Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[covenn]

Originally Posted by playboy82

Same case, same tots, same feeling, these yrs, i am so alone, especially during weekends, where all my friends would go pak +++ wif their beloved gf while i, will be all alone at home, no where to go, and i have been drinking a lot at home these day, actually i drink becos i dunno wat else to do other than to drink and surf sammyboy, FYI i dun smoke, haha.

hey bros, y dun u guys meet up n hang out tgt. definitely better than individually feelin lonely rite. no gfs, can still have frens ma. best wishes to u guys

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Initially, can talk for hours. Now, not even 1/2 hour, she got to go liao. Soon, I will end up drinking like you. I don't smoke too. I might end up dying young before I hit 50, after kena this kind of "so close yet so far" BS. If I see the man up there soon, I will tell him about the rest of the heart broken guys here, esp how F up relationship on earth is.

there are always 2 sides to a coin.on Earth there are happy endings and also sob tradegies.We cant decide what we gonna have but we need to accept what's coming no matter what."She" will come someday,somewhere.

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Same thing here. Year after year, month after month, week after week, day after day. Finally, meet a girl I like. Then, she so busy with work. Ask her out, she busy. Anytime, she is only busy/ sleeping/ family gathering. Like that, also don't what chance I got. Close buddy told me to be patient. I see the situation like that, what patience.... patience will only lead me to nowhere.

I'm one of those losers who can't get a girl. I'm not sure how old you are now. But one thing for sure in my case is that time is not on my side. I'm reaching 30 soon. Most younger girls will go for younger guys, while ladies around my age are either someone's wife or someone's mum. I'm also starting to have that kind of 'uncle syndrome' (this is what some female colleagues commented). Like you, I'm running out of patience and choice. Or, in fact, no choice. What lies ahead of me is either to get a PRC or a Vietnamese wife. I'm not poking fun at myself. With my ordinary looks and unimpressive salary, I doubt local single girls will give me a chance.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

Japunese!!!!wah piang..so envious!!!!

You wouldn't be too envious if you have a Japanese stalker. Fatal attraction keeps playing in my mind.

[jinrenhe]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

this jap sayin i wan to share with pple here.."Fall down 7 times, get up 8 times"..when we fall..we can choose to remain fallen or we can choose to get up again..i might not be the best, the richest, the smartest ard..but at least i choose to seek 1 more time..mayb i will get hurt..mayb i will succeed tis time round..i may neva eva find true love again..there is nothin i can do abt tis..its fate after all..but if i choose to let myself down again n remain hidden in my shell forever..not only i am doin myself a disfavour here..i m hurtin the ger out there who might be really the one for me..

thanx for the encouraging words bro... rely appreciate it

can understand where u're coming from cos i too have this "underdog sentiments" at times. Whether it's study or personnal life, i always seem to be one step behind others... always have to put in more effort than others to achieve the same results.
But still i believe as long i dun give up, slowly step by step i can reach my destination.

However relationship & that subtle sense of loneliness is one area of my life which i can't seem to improve, no matter what i do.

Originally Posted by vesfreq

I don't smoke too. I might end up dying young before I hit 50, after kena this kind of "so close yet so far" BS. If I see the man up there soon, I will tell him about the rest of the heart broken guys here, esp how F up relationship on earth is.

Bro playboy & Vesfreq, i dun smoke too! My only indulgence is perhaps getting addicted to sammyboy & a period where i drink to forget my unhappiness.

[jinrenhe]

Originally Posted by playboy82

Same case, same tots, same feeling, these yrs, i am so alone, especially during weekends, where all my friends would go pak +++ wif their beloved gf while i, will be all alone at home, no where to go, and i have been drinking a lot at home these day, actually i drink becos i dunno wat else to do other than to drink and surf sammyboy, FYI i dun smoke, haha.

I know how it feels. I've been stuck in this state for nearly 4 years plus, which is beginning to feel like an eternity..
Every weekend and special occasions (e.g. xmas, eve of public hols), all my peers would naturally have that someone to spend with, where they make plans for movie, dinner, some spend a short holiday oversea etc
And i'll have "no choice" and routinely be alone at home... it's not as thou i have no money or am physically handicapped, but i'll be strangely excluded from the mainstream crowd simply cos i'm alone.

[rodeo77]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

And i'll have "no choice" and routinely be alone at home... it's not as thou i have no money or am physically handicapped, but i'll be strangely excluded from the mainstream crowd simply cos i'm alone.

Cheer up, bro! Christmas is just around the corner Maybe you will meet someone special during this festive season

Good luck ya !

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

I know how it feels. I've been stuck in this state for nearly 4 years plus, which is beginning to feel like an eternity..
Every weekend and special occasions (e.g. xmas, eve of public hols), all my peers would naturally have that someone to spend with, where they make plans for movie, dinner, some spend a short holiday oversea etc
And i'll have "no choice" and routinely be alone at home... it's not as thou i have no money or am physically handicapped, but i'll be strangely excluded from the mainstream crowd simply cos i'm alone.

One suggestion. Playstation and Xbox. It always keeps me going when I'm alone. There are times when I prefer them to sex.

[hoosdathu]

it's ok pal, cheong n have fun while u can. don't worry, married family life will come along then that time u can't do what u can do now anymore. seize the day

[tellmiwhy]

Originally Posted by Kyser Soze

I'm one of those losers who can't get a girl. I'm not sure how old you are now. But one thing for sure in my case is that time is not on my side. I'm reaching 30 soon. Most younger girls will go for younger guys, while ladies around my age are either someone's wife or someone's mum. I'm also starting to have that kind of 'uncle syndrome' (this is what some female colleagues commented). Like you, I'm running out of patience and choice. Or, in fact, no choice. What lies ahead of me is either to get a PRC or a Vietnamese wife. I'm not poking fun at myself. With my ordinary looks and unimpressive salary, I doubt local single girls will give me a chance.

bro, not to worry lar. reaching 30 is the peak for guys nt the dwnfall. i'm onli mid 20s but my clients who are aunties call me uncle if they dunno my name. jus wan to tell u nt to worry too much, ur turn wil come eventualli...some guys chances came earlier but some later. i had a friend of mine who remained single until mid 30s then found his gf who became his wife nw. dun dispair, jus tat the person for u have nt yet appear onli. although alot of times we feel tat local gals are much mre demanding, but nt everyone. There are stil local gals who are very nice and nt those materialistic kind.

no problemz de.

cheers

[asdfghjkl]

my 3 manager friend.. all 40+ also no GF yet.. sianz half liao..

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Kyser Soze

I'm one of those losers who can't get a girl. I'm not sure how old you are now. But one thing for sure in my case is that time is not on my side. I'm reaching 30 soon. Most younger girls will go for younger guys, while ladies around my age are either someone's wife or someone's mum. I'm also starting to have that kind of 'uncle syndrome' (this is what some female colleagues commented). Like you, I'm running out of patience and choice. Or, in fact, no choice. What lies ahead of me is either to get a PRC or a Vietnamese wife. I'm not poking fun at myself. With my ordinary looks and unimpressive salary, I doubt local single girls will give me a chance.

As mentioned before, reaching 30 is not too late. I had just a handful of GFs in my teens, a few in my early twenties... the frequency was increased when nearing 30s and once in 30s, the floodgates seemed to open and there were more girls available than I could handle. Crunch time came when I was about to walk down the aisle with 3 different women and had to make a calculated decision to choose just one. I'm in my mid 30s now, married and have for the moment stopped my affairs to spend time with my son (except for the occasional paid HJs).

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by Kyser Soze

I'm one of those losers who can't get a girl. I'm not sure how old you are now. But one thing for sure in my case is that time is not on my side. I'm reaching 30 soon. Most younger girls will go for younger guys, while ladies around my age are either someone's wife or someone's mum. I'm also starting to have that kind of 'uncle syndrome' (this is what some female colleagues commented). Like you, I'm running out of patience and choice. Or, in fact, no choice. What lies ahead of me is either to get a PRC or a Vietnamese wife. I'm not poking fun at myself. With my ordinary looks and unimpressive salary, I doubt local single girls will give me a chance.

I'm coming to 30 soon. I think I also quite heng. Met this gal years back, but never quite knew her. Bumped into her recently and she is single and available. Sometimes, its like fate.

The man up there really make it (not say difficult) challenging. She is willing to accept me, in due time. But, work is taking a toll on her personal time. I was also thinking about a Viet wife, until this gal implied that she would accept me eventually. Its like heng suay. If heng, just cherish. If suay, then bo pian.

Point is, don't act like uncle lah. Be outgoing and cheerful. Guess gals like guys who speak their mind (intelligently) and conduct themselves with maturity. Optimism makes a difference too.

I have been a SBF member since the delphi days and coming to 30 soon. Everything to begin with is that we need to believe that whatever we do is right. I learnt never to wait for gal to take initiative. Girls typically want to be led by a guy they like.

Few would even step forward to ask if a guy would hold their hand. Initially, I almost didn't make it far with this gal. It was only when I decided to just make a difference this time out, instead of taking the backseat. Waiting does nothing. At least, trying may (and often will) make a difference.

As for myself, I'm an ordinary guy. I just like to do charity work and help people. My salary isn't spectacular, though I could afford a Zoom Zoom. The most impt thing is oneself. Great men succeed, often, because they realise that it all begins with oneself. The evidence? Well, the word "Oneself" is before the word "Success" in the dictionary.

Merry x'mas to all bros and sis. Time flies. Sob Sob.

[Deztruct]

Haa..i also reaching 30s soon..been with sammyboy since the delphi days

when the festival seasons come..somehow i juz wan to avoid things...i wld purposely choose to travel during such occassions..mayb its juz me..everytime i met with any unhappy incidents..my first tot is to run away..as far as possible and for for as long as possible..

i not a coward i guess..but i juz cant bear to face things

[rodeo77]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

As for myself, I'm an ordinary guy. I just like to do charity work and help people. My salary isn't spectacular, though I could afford a Zoom Zoom. The most impt thing is oneself. Great men succeed, often, because they realise that it all begins with oneself. The evidence? Well, the word "Oneself" is before the word "Success" in the dictionary.

Words of wisdom from a jolly good chap