Do you still wanna bonk your wife?

[Yellowbird]

Hi Bros,

I am in the same boat too. I can use my finger to count the number of times I make love to my wife in one year.

She is not interested at all, no matter how what I did. Before our first baby, we made love for 3-4 times per week and everytime I alway made sure she cum first by giving oral sex for her, she enjoyed it very much. But now, she don't even want me to do that, touch also cannot.

Sometimes I think that I am just 30 somethings years old, do I want to continue without sex for the rest of my life? So what I did now is, once in a while, I go makan outside. There were a few times I almost go into relationship with another decent girl but luckily in the end I back off, because of my two children...sigh...what a life man.

[SneakyBastard]

And when us guys finally cannot stand it anymore and start to eat out, or leave the wife for other women, they wail bitterly, complain of betrayal, and wonder what they did to deserve this......

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by SneakyBastard

And when us guys finally cannot stand it anymore and start to eat out, or leave the wife for other women, they wail bitterly, complain of betrayal, and wonder what they did to deserve this......

well human nature, the finger always points out and they have thousand and one reasons

[samyboys]

frankly speaking, despite what we guys can do to create the mood for love, woman some times over sensitive and feel we do it for a motive, and cut us off.

put it bluntly, if we cannot find what we need at home, we seek elsewhere, simple as that. and best is not to get caught in between as the woman charter is biased against men

its also a way to relieve them of the 'chores' they do not like to do and escaping from it

[ch18]

Originally Posted by JusWannaCum

Yes I do.

- she's still cute and attractive
- I still love her
- the closeness after a bonk with your loved one will never really be the same as a FL
- its disease free
- there's no stress of getting caught
- there's no guilty feelings
- eh, its free

But, NO, she doesn't want to Bonk. Rejecting my initiations and request most of the time. So how?

Thinking of some formula to give wifey 1st preference for bonk, if not
- after 1 week of no bonk
- after 3 rejections for bonkthen shall eat out

Familiar formula.......

[snuggles]

I am not alone!!!!!

[Dhornyboy]

i would prefer to talk to my wife if she rejects to be fucked.. seriously.. i mean it is important to communicate.. as soon as a problem surface.. if u tahan... then more problems arise.. and continue to tahan... until one day... even thrashing out also cannot solve le.. then jia lat... (my colleague kena like that)

i dont know about how others think la.. but when i finally pen the Certificate of Marriage... i decided not to cheat on my wife le.. and suprisely ... i didnt even during when she was harbouring my boy inside her stomach for 5 months.. and eventually endured... all the way... haha.. after many years.. i return to PCC business...

sincerely hope all brothers with wivies/partners stay loving 4ever man!

[SinDellman]

Originally Posted by Dhornyboy

i would prefer to talk to my wife if she rejects to be fucked.. seriously.. i mean it is important to communicate.. as soon as a problem surface.. if u tahan... then more problems arise.. .....

i dont know about how others think la.. but when i finally pen the Certificate of Marriage... i decided not to cheat on my wife le..

From my observation, most people who are NOT in this situation will always advice you to communicate. It's easily said than done. I think people who are in the same boat will have the same experiences.

Initially, after marriage, love was in the air. Bonking was so good that we believe so strongly in marriage, life was so meaningful, we work hard so that we can bring happiness to our family, and we look forward to the weekend when we will just bonk, sleep, eat, bonk, etc......

Then the children came, education, housing, loans, etc.... We are under lots of pressure to bring in good income for family and love to wifey. Wifey take good care of family, children, etc.... As long as we have good bonking session, once-in-a-while, we are ok. We dont believe in cheating wifey, and in certain times, if we didnt have enough, we will just pcc.

Suddenly, one fine night, we kanna rejected. We lost face, but in the end, wifey give way to our bonk on that night. We felt lost, and was rather surprised but we thought it was a one off thingy. Then another night, another rejection, and another, and it became like you are always begging to get that bonk. Bonking became less and less frequent, you get confused, you lost interest in work, life, etc.... Every night you came back, you can feel that she is rejecting you when both are in bed. It became so meaningless to even wanting to give a hint to wifey. So you started staying late at the computer, or watching late TV, MSN, chatroom, looking for some kind female souls to tc. Your mood is at the moody stage, friends and everyone tell you so when you are in the office.

However, your wifey behave differently. During daytime and when you are with her in other company, family, relatives, she can behave like nothing is wrong, and she even can be rather physical close in front of everyone. But everything change when both are in bed!

As for me, I struggle for at least 3 or 4 years, thinking of how to bridge our love again, because I was losing interest in her, and physically having no interest to be near her. However, was not in the game to cheat her either, no FL, no girlfriend, etc.... just pcc everytime when i feel the need. My mind was going crazy, especially finding life becoming totally meaningless, having to work hard for $$ for family and having a no sex lifestyle. Divorce or having a fb was never the answer.

Then one day came into this forum, and had my first taste of a Chinese FL....
it changed my life. We are getting old, so we dont really need a bonking job so often. 3 or 4 times a month, most uncles should be satisfied.

I am now very happy with my work, friends, hobbies, family .... when the needs come, i dont have to feel frustrated anymore. I am now ok with wifey (thou not physically, and of course, i dont think of her anymore, like in the past). You can say I dont love her anymore, but we still live happily together with the children.

What other better solutions can one offer to people like us?

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know.

[PepperO]

Bro SinDellman,

My heart goes all out to you. I think many women in our Asian society are still rather conservative and too self-sacrificing - it's always kids first, work first, household chores first...then finally comes the husband (if there is any energy left by then).

I think you're managing it well in your own way...it may not be 'right' in many people's eyes, but I can appreciate the underlying good intentions.

Sorry, I cannot offer any sound advice here, but just want to let you know that some of us (women) do understand. Take care, ya.

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by SinDellman

From my observation, most people who are NOT in this situation will always advice you to communicate. It's easily said than done. I think people who are in the same boat will have the same experiences.

Initially, after marriage, love was in the air. Bonking was so good that we believe so strongly in marriage, life was so meaningful, we work hard so that we can bring happiness to our family, and we look forward to the weekend when we will just bonk, sleep, eat, bonk, etc......

Then the children came, education, housing, loans, etc.... We are under lots of pressure to bring in good income for family and love to wifey. Wifey take good care of family, children, etc.... As long as we have good bonking session, once-in-a-while, we are ok. We dont believe in cheating wifey, and in certain times, if we didnt have enough, we will just pcc.

Suddenly, one fine night, we kanna rejected. We lost face, but in the end, wifey give way to our bonk on that night. We felt lost, and was rather surprised but we thought it was a one off thingy. Then another night, another rejection, and another, and it became like you are always begging to get that bonk. Bonking became less and less frequent, you get confused, you lost interest in work, life, etc.... Every night you came back, you can feel that she is rejecting you when both are in bed. It became so meaningless to even wanting to give a hint to wifey. So you started staying late at the computer, or watching late TV, MSN, chatroom, looking for some kind female souls to tc. Your mood is at the moody stage, friends and everyone tell you so when you are in the office.

However, your wifey behave differently. During daytime and when you are with her in other company, family, relatives, she can behave like nothing is wrong, and she even can be rather physical close in front of everyone. But everything change when both are in bed!

As for me, I struggle for at least 3 or 4 years, thinking of how to bridge our love again, because I was losing interest in her, and physically having no interest to be near her. However, was not in the game to cheat her either, no FL, no girlfriend, etc.... just pcc everytime when i feel the need. My mind was going crazy, especially finding life becoming totally meaningless, having to work hard for $$ for family and having a no sex lifestyle. Divorce or having a fb was never the answer.

Then one day came into this forum, and had my first taste of a Chinese FL....
it changed my life. We are getting old, so we dont really need a bonking job so often. 3 or 4 times a month, most uncles should be satisfied.

I am now very happy with my work, friends, hobbies, family .... when the needs come, i dont have to feel frustrated anymore. I am now ok with wifey (thou not physically, and of course, i dont think of her anymore, like in the past). You can say I dont love her anymore, but we still live happily together with the children.

What other better solutions can one offer to people like us?

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know.

bru SinDellman, u had a long breakdown.

how to communicate when the other party seldom want to talk or fast to 'put u down'? easier said then done.

u started it nicely, but when lust died out, guess you still had to seek what u lost at home, outside.

i am just like what u described in BOLD, rather go to the room to sleep when she's already in dream land because u have no expectations from her but just to sleep.

pcc is a solo personal thing. intercourse is the complete act. so its never as fulfilling as the real thing.

going FL can be addictive and costly if it is a weekly thing.
i think guys would love quality sex than quantity, but when its like once every 10days or more or even longer, we need to solve our own problem

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by PepperO

Bro SinDellman,

My heart goes all out to you. I think many women in our Asian society are still rather conservative and too self-sacrificing - it's always kids first, work first, household chores first...then finally comes the husband (if there is any energy left by then).

I think you're managing it well in your own way...it may not be 'right' in many people's eyes, but I can appreciate the underlying good intentions.

Sorry, I cannot offer any sound advice here, but just want to let you know that some of us (women) do understand. Take care, ya.

just checking with you PepperO,

how would u feel when your man feels the same and start to look outside?

[PepperO]

Originally Posted by samyboys

just checking with you PepperO,

how would u feel when your man feels the same and start to look outside?

Hi Bro samyboys,

Well... to start with, I am not one who would refuse ML with my HB. In fact, I have to initiate it most of the time. So, it is highly unlikely that he would "feel the same" (as in, feel the same kind of frustration) and start looking outside.

In the event that he gets 'bored' anyway and does look outside, I hope he has the sense and courtesy to 'wipe his mouth' before coming home to me. What I don't know, won't hurt me.

In the worst case that he does get caught and I get to know, well, then... how do you think I should feel?

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by SinDellman

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know.

Bro u sums it up best cos what you have explained best explains what the monster is going thru...

[splicer]

still have to take care of her need else afterward "run the lion" - chao sia

[adrx]

Originally Posted by SinDellman

From my observation, most people who are NOT in this situation will always advice you to communicate. It's easily said than done. I think people who are in the same boat will have the same experiences.

Initially, after marriage, love was in the air. Bonking was so good that we believe so strongly in marriage, life was so meaningful, we work hard so that we can bring happiness to our family, and we look forward to the weekend when we will just bonk, sleep, eat, bonk, etc......

Then the children came, education, housing, loans, etc.... We are under lots of pressure to bring in good income for family and love to wifey. Wifey take good care of family, children, etc.... As long as we have good bonking session, once-in-a-while, we are ok. We dont believe in cheating wifey, and in certain times, if we didnt have enough, we will just pcc.

Suddenly, one fine night, we kanna rejected. We lost face, but in the end, wifey give way to our bonk on that night. We felt lost, and was rather surprised but we thought it was a one off thingy. Then another night, another rejection, and another, and it became like you are always begging to get that bonk. Bonking became less and less frequent, you get confused, you lost interest in work, life, etc.... Every night you came back, you can feel that she is rejecting you when both are in bed. It became so meaningless to even wanting to give a hint to wifey. So you started staying late at the computer, or watching late TV, MSN, chatroom, looking for some kind female souls to tc. Your mood is at the moody stage, friends and everyone tell you so when you are in the office.

However, your wifey behave differently. During daytime and when you are with her in other company, family, relatives, she can behave like nothing is wrong, and she even can be rather physical close in front of everyone. But everything change when both are in bed!

As for me, I struggle for at least 3 or 4 years, thinking of how to bridge our love again, because I was losing interest in her, and physically having no interest to be near her. However, was not in the game to cheat her either, no FL, no girlfriend, etc.... just pcc everytime when i feel the need. My mind was going crazy, especially finding life becoming totally meaningless, having to work hard for $$ for family and having a no sex lifestyle. Divorce or having a fb was never the answer.

Then one day came into this forum, and had my first taste of a Chinese FL....
it changed my life. We are getting old, so we dont really need a bonking job so often. 3 or 4 times a month, most uncles should be satisfied.

I am now very happy with my work, friends, hobbies, family .... when the needs come, i dont have to feel frustrated anymore. I am now ok with wifey (thou not physically, and of course, i dont think of her anymore, like in the past). You can say I dont love her anymore, but we still live happily together with the children.

What other better solutions can one offer to people like us?

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know.

i have similar issues with my wife... (dig my thread) end up i open up to her... now she asking for car bonks whenever possible...

women is STRANGE!!!

if u find it hard communicating with her... just ask her to read ur posts... hopefully it helps...