Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[asdfghjkl]

wow.. back again.. nice to read all bros happening.. keep them coming!

[jinrenhe]

Since we are at this topic, there’s an issue which I would sincerely seek the advices/comments from bros here. Don’t wish to start another thread on this issue as this is afterall not a aunt agony forum.
But I would like as many advices/comments cos this problem is like something holding me back for a long time.

These 4 years it seems no matter how hard I try, I can’t shake off this strange phenomenon of “no one ever contacting me”. When we meet in school, we could talk & joke as normal. If I asked her out, she may occasionally agree depending if she’s free. But one thing--- she would NEVER ever call or sms me
I mean, even as normal friends, it isn’t too much to just drop a sms once in awhile. It’s as though I never register in her mind when I’m not physically there talking to her. She always friendly towards me, but also in a way largely indifferent/nonchalant towards me. It’s difficult to explain, but u jus know it when u feel u don’t mean much to the other person.
I can accept it if it only occurs for a particular gal, but it seems this happen to every single gal whom I’ve liked or tried to date over this 4 years.

Each time I see a gal I liked, I would tell myself to give it one last shot… I do not want to end up my life in such loneliness. But failure after failure, I cannot help but start to feel like its destiny or somethk. After this most recent screw-up, I jus feel like giving it all up & lead a secluded existence.

sorry for wasting the bandwidth of this thread for my personnal problem

[freedom]

i have a most or less same feel of what you been going through which lasted me for 2 yrs but it is a different case from you.
hiaz
life is just unfair

[shitty_shit1982]

I seldom post in threads but this thread has certainly caught my attention. I feeling the same...Bros, it's very important to widen your social cycle. And when your social cycle widens, it becomes much easier to find potential gfs or wives.

For me, I'm still trying hard to make more friends. Nevertheless, hope it will be easy for you.

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

These 4 years it seems no matter how hard I try, I can’t shake off this strange phenomenon of “no one ever contacting me”. I mean, even as normal friends, it isn’t too much to just drop a sms once in awhile. It’s as though I never register in her mind when I’m not physically there talking to her. She always friendly towards me, but also in a way largely indifferent/nonchalant towards me.

bro, i think its nt strange lar, maybe its also wat i'm experiencing. the gals that i like are also like tat. they r nvr the one to call/sms me. maybe they feel that i liked them, so i wld definitely take the initiative. nt all the gals are so daring or "open minded" no matter hw u call it. Some gals are still those shy type where they will nt take the initiative to look for u. Even my current gf is that type of gal. During the whole process i was always the one asking the dates. so no worries lar bro jinrenhe, i think its nt much of a problem. Jus dun be too minded by it and everything will come smoothly.
Jus my cents wrth, hope it helps.

Cheers.

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

These 4 years it seems no matter how hard I try, I can’t shake off this strange phenomenon of “no one ever contacting me”. When we meet in school, we could talk & joke as normal. If I asked her out, she may occasionally agree depending if she’s free. But one thing--- she would NEVER ever call or sms me

bro, "in school" means you are still very young and studying? no big deal, you still have a whole life of relationships to go through in future. there are some guys who are lucky to have girlfriends to study and have sex with but it comes with the territory (girl problems).

[Know_yr_role]

Well to me i believe tat, everyone is pair with someone in this world...its really up to each pair to make things work or not, the actions they take, decisions they make to make a r/s workable.."true love" or not its really up to you to think it tat way.....by now some people reading will be thinking wat a load of crap...well its up to individual to believe and i am one who thinks it does....

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

Each time I see a gal I liked, I would tell myself to give it one last shot… I do not want to end up my life in such loneliness. But failure after failure, I cannot help but start to feel like its destiny or somethk. After this most recent screw-up, I jus feel like giving it all up & lead a secluded existence.

sorry for wasting the bandwidth of this thread for my personnal problem

juz wanna say tat u not wasting the bandwidth (at least i think so lar)...after all..if u cant even seek comfort in the anonomyity of the net..where else can you?

I, too, am jaded in love..tho mayb not as bad as you are..mayb its not the best advice coming from a person like me..there is this jap sayin i wan to share with pple here.."Fall down 7 times, get up 8 times"..when we fall..we can choose to remain fallen or we can choose to get up again..i might not be the best, the richest, the smartest ard..but at least i choose to seek 1 more time..mayb i will get hurt..mayb i will succeed tis time round..i may neva eva find true love again..there is nothin i can do abt tis..its fate after all..but if i choose to let myself down again n remain hidden in my shell forever..not only i am doin myself a disfavour here..i m hurtin the ger out there who might be really the one for me..

hurting myself? i guess i can live with it..hurting The One? I dunno whether i can live with it anot

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

Each time I see a gal I liked, I would tell myself to give it one last shot… I do not want to end up my life in such loneliness. But failure after failure, I cannot help but start to feel like its destiny or somethk. After this most recent screw-up, I jus feel like giving it all up & lead a secluded existence.

sorry for wasting the bandwidth of this thread for my personnal problem

juz wanna say tat u not wasting the bandwidth (at least i think so lar)...after all..if u cant even seek comfort in the anonomyity of the net..where else can you?

I, too, am jaded in love..tho mayb not as bad as you are..mayb its not the best advice coming from a person like me..there is this jap sayin i wan to share with pple here.."Fall down 7 times, get up 8 times"..when we fall..we can choose to remain fallen or we can choose to get up again..i might not be the best, the richest, the smartest ard..but at least i choose to seek 1 more time..mayb i will get hurt..mayb i will succeed tis time round..i may neva eva find true love again..there is nothin i can do abt tis..its fate after all..but if i choose to let myself down again n remain hidden in my shell forever..not only i am doin myself a disfavour here..i m hurtin the ger out there who might be really the one for me..

hurting myself? i guess i can live with it..hurting The One? I dunno whether i can live with it anot

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

Well to me i believe tat, everyone is pair with someone in this world...its really up to each pair to make things work or not, the actions they take, decisions they make to make a r/s workable.."true love" or not its really up to you to think it tat way.....by now some people reading will be thinking wat a load of crap...well its up to individual to believe and i am one who thinks it does....

i for one think the same as you also..i guess there is only 2 choice..either u feel tat there is really The One for you or you think there is not..

If I think tat there is..at least I have hopes, I noe tat with hopes comes disappointment..but at tis pt of my life..hope might be the only thing i hv now..if i dun even hv hope now..i am juz a nothing..a little dot in the sea of pple

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

I'm not a poor beggar or criminal but yet feel so pathetic over an apparent trival aspect of my life--- being unable to find the love i want

somehow when i read thru ur post..i hv these tots..if its so easy to find the love we wan..wld we hv treasure it when we hv it? sometimes we need to meet some wrong pple so tat we will treasure the rite one when she comes along our life

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

somehow when i read thru ur post..i hv these tots..if its so easy to find the love we wan..wld we hv treasure it when we hv it? sometimes we need to meet some wrong pple so tat we will treasure the rite one when she comes along our life

To complicate things even more. Even when you find the one you truly love, she may not be the best person for you.

Its been discussed on another thread about not marrying the one you truly love.

[playboy82]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

Since we are at this topic, there’s an issue which I would sincerely seek the advices/comments from bros here. Don’t wish to start another thread on this issue as this is afterall not a aunt agony forum.
But I would like as many advices/comments cos this problem is like something holding me back for a long time.

These 4 years it seems no matter how hard I try, I can’t shake off this strange phenomenon of “no one ever contacting me”. When we meet in school, we could talk & joke as normal. If I asked her out, she may occasionally agree depending if she’s free. But one thing--- she would NEVER ever call or sms me
I mean, even as normal friends, it isn’t too much to just drop a sms once in awhile. It’s as though I never register in her mind when I’m not physically there talking to her. She always friendly towards me, but also in a way largely indifferent/nonchalant towards me. It’s difficult to explain, but u jus know it when u feel u don’t mean much to the other person.
I can accept it if it only occurs for a particular gal, but it seems this happen to every single gal whom I’ve liked or tried to date over this 4 years.

Each time I see a gal I liked, I would tell myself to give it one last shot… I do not want to end up my life in such loneliness. But failure after failure, I cannot help but start to feel like its destiny or somethk. After this most recent screw-up, I jus feel like giving it all up & lead a secluded existence.

sorry for wasting the bandwidth of this thread for my personnal problem

Same case, same tots, same feeling, these yrs, i am so alone, especially during weekends, where all my friends would go pak +++ wif their beloved gf while i, will be all alone at home, no where to go, and i have been drinking a lot at home these day, actually i drink becos i dunno wat else to do other than to drink and surf sammyboy, FYI i dun smoke, haha.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by surfer888

On top of it, she's from Japan
The one thing I miss about her now are her yelps of "Kimocheeeee!"

Japunese!!!!wah piang..so envious!!!!

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by playboy82

Same case, same tots, same feeling, these yrs, i am so alone, especially during weekends, where all my friends would go pak +++ wif their beloved gf while i, will be all alone at home, no where to go, and i have been drinking a lot at home these day, actually i drink becos i dunno wat else to do other than to drink and surf sammyboy, FYI i dun smoke, haha.

Same thing here. Year after year, month after month, week after week, day after day. Finally, meet a girl I like. Then, she so busy with work. Ask her out, she busy. Anytime, she is only busy/ sleeping/ family gathering. Like that, also don't what chance I got. Close buddy told me to be patient. I see the situation like that, what patience.... patience will only lead me to nowhere. Everytime busy with something. I make way by adjusting my OT, but still like that.

Initially, can talk for hours. Now, not even 1/2 hour, she got to go liao. Soon, I will end up drinking like you. I don't smoke too. I might end up dying young before I hit 50, after kena this kind of "so close yet so far" BS. If I see the man up there soon, I will tell him about the rest of the heart broken guys here, esp how F up relationship on earth is.