Dilemma between Caucasian and Asian

[maxpee88]

Bro ThreadStarter

Heed the advice of the level-headed bros here.

Don't mix your sex-starved hormones with office enviroment. You'd be better off not dealing with this at all. This wise saying was not composed without years of life's experience. "You don't shit where you eat",
and that means, you should never risk your rice bowl with affairs.

While for now you think it's kind of 'sexy and fun' to have these 'flirty things going on...' you should step back and be level headed.

Often in these situations, us guys tend to follow the brain between our legs. But you should heed the cue led by the 2 women you intend to target. They already indicated their signs to you. BOTH of them have flatly and politely denied being asked out on dates from your colleagues. Take that as a strong cue.

Modern women colleagues are known to 'flirt' in the office, but do not mis-inteprete them as open invitations to get laid.

Women know where they draw the line which they will not cross over.

Poking you in the ribs, playfully slapping your arm etc... are not 'come-ons' or 'I want you to fuck me' signals. Yes, you may feel that it is... then if that's the case, you should 'allow them to lead you' instead of you leading them.

American or be it Caucasian culture can be touchy-feely. But don't misinteprete that as a come-on. And be careful. She is educated, and she can report you for sexual harassment regardless who started being touchy feely.

For now, you should just sit back and enjoy the 'innocence of flirt'.

My humble 2cents worth of advice.

[psychicwood]

Bro Max,

true dat true dat... the dangerous part is that both are equally high powered and intelligent.... one wrong move..... its the dumps....

But I tell you..... both are damn bloody gorgeous..... I am feeling the heat right now.... having the CAKE and CANT EAT it......

A just said "hi" to me along the corridor and we chatted about work for a while..... she is wearing a short dress that showcased her small waist.... I cant help but admire her big doe eyes with long lashes.....

Was also chatting w M at the pantry... she is wearing a spaghetti top with a jacket on and when she took off her jacket ... wow.... those racks.... as usual while joking...she will hit my arm, nudge my ribs...and occasionally grab my wrists... she always brightens up my day....

Some how I have this innate feeling that they are aware of my horny thoughts... ha ha i hope not....


PEACE!!

[Cunt-Sucker]

Originally Posted by psychicwood

Bro Max,

true dat true dat... the dangerous part is that both are equally high powered and intelligent.... one wrong move..... its the dumps....

But I tell you..... both are damn bloody gorgeous..... I am feeling the heat right now.... having the CAKE and CANT EAT it......

A just said "hi" to me along the corridor and we chatted about work for a while..... she is wearing a short dress that showcased her small waist.... I cant help but admire her big doe eyes with long lashes.....

Was also chatting w M at the pantry... she is wearing a spaghetti top with a jacket on and when she took off her jacket ... wow.... those racks.... as usual while joking...she will hit my arm, nudge my ribs...and occasionally grab my wrists... she always brightens up my day....

Some how I have this innate feeling that they are aware of my horny thoughts... ha ha i hope not....


PEACE!!

Bro Psychicwood,

Just wondering if there's any more vacancies in your firm? Would love to join you in the firm, and then we can have some "in-depth" discussions with both ladies to ascertain the probabilities of scoring them huh?

[adzeman]

Originally Posted by lammpeb

Date both and bed both

Correct. If you don't try how do you know which is better.

[aceofspades101]

Very simple :P

[weaver]

big small all eat, problem solved. as other bros adviced.

[Red_Wine]

I think protect the rice bowl more better than office scandals. Cos many FTs outside waiting to take up yr seat.

[psychicwood]

Bro Red Wine,

how true... competition from FTs are really strong....

Just to be fair... many of them are nice ppl... I have made a lot of friends throughout the course of my career.... but then again... friendship may mean shit when it comes to their career advancement(s).....


PEACE!!

[silkypussy]

I was asked to give my 2cents worth from a women's point of view.

And I have to say that I am also guilty of 'office flirting'. I work in a highly charged testosterone office environment. My industry deals with money and the scent of money just puts the testosterone levels into overdrive.

My office has no shortage of 'eye-candy' of women, young new employees, interns etc... all dressed in tight skirts, suits and pants. We do flirt with fellow male colleagues to get 'our way' sometimes. I admit, I do that too.

When we had limited tickets to a show, to a VIP event, I will use whatever is in my female charm inventory to grab that extra ticket from a male colleague so that my important clients can attend.

We don't go beyond that office flirt, that tug on their arms, or that playful poke in their chest, or simply laughing at their dirty raunchy jokes we share in the pantry or in the privacy of our office or at lunch or at after office hurs drinking sessions. But that's the limit we go to. And no further than that.

I remembered mentoring a new intern from NUS. Her name was Laura. She was vivacious, pretty, spoke well, and obviously came from a well brought up environment. She was attractive and indeed even the receptionist and my boss secretary bet that she will be an automatic employee when she graduates.

But she was innocent and new to the Financial and Banking world. She was obviously taken in by the money, by the expensive luncheons, by the glamorous private events we held for private clients etc...The cars which the Alpha males in our office drive, the Wednesdays-through-Fridays of happy hour cocktail that starts as early as 4pm..The saturday night house parties and exclusive club events. I was guided by HR to ensure that she would not be a 'victim' of sexual harassment and I had to watch over her and yet check my own behaviour during the time she was assigned to me.

So, dear me, I had to become an angel and had to point and show her situations where there were subtle and yet 'risky business' at play when it came to her. I just wanted you to know that women in the same workplace, will and can, tease and flirt. But they don't mean to go further than that.

At their level, if they want to, believe you me, they will take the first step to you. So don't make a faux pas, because it is a dangerous game you play when you assume wrongly.

[psychicwood]

Yo Sis Silky,

true dat.. good advice.... I cant help but to agree... albeit reluctantly...

Now most sexual harassment cases arises out of the disparity in 'power'- the Alpha males being bosses, will tend to wield this power over their presumably 'weaker' female subordinate(s)... an innate animalistic behaviour that could be in-borne and shaped by societal norms, however succinct it may be....

Hence the female could choose between 2 options:

1. To report the act as sexual harassment - to level up the disparity in power through legal recourse.

2. To play the game, and subject herself as subordinate to the primal instincts of the Alpha male.


Now what happens if both the females are in the same league as me... that is, there is PARITY in power distribution... will crossing the line constitute as sexual harassment or would it better categorized as courtship??.... some food for thought.....

Sorry for the digression here bros...

Anyway... someone PLEASE HELP ME!!!!! I have a hard-on everyday from these two femme fatale... ha ha... at least I have more reasons to go to work everyday.... aint it fun??

PEACE!!

Originally Posted by silkypussy

I was asked to give my 2cents worth from a women's point of view.

And I have to say that I am also guilty of 'office flirting'. I work in a highly charged testosterone office environment. My industry deals with money and the scent of money just puts the testosterone levels into overdrive.

My office has no shortage of 'eye-candy' of women, young new employees, interns etc... all dressed in tight skirts, suits and pants. We do flirt with fellow male colleagues to get 'our way' sometimes. I admit, I do that too.

When we had limited tickets to a show, to a VIP event, I will use whatever is in my female charm inventory to grab that extra ticket from a male colleague so that my important clients can attend.

We don't go beyond that office flirt, that tug on their arms, or that playful poke in their chest, or simply laughing at their dirty raunchy jokes we share in the pantry or in the privacy of our office or at lunch or at after office hurs drinking sessions. But that's the limit we go to. And no further than that.

I remembered mentoring a new intern from NUS. Her name was Laura. She was vivacious, pretty, spoke well, and obviously came from a well brought up environment. She was attractive and indeed even the receptionist and my boss secretary bet that she will be an automatic employee when she graduates.

But she was innocent and new to the Financial and Banking world. She was obviously taken in by the money, by the expensive luncheons, by the glamorous private events we held for private clients etc...The cars which the Alpha males in our office drive, the Wednesdays-through-Fridays of happy hour cocktail that starts as early as 4pm..The saturday night house parties and exclusive club events. I was guided by HR to ensure that she would not be a 'victim' of sexual harassment and I had to watch over her and yet check my own behaviour during the time she was assigned to me.

So, dear me, I had to become an angel and had to point and show her situations where there were subtle and yet 'risky business' at play when it came to her. I just wanted you to know that women in the same workplace, will and can, tease and flirt. But they don't mean to go further than that.

At their level, if they want to, believe you me, they will take the first step to you. So don't make a faux pas, because it is a dangerous game you play when you assume wrongly.

[Botakhead]

Please larh, remember not to show them your hardon arh.....less they also cannot tahan and rape you in office......

[psychicwood]

Ha ha bro Botak,

how I wish..... cheers....

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[superduker1]

Originally Posted by psychicwood

Yo Sis Silky,

true dat.. good advice.... I cant help but to agree... albeit reluctantly...

Now most sexual harassment cases arises out of the disparity in 'power'- the Alpha males being bosses, will tend to wield this power over their presumably 'weaker' female subordinate(s)... an innate animalistic behaviour that could be in-borne and shaped by societal norms, however succinct it may be....

Hence the female could choose between 2 options:

1. To report the act as sexual harassment - to level up the disparity in power through legal recourse.

2. To play the game, and subject herself as subordinate to the primal instincts of the Alpha male.


Now what happens if both the females are in the same league as me... that is, there is PARITY in power distribution... will crossing the line constitute as sexual harassment or would it better categorized as courtship??.... some food for thought.....

Sorry for the digression here bros...

Anyway... someone PLEASE HELP ME!!!!! I have a hard-on everyday from these two femme fatale... ha ha... at least I have more reasons to go to work everyday.... aint it fun??

PEACE!!

Bro, whether is it sexual harassment or courtship. It depends on how you portray it, what's the approach.

Ultimately, what u want to achieve? You want a gf or a fb?

That's an important qn to ask yourself. If both is not, maybe to keep it as office flirting is as far as you should go. As many bros here have shared before, it's not good to shit in where you eat.

My 0.5 cents.

[silkypussy]

Originally Posted by psychicwood

Yo Sis Silky,

true dat.. good advice.... I cant help but to agree... albeit reluctantly...

Now most sexual harassment cases arises out of the disparity in 'power'- the Alpha males being bosses, will tend to wield this power over their presumably 'weaker' female subordinate(s)... an innate animalistic behaviour that could be in-borne and shaped by societal norms, however succinct it may be....

Hence the female could choose between 2 options:

1. To report the act as sexual harassment - to level up the disparity in power through legal recourse.

2. To play the game, and subject herself as subordinate to the primal instincts of the Alpha male.


Now what happens if both the females are in the same league as me... that is, there is PARITY in power distribution... will crossing the line constitute as sexual harassment or would it better categorized as courtship??.... some food for thought.....


PEACE!!

Good gosh! Your naivette is alarming.

Now you see why I have a genuine preference for older men in their 40's. I worry for you and the current gender of males if they all think like you.

Sexual harassment has no distinction on whether you are on a supervisory / upper level, or same level or even a subordinate to the female workmate.

The Women's Charter was created to protect women (yeah.. I know. Its great to be a gal in Singapore ) And the courts ruling tends to favour women in a 'questionable circumstance'. You are 2 counts down on the floor buddy boy.

Perhaps I should clarify. I used the term "Alpha male" because in the banking world, the successful high flying male private bankers, and even normal male banking employees (not necessarily in managerial roles) tend to flaunt and flex their muscles, & preen themselves well for the 'mating game'. But the smart ones know well enough as Maxpee88 said it : they don't shit where they eat.

So when i referred the Alpha Male, I meant the guys in my banking circle. They tend to feel invincible, they feel they are the center of attention, they feel they are on top of the game. They walk into a pub and they create attention by laughing loudly, and they think when a girl unconsciously eyes them, that they are easy meat. That's a metaphor applied for this conversation and not the Wiki version.

My solution for your daily hard-on predicament; regrettably already belongs to some one else (LOL!)

I don't wish to sound all mighty and all knowing... but you should well be aware of the consequences when situation gets out of hand.