How long did you not have sex with your wife or gf?

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by jemz

i believe in this day and age, the complaints of being tired are really genuine. they havent tried working and coming back to do chores and look after the husband. i havent got to the stage yet of having kids but sometimes these 3 things will leave me dead by the end of the day. the last thing i sometimes want will be sex.

How very true. Unfortunately for me, I get back late after work, drive out to buy dinner, pick the kid up, do the laundry, iron my wife's clothes and mine, put the kid to bed, do the finances and then start my work again with other time zones. I normally sleep 4-6 hrs on weekdays... too tired for sex... FYI, I'm male and experiencing the same as you.

Careful about this situation... prolonging this has very ill effects. I no longer desire my wife.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Rainman

Wonder how many bro ever encounter or could imagine..... The husband goes to the toilet to PCC when there on the bed is your nice wife that refuses to have sex with you. Sigh.....

Can a normal man go to bed with a hard on???

I've reached the stage where I will PCC in my wife's presence. She just ignores me and vice versa.

And No, no normal man can go to bed with a hard-on IMHO.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

The sad truth is love has to be cultivated, it cannot be left alone to grow...and how you cultivate it, like so many gurus had said before, respect, communicate, sharing, etc etc and also sex...

Unfortunately, many people do not realize this fact till its too late. I keep telling my wife this... that love requires effort... not a fairy tale. But she does not agree... she has been brought up on Mills & Boon where love is forever, regardless.

There is only so much one person can do in a relationship. Relationships are about two people afterall.

[LeeKH]

Originally Posted by jemz

hi missy
maybe becuz im young so when i act cute sometimes he likes it alot. mwahahah... i dont want to think when im 35yrs old, i act cute, i think he will vomit.

Well, I'm not so sure that he will vomit. Sometimes, its nice to have a change of scenery. Generally why some guys would turn to other girls. I like it when my OC acts cute and jumps on to me when I come home. She is 35yrs old.

Originally Posted by mscucky

too many negative reports here on marriage...is there any good side on marriage? . it's very scary and i don't like this feelings....

Yes, there are many great marriages. But, I don't think you'd find many here to read about. After all, this thread is becoming more like a counselling thread. As for insight, you can see that what a guy wants most (or receives the least of) is a good fuck. Of course there are other aspects in a marriage like children, commitment, religion, money and in-laws. But it seems that most guys would prefer more sex. So, if you keep him happy in bed, then 20% of the marriage is in good shape.

klzombie:
I just remembered one thing I heard a long time ago and just heard it again. It is a baseline question:

"If you knew this situation would be as it is today, would you have gotten in to it in the first place? If the answer is 'no', then what are you going to do about it?"

I think it applies to everyday things like hiring a maid, relationships and jobs and businesses.

[BustLover]

Originally Posted by surfer888

How very true. Unfortunately for me, I get back late after work, drive out to buy dinner, pick the kid up, do the laundry, iron my wife's clothes and mine, put the kid to bed, do the finances and then start my work again with other time zones. I normally sleep 4-6 hrs on weekdays... too tired for sex... FYI, I'm male and experiencing the same as you.

Careful about this situation... prolonging this has very ill effects. I no longer desire my wife.

Oh my God, this is very familiar chore that I had gone through many years ago. Now, my situation has improved slightly. I have got a maid to handle the house chores and my children have grown up. But the sex part, can forget it.

Worst is, after some "tau-chia" outside which is high-risk, there is always this "something missing" feeling inside. Really suffering..Probably this is what we called, "Mid-life" crisis.

[jemz]

another guy same thing as me... pcc or diy in front of the partner also kena ignore. or else always i got to initiate. zzz... think liao also sian... i think nothing beats the trusty old vibe. does the job. and not cheating outside. best liao.

if my hubby likes me to jump on him when im old, and fat(i hope not), i think i'll be one happy lady.

i'm also afraid as i get older, my figure more n more out of shape.. den jialat..

the guys here, got get turned off by the wives imperfections not? especially after childbirth... the stretchmarks all come out.. you all got hiam your wife?

[poorman4sex]

Originally Posted by jemz

i'm also afraid as i get older, my figure more n more out of shape.. den jialat..

the guys here, got get turned off by the wives imperfections not? especially after childbirth... the stretchmarks all come out.. you all got hiam your wife?

for me i dun hiam my wife... she give birth to the fruits of our love.. how can hiam`~!!!
but not willing to make love is another story...~~

[seedofcucky]

Originally Posted by jemz

the guys here, got get turned off by the wives imperfections not? especially after childbirth... the stretchmarks all come out.. you all got hiam your wife?

stretchmarks is alright, no problems with that

but loose pussy i am not sure how. perhaps caesarian section instead of natural birth

[cheong_man]

I guess it is very pressurised to survive in Singapore hence most couple tends to focus for finding $$$ or working hard for the family. Inevitably the couple loving moments has been compromised and replaced with household chores...etc.

I must admit that I do have lesser and lesser moment with my wife, hence I am planning for a long waited honeymoon with my wife in the hope to spark up the relationship and possibly to discuss some timetable for the couple to be together regardless of workload etc.

[dalps]

like i feel from the beginning, if it seriously doesnt work out, den divorce lo but it'll be the last resort of coz.do not put off marriage because of the few comments here that you builds up your fear. it is a wonderful thing to come home and share your life with someone you love and look forward to after a shit day's work. and the plus that he will sayang you when u sulk.

maybe becuz im young so when i act cute sometimes he likes it alot. mwahahah... i dont want to think when im 35yrs old, i act cute, i think he will vomit.[/QUOTE]

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agreed with u....it is a wonderful thing to sare yr life with somebody. so missy shld not be put off by marriage if she is sure abt the guy she is gg to marry.

as for u....dun stop acting cute..even at 35yrs old or more....we guys like it once a while if our wife surprises us or act cute

[dalps]

Bro klzombie, been reading all yr earlier posts too and saw many have given their 10cents to 1million bucks advice. however seems like u still unsure??

so i feel i hv to add on my 5cents worth.....

since u r still not sure abt her, STOP now...DO NOT, DO NOT proceed on wif marriage....as many bros alrdy advised, if before marriage, already so many outstanding issues, can u imagine after marriage????? plus the consequences will be higher(financially, mentally, spiritually etc)

dont say u still love her n its difficult to let go...cos u hv to let go NOW n suffer abit or else later on suffer more. Time will heal this temporary pain but if u go on, it may leave a permanent SCAR!!!

It doesnt matter dat yr wedding is so near...as long as u hv a high degree of uncertainty, u hv to call it off. U lose some $$$$ now (deposit etc) and some face now better than later on lose yr sanity and yr "Status"!!!

[aric]

after i read all your posts, i'm kinda of scared to get married cos I'm leading a healthy sex life with my gf but i guess all that might change after child birth or even after marriage. SCARY!!

[dalps]

now to answer survey question:


married 3yrs wif 1kid.. frequency wif wife - ave once a wk altho if she is working den freq. drops to 1/2 a mth.

like many bros/sis hv pointed out, once got kids, womens' mind, attention and love will go the oth way and so interest and freq. of sex drops. Altho hv to say my drive much higher than hers and she also admits so....

so no choice on ocassions hv found myself into FB,ONS,HCs...but in the end i believe my heart n soul stil wif wife n family...its jus form of release!!! also hv to play it safe lor, (erase sms/recent calls fm HP, use condoms etc....)

[aces68]

thanks to all bros and sis advice..
bro rainman, tks for upping..will return favour when I recover

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by jemz

the guys here, got get turned off by the wives imperfections not? especially after childbirth... the stretchmarks all come out.. you all got hiam your wife?

woman trust me it goes beyond the shape and marks, it all boils down to the skill...