Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

Take all the time u nd to reflect & recover... u will just move on in time, jus like what i did..

life goes on...fall down 7 times..get up the 8th

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by covenn

bro vesfreq, so u found a gf aredy? ha thats a gd news n also an excellent encouragement for bros here. best wishes man....

Nah, still pending approval. Well, its all about falling down and getting up. Its only human to feel bad, after failing once or twice.

Having self confidence and reciprocation from her made the difference. I mean, sometimes the gal might be waiting for guy to make the move.

At least, I won't live to regret not trying. She was also somewhat waiting. Have to be thick skinned and brave enough to step up and ask sometimes.

Life's greatest mysteries lie just around the corner, only if we are willing to try.

[Know_yr_role]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

bad..pass her the watch..for the few weeks after tat..din contact each other at all..then out of a sudden..she ask a frd to pass the watch back to me..i told my frd tat i wld not take it back..n i sms her n tell her to stop all these nonsense..stop the side show of gettin frds ard us to b involved in our problem..stop lyin to me...till now..we neva contact each other..see each other also pretend to look away...

it hurts..but at least i noe its the best way for both of us..to juz stop contacting each other for awhile

i see, shes seems like dun wan to accept any more of yr stuff, is she trying to deny feelings or trying to forget u, either way, seems like she needs some more time to think abt things bro.......xmas holis coming soon, sure a tough hard to swallow period for u....sighs

[dirk_diggler]

Hi all the like-minded bros, after seeing all the bros pour their sorrows and heart-wrenching experiences here, will like to say my piece cos I am about to explode if I keep in inside of me, hope all bros will bear with me.

I am much like bro deztruct, I never ever had a gf in my life up to now, cos I was playing all the way in secondary school. Well from JC up to uni, I was the victim of unrequited love. U see, the problem with me was that when I fall for a gal I will really go all out and do everything for her, and it usually takes quite sometime before I recover from all the hurt. I never considered other options other than the gal I truly like.

My present quandary is tat I have fallen for my colleague who has a long time bf, but who treats her like shit,ie he doesn't fetch her from wk,doesn't call her the whole day long and never considered for her well-being at all. On the contary, I have always been there for her through these days tat I started liking her, and I have also expressed my feelings for her through a very conincidental incident. Her ans was that she needed time to sort her thoughts through, and she didn't want me to become the third party in the relationship. As Fate will have it, the day after I expressed my intentions for her, she had this huge quarrel with her bf. The thing is I am in the knowledge that this other colleague of mine has actually fallen for me, she is a nice lady, and would make a gd gf. I actually hate myself for even harbouring the thoughts that should I wait for the gal I like,or try my lot with this other colleague who has actually likings for me. Truth is, the clock is ticking and I am no longer that young to grapple with much heartache. Bros here, if you were me, what would u do?

[Know_yr_role]

Originally Posted by dirk_diggler

Hi all the like-minded bros, after seeing all the bros pour their sorrows and heart-wrenching experiences here, will like to say my piece cos I am about to explode if I keep in inside of me, hope all bros will bear with me.

I am much like bro deztruct, I never ever had a gf in my life up to now, cos I was playing all the way in secondary school. Well from JC up to uni, I was the victim of unrequited love. U see, the problem with me was that when I fall for a gal I will really go all out and do everything for her, and it usually takes quite sometime before I recover from all the hurt. I never considered other options other than the gal I truly like.

My present quandary is tat I have fallen for my colleague who has a long time bf, but who treats her like shit,ie he doesn't fetch her from wk,doesn't call her the whole day long and never considered for her well-being at all. On the contary, I have always been there for her through these days tat I started liking her, and I have also expressed my feelings for her through a very conincidental incident. Her ans was that she needed time to sort her thoughts through, and she didn't want me to become the third party in the relationship. As Fate will have it, the day after I expressed my intentions for her, she had this huge quarrel with her bf. The thing is I am in the knowledge that this other colleague of mine has actually fallen for me, she is a nice lady, and would make a gd gf. I actually hate myself for even harbouring the thoughts that should I wait for the gal I like,or try my lot with this other colleague who has actually likings for me. Truth is, the clock is ticking and I am no longer that young to grapple with much heartache. Bros here, if you were me, what would u do?

firstly, u can try to watch the movie The HOliday, i caught it last nite..its abt xmas r/s romantic movie..tells a lil abt how to handle r/s...

jokes aside..

its all natural for all to think for themselves...the truth is, the colleague which has a long term bf is MAYBE seeking attention from her bf...she maybe jus using u as way to get her bf's attention...u know wat i mean...so she may not be as INTO u as u think... whereas on the other hand you have a gal coming to u and telling you her feelings...she hopes u fall for her too, are u? ask yourself this qn...u are jus like a kid in a toys dept now..... my advice is , u cant have the best of both world..take yr pick and dun regret.......

ask yourself if u like the gal who told u her feelings...or your heart lies with another one...or none of the above as u are jus have a crush on both gals...yes its complicated...welcome to the world of falling in love...nothing is as messy as love....

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

At least, I won't live to regret not trying. She was also somewhat waiting. Have to be thick skinned and brave enough to step up and ask sometimes.

Life's greatest mysteries lie just around the corner, only if we are willing to try.

Totally agree. The worst thing in life is regretting not trying and spending your whole life wondering "what if..."

My motto when it comes to matters of the heart... do first, think later... but meanwhile harden your heart and put on your safety belts and brace for a hard fall.

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Totally agree. The worst thing in life is regretting not trying and spending your whole life wondering "what if..."

My motto when it comes to matters of the heart... do first, think later... but meanwhile harden your heart and put on your safety belts and brace for a hard fall.

And, most important thing is always have the "Safety helmet" for the little bro.

Its a tough one. Gals are hard to understand on one hand, yet it is a joy to find the right one to spend time with.

Going out with this gal I like can be quite tricky. Already holding hands, but she don't really want it to be known openly. The path in a relationship can be shaky. What to believe and what not to believe? But, just have to try and stop thinking too much, like you said.

Its friday man. Time to kick the road and zoom zoom. Merry x'mas people.

[axeman24]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

its all natural for all to think for themselves...the truth is, the colleague which has a long term bf is MAYBE seeking attention from her bf...she maybe jus using u as way to get her bf's attention...u know wat i mean...so she may not be as INTO u as u think... whereas on the other hand you have a gal coming to u and telling you her feelings...she hopes u fall for her too, are u? ask yourself this qn...u are jus like a kid in a toys dept now..... my advice is , u cant have the best of both world..take yr pick and dun regret.......

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Haizzz.... thats why I hate this type of girls used us men to make their bf jealous in the end who lose out, we do. KNN, I remember once when I kena like this before and good think I found out earlier and I fuck the girl upside down in front of all my ex-colleague (Whom was also my ex-colleague) till she cry and my boss call me in to his room after that to find out what happen. Anyway that time I have already tender and was about to left the company for another job so just let go. After I left I heard she left to cause she was too pai say to stay on. Think of it now I can laugh but at that moment I was so damn piss off with this girl.

[playboy82]

well, jus knock off from work, and seems like the most difficult part of single hood is that when you are feeling super down, as you got no special someone to date for christmas and yet in front of all ur colleugue, you still must pertend to be happy, must force a happy face out, when you know it is almost mission impossible when they braging in front of you where they go with their loves one, how will they spend the christmas... its jus so... i dunno how to say..

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by playboy82

well, jus knock off from work, and seems like the most difficult part of single hood is that when you are feeling super down, as you got no special someone to date for christmas and yet in front of all ur colleugue, you still must pertend to be happy, must force a happy face out, when you know it is almost mission impossible when they braging in front of you where they go with their loves one, how will they spend the christmas... its jus so... i dunno how to say..

u r not alone also. After work, I went for a spin. Its hard to stay happy, when fact is that (deep inside us) there may be something bugging us. Its harder still to keep that happy smile and say that "I'm really really happy" and show that very wide grin.

I find it hard sometimes too. So what if there is someone we like. Its always like trying hard and harder and even harder to keep that motivation alive and keep going. It takes days/ weeks/ months/ years to build up this motivation, but takes lesser than a few moments to lose it. Nothing comes easy, at least that is what the man up there has somewhat promised.

Keeping that motivation, sometimes, becomes so difficult that its like telling yourself that things will be alright after getting through the hurdles, but point is that these hurdles are never very visible.

It takes one or two of these hurdles to bring down the motivation and lose everything. Things that were hard won end up lost overnight. To stay on and remain motivated or not? The question of whether to sustain motivation and keep trying becomes even harder to answer.

Whether single or attached, this motivation keeps us alive. Without it, it can be frightening. For singles, the sight of couples walking merrily down the streets is even more daunting.

[jinrenhe]

Originally Posted by playboy82

well, jus knock off from work, and seems like the most difficult part of single hood is that when you are feeling super down, as you got no special someone to date for christmas and yet in front of all ur colleugue, you still must pertend to be happy, must force a happy face out, when you know it is almost mission impossible when they braging in front of you where they go with their loves one, how will they spend the christmas... its jus so... i dunno how to say..

Originally Posted by vesfreq

u r not alone also. After work, I went for a spin. Its hard to stay happy, when fact is that (deep inside us) there may be something bugging us. Its harder still to keep that happy smile and say that "I'm really really happy" and show that very wide grin.

What u two said have essentially sum up my sentiments...

Don't know why, but the year-end festive season always bring me a sense of
失落感... maybe it's the cold,windy weather, maybe it's the sight of couples and others indulging in happiness & love

Jus came bac from dinner & catching up with an old friend who also faces some personnal probs, and i was kinda surprised when he expressed how he felt during such periods too ... used to thought i was the only one feeling this way.

Maybe it's cos i feel strangely exculded from the mainstream crowd, so
季节气氛越农厚， 失落感就越深...

[jinrenhe]

Jus a side-track... Eason chan's lonely christmas is a wonderful song with lyrics that aptly reflect my sentiments.. radio jus played it... prompting me to recommend to any bros who's feelin down during this festive season..

[covenn]

come on bros! cheer up! dun sound so sad. in life, we face different kinda problems. r/s, financial, family etc. dun be blinded by one problem such dat u forget to be thankful for the other things u haf. it will be a real pity. everyone on the street has a story. everyone. married men, married women, couples u see walkin on the streets might haf other issues too. dats wat i tell myself when im down. new year new hope!

[DenmarkDoll]

Just a small dedication for all lonely souls here...

圣诞结(广东版 lonely christmas) by 陈奕迅

打印预览 我住的城巿从不下雪 记忆却堆满冷的感觉 思念的旺季霓虹扫过喧哗的街 把快乐赶得好远

落单的恋人最怕过节 只能独自庆祝尽量喝醉 我爱过的人没有一个留在身边 寂寞它陪我过夜

merry merry christmas lonely lonely christmas 想祝福不知该给谁 爱被我们打了死结
lonely lonely christmas merry merry christmas 写了卡片能寄给谁 心碎的像街上的纸屑

电话不接不要被人发现我整夜都关在房间 狂欢的笑声听来像哀悼的音乐眼眶的泪温热冻 望著电视里的无聊节目 瘫在沙发上变成没知觉的植物

谁来陪我过这圣诞节~

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

Jus a side-track... Eason chan's lonely christmas is a wonderful song with lyrics that aptly reflect my sentiments.. radio jus played it... prompting me to recommend to any bros who's feelin down during this festive season..

actually i feel tat if u keep listening to sad songs..there might be a possibility tat u make urself feel even worse on such ocassions..its one thing to be sad/lonely on such festive ocassions and its another thing to keep harpin on it..sometimes the best therapy is to face it face to face..instead of coopin urself at hm..go out even if its by urself..see pple on the streets and wish them merry xmas..at the end of the nite..u might even feel beta for makin someone else day

so instead of listening lonely xmas..try listenin to tanya chua's beautiful love