Do you still wanna bonk your wife?

[timeagle]

Originally Posted by chelsea4ever

Another backfire is we role play so much that once she got drunk at a disco and ended up at a guy's place thinking it was me role playing with her and ended being fucked by the guy and his friend raw as she think it was me and stop him from putting on the condom.

How gullible are you really?

[Ninjaron]

Not married but with my gf for a long time. Once a month is the norm now. I also talked to her about it but it did not help when both of us are working adults try very hard to secure a better future. There was once i made her cum and skipped my chance for the month zzz. Now i'm not gonna fall for it again . Well sex with her is still fantastic and of cos i still love it. With the help my the "5 princess" i still can make ends meet.
I hope this does not get worse after marriage/Kids etc, if not god please be with me. Although not young anymore but physically the demand is still there

[chelsea4ever]

Originally Posted by gilagila100

Oh dear !!! How did you two get over the incident ?

Hmmm ... maybe u shld ask bro peterpan to join the swingers club if you get more aroused by such incidents

Just a suggestion, no offense bro.

Initially was quite angry she let a few strangers bonked her raw but at the same time it is also my fault to suggest to her to dress so skimpy and drink more to get high so that when she back I got the interst to bonk her after hearing her experience at the disco. Just didn't expect them to really bonk her, as I only expect her to be groped which we both dun mind.

Although my fantasy is seeing her gangbanged by other men, I dun really wish for it to happen. Her fantasy is also to try some other cocks apart from mine though she dare not do it.

After this incident we became more open.
Sometimes she will dress till very skimpy and walk in to 7-11 and buy 12 packs condoms even though we dun use just to arouse the poor cashier.
Once she went to a sex shop to buy a vibrator and ask the male staff to teach her how to use.
Another time when we were in Bali and she was sun tanning in her skimpy bikini at the pool, she ask an ang mo to help her rub sun tan lotion on her body. I was just a few chairs away but act dun know her. Was e
arouse when I see him untie her bikini to run on her back and act blur rub the side of her breasts as well and then rub her thighs. When we got back into the room she told me that when rubbing her inner thighs he kept brushing against her crotch making her very wet and we have great sex after that

[petrolheadsg]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

mr nice guy: Doesn't take a genius to figure out i'm having issues huh? Hahaha. Oh well, been to marriage counselling, etc etc. Sex drive don't match I also suck thumb.

Thanks for the luck. I need it.

late to the party....how refreshing...seems to be in exact same situation except that I am the one sucking thumb. Marriage counsellors suck man. All they can say is ...compromise and control...wtf! haha

Now once a week but I just cope in other ways the rest of the time. Ideally I would love to bonk my wife EVEREEDAE!!! I am probably even fitter looking now than ever before too...and still raring to go but since it doesnt match up...oh well ...gotta think of the bigger picture.

[HumpBackOak]

personally.

Marriage Counselors huge waste of time.

Seeing a marriage counselor, might as well see a working lady, way more life experience and knows how to please.

When just get to know you, call you by name.

after get together, call you darling/dear.

after get married, call you husband/wifey.

after having children, call you mummy/daddy

after another decade, call you OEI or EH...

it all goes downhill from there.


most of the time, after marriage for some time. ppl just stop putting in effort. you gota make time for privacy/date for two people. (yes get a babysiter or something)

not to mention after marriage and children, most ppl stop maintaining their appearance/figure.

of cos it takes two hands to clap, the important part is communication and if you do not cater to each other's physical/emotional needs.

Don't blame the other party for cheating.

[spinex09]

Originally Posted by chelsea4ever

Initially was quite angry she let a few strangers bonked her raw but at the same time it is also my fault to suggest to her to dress so skimpy and drink more to get high so that when she back I got the interst to bonk her after hearing her experience at the disco. Just didn't expect them to really bonk her, as I only expect her to be groped which we both dun mind.

Although my fantasy is seeing her gangbanged by other men, I dun really wish for it to happen. Her fantasy is also to try some other cocks apart from mine though she dare not do it.

After this incident we became more open.
Sometimes she will dress till very skimpy and walk in to 7-11 and buy 12 packs condoms even though we dun use just to arouse the poor cashier.
Once she went to a sex shop to buy a vibrator and ask the male staff to teach her how to use.
Another time when we were in Bali and she was sun tanning in her skimpy bikini at the pool, she ask an ang mo to help her rub sun tan lotion on her body. I was just a few chairs away but act dun know her. Was e
arouse when I see him untie her bikini to run on her back and act blur rub the side of her breasts as well and then rub her thighs. When we got back into the room she told me that when rubbing her inner thighs he kept brushing against her crotch making her very wet and we have great sex after that

wow your wife is very daring. I wish mine was as daring as well. It can really make the sex life more alive.

[dagger168]

Tyla
I chanced upon this thread & would like to share abit about my situation. As early as just after marriage, I already realised that I no longer lust for my wife like our dating days. I went ahead mainly out of responsibility (or some may think utterly irresponsible). Things come to a breaking point recently, when I dont make any attempts for as long as 3 weeks. Other cockups like me climaxing within 10mins or cant get it up or going soft when drilling all made things even worse.
Now she got so shattered that she told me that she doesnt want it or even expect it anymore. How does one weigh love vs responsibilities? rationale vs emotions? I dont do paid sex or even ons (mainly due to fear of stds or worse aids).
I'll keep trying to get my lust back cos words are simply not enough or even effective at all. Feeling lost & empty but will keep trying to save this marriage.
Thanks for taking time to read.

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by dagger168

Tyla
I chanced upon this thread & would like to share abit about my situation. As early as just after marriage, I already realised that I no longer lust for my wife like our dating days. I went ahead mainly out of responsibility (or some may think utterly irresponsible). Things come to a breaking point recently, when I dont make any attempts for as long as 3 weeks. Other cockups like me climaxing within 10mins or cant get it up or going soft when drilling all made things even worse.
Now she got so shattered that she told me that she doesnt want it or even expect it anymore. How does one weigh love vs responsibilities? rationale vs emotions? I dont do paid sex or even ons (mainly due to fear of stds or worse aids).
I'll keep trying to get my lust back cos words are simply not enough or even effective at all. Feeling lost & empty but will keep trying to save this marriage.
Thanks for taking time to read.

Its all in the mind bro.

The urge to do it regularly during courtship days is normal. It is also normal for your urge to decline after a few years into the marriage. If you stop seeing it as a responsibility, it might work better. Seems like your high expectation resulted in your inability to perform to your desired standard. When all else fails, lower your standards.

Like all things in life, it takes some effort on the part of both parties. Not all love-making sessions must end up with the earth shaking beneath you. Sometimes it can be just as nice to be inside your wife, cuddle and kiss without the pumping. Sure, you will probably go soft after a while but hey, life is not all about results. I think this will give you and your wife some emotional fulfillment as well as to train your mind that performance in bed is not as important as what you make it out to be.

On occasions, do something spontaneous. Once the kids are asleep, bring the wife out to a hotel for bonking. You might think that it is wasting money but the effect is very different. Bring a bottle of champagne or something. Get drunk, have sex, wash up and then go home.

You feel that climaxing within 10 minutes is a cock-up. Its not. Sex is not all about how big you are, how long you can last and how many times you make her cum.

[ferragamo]

I think the most difficult time is after the kids are born

the desire to have sex is still there but the energy and time after settling the kids is not there

but I found that after the kids are older, about 2 years old , it becomes much easier

another issue is that after giving birth, the women are sensitive about their body shape, so that is something to work around

[dagger168]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Its all in the mind bro.

The urge to do it regularly during courtship days is normal. It is also normal for your urge to decline after a few years into the marriage. If you stop seeing it as a responsibility, it might work better. Seems like your high expectation resulted in your inability to perform to your desired standard. When all else fails, lower your standards.

Like all things in life, it takes some effort on the part of both parties. Not all love-making sessions must end up with the earth shaking beneath you. Sometimes it can be just as nice to be inside your wife, cuddle and kiss without the pumping. Sure, you will probably go soft after a while but hey, life is not all about results. I think this will give you and your wife some emotional fulfillment as well as to train your mind that performance in bed is not as important as what you make it out to be.

On occasions, do something spontaneous. Once the kids are asleep, bring the wife out to a hotel for bonking. You might think that it is wasting money but the effect is very different. Bring a bottle of champagne or something. Get drunk, have sex, wash up and then go home.

You feel that climaxing within 10 minutes is a cock-up. Its not. Sex is not all about how big you are, how long you can last and how many times you make her cum.

Thanks, Slider. I guess you are right to some extent that the romance element is missing and my expectation & fantasy cant be fulfilled and thus leading to more disappointments (mind & little bro). But right now, I think it's my wife that is more disillusioned as I dont even give out the min once a week quota, that, she cannot accept

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by dagger168

Thanks, Slider. I guess you are right to some extent that the romance element is missing and my expectation & fantasy cant be fulfilled and thus leading to more disappointments (mind & little bro). But right now, I think it's my wife that is more disillusioned as I dont even give out the min once a week quota, that, she cannot accept

Tsk tsk. There you go again. You are too task-oriented. Why should there be a minimum quota for sex? Take half a day leave, go home, surprise your wife and give her a good bonk. If your wife is working, fetch her from work one day, instead of going home or dinner, go to Hotel 81 and give her a good bonk. What the heck, do it in the car if you wish. If that is too difficult to arrange, when she is taking her shower tonight, sneak into the bathroom and give her a good bonk. Fuck her standing up from behind and watch yourself doing it in the bathroom mirror, I'm sure there is a mirror over the sink.

You don't even need to bang her for hours. Sometimes even a little quickie here and there can be fun. It doesn't matter if you go soft after 5 minutes without cumming. Just pull it out, give your wife a silly grin and say that Mr Willy is on strike or something stupid. That way you won't feel the pressure to perform. Ironically, once the pressure to perform is reduced, the ability to perform increases.

Like the Nike slogan, Just do it.

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

slider_72
Sorry, my house no vacuum cleaner leh. Like, really. No vacuum cleaner.

Hmmm.... that's tough. Tell me when is your birthday. I'll buy you a vacuum cleaner for your birthday present.

[SneakyBastard]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

Eh, serious?!? Ok, I try!!


AssLover
Great ideas you've got there! (All of which have been attempted except for the Vitamin B complex consumption.) Will give that one a shot.


SneakyBastard
See? If all men would be as honest & communicative as you are, life would be so much easier. (Same goes for the women who say "nothing's wrong" when OBVIOUSLY something is wrong.)
Though... WTF lah, I CAN COOK OK. !@%#%$@! And in Singapore, no one really runs a bath for their partners. How many of you have bathtubs at home??

Although honestly, I don't feel what you've described is what he's going through. You know it's not work is not something he is willingly burying himself in when you help him pick up his calls, and it's his boss asking for something to be done NOW.

I apologize for insinuating you can't cook. I shouldn't assume that just because I cook better than my wife, that it applies to everyone else...

I didn't mean LITERALLY run a bath for him. I realize most HDB flats don't even have enough space for a bath. My point was for you (or wives in general) to treat your man (or men) like kings, and make them want to want you.

I don't think anyone wants to willingly work like a slave. If you read my post carefully, I said he likely feels he has no choice but to do whatever he's asked just to please the boss. I hope he's adequately compensated.

I apologize in advance for saying so, but from reading your posts, I get the impression that you have been far more preoccupied with fulfilling your own needs, and have failed to fully appreciate his needs. While most men want sex, usually as much as possible, many also have other needs that need to be fulfilled first.

Is your husband a competitive person? Perhaps he's vying with someone else for a promotion? His need for recognition and advancement may outweigh his lust for sex. But I believe once he wins, his libido will naturally grow in proportion to his ego & confidence. However, until he wins whatever competition he's in, you, unfortunately, lose. And your daliances haven't helped his confidence either...

Conversely, if he's the meekly sort, then he's afraid of offending his boss & does his bidding to protect his rice-bowl. His confidence is already low. Your sexual aggressiveness & daliances haven't helped unleash the beast within. Beware, if he is this sort. You may end up like that woman in Pasir Ris who kept belittling her husband: stabbed 49 times. (was it 49? Anyone remember?)

My point, as in my original post, is that you need to make your man want to want you.

Making him feel like a king, for me, is the best way to do it. There's a reason why so many Singapore men get KC'd by PRC girls, or any other nationality than Singaporean, for that matter. Singapore women feel that they simply cannot bring themselves so low as to pleasure a man like a servant bordering on slave.

PRC girls can, and us SG guys find it such a welcome refreshing change. We love it! Often, many of us know we're being KC'd, & likely nothing good will come out of it, but we don't care! Cheat our money? Money can still earn it back. Cheat our feelings? It's probably happened before. We'll get over it. But never in our entire lives have we been treated this way, not even by our mothers! Just for that once-in-a-lifetime feeling of being pampered like a king, why the hell not?

Hope you understand the point I'm trying to make.

[jacky43]

Would liked to share some points, the more i chiong outside the more i feel my OC is lovely. The ladies outside may mean harm, not OC, take the case of Tan L Snake's wife, she will never harm him. Not in this life, unless OC has mental breakdown like that doc, crazy aunty who washes her door, 24hrs kind, now this is different.

I asked a lady friend who is not in speaking terms with hubby, i asked will she ever harm him cause, she told of hubby drinking, so far no harm done. Children all growth up. She replied, "Never think of stab him, kill him b4. Rather i let him kill me." Respect! And all OC u r wonderfully.

Guys, almost all will return home after pocket empty, broken hearts. I appreciate my yellow faced woman @home, she treats me well, hope brothers do the same.

[hardthrob81]

Originally Posted by jacky43

appreciate my yellow faced woman @home, she treats me well, hope brothers do the same.

wish i could up you for your post. i feel the same way. appreciate the one at home who always care for us no matter what. (of course provided they dun cheong other guy behind our back in the first place!)

unfortunately got many james bond out there so we must take care our OC more. what do i mean? refer to the following lines from casino royale.

James Bond: You're not my type...

Vesper Lynd: Smart?

Bond: Single...