How long did you not have sex with your wife or gf?

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Up you for that quote! Skill is probably one of the most important aspects. I've seen that comment mostly coming from people who have had substantial amount of sex and partners before and also from the more matured ones. This is very very true.

tks for the rep pts bro...u next on my list...anyway as a young man i "horn" my skills not with syt but with milfs..now at my age, doing syt are just a reminiscence of my sexual proweress of yesteryears..to really appreciate a sextisfying session, i generally go for milfs, not that all of them are up to the mark but most do..a man like to be treated like a king in bed and it is these encounters that he will remember and carry to his grave...

[mscucky]

Originally Posted by klzombie

Hi all bros and sis!

Thanks again for all the advices again!!

I had another long talk (well, mostly me doing the talking) with my gf again in the weekend after she threw another tantrum and complained about me not going to gym on friday (I had to complete some work). A long talk that involve her complaining on all small matters that she can find, right down to me forgetting to shave sometimes, didn't bring her water to drink sometimes etc... and I countered every thing she said until she has nothing left to complain anymore. Then she resort to her famous tactic of saying I now love her less then I used to. Anyway to make things short, I finally hug her back, she resisted for a while and then gave in. We didn't have sex mind you, both are too confused to do so but hugging her made those old feelings for her came back and I do realise I really love my gf... alot...

So, after a nice weekend, my gf was very nice to me except for a few more tantrums but nothing that she make it big so its ok. I hope all bros wont kill me but I am still going to continue on with the wedding...

Seriously, its a very big and risky decision to me! haha!! But I have had enough thoughts to it. I know sex is going to be like... hard... ;p But I don't think its something impossible... If its max once a week, then so be it lor... I read mscucky's comments and I believe that I have to be like seriously damn more creative in making love. Its going to cost more and put a dent in income, as to buy more gifts, more holidays etc... but I guess it will contribute to the marriage and thats most important... yeah I've got car loans, house loans, insurance, and a whole lot of bills to pay but hell... sex with wife is important haha!!

So.... wish me luck

klzombie..m happy for u. despite the sulking n complaining...think u love her alot..... , u will still be with her coz ur love for her is very deep. now that u choose to go ahead with the marriage with this woman, be with her tru thick n thin. can see that love can tone her temper abit. so just keep trying. hopefully one day u n her will be happy n u get sex more from her

true.. financial commitments make us quite stressful. so love n sex is a gd anti depressant step

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by klzombie

Hi all bros and sis!

Thanks again for all the advices again!!

I had another long talk (well, mostly me doing the talking) with my gf again in the weekend after she threw another tantrum and complained about me not going to gym on friday (I had to complete some work). A long talk that involve her complaining on all small matters that she can find, right down to me forgetting to shave sometimes, didn't bring her water to drink sometimes etc... and I countered every thing she said until she has nothing left to complain anymore. Then she resort to her famous tactic of saying I now love her less then I used to. Anyway to make things short, I finally hug her back, she resisted for a while and then gave in. We didn't have sex mind you, both are too confused to do so but hugging her made those old feelings for her came back and I do realise I really love my gf... alot...

So, after a nice weekend, my gf was very nice to me except for a few more tantrums but nothing that she make it big so its ok. I hope all bros wont kill me but I am still going to continue on with the wedding...

Seriously, its a very big and risky decision to me! haha!! But I have had enough thoughts to it. I know sex is going to be like... hard... ;p But I don't think its something impossible... If its max once a week, then so be it lor... I read mscucky's comments and I believe that I have to be like seriously damn more creative in making love. Its going to cost more and put a dent in income, as to buy more gifts, more holidays etc... but I guess it will contribute to the marriage and thats most important... yeah I've got car loans, house loans, insurance, and a whole lot of bills to pay but hell... sex with wife is important haha!!

So.... wish me luck

Good luck, bro.

Since you've made the decision, do everything you can to make things work. If you can't find that book, I'll be more then happy to mail to you. I think you might finally understand her tantrums after you finish the book.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

tks for the rep pts bro...u next on my list...anyway as a young man i "horn" my skills not with syt but with milfs..now at my age, doing syt are just a reminiscence of my sexual proweress of yesteryears..to really appreciate a sextisfying session, i generally go for milfs, not that all of them are up to the mark but most do..a man like to be treated like a king in bed and it is these encounters that he will remember and carry to his grave...

Yeah. I go mostly for MILFs now that I'm in my mid-thirties... also its easier to hook as SYTs do not usually come to me anymore unless paid to or working under me (pardon the pun).

The last MILF I had was a Jap ex-boss of mine... not experienced at all but most willing to please and learn. She even bought movies to learn and practised on me. What MILFs lack in suppleness, they definitely make up on skill and enthusiasm... but that's a story for another day.

Originally Posted by sagiboar

Good luck, bro.

Since you've made the decision, do everything you can to make things work. If you can't find that book, I'll be more then happy to mail to you. I think you might finally understand her tantrums after you finish the book.

Hey thanks bro sagiboar... I will remember this

Don't worry, I am quite sure I can find the book. If not, there is always ebay.com hehe... I will definitely buy it!

[Rainman]

Originally Posted by klzombie

Hey thanks bro sagiboar... I will remember this

Don't worry, I am quite sure I can find the book. If not, there is always ebay.com hehe... I will definitely buy it!

U have my blessing too.

Take care and wish you all your best in the coming wedding.

Cheers

[BustLover]

Bro Klzombie, all the best in your wedding, keep your cool, build the trust, maintain the marriage and communicate more.

Hope to hear to successful marriage life in years to come.

[unicorn]

Hi Brothers,

After reading about the experience you guys have have somehow given me a bit of condolence...Thought I was experiencing something very abnormal....Anyway...I've been married for 10 years without any kids. But we have stop sex since 2001. Don't ask me why, cause I do not know myself too...somehow, I've lost interest to do it with her in bed (we have are in good terms infact and always a very lovely couple togather and we still hold hands as we walk togather). I do not have any extra/s outside. If the question of how I solve me desire problem, I'll say mostly DIY....I do not like the idea of FL are GL, as I do not like Wham Bam - Thank you Ma'am sort of sex, and I find the idea very unhygenic, and I can't bear the guilt and the time to betray my wife....and I am not a saint....its just personal preference. I believe my wife also solve her problem thru sex toys too as I always buys her new toys when I am travelling.

Thanks for sharing...I feel much better now....

UniQ

[LeeKH]

klzombie:
No one is going to kill you. All the best!

[5ag1_Boar]

klzombie...

After so much advice from the bros and siss here... no invitation to your wedding ah?




Just kidding.

p.s. Thanks for the points.

[dionysusex]

Originally Posted by jemz

nice to see some ladies commenting...
for me... i donno whats wrong, im not ugly nor fat. frm this forum, i know either i initiate, be more exciting or one day i will lose my husband. so i will ask him very often, but he always will watch dvd until damn late, i wait for him until i sian also. we married less than a month only.

Wah... how I wish my CO like you, sista. It seems our fates the same. She like to watch TV, or rather, attempt to watch TV and without fail end up falling asleep on the sofa than get intimate with me.

Try to initiate earlier and she will say after working in the day, need to relax by watching TV (thought sex supposed to help relax and nurture the relationship?!). Then wait wait wait until late late then fall asleep then claim too late and too tired

Originally Posted by jemz

i want, but he like ai mai ai mai like that. or during the day i tease him, build up the anticipation until at night, den he will go and watch dvd. i like.. sit there and just . maybe i marry the wrong guy. before we got married he not like that one. i think also only a matter of time before i go out and find a partner or work as FL to earn income and to satisfy my own needs also if he continue like that. haix....

I been very faithful. Never eat outside at all. When we just know each other. Sex was almost anytime (not anywhere lah). Immediately after dinner, go her room (that time not married yet) and battle it out. Normal and anal also can. Short holidays go check in hotel for escapade (last time poor, cannot afford holiday) can have sex up more than 10 times within 20 hours (last time fitter also lah).

These days, married liao. Life a bit more stable. Life also more unbearable. Sometimes one month only 1 time, everything cannot and must beg/ quarrel/ negotiate/ etc in order to get that one-time "hand-out".

I just don't understand what went wrong? I cannot sextisfy her? I'm not a good lover? She have the hots for someone or something else? In fact, she makes me feel as if she detests having sex with me and that being intimate with me disgusts her.

Tried ways and means from buying small gadgets, sexy lingerie, helping with (her share of) household chores, planning nice day out, etc to no avail.

Tried talking to her but always the same excuse/reason. Tired, headache, no mood, stomachache, got work on mind, etc etc.

I don't know what went wrong. So, I try D.I.Y. but I got high sex drive so D.I.Y. just makes the urge stronger and make me feel worse!

Got any bros (or sis) can advise a constructive method to help me curb my sexual needs without the option of eat outside? I love my wife. I don't want to be unfaithful to her. I believe she loves me too but somehow the spark for sexual intimacy is not there. Thus, I would rather I learn to curb my urges to resolve this issue than incessantly quarrel with her or resorting to eating outside.

Thanks!

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by dionysusex

I just don't understand what went wrong? I cannot sextisfy her? I'm not a good lover? She have the hots for someone or something else? In fact, she makes me feel as if she detests having sex with me and that being intimate with me disgusts her.

Woooh bro you hit the nail on the head with that....that just exactly how i felt and we even had a few fights becos of this...

[Rainman]

Love- When your eyes meet across a crowded room.
Lust- When your tongues meet across a crowded room.
Marriage- When you try to lose your spouse in a crowded room.

Love- When intercourse is called making love.
Lust- When intercourse in called screwing.
Marriage- When intercourse is a little town in Pennsylvania.

Love- When you argue over how many kids to have.
Lust- When you argue over who gets the wet spot.
Marriage- When you argue over whose idea it was to have kids.

Love- When you share everything you own.
Lust- When you steal everything they own.
Marriage- When the bank owns everything.

Love- When it doesn't matter if you don't climax.
Lust- When the relationship is over if you don't climax.
Marriage- When.... uh.... what's a climax.

Love- When your heart flutters every time you see them.
Lust- When your groin twitches every time you see them.
Marriage- When your wallet empties every time you see them.

Love- When all the songs on the radio describe exactly how you feel.
Lust- When all the songs on the radio determine how you do it.
Marriage- When you listen to talk radio.

Love- When breaking up is something you try not to think about.
Lust- When staying together is something you try not to think about.
Marriage- When just getting through the day is your only thought.

Love- When you're only interested in doing things with your partner.
Lust- When you're only interested in doing things TO your partner.
Marriage- When you're only interested in your golf score.

Love- When a rainy day means more time to stay inside and talk.
Lust- When a rainy day means more time to stay inside and have sex.
Marriage- When a rainy day means it's time to clean the basement.

Love- You only leave the house for coffee and doughnuts.
Lust- You only leave the house for condoms and Vaseline.
Marriage- You only leave the house when you're allowed

[mirkhanus]

For me, someone whos been married for 13 years, the longest I've been without sex is 4 months. Had a huge tiff about 5 years back..... But later, we were banging like rabbits!!!

Nowadays, longest is 3 weeks....

Originally Posted by sagiboar

klzombie...

After so much advice from the bros and siss here... no invitation to your wedding ah?


Just kidding.

p.s. Thanks for the points.

bro sagiboar,

physical invitation cannot la less my 2 FRs accidentally became public knowledge if some SBF bro got one drink too many haha!!

I can hold an online wedding here in SBF (minus my wife who will be replaced by another fellow SBF if possible haha!) heeheehee...