How long did you not have sex with your wife or gf?

[Frankiestine]

cold war? then cfm it's got to be me to bite the bullet and break the ice...but she won't just accept it so easily without first giving me a dressing down, "EVEN IF IT IS HER FAULT"...today just kena by her again just becos her little pinkie toe nails polish got chipped after she came out from doing it up for a dinner tonite...she had to rush down to get it touch up again and i kena fuck becos i was slow in picking her up...so what to do..lang lang ai loong, buay loong (endure) ki lim (drink), lim liao ki lum (hug), lum liao ki loot (fuck)...so that my secret to been a good hubby, the 4 basic Ls...Loong, Lim, Lum, Loot...

[mscucky]

Originally Posted by doggifier

Hi ppl,
I would like to share my point of view, for those who think you should leave ur marriage bcos there is no more love...then I ask you Don't you love your wife when U wanted to married her...Are U sure ur love for the New woman won't fade away and if that happen Leave again and start again...sound familar ? Yes it is LOVE in Holliwood, couple come and go.
I been through that stage of sexless marriage...I think the overall atmosphere is important, try just touching each other...no need to lead to sex...Pillow talk ( Before going to bed )...massage, try something new sleep naked... and You body massage her....Good luck..I won't say I will not go through that again but at least I break the cycle. Try one thing at a time...it is very hard and sometime demoralising too.

hi bro n sis, wat doggifier wrote is very true. u don't leave when it look bleaks, if truely u want tos ave, don't think of giving up. unless by giving up , u can give happiness to ur spouse- then go ahead n do it. but if u know u love n he loves u alot... pls don't give up.. coz u will break ur heart as well as ur spouse heart...

even if u manage to find another new spouse, can u guarantee the other person w ill not give u the same problem?

i urge brudders n sista here to be very long sighted, understanding and analytical !

[mscucky]

Originally Posted by doggifier

Hey Bros & Sis out there lets cum together and share what it takes to break that cycle rather than just +++ about who stay longer without sex with GF or Wify. If it is cold war than that must be solve first b4 SEX cum into pic !!! Actually cold WAR is very difficult to resolve due to face...like in the movie "I am not stupid 2". THose who break that COLD NO SEX CYCLE pls CUM FOREWARD to share Ok, the ladies pls give some suggestion how to make ur kind wants to have SEX more..

true. solve the problem first! if i am angry, i don't even want to talk n just by myself let alone letting him to go inside me !

[doggifier]

Hey Thanks MSCUCKY btw U related to SEEDOFCUCKY is it...just wondering

[seedofcucky]

Originally Posted by doggifier

Hey Thanks MSCUCKY btw U related to SEEDOFCUCKY is it...just wondering

yes we are related. Bf and gf...and more

[jemz]

Originally Posted by Wins88

Sit down with him to watch DVD's. We guys like that, rather than our GF or wives leave us alone to watch by ourselves. Also, it often helps if the DVD's you watch together is PORN - sex surely happens!

u know what, i do that also. i leave the vcd running when we do it even. i told you. i tried everything. kinky underwear to toys, to porno. i donno what else turn him on. even tried to play tying up also. sian of bedroom liao i also suggest to do outside. drive somewhere...

it works once or twice. after that, he just sian again. den i must think of something else. why god? i have such a hard life?

[jemz]

Originally Posted by kendory

Hi Bros,

Has anyone have a thot of the sis here that face with hubby not interested in sex.

We Bros look for FL and etc... just curious what does the sis here do to let off the urges ? look for ONS ? or ex-bf to settle it or DIY.......

for those sis that DIY...don't your hubby gets turn on ? and too much DIY don't you want to try it with a real man ?

would like to hear out from the married sis here..... :-)

i don't mind providing a listerning ear..... do message me in private if you are shy to post it here :-)


ken

okay here's in reply to kendory's post.

i believe in staying faithful to my guy. unless he goes out to eat, den i will also lor. so whatever it is, dont do what i dont like. or else i will do the same thing. fair mah.

back to the topic. i think you all know form my post. im like the creative sex director. thinking of many many ways to please him. but unfortunately, failed. so what do i do since i dont play outside? i use a vibe lor. i do it in front of him also, ask him to help, but he also bo chup. now for many many days liao, i LL got to DIY. of coz i wish it's a real person la! it gets so bad now i even dream of it. vibe until also hand "sng". i wish he'll be more active.

[jemz]

Originally Posted by LeeKH

Hi All, especially to klzombie,

It was so bad once when we went for a four week holiday, we fucked only 3 fucking times! Excuses galore - too cold, too stuffy, bed too squeaky, walls too thin, too tired etc etc.

lol. i make him take a room in hotel 81 so can purposely scream as loud as i want. i tot he can get more high ma. halfway, he fish out a dvd. i see liao hor... den den... -give up-

[BustLover]

Originally Posted by jemz

okay here's in reply to kendory's post.

i believe in staying faithful to my guy. unless he goes out to eat, den i will also lor. so whatever it is, dont do what i dont like. or else i will do the same thing. fair mah.

back to the topic. i think you all know form my post. im like the creative sex director. thinking of many many ways to please him. but unfortunately, failed. so what do i do since i dont play outside? i use a vibe lor. i do it in front of him also, ask him to help, but he also bo chup. now for many many days liao, i LL got to DIY. of coz i wish it's a real person la! it gets so bad now i even dream of it. vibe until also hand "sng". i wish he'll be more active.

Sis jemz, how old is your guy? What is he doing for a living? Does he have any chronic sickness such as high-blood or diabetic?

If he is young and healthy, think he may have some fling outside. If you do it in front of him, somemore with porno movies and he is not even bother, maybe you can joking asked whether he is keen to join the swinging club...

[yankim3]

i have met one also, she just got ROM, she dun kiss her hubby, but she french with me like no body business. have not tried sex though, she says that shes still a virgin, nev did with her hubby, but we have talk of having sex and she seems eager to do with me. but have not tried, guilty sets in and i broke off with her since.

Originally Posted by BustLover

Sis jemz, how old is your guy? What is he doing for a living? Does he have any chronic sickness such as high-blood or diabetic?

If he is young and healthy, think he may have some fling outside. If you do it in front of him, somemore with porno movies and he is not even bother, maybe you can joking asked whether he is keen to join the swinging club...

I agree with bro bustlover, seriously. When a husband loves the wife and isnt getting any sex for some time, he sure will turn on if you just like wear a sexy lingerie enuf, more so if you go kinky, go hotel, go outside, play s&m whatever. If he isn't, he is either having some disease or he is having sex outside with someone else...

[beingunknown200]

Originally Posted by klzombie

Of course, not all is fire and brimstones, we used to love each other very much until lots of things happened, she having an affair (I have forgiven her) etc... sigh... anyway yeah,... I am seriously thinking of going to a psychologist and telling him what happened and get him to tell my gf/ wife. I dont want to separate from her but I seriously want to settle this major issue....

Hi Bro Klzombie,
Its good that you have forgiven your gf for having an affair...but by the sound of your experiences...that is a possibility that she will have a"relapse" and find a fling outside of marriage if she is not satisfied with things. Plus her comments to you during sex...I dont know, but it feels like her heart has changed....

Anyway, just my 2 cents' worth. Just voicing out my thoughts, can ignore if dont agree...

[Rainman]

Originally Posted by klzombie

I agree with bro bustlover, seriously. When a husband loves the wife and isnt getting any sex for some time, he sure will turn on if you just like wear a sexy lingerie enuf, more so if you go kinky, go hotel, go outside, play s&m whatever. If he isn't, he is either having some disease or he is having sex outside with someone else...

So what's up with your girl? latest development/

Answering the ladies. I guess it's a matter of feeling inferior when their job status or performance are concerned.

Have the ladies given some thought about this??

Problem with Asian, we do not discuss our problem but confide in a friend who give shit idea at times....

Cheers

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Bronco

BRO, ur case same as mine..if u want to keep up with ur family then u have lan lan lor.Last time i told my frens my problem , he/she advised me either u divc or eat urself lor. So i choose to stay with her for the sake of 2 boys..
Infact we lived with agony like status married in the eye of law but stay in the same house like seperated. Sometime feel so frustrated n boredom when stay at home, can see but canot touch.... anyway i also boh chap goin outside look for FB or lover to keep life go on if not die tat day both eyes canot closed completely... Cheers and be happy!!!

Very similar situation. Just staying on for the kid's sake.

In fact, went steady with my then-gf for more than 10 years but only had sex for the 5 yrs (plenty of it. about 10x a week). Stopped having sex after that till we got married and just had it a few more times to have a child in an attempt to save the marriage but stopped completely after the child was born. Big mistake... the marriage continued downhill but the child should not suffer for the parent's mistakes.

Now, like you, living separately in the same house, different beds. Still have to behave like a happily married man and provide for the family (time and money). Still have the downs of marriage but no ups of singlehood. Make a mistake, pay for life but that's life!

Have been "tao jiak" outside ever since marriage but have now cut down casual sex to a bare minimum (around 5x a year) as I feel guilty to the kid and also the fear of catching diseases that may ruin my ability to provide comfortably for the kid. Not all's lost anyway, still can go for HJ and BM at massage parlors!

Up you for sharing the same predicament!

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

omg... bro how you tahan...

Easy to tahan... just not interested in wife anymore. Lust can be satisfied elsewhere (eg. PCC, Affairs, HC, etc).