The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[papamia]

Originally Posted by sam30sg

Well said bro, I do agreed with you bro 5stone, my wife is not the one I love most but she is the one that supported me in what ever I do so I believe that as husband we should understand and love our wives over the years togerther, most importantly we should appreciate what she did and sacrifices that she did for us.

well said for both of u bros, i believe my current gf is a wife calibre type. i really love her alot as she is always understanding and doesnt show her temper. really appreciate what she did all this while.

[LovePotion]

In order to solve this problem, maybe they should allow us to have more than one wife.

This will definitely reduce the divorce rate and create net happiness. =)

Not too much, 2-4 wife will do

[High till Dry]

it is always good to marry someone who loves u more when it comes to finding a wife.

as for other gals, it's really up to u....

as for me i married someone who loves me wholeheartedly.

hope we will have less sad fuck out there

[talismanicme]

Originally Posted by iPhone

man's weakness is more apparent than his strength?

a guy only loses when he invests feelings. It does not apply to money and time.

[LovePotion]

precisely, so throw in money first, then spend time on her.

Lastly, then invest your feeling.

I think it would be best to find someone who loves you more than you do.

In order to achieve that, we cannot be nice to them all the time. Sometimes we need to mistreat them to let them know. They need to earn our tender, love and care

[iPhone]

Originally Posted by talismanicme

a guy only loses when he invests feelings. It does not apply to money and time.

i have learned from my expensive divorce that women only want OUR money at HER time

y did i marry her? good question

[foursquare]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Sometimes do anything also seems wrong. Qian jing liang nan. Somehow i think do nothing should be the right thing. Dun wan to appear on papers for wrong reason. Haha

haha. agree. but love is blind? the old colonial saying.......

[WRX_STI]

Originally Posted by talismanicme

a guy only loses when he invests feelings. It does not apply to money and time.

not everyone can afford that money and time bro

[entrust]

Aiyoh...why so much negativity? I married the woman I love most and still deeply in love. Had 2 kids and still very united in the family. In my opinion, where your treasure is, there your heart will be as well. If you sow time, love, effort and money to support all that, love will never die.

But even though the person you marry ends up not what you wanted, than both should work together to make it work than give up and look outside. Marriage is beautiful and its like our skin. You need to upkeep your skin to stay radiant else it will turn yellow and shaggy. Likewise, we need to maintain and upkeep our commitments. Commitments are not limited to money only but also love, communication, affection, romance, time spent and of course sex.

Nevertheless, temptation always lingers at the corner waiting to pound on us every single time. So we have to guard our gates like our heart, eyes, and mind. Placing the one you love as first position in your every decision is key to protect ourselves. But if once the love is gone, it will take us double or even triple the effort to get it back. So easiest task, just maintain and upkeep.

**Above is solely my personal view and opinion and commands no implication and reference to anyone else. Any similarity is pure coincidence...

[bongmaestro]

hi, i am one who married my wife who i did not love the most. I cared for her and the responsibility of a husband to her. However, i didnt have the interest in having sex with her. Everyday is just boring and sometimes i will kick a fuss out of something very small. This is simply not fair to her. I knew that i am an asshole. A man that she dont deserve. Even though i do not love her so much, i show enough care and will try my best to get whatever she wants. I knew her as a colleague and we had been married for 11years. during these 11 years, i had all my fun and best sex outside the house. I partied hard whenever i am outstation. Finally, after all these years; i finally pick up the courage to ask for a divorce. All hell broke out, however she managed to cool down and accept the fact that i didnt love her anymore. I feel really bad, i let her and her family down. However, neither me nor her should live another 30-40years in unhappiness. So now, i am a divorcee and single again. My advise to all bros is; never marry the woman you dun love or just like only. Make sure that woman can understand u and whenever you are with her, u felt loved, care and happiness. That is what i missed from her all these years.

[exori]

I totally understand n agree with u bong. Totally! And I salute u for having the courage to do it.

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by bongmaestro

hi, i am one who married my wife who i did not love the most. I cared for her and the responsibility of a husband to her. However, i didnt have the interest in having sex with her. Everyday is just boring and sometimes i will kick a fuss out of something very small. This is simply not fair to her. I knew that i am an asshole. A man that she dont deserve. Even though i do not love her so much, i show enough care and will try my best to get whatever she wants. I knew her as a colleague and we had been married for 11years. during these 11 years, i had all my fun and best sex outside the house. I partied hard whenever i am outstation. Finally, after all these years; i finally pick up the courage to ask for a divorce. All hell broke out, however she managed to cool down and accept the fact that i didnt love her anymore. I feel really bad, i let her and her family down. However, neither me nor her should live another 30-40years in unhappiness. So now, i am a divorcee and single again. My advise to all bros is; never marry the woman you dun love or just like only. Make sure that woman can understand u and whenever you are with her, u felt loved, care and happiness. That is what i missed from her all these years.

Braddah, classy and reflective post. I rarely give out accolades due to high standards for content and award you one for your post braddah.

[entrust]

Originally Posted by bongmaestro

hi, i am one who married my wife who i did not love the most. I cared for her and the responsibility of a husband to her. However, i didnt have the interest in having sex with her. Everyday is just boring and sometimes i will kick a fuss out of something very small. This is simply not fair to her. I knew that i am an asshole. A man that she dont deserve. Even though i do not love her so much, i show enough care and will try my best to get whatever she wants. I knew her as a colleague and we had been married for 11years. during these 11 years, i had all my fun and best sex outside the house. I partied hard whenever i am outstation. Finally, after all these years; i finally pick up the courage to ask for a divorce. All hell broke out, however she managed to cool down and accept the fact that i didnt love her anymore. I feel really bad, i let her and her family down. However, neither me nor her should live another 30-40years in unhappiness. So now, i am a divorcee and single again. My advise to all bros is; never marry the woman you dun love or just like only. Make sure that woman can understand u and whenever you are with her, u felt loved, care and happiness. That is what i missed from her all these years.

Great courage for admitting! All the best for your next marriage life!

[samaritan]

Originally Posted by entrust

Nevertheless, temptation always lingers at the corner waiting to pound on us every single time. So we have to guard our gates like our heart, eyes, and mind. Placing the one you love as first position in your every decision is key to protect ourselves. But if once the love is gone, it will take us double or even triple the effort to get it back. So easiest task, just maintain and upkeep.

if only life that easy my friend

[bleedingknight]

Originally Posted by bongmaestro

hi, i am one who married my wife who i did not love the most. I cared for her and the responsibility of a husband to her. However, i didnt have the interest in having sex with her. Everyday is just boring and sometimes i will kick a fuss out of something very small. This is simply not fair to her. I knew that i am an asshole. A man that she dont deserve. Even though i do not love her so much, i show enough care and will try my best to get whatever she wants. I knew her as a colleague and we had been married for 11years. during these 11 years, i had all my fun and best sex outside the house. I partied hard whenever i am outstation. Finally, after all these years; i finally pick up the courage to ask for a divorce. All hell broke out, however she managed to cool down and accept the fact that i didnt love her anymore. I feel really bad, i let her and her family down. However, neither me nor her should live another 30-40years in unhappiness. So now, i am a divorcee and single again. My advise to all bros is; never marry the woman you dun love or just like only. Make sure that woman can understand u and whenever you are with her, u felt loved, care and happiness. That is what i missed from her all these years.

Bro, this is almost exactly my situation. With the only changes being that i am not screwing around outside and that she is wonderful to me. Which leaves me feeling like a total asshole all the time. All i want is to be able to love her but for some reason i dont think i do. But at the moment i am still trying since its only been 2 years of marriage.