. I am very happy with my wife, thank you, which is why I mentioned such is a sad life.

[AssLover]

I have been reading this thread for some time and as a doctor I get same people coming to me with these same issues....first I would tell couples is to relax and communicate well. know what is causing the stress at work/home...

I have found lots of the people are not clean and it may put your partners off....before sex take a shower...apply some nice cream..and please shave your self well....no need to get Brazlian wax it is expensive and shavers can do the same job at home much cheaper.

During weekends take some time off to be together....go out get a baby sitter. I have recomended "Intense" and some mutual creams to some couples and it has worked well.

Some other issue may be due to he may not like to use condom....get on pill and enjoy.

Your hormone levels may have gone down and if you are 35 or older take two tablets of DHEA 25 available at GNC after food with water....in about 15 days you should see the change.

I would also recomend Tayla Baby husband to take B complex tablets ( one in morning and one in eveing) available at GNC or others....this will take care of stress and build energy.....

Please let me know how these work.....i would like to help and get the sex life back to you all!

[SneakyBastard]

Hi Tyla Baby,

Just my 2 cents worth from a stressed-out husband's point of view:

You mentioned he is the sole breadwinner. That is A LOT of stress on him. He likely knows he's become a workaholic, probably doesn't like it, but feels he has no choice but to do well & try to excel in the job he's in, so he can put food on the table and a roof over your heads. He likely feels hopelessly trapped because even if he hates his job, he maybe cannot quit for fear of not being able to find another job, especially in this economy (everything is NOT as rosy as economists & politicians would have you believe). So he works his ass off, even brings home work, all in order presumably to get in his boss' good books & hopefully get a pay raise/ promotion.

He likely knows he seems quite impotent in your eyes, but isn't sure how to satisfy you. Your confessions have probably hurt him really deep, but he doesn't know how/ doesn't want you to see him express his hurt. It has very likely only served to lower his already-low morale. However, he wants you to be happy because he loves you, so that's why he tells you that if you eat out, he doesn't want to know. This is likely also part of the reason he buries himself in his work.

He has increased his frequency of lovemaking because he wants to try & please you. However, this, to him, probably feels like a task & not a want or need. It is likely adding to his stress & causing him to have performance anxiety, which in turn causes him to perform below expectations.

Your husband probably feels horribly miserable right now. His job sucks, his wife is a crazed nymphomaniac that doesn't understand him or what he's going through. Probably the only thing he takes pleasure in is the kids. Is he very close to them? It's likely the only thing keeping him going right now, & a big factor in him not having left you already. He probably tells himself: "for my kids, I have to stay strong & live strong."

I may be completely wrong about this, I hope I am. But if you really love him, I'd suggest you ease off on him. Don't give him more pressure with sexual gestures. Maybe try just giving him a good, solid neck, shoulder & head massage as he's working at home. Fetch his slippers, make him coffee, cook his favourite food (if you can't cook, get off you lazy arse & LEARN) & prepare his bath. Make him feel like a king. The king of his own castle. Make him want to come home early and just relax, to hell with outstanding work.

And when he's sufficiently relaxed, he will naturally want to want you. This is the key. When he wants to want you, everything else naturally follows. Every man wants to be the hunter, not the hunted.

I can't guarantee that will 100% work, but it couldn't hurt to try. And if you need help practising how to make a man feel like a king, I've been told I'm an excellent instructor...

Now, if all that doesn't work, perhaps you might want to consider getting a job?

[irrefutable]

I have to because it is my duty.

[irrefutable]

I have to because it is my duty.

[AssLover]

Excellent mail SB....

[cumfast]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

Ichigo_Kurosaki:
Awwwww you sound like a really nice husband!!


kinetics:
Yes yes. I think I know what you mean.
What I've been told by female friends is that after give birth, everybody know they are not virgin anymore, so they let down their inhibitions and start to enjoy sex!
Or maybe having a baby just "rearranged" her girly parts and made her more responsive.


cumfast:
Diane Lane?? Wow, that's rare! You must be into MILFs right??
No no no. Quality went up, quantity stayed the same. (I already said same for last 5 yrs already mah!) But since it was never enough for me to begin with, after 5 years of being "under-sexed", the effect has been compounded lah.

har chey... means you don't really have a problem except that you are too horny

anyway quality >>> quantity... you would not want to have it everyday but dont get satisfied

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

a man usually love just one woman but is able to fuck many attractive women. At the end of the day he returns to the woman. This is in our genes.

if the man can stay faithful to his woman (and dont bonk around), he is a treasure as he is fighting his own instincts keeping them under control.

if he cant, he is just following his innate nature.

i like this line "he is fighting his own instincts keeping them under control"

i try to get what i want at home, but seems the other half is just dead.
if thats the case, no point quarrel over it as it can get better once or twice and then go into 'dead fish' again

well maybe we just need to play outside and ensure we are still clean

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by jugesam

Dear TS,

many of us still wanna bonk our wives, or at least i do, the problem is that she do not want to be bonk !!!! Thats the same excuses i get all the time, like some bro said here. i have given up asking or fighting liao. if i make the first move and get a negative response, i will just turn around and sleep. this attitude is bcos heart cold liao. dun want to waste anymore time talking abt it. anyway talk already also no use. Actually many articles say that woman need a lot of stimulation, and man do not. the fact is that man also like to have the same stimulation and attention, we are humans too!! so dun expect to play the little innocent gal and wait to be seduce!

but not bonking her is diff from not loving her. and loving her doesnt mean i will care more about her. confusing leh, bottom line is that although still love her, the feeling is already not like b4. now is more like the attitude of "whatever lah". nothing else matters anymore.

I think u start this thread cos u think that guys stop bonking their wives after some time. actually its not, from the stories here, most of the time is the wife who doesnt want. your hb maybe pre-occupied with work and watever else, but man are human too, just show your loving touch and concern just like u would like him to do for you. dun lose confidence in yourself, treat him well and you will be reciprocated. but dun do blindly lah, so as to protect yourself also.

hope you get out of your situation soon. while i just continue to ta pau as and when necessary.

i feel i am almost 80% in your situation too.

its always the other party thats cold.

To TS, the other party is a HIM and that's rather unusual.
If only my other half can be half as active as TS.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Originally Posted by fresno99

Go get a Dildo, more gratifying than to wait for his move.

Oh really?? If like that, how come guys dabao and don't just fuck silicon sex toy pussies??
IT'S NOT THE SAME ONE LOR!!



ChowYunFat
How come have sex with your own wife also must use condom?? She cannot take the Pill one meh??
I think she has issues, man... *sympathetic hug*


slider_72
Sorry, my house no vacuum cleaner leh. Like, really. No vacuum cleaner.


jugesam
I also guessed that could be the reason lah. So I do take in some freelance jobs and such to help out with the $$ lor.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Originally Posted by gtkh2

Take Evening Primose Oil or Fish Oil will help DECREASE your sex drive

I took fish oil for the benefits but end up no drive for weeks!! Now Govt also propose fish oil for prison inmates...Now u c why liao

Eh, serious?!? Ok, I try!!


AssLover
Great ideas you've got there! (All of which have been attempted except for the Vitamin B complex consumption.) Will give that one a shot.


SneakyBastard
See? If all men would be as honest & communicative as you are, life would be so much easier. (Same goes for the women who say "nothing's wrong" when OBVIOUSLY something is wrong.)
Though... WTF lah, I CAN COOK OK. !@%#%$@! And in Singapore, no one really runs a bath for their partners. How many of you have bathtubs at home??

Although honestly, I don't feel what you've described is what he's going through. You know it's not work is not something he is willingly burying himself in when you help him pick up his calls, and it's his boss asking for something to be done NOW.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Oh, by the way, GONG XI FA CAI to everyone!

Sorry, last 2 weeks busy with CNY stuff and 1 of my kids fell ill.