Guys with Wife or Good GF still look for pros or flings. Why

[croma]

I visit once or twice month depends on money.

I am happily married. I think it is just natural for a man to want to enjoy the company of pretty girls.

Paying means there are no strings and personally I don't consider that cheating.

For me having a relationship with one girl would be cheating as there would be emotional attachment.

Quote from Journal of Zoology:


There is an accepted biological phenomenon – that the male of most higher species of mammal loses interest in specific females after sexual intercourse has taken place – universally known as the “Coolridge Effect.”

Named after the US President Calvin Coolridge

First Lady Coolidge, with a small entourage, preceded – by a mere few minutes - her husband, President Calvin Coolidge, on a tour of inspection of the chicken farm of a notable and valued political sponsor. Only the latter small coincidence would ever have persuaded either to be there, in the first place.

As she passed a chicken pen, she inquired surreptitiously of the man in charge, whether the rooster copulated more than once a day.

‘Oh, dozens of times!’

he rejoined helpfully, struggling hard to keep a straight face.

‘Tell that to the President when he happens along!’ she ordered.

The man duly passed on the message when the President happened along.

‘And does the rooster always choose the same hen?’ he enquired.

‘’Oh no! A different one each time!’ the man replied.

‘Tell that to Mrs Coolridge’, said the President.

[oshkosh]

Originally Posted by leonard87

i am 21 and i have been tru my share of relationships with gals..yes and i admit i once step on 2 boats and also had been betrayed before..so i know the feeling of seeing the hurt look on your loved ones and the feeling of being betrayed by the one you love....i dare say my mum din treat my dad badly neither did my aunt to my uncle..my mum even as she has illness wake up early just to iron my dad's clothes for work..worrying him as he come home late and wait for him till he came home..saying that you need someone to care for u when ur old u can talk it out with families..just a simple talk with ur kids..u need comfort from prc?thats all lame reasons to justify your actions and this are actions which can never be condone..seriously when i see married man still eating outside..i feel sorried for their wives..a woman will marry you because she trust you and she love you and yet you betray that very trust and love she gave it to you..seriously i had close friends that had many gfs and one time i seriously feel he is so dirty

Hi Leonard87, I am 23 years old this year and I came from a divorced family. When I was in my teenage years, I was like you too. I have the same thinking and 'morals' of not cheating or betraying on your significant other.

I used to hate my dad cos he divorced with my mum and he re married and his wife is an ultra bitch. But after going through loads of trials and tribulations such as being depressed after my r/s of 3 years with my gf did not end well, I realised that it is not fair to judge anyone for their actions.

Your dad may be in contact with a PRC now, no doubt about that. They may be even having sex and other stuff. But before you confront him and lay down the whip and all the judgemental issues that you no doubt think that you have a right to just because you are his son, ask yourself one very simple question: Has your father let down you or his wife in any way by devoting 100 percent of his time and money to his new found interest or is he still providing for the family? As other bros say here, you are only 21 this year and while I do not doubt your ability in making your won money and supporting yourself, I assume that you still are being assisted by your father and mother respectively fiancially.

Why is it that you assume and judge that your dad has a PRC galfren and by this he is betraying your family? I tell you boy, even though I am only 2 years your senior and I may have not ate more salt then you eating rice, your dad is just having fun in making new friends abeit it is a PRC.

Eating outside is not betrayal. Betrayal is when you eat outside and you neglect your family and do not even care for their basic needs. Even my dad now has many PRC girlfriends, some even younger then me. Do I get onto my high and mighty horse and tell him that this is wrong. Well, I just tell him whatever he do, do not bring it home nor over exert himself. I even encourage him to have fun outside. However, I always tell him that his family is first and he still has two school going children who he needs to take care of. With this advice, it is more then enough.

I have seen many many things and had many bros who are like this. Some fall through the cracks, the rest up till this day are happy with their family.

YOU do not make the decision to judge anyone. The only person who can judge is GOD and the person himself to see whether he wants to change. Put it simply and buntly, you are not married to your dad. your MOM is married to him. For maratial matters, she and she alone should decide what she wants to do. The final decision does not lie with you, like it or not.

Just my honest advice.

[imaginative]

Originally Posted by megaman69

Just curious about it.
Alot of my friends whom is settle down with a wife or GF that's good and some of them quite Chio but outside still looking for pros or flings.
Why is it so?

I myself got a OC that's presentable, but times i look for flings or pros too.
Ever got ditch by gals b4 during my younger days, and always had wish to have a good OC. The problems is now having a good OC but i change for the worst..?
Does it links to age too?
I am in my late twenties but during my earrly twenties not that despo for gals only within these 2 years. Especially in office flings, SYT outside...
Bros out there free to give suggestion to this discussion, any bros also behaving the same way?

If you have got 1 million dollar, would you want another million?
As simple as that.

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by imaginative

If you have got 1 million dollar, would you want another million?
As simple as that.

this is my favourite quote. when u hav $1, u will want to have $2. Nobody will hiam $$$ enuf de.

[gilagila100]

Originally Posted by longwinter

this is my favourite quote. when u hav $1, u will want to have $2. Nobody will hiam $$$ enuf de.

Like the infamous phrase from the Hong Kong movie "Men Suddenly in Black"

Translated from Cantonese:

"Don't gamble, don't know Lady Luck came to visit,
Don't fool around, don't know body is healthy"

[yinyang]

Originally Posted by EtherC

...We live in a real world, if it were so easy there would be a lot more saints and we can burn the Confession booths in cathedrals. .going through the motion of the religion, vilifying other sinners like yourself and crying out for forgiveness after a sin; expecting Lord in all His Grace to cleanse you. Well that won't ever redeem you, Mr lingerie thief & two timer. It's not only hypocritical self-assurance but a blatant perversion of the teachings. I zapped you, Little prick.

Fierce, man. Some knock on the head exchange to get real. Even if he's entitled to his staying on his high horse. Not a convert to our erring ways, hehehehe

I can't cry wolf meself, as having a side-dish (offshore, LOS). My own doing, no "push" excuses like serious family issues or wifey abusing me. Just snacking in my twilight years, whilst going's good. Living up to my siggie?

[clan004]

Haha once we men know that the joy of bonking different women give us different pleasure, it only make sense for us to bonk these varieties ... and maybe once we have bonk all these may we really retire from stealing eat.

[old_yet_horny]

Originally Posted by Tai_zi21

To mi having sex with a FL is just like any business deal here,i go up to her,get her services... and after tat i may come out as a happy or unhappy customer.... so to u this is betray? when there is no feelings involved

and u mention tat pcc when shoot out liao also the same thing rite? u got boobs to touch? u got pussy to lick mah?

Just ask any samsters here.... they perfer PCC or sex? pls be my guest....

Bro... The problem is that when people PCC... People imagine screwing another gal, neighbour's wife or daughters or some other chio bos giving him Bbbj!

So moraly, is it considered as betraying his own GF/Wife because in his subconcious world.. He is "having sex" with another gal...

The difference bewteen us and Leonard is that he encourages peopel to use the brain only while we use our body... So come back to square one?? So the fellow who only PCC still considered as betraying his Gf or wife..

Leonard...

Care to explain??

[Gentle Beast]

Originally Posted by old_yet_horny

Leonard...

Care to explain??

I think you have to wait for a while. Meantime he is busy PCC

[Starlite]

Originally Posted by oshkosh

...Eating outside is not betrayal. Betrayal is when you eat outside and you neglect your family and do not even care for their basic needs. ...

I believe alot of men also eat outside, but when they are home they are caring husband and father. Would it be better that way then to endure not eating outside and vent all frustration at home.

[Swordsman]

Sometimes you just need to go for takeouts when the kitchen at home is closed.

[leonard87]

Originally Posted by old_yet_horny

Bro... The problem is that when people PCC... People imagine screwing another gal, neighbour's wife or daughters or some other chio bos giving him Bbbj!

So moraly, is it considered as betraying his own GF/Wife because in his subconcious world.. He is "having sex" with another gal...

The difference bewteen us and Leonard is that he encourages peopel to use the brain only while we use our body... So come back to square one?? So the fellow who only PCC still considered as betraying his Gf or wife..

Leonard...

Care to explain??

yes i did err before but at least i changed..at least i can walk back the right path..yes when u pcc if u think of other woman u are betraying ur wife.then why cant u think of ur wife or gf instead?think of the time both of u enjoyed being together..yes the ones that say i am a little prick..can say all they want..but as i say if u want to play outside then why get married?hurting another one..dun ur heart even feel pain?and also if u pcc instead at least u wont bring sexual diseaes home isnt it?

[colins]

Originally Posted by leonard87

yes i did err before but at least i changed..at least i can walk back the right path..yes when u pcc if u think of other woman u are betraying ur wife.then why cant u think of ur wife or gf instead?think of the time both of u enjoyed being together..yes the ones that say i am a little prick..can say all they want..but as i say if u want to play outside then why get married?hurting another one..dun ur heart even feel pain?and also if u pcc instead at least u wont bring sexual diseaes home isnt it?

I think the point of argument has gone into arguing for the sake of arguing.

Now, its wrong to PCC with imagination beyond wife and gf. And on your point that why play outside if you want to get married, its becos the reasons for marriage is different from the reasons to have sex with a female human.

May I suggest something? Instead of saying soooo much, pls go sue your dad and tell your uncle pcc is the way, tell them also to imagine their wives while they do that (if not you cannot accept their behaviour). We did our extra-curricular activities, and we came here and talk. So far you're only talking, so pls do your part too.

To be frank, even the most argumentative GIRLS, including WL, that I've met, whines a lot less than you. As a real man, pls do your part for your family and go after your dad now. We'll stand close to the newstand to await your next post, not here.

Prove it. Now.

[messy_pasta]

Men. Take away culture from us. Take away social etiquettes from us. When you strip us down to our core, at the end of the day we're all nothing but beasts, and its an inbuilt instinct in us to spread our seed as far and as wide as possible, to ensure the survival of our kind. Simple as that.

[EtherC]

What is the right path?

You want a right path? I'll show you a right path: Quit this forum, study hard and achieve outstanding academic grades in law. Join PAP and become a cabinet minister. Propose a bill to weed out prostitution and render adultery illegal in the eyes of the law. Go shut down all the red light districts and implement a multi billion dollar domestic monitoring system like NSA. Track all Singaporean emails plus phone conversations to check for adultery and prostitution. Arrest all violators and throw them in jail. Sound right?

Originally Posted by leonard87

yes i did err before but at least i changed..at least i can walk back the right path..yes when u pcc if u think of other woman u are betraying ur wife.then why cant u think of ur wife or gf instead?think of the time both of u enjoyed being together..yes the ones that say i am a little prick..can say all they want..but as i say if u want to play outside then why get married?hurting another one..dun ur heart even feel pain?and also if u pcc instead at least u wont bring sexual diseaes home isnt it?