Guys with Wife or Good GF still look for pros or flings. Why

[newbadass]

Originally Posted by cumranger69

kanina, i mentioned a few pages back that she sounded like a guniang from flowerpod liao..blah blah blah on and on....only a woman is capable of doing

Aiya you guys don't be so sour grapes la.
Bro leonard87 is a good man OK! He is a better man than all of us, that's why he can have such idealistic thinking!

His young age and his lack of chionging experience and his "flowerpod-ness" is only a coincidence la.... we should look at ourselves and try to improve, not try to condemn him!

[leonard87]

haha to those that think i am a gal,sorry but i am not...ya it does seems that i am talking on the femine side..but i do know no matter which side went astray makes the other hurt more than anything...if u love the woman in ur life then why go for another?if u go for another and yet u want to keep this current one..aren't you being selfish?there are other guys that can give them happiness more than you can.do you dare to tell it to your wife or gf that u go for other woman the plain truth?not only for me..there are still male and female friends i know won't betray their loved one no matter what is the reason..don't tell me you go for other women because your wife treat you badly or whatever things she does..isn't a reason for you to go for other women..if she done something you feels its not fair to you,you can always talk it out..or bring it to the marriage counsellor or even to close friends of both of you..

[colins]

Originally Posted by leonard87

haha to those that think i am a gal,sorry but i am not...ya it does seems that i am talking on the femine side..but i do know no matter which side went astray makes the other hurt more than anything...if u love the woman in ur life then why go for another?..

So have you spoken to your dad and your uncle? Pls...one more textbook answers and I'll go crazy. BTW I used to be married for like 7 years and during that time I have never even held another girl's hand. Now I am free to choose what I do and without commitment. I do feel bad if I have led a girl to bed if I dun like her and I do WL for like once or twice a year if her looks really match my idea of a goddess. I also believe that I will not bed any other girl if I remarry, just like my previous marriage.

But the problem is, again, the idea of absolute chastity. You got to understand that everybody have choices. There are people, even girls, who think that its ok for their guys to bonk around provided they support their own families responsibly. The worst of the lots are those who spend all the money outside, come home and beat wives beat children, borrow money for their womanising habits, etc.

If you watch 白蛇传, you'll understand why everybody hates 法海. Yes, all his monkhood teachings are correct, but its just not meant to be practised at such extreme levels. If you want people to listen to you, you've got to first understand that you need to know them.

Hope you know that I am not talking down at you. But seriously, you are repeating yourself over and over again until its kinda sick and tired.

[EtherC]

Lets stop talking to the sheep. We have better things to do.

Originally Posted by colins

So have you spoken to your dad and your uncle? Pls...one more textbook answers and I'll go crazy. BTW I used to be married for like 7 years and during that time I have never even held another girl's hand. Now I am free to choose what I do and without commitment. I do feel bad if I have led a girl to bed if I dun like her and I do WL for like once or twice a year if her looks really match my idea of a goddess. I also believe that I will not bed any other girl if I remarry, just like my previous marriage.

But the problem is, again, the idea of absolute chastity. You got to understand that everybody have choices. There are people, even girls, who think that its ok for their guys to bonk around provided they support their own families responsibly. The worst of the lots are those who spend all the money outside, come home and beat wives beat children, borrow money for their womanising habits, etc.

If you watch 白蛇传, you'll understand why everybody hates 法海. Yes, all his monkhood teachings are correct, but its just not meant to be practised at such extreme levels. If you want people to listen to you, you've got to first understand that you need to know them.

Hope you know that I am not talking down at you. But seriously, you are repeating yourself over and over again until its kinda sick and tired.

[colins]

I thought we're the sheep and he's the shepherd? haha...

[leonard87]

Originally Posted by colins

So have you spoken to your dad and your uncle? Pls...one more textbook answers and I'll go crazy. BTW I used to be married for like 7 years and during that time I have never even held another girl's hand. Now I am free to choose what I do and without commitment. I do feel bad if I have led a girl to bed if I dun like her and I do WL for like once or twice a year if her looks really match my idea of a goddess. I also believe that I will not bed any other girl if I remarry, just like my previous marriage.

But the problem is, again, the idea of absolute chastity. You got to understand that everybody have choices. There are people, even girls, who think that its ok for their guys to bonk around provided they support their own families responsibly. The worst of the lots are those who spend all the money outside, come home and beat wives beat children, borrow money for their womanising habits, etc.

If you watch 白蛇传, you'll understand why everybody hates 法海. Yes, all his monkhood teachings are correct, but its just not meant to be practised at such extreme levels. If you want people to listen to you, you've got to first understand that you need to know them.

Hope you know that I am not talking down at you. But seriously, you are repeating yourself over and over again until its kinda sick and tired.

its not an extreme way to put it..yes people have a choice..but then why choose to betray the one u love?if ur single that's fine..but why do it when ur attached or married?you can say its a choice but its just excues for your doings outside that hurt the one who love you and the thing u quote with 法海. is that human and demon cant fall in love..but thats not what i am saying ..at least both of them being together never hurt anyone

[old_yet_horny]

Originally Posted by leonard87

its not an extreme way to put it..yes people have a choice..but then why choose to betray the one u love?if ur single that's fine..but why do it when ur attached or married?you can say its a choice but its just excues for your doings outside that hurt the one who love you and the thing u quote with 法海. is that human and demon cant fall in love..but thats not what i am saying ..at least both of them being together never hurt anyone

Leonard,

Just a question...

What did your GF did to prove her love is so great to you...?

Maybe I can tell my OC that I have a friend like you and your GF did so many things to you made you so "devoted"...

I think I can alot of money if she can change herself treat me like how your GF treat you.

[Akina]

Haha can provide a course for that ....

[leonard87]

thee fact is she didn't do anything that is so much..its what i see from other people families,my own family and how my gf love me..no matter how the way we are arguing and to me..is that u dun only say i love u to ur wife when she's young and beautiful but when she's old you should also love her..not only provide for family..but also keep ur heart,body and soul to her only

[old_yet_horny]

Originally Posted by leonard87

thee fact is she didn't do anything that is so much..its what i see from other people families,my own family and how my gf love me..no matter how the way we are arguing and to me..is that u dun only say i love u to ur wife when she's young and beautiful but when she's old you should also love her..not only provide for family..but also keep ur heart,body and soul to her only

Agree agree but only if it was like donkeys year back that I have had adopted the same mentailty as you.

Would you tell me what you will feel if one day you found out that your GF betrayed you and all the while she bonking other guys behind your back while you remained so "TRUE and DEVOTED" to her and not to mention all those time, effort and $$ you invested in this relationship ?

Will you be able to handle the next relationship as "PERFECTLY" as what you did like in the case of your EX??

I don't mean anything nasty but I would like to know if under such circumstances, will you still have such strong faith in future relationship/ marriage?

There's loads of different character in a human.. For example...Some who bang right into the wall and keep banging thnking that his skull is harder than concrete.. Some knows that there's a wall infront and will avoid banging into it by all means.. Some will try but failed to bang through the wall but after learning the lesson, they will negiotiate arround the wall in their next attempt... Which are you??

[leonard87]

Originally Posted by old_yet_horny

Agree agree but only if it was like donkeys year back that I have had adopted the same mentailty as you.

Would you tell me what you will feel if one day you found out that your GF betrayed you and all the while she bonking other guys behind your back while you remained so "TRUE and DEVOTED" to her and not to mention all those time, effort and $$ you invested in this relationship ?

Will you be able to handle the next relationship as "PERFECTLY" as what you did like in the case of your EX??

I don't mean anything nasty but I would like to know if under such circumstances, will you still have such strong faith in future relationship/ marriage?

There's loads of different character in a human.. For example...Some who bang right into the wall and keep banging thnking that his skull is harder than concrete.. Some knows that there's a wall infront and will avoid banging into it by all means.. Some will try but failed to bang through the wall but after learning the lesson, they will negiotiate arround the wall in their next attempt... Which are you??

i been betrayed before by my ex that she had sex with another guy who is her ex bf while we were together..at first it was totally difficult to handle..but i prayed to god asking him to give me strength..and i know there's someone for me out there...just the time haven come and i am not prepared..so for your answers i will still have strong faith in relationships and marriage..because for me i am resisting temptations too...for me i rather other people let me down then i let people down..and i will avoid banging it..for if the wall is somthing that is wrong..and you know it..you wont do it..so that you wont hurt others or yourself

[old_yet_horny]

Originally Posted by leonard87

i been betrayed before by my ex that she had sex with another guy who is her ex bf while we were together..at first it was totally difficult to handle..but i prayed to god asking him to give me strength..and i know there's someone for me out there...just the time haven come and i am not prepared..so for your answers i will still have strong faith in relationships and marriage..because for me i am resisting temptations too...for me i rather other people let me down then i let people down..and i will avoid banging it..for if the wall is somthing that is wrong..and you know it..you wont do it..so that you wont hurt others or yourself

Leonard...

May I ask.. Did you confront her why she did this kind of things behind your back??

Any particular rason for being so??

Just curious..

[leonard87]

nope i din..part of the reasons i know that she's very open and well she's with me because of looks..well at that time i was still quite conservative..she wanted to have sex but i din want to..but when we broke up i told her to be happy..and dont betray this guy again

[old_yet_horny]

Originally Posted by leonard87

nope i din..part of the reasons i know that she's very open and well she's with me because of looks..well at that time i was still quite conservative..she wanted to have sex but i din want to..but when we broke up i told her to be happy..and dont betray this guy again

I know why she left you... Seriously...

Cos you did not bed her.

So did you bed your current GF??

[easybaby]

What about guys with wives or good gf that are seriously good in bed? I know of some people who're still looking for FLs even so. I was thinking while poor sex life is part of the reason, it may not be the main reason. Perhaps it has got to do with the thrill of risk-taking?


Dear Leonard87,

I admire your thinking, I understand that you will try not put yourself into a situation where temptation is irresistible. Hold on strongly to your faith and you will eventually meet your fine lady.

Till then, perhaps this forum is not the best place for you to be at. I'm not stopping you from coming back, but if you're trying to change the thinking of samsters here, I would suggest that you don't waste your time, or not, you have to be more convincing.