The one you marry, is not the one you loved most? - Page 109

nuclearkid · #**1621** 06-07-2011, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by AmericanExpress

I feel many of us know the apparent problems, maybe the threadstarter is asking...WHY we succumb to it still?

Is there a way to avoidance to begin with? Probably but it requires a commitment from both. In a marriage, other priorities emerge as the family evolves and if the marriage is not THE priority, everything goes downhill from there.

Anecdotally, the spanner in the works seems to be children, career and parents. Once husband or wife takes the eye off the ball, a deleterious path can be set in motion. So having said all these, and to answer your question, most of us simply forgot the day we shared our wedding vows.

Blurt · #**1622** 06-07-2011, 10:33 AM

The person I married is one whom I feel I can spend the rest of my life with, go through thick and thin with me

foursquare · #**1623** 08-07-2011, 08:52 AM

I think my post got deleted?

scaredycat · #**1624** 09-07-2011, 02:58 AM

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Originally Posted by iPhone

I think we all have these thoughts, and wonder if things could be different.
Am I with the right person? Did I make a mistake?

However, we humans are seldom happy with what we have, and will always question where we are, and what could have been.

Even with "The Love of My Life" - whatever THAT means - there will always be doubts.

totally agree...

and also, the grass is always greener on the other side...

todae · #**1625** 09-07-2011, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by i12song

Bro, u are right...just like those minority in the flesh trade.

Most cases were,
女人的苦是男人带来的，男人的苦是自己带来的。。。
Few cases were,
不是我不想回头，而是回头没有岸。。。

very very well said..

todae · #**1626** 09-07-2011, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Mortals do not live forever. How many years do we have to waste on wrong gers?

bro.. very well said.. your this sentence hit me real hard.. make me wake up..

bigfat · #**1627** 09-07-2011, 12:20 PM

if u don love her, u shouldnt marry her!!!

frivolous_ami · #**1628** 10-07-2011, 02:27 AM

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Originally Posted by todae

bro.. very well said.. your this sentence hit me real hard.. make me wake up..

Its never late to wake up. Only scared cannot get up. Lol.

WangXiaoLong · #**1629** 10-07-2011, 12:37 PM

The one i marry, is not the one i wanted to fuck most.

Wife is always main dishes, side order is those FB...

Marry young wife is just to cover my dark side, i still prefer slim figure hot looking MILF.

Anybody support my upcoming real life story between me, my pretty wife and my hot MILF FB?

frivolous_ami · #**1630** 10-07-2011, 03:34 PM

Its hard to tell if a gal is worthwhile. Some people asked before why i wouldnt give dating or love another chance.

The answer for me is you never really know what a gal is like. Whats more is that dont really get to know how a gal is like until things go wrong. By then, you would ve committed too much time and money to turn out unscathed.

This is esp more so after what a gal told me before "shui ye bu qian shui." You can give up your life your career and your family for one tree, but that doesnt mean that the tree will feel obliged to receiprocate. A gal believes in what she wants. I believe Nature didnt make gal to believe in the same dreams as guy.

The last gal i dated taught me this lesson. True love sometimes is a transient feeling that appears for just a moment. If you love her then, you may not love her forever. If she loved you then, it doesnt mean any promise tomorrow will be the same.

Risis · #**1631** 10-07-2011, 07:05 PM

Apologies , had been traveling but this topic is indeed at the heart of contemplation of many bros here indeed.

And we ask ourselves - what is love.
For love is such fleeting a thing, that we many felt at certain points in our lives that we were loved, and love. And many premutations to what we sometimes kid ourselves into believing is the real thing.

And then we get married thinking that things would sort itself out.
Yet reality does deal a harsh blow to dreams and hopes.
Aspirations and craving for everlasting love.

The reality that so many of us (me included) spend time thinking about this,
and hoping sometimes for life to be different is unfortunate.
And i cannot help but wonder if it is because we want so much to have a tick in the box - to say we are married, done that, and move on to material cravings which can never be fully satisfied?

It is beautiful to love and even more beautiful to be loved.
And should love between husband and wife die as soon as the kid is born?
In my mind, there is nothing more beautiful than strolling down the beach,
the kid playing beside a couple still deep in love and kissing each other to the sweet taste of wine...

foursquare · #**1632** 11-07-2011, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

The last gal i dated taught me this lesson. True love sometimes is a transient feeling that appears for just a moment. If you love her then, you may not love her forever. If she loved you then, it doesnt mean any promise tomorrow will be the same.

i shudder in fear how many people made an impulsive decision at times

frivolous_ami · #**1633** 11-07-2011, 10:54 PM

If decision turned out ok, its a decision well made.

If not, its an impulsive decision. Lol. R we all not in a hurry at some point in time or another?

MoralEthics · #**1634** 11-07-2011, 11:05 PM

At times it is a need. At times it is a want. At times we just don't think & just do it. But the end result always varies upon the individual. It is never definitive. It was never meant to be.

todae · #**1635** 12-07-2011, 10:32 PM

does love n lust always go hand in hand tgt.. haiz...

recently met a girl.. starting is out of lust, but slowly is more on love.. the love kick in the duno y the lust disappear.. i mean is like suddenly i lost interests in chionging or watch porn oso no feeling liao.. am i in love? sibei stresssss...