Guys do u rem the women u slept with?

[Brainstorm]

I think I slept with 40 plus ladies (non-commercial ladies). Remember about 20 of them. Those that I don't remember, it's mainly because there's nothing significant to remember or it happened many years back. Hard to remember a one night stand that happened 15 years back right?

[bleuwings]

i tend to rem most of the gals, mainly coz i want to know what they like and dun like esp in bed.... i believe sex & r/s is a 2 person thingy so accomodating to each other is needed to make it work

[littlepok]

commercial ones i dont really remember. see on the street cannot recognise la but if same place same location iwill remember. not many anyway.

but no need to remember them la u think they remember u meh?

for others like friends, FB etc definitely remember one la

[yawnzzz]

For ladies, we will sure remember cos only do it with bf unless it's ONS and I'm dead drunk..

[BananaPeel]

Only rem those that really had a great time

[cereal-killer]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Do you rem all of them? Only those that are not commercial sex? Selected few? None at all except the current wife/gf?

If u rem all/some, do u rem the person or the sexual act?

As a woman, I would say most of us rem most/all of the guys we slept with because to a woman there is an emotional attachment after sex (exc when the woman is doing it for commercial reasons). We rem first n foremost the person then the emotions during the act.

What's its like for u?

I am curious to know after a few of my guy friends admit that its out of sight out of mind for them in most cases.

i remember BOTH the person and the sexual acts.

commercial .... NONE Of them

[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Do you rem all of them? Only those that are not commercial sex? Selected few? None at all except the current wife/gf?

If u rem all/some, do u rem the person or the sexual act?

As a woman, I would say most of us rem most/all of the guys we slept with because to a woman there is an emotional attachment after sex (exc when the woman is doing it for commercial reasons). We rem first n foremost the person then the emotions during the act.

What's its like for u?

I am curious to know after a few of my guy friends admit that its out of sight out of mind for them in most cases.

I remember the person but not the sex act....some I even forgot I slept with unless they remind me....

And yes, it is out of sight, out of mind...I do remember that I enjoyed being with a certain person...often not the reason why...

The above are true except in unusual cases...I do remember a sex act if it was fantastic or terrible and if there was some problem associated with that person (like difficulty checking in to a hotel, smelly hotel room etc...)...either extremes are etched in the memory, otherwise...nope...

Hope this is what you are asking...

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[wally888]

Remember lover's name shd b fine if u dunn call out wrong name when making love with your OC........else damn jialak liao

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by Brainstorm

I think I slept with 40 plus ladies (non-commercial ladies). Remember about 20 of them. Those that I don't remember, it's mainly because there's nothing significant to remember or it happened many years back. Hard to remember a one night stand that happened 15 years back right?

40 - 50 women seems like a norm number for maybe a single man abv 40yo (i dont mean u are 40yo). To a woman, the number of partners would likely be around 10 - 15% of that Women tend to invest emotionally so its kind of hard to have 40. Of course, there are exceptions. It never fails to amaze me how men are wired to be able to "just have sex". Less emotional investment means lesser chance to get hurt, aren't u guys the lucky gender?

[DaddyDad]

If I can keep track of the numbers, I would have given thanks to heaven.

How you expect me to remember all their names and the ACT some more ????

[Edyta]

Thanks for all the replies, appreciate the honesty n the candidness! You guys are more sentimental than expected. I wonder if a man can chase a woman, have sex and totally forget about her right away like amnesia.

[<<totally>>]

Maybe because guys got commercial sex to add burden to the memory. I do wondered if the woman will remember which guy had f her before. Not talking about the guy that torn her hymen, if she can forget that then must really let me know.

[see see only]

Wow TS ...

Nowadays most will likely lost track liao ..... as its the action that really matters not the actual figures

I had a 22 yo gf for a month plus recently .... she lost track with her "ex" numbers liao .... she said something like 20 plus, cannot remember ???

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by Edyta

40 - 50 women seems like a norm number for maybe a single man abv 40yo (i dont mean u are 40yo). To a woman, the number of partners would likely be around 10 - 15% of that Women tend to invest emotionally so its kind of hard to have 40. Of course, there are exceptions. It never fails to amaze me how men are wired to be able to "just have sex". Less emotional investment means lesser chance to get hurt, aren't u guys the lucky gender?

I'm in my early 30s. I think the guys in their 40s will be way more experienced than me. I don't think the number of sex partners ladies have is 10-15% of what a guy will have. I think the number could be the same or just slightly lower. It's just that some ladies hide the truth due to social norms. If guys have more partners, it could be seen as a sign of manhood (positive perception). If ladies have more partners, they might be viewed as slutty (negative perception).
Just look at the couple Alvin and Vivian, I think vivian suffer more than Alvin from the sex video exposure.

Plus if you look around this forum, if a guy ask for FFFM, he will probably be laughed at. If a girl ask for MMMF, the queue will be very long. A lady can sleep with multiple partners in a session but a guy can hardly do the same. It's easier to chalk up sex partners as a lady.

Looking around the forum, there are more ladies here now to look for FB. I think the idea that less emotional investment means less chance of getting hurt applies to ladies as well as to guys these days. Friends with benefit is increasingly acceptable to ladies, I feel.

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by see see only

I had a 22 yo gf for a month plus recently .... she lost track with her "ex" numbers liao .... she said something like 20 plus, cannot remember ???

22 years old with 20+ ex. Bro, 20+ ex got board the bus? Seemed like it to me for the way you wrote it. But I just want to double confirmed.