Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Nowadays, when the VB comes to Singapore to work in the vice trade, the first thing on their mind is to hook a Singapore man. Give free fucks, act demure, tell sad story, don't get money. Which Singapore guy can say NO to free fucks? After free fucks, suggest marriage, then can get to stay.

After that start digging gold. Give birth to children got BABY BONUS to take, so good government..... some even say until Singapore cannot do without them giving birth as `Singapore needs children'.

they dig hole, most Singapore man jump. So more and more marrying them lor.

U always like to appear and tell bro here about things that VB don't want u to say,u are a curse to them.u can save a few bro here but u cannot save those that are currently floating outside.

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by Golden question

I agreed with u,good viet vb is seriously minority compared to bad one.Dont blame the bad one cos they did not threaten sg man with a knife to marry us.
We jump into it so nothing wrong with Vietnamese.There is still good one.You are here to advise bro here,those disagreed with u is either they have a good viet wife now or still in a honeymoon stage with their vb.

Your bad vb means what? Those always ask for money is called bad, is it?
And good ones are those don't ask money ?
Last week my bx's elder sister called to say her parent's house very old need to repair, she said I know about it and I told her I just bought a house for your sis and now I don't have money. She said never mind, slowly repair. I no answer her. There is no ending.. they thought foreigners are rich, I explained to my bx I am just working for people, not a boss, I can support her but not her whole family,she understands me but her family members don't understand. I don't know what to say.

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by Seletar

her parent's house very old need to repair, she said I know about it and I told her I just bought a house for your sis and now I don't have money.

Ask them to stay with your bx can?

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Ask them to stay with your bx can?

You so late no sleep ? Your turn not yet come, come liao then you know.

You have to settle down la, like this chiong no fun leh.

Talk is easy, everything is money.. you want rhyme I give you rhyme.

[volcano]

Originally Posted by Seletar

she understands me but her family members don't understand. I don't know what to say.

not they dont understand u,but they want to understand your money more...

if ur in-laws have the mind set of waiting to be feed by u then best is not to give any..not even small amount..once u give then definitely there will be 2nd and 3rd time...follow by endless time.

but u might face pressure from ur BX bcos her family members might say some very bad and sarcastic words to her...

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by Beachsea

I think this is bloody common. Alot of my friends' VBs that they upped are married either in viet or to our silly-pore guys. Anyway even if you provide them, they will still find it not enough , will still go out earn one or they seems to have bloody high tendency to have affair outside? i realised that too...thats their trend? hahahaha

Go out earn the girl must have some asset other wise no body want.

[milfmilf]

Opps wrong qn ....

[milfmilf]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

their definition of husband/wife love is totally different!
or may be only apply to foreign husband or worst, sinkie husband

Appreciate the points given to me by the Bro out there...
thanks!

[Beachsea]

Originally Posted by volcano

not they dont understand u,but they want to understand your money more...

if ur in-laws have the mind set of waiting to be feed by u then best is not to give any..not even small amount..once u give then definitely there will be 2nd and 3rd time...follow by endless time.

but u might face pressure from ur BX bcos her family members might say some very bad and sarcastic words to her...

Dude here is right... they will keep asking.
Later parents repair house , later need dig drainage, later younger sis need go school, later uncle need do business.. then more power...maybe you can give them money to invest small business so they will not ask money from you? and many more to come...if you no give....

'' why other sinkie son-in-law give so much money you never give? see they bought land, house, bikes, shop, etc...you never......'' and all rubbish will come.....

[FireShark]

Originally Posted by Beachsea

Yea dude, i think is common. By the way, the examples i said are not hearsay, it happens to my direct close friends. Like you said, one of my friend one was initially not that much,
-$3k for wedding
-$2k to lend family (indirect)
-Then ask $5k say want to give parents after less than 2 months.
- Lastly the girl say, if never give money, then its ok, she will go find someone else richer !!!!!!! although she still 'love' him....

i nearly fainted when those above was been poured out to me........

I had one good example too. My friend which is old now 50 married a young VB which is 26 now.
-5K Wedding
-1k Photos in VN
-2K as a gift for her family

After that my friend only gave her $500 each month only cos my friend don't earn much. His BX work as a Beer lady but manage to save and built a house for her family after 3 years. I ask my friend did he pay anything he say no, only $500 each month.

I had 1 friend, Malaysian, got a VB pregnant and marry in VN. Total Expenditure for wedding is 5K only. Now monthly, he just send $400 to his bx only $400. The kids is abt 1 year old now. The bx didn't ask much fm my friend too. Just enough for her and their kids

I had another friend, in the midst of divorce, got 1 vb pregnant. No wedding No photo taking, the vb willing to take care of the Kid. My friend wanted to divorce immediately but due to the regulation, the case was dragged and waited for a while. The VB waited until delivery of their children, then my friend managed to get divorce and now I find them live happily.

All my 3 friends earn not more than $3.5 K a month.

There are always good and bad VB but for VB I find them have more empathy (if you explain to them) than some other foreign wives.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by FireShark

All my 3 friends earn not more than $3.5 K a month.

There are always good and bad VB but for VB I find them have more empathy (if you explain to them) than some other foreign wives.

for any marriage to be happily ever after...pls comment after 2 years...then we shall see if lasts 5 yrs...then 10 yrs...

if not better dun say too early la...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Beachsea

Dude here is right... they will keep asking.
Later parents repair house , later need dig drainage, later younger sis need go school, later uncle need do business.. then more power...maybe you can give them money to invest small business so they will not ask money from you? and many more to come...if you no give....

'' why other sinkie son-in-law give so much money you never give? see they bought land, house, bikes, shop, etc...you never......'' and all rubbish will come.....

haha...not sure for anyone...for me I run so far and will ignore this gal...

in Vietnam not worried no wife...haha...plenty and spoilt for choice...we can even have 1 wife and 5 FBs all at the same time...

[volcano]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

for any marriage to be happily ever after...pls comment after 2 years...then we shall see if lasts 5 yrs...then 10 yrs...

if not better dun say too early la...

oh yeah...i had passed the 5 years bench mark...now striving towards the 10 years mark...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by volcano

oh yeah...i had passed the 5 years bench mark...now striving towards the 10 years mark...

I have passed the 10 years mark . working towards the 15 years mark . Congrats . more good years for you .

[stillgottheblue]

Originally Posted by FireShark

I had one good example too. My friend which is old now 50 married a young VB which is 26 now.
-5K Wedding
-1k Photos in VN
-2K as a gift for her family

After that my friend only gave her $500 each month only cos my friend don't earn much. His BX work as a Beer lady but manage to save and built a house for her family after 3 years. I ask my friend did he pay anything he say no, only $500 each month.

I had 1 friend, Malaysian, got a VB pregnant and marry in VN. Total Expenditure for wedding is 5K only. Now monthly, he just send $400 to his bx only $400. The kids is abt 1 year old now. The bx didn't ask much fm my friend too. Just enough for her and their kids

I had another friend, in the midst of divorce, got 1 vb pregnant. No wedding No photo taking, the vb willing to take care of the Kid. My friend wanted to divorce immediately but due to the regulation, the case was dragged and waited for a while. The VB waited until delivery of their children, then my friend managed to get divorce and now I find them live happily.

All my 3 friends earn not more than $3.5 K a month.

There are always good and bad VB but for VB I find them have more empathy (if you explain to them) than some other foreign wives.

Don't ask for money means VB is good? Your friend allowance seems a bit too little. VB very poor thing in these 3 cases but your friend don't know what they'll do when they're in Vietnam.