The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[curiosityz]

Originally Posted by JWNY

That was very insightful...it seems that the one we love most, hurts us the worst too...

JWNY

totally agree with you, bro.

[cummie]

Originally Posted by primalhunter

It is history. The guy was a good fren of mine she was pining for secretly. They were together briefly secretly as the guy has a steady. She stopped seeing him after he chose to stay with his steady. All the time i knew he was playing her but could not do anything cos i was this asshole of a guy to her that she wouldn't trust if her life depends on it.

My fren, well, i had a tiff with him after that bcos he was equally a bastard as me, knew her weakness for him and took advantage of her. We are no longer frens as he knows very well how i feel about her.... and u know all the time i was pining for her, he had the cheek to tell me to not give up!!! All the 10 years!! then do this behind my back!!! ASSHOLE!

hey sry let me get this right.. so u wooed ur wife for 10 yrs b4 settling down huh??

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by primalhunter

maybe she is the one although i put a full stop on high maintenance women, be it money or time!!! too much pain, to the heart and the wallet!!

Fully agree...but then again, if can afford it...*sigh* ~ another Pandora Box...

JWNY

[primalhunter]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Fully agree...but then again, if can afford it...*sigh* ~ another Pandora Box...

JWNY

Hahaha... Pandora Box, more like Shit Hole to me!!! look at Kenny Bee....

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by surfer888

It can be quite sad at times when I think of the one whom I love the most. She still comes to SG once in a while and we do have our rendezvous but she still breaks my heart after almost 10 years.

One of the main reasons I did not marry her was that it was not feasible, too high maintenance and her love for me is probably just a small fraction of what I have for her. It would probably kill me if we were married.

Upped you in advance for the consolation.

so long u truely understand the fact that life still moves on,i am happy for u bro.As the saying goes,go for the short pain rather than long pain.it will go easier on urself in the long run,and thks for ur pts,will return favour once i can.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by primalhunter

Hahaha... Pandora Box, more like Shit Hole to me!!! look at Kenny Bee....

But sometimes its not the money. even if you have loads of money, it's still difficult to maintain her... time, attention, etc.

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by surfer888

But sometimes its not the money. even if you have loads of money, it's still difficult to maintain her... time, attention, etc.

Agree..once i was in a relationship where money was never a problem...at first it was fun, but when no love was fostered...even 10-carat diamond rings can't salvage the relationship

JWNY

[Consequences]

It would be ideal if both love each other as much as possible.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Consequences

It would be ideal if both love each other as much as possible.

That would only be possible in Mills & Boon, Fairy Tales and Asylums.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Agree..once i was in a relationship where money was never a problem...at first it was fun, but when no love was fostered...even 10-carat diamond rings can't salvage the relationship

JWNY

Mine was 90% my love, 0-10% her love.

I felt that she was toying with me so much that I had to force myself to look another way and marry someone else.

Eg. She made me buy an Air Ticket in the afternoon to meet late at night in another country which I did. Then, she called me 2 hours before the flight and told me that she didn't want to meet me but would be going with her friend instead.

What was worse was that she did this a number of times and every time, I would fall for it. I knew it was going to happen but that small spark of hope was enough to keep me going.

[primalhunter]

Originally Posted by cummie

hey sry let me get this right.. so u wooed ur wife for 10 yrs b4 settling down huh??

Not really woo. She knows how i feel about her but she don't trust my intentions. So i kept on the sidelines for that entire time.... but its not like i went celibate. i had my fair share of relationships( stewardess, architect, lounge singer, lawyer, secretary, clerk, club GRO's, tiraks, and a short fling with a part time pros, most dun last a year) but always with an eye on how she is. Ready for her anytime she needs me. But that sort of track record, u could imagine why she dun trust me.

But I could never shake her off my mind. I had an ex who was so fed up with me because she knew about her. I actually drove cross country on my ex's birthday to console her(she broke up with her then bf and was very sad). My ex packed up and leave the same night.... sigh.

Do you believe in love at first sight! I tell u, believe it or not, the first time i met her, i knew she was goona be my wife! serious!!! that was 15years ago. and here we are.

[primalhunter]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Mine was 90% my love, 0-10% her love.

I felt that she was toying with me so much that I had to force myself to look another way and marry someone else.

Eg. She made me buy an Air Ticket in the afternoon to meet late at night in another country which I did. Then, she called me 2 hours before the flight and told me that she didn't want to meet me but would be going with her friend instead.

What was worse was that she did this a number of times and every time, I would fall for it. I knew it was going to happen but that small spark of hope was enough to keep me going.

Looks like we have something in common!! Yeah, I felt liek she was playing me too then!!! ANd yup, that little glimmer of hope, same here. But i sat her down once, told her I had enough of being on the sidelines, I don't wanna be the LIFE JACKET everytime u get hurt(because she always come to me when she is sad or when she breaks up with her ex). I laid down the gauntlet, I said I am ready to embrace her fully, gave her dateline to think over it and call me when she is ready..... very businesslike, i know... but i was at my wits end then and i was prepared to walk away.... trully walk away.

[JWNY]

What do you think we'll be doing in thirty or forty years?

If your future spouse can't answer this or won't answer this, then the two of you need to talk about long-lasting marriage expectations.

Why marry someone who doesn't think your marriage will last?

JWNY

[steamystreamsg]

In most cases, the one you marry may not necessary be the one you love most....love can't be used as bread

[asdfghjkl]

i find it is much easier to get an orgasm when on bed with someone you like?