Anyone u sex with before that u never thought of....

[alea]

Originally Posted by promiscus

Thanks bros @Entering and @Rickey for your sensible comments.

No, I have no desire to lose my job over this. I will not do anything stupid which will make her uncomfortable and lead her to take action.

And yes, given we are both married, this is a complicated scenario. But she and I have been married for over a decade now. We all know that both partners tend to get bored with each other after so many years. The spark simply dies.

But that does not mean they would necessarily abandon their respective families over a fling. I suspect this is the case for both of us. Why else would we spend an hour at least 1-2 times a week chatting about everything under the sun. It was like a first date over and over again

What really frustrates me is why she withdrew over a simple compliment? All I said was you are looking nice today. Its not like I said I want to kiss you.

Perhaps this is a question for the female bros (lol) here! Ladies, did you ever find yourself in a situation where you became too friendly with a guy with no romantic/sexual intentions? And then ghosted the the fellow when he made a slight escalation?

She could have taken that time to WFH to cool down and sort out her thoughts. After coming back to office and resuming the chats with you, it shows that she still has a thing for you.

Try not to burst the bubble too fast by asking her directly. Instead, try to suggest casually some activities after work, like dinner, a jog, or maybe just to collect some parcel you ordered. If she says yes, then your chances quite high liao. Just keep on maintaining close r/s with her and you both will drift closer together without being too obvious.

[Interested09]

Originally Posted by promiscus

Now this is something I have no clue how to go about given I’m married. Can’t be on those dating platforms and show my face lol. But on a side note, I have managed to get the number of a good looking milf waitress at a bar I frequent near my office. She has hinted on getting drinks sometime but I am not sure if I want to do that.

Tough bro. Also in a similar situation. Got a colleague who I have been hanging out with. Even invited me over but I am also taken. The only thing stopping me is that I fear it can't just be a physical, thing. I fear that she (not me) will develop emotional attachment that I am not able to deal with. We also know way too many mutual people. And of course I am techincally unavailable..

[Neoguri]

Originally Posted by promiscus

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Big reveal - we are both married 😐
I do want to boink her badly. I suspect she wants it too but is not giving me consistent signals.
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Bro, I think all the advises above are valid and you have to consider carefully and I won't repeat them.

You should not behave overly desperate. Sometimes, a relaxed attitude works better.
Continue to show care and concerns for her, because this is what most women needs and it the best way to get into her panty.

Look for opportunity to give her a hug when she is sad/down, show empathy.
But don't grab her and hug forcefully. - Just open your arms and if she wants a hug she will hug you, and you won't be called up by the HR for harassment.

Just to share a little story of my #22 ons - an ex-colleague now supplier from Shanghai.
After all the tension that I have build up on her, it was time to say goodbye and I helped carry her shopping to her room before leaving for my flight home.
In the room, I just say good bye and open my arms. - She came forward and hugged me tightly and made a "hmmmm" sound indicating she is really sad.
We just hug and remain in that position for a good 10 seconds (not a hi/bye quick hug). And keep your hands to yourself and don't be a 咸猪手！
Next, I just stoke her hair, kissed her forehead, then kissed her lips, and the rest is history.....

The key is to watch for resistance at each step. - Never force it, as it is wrong and could get you into big trouble.

Anyway, good luck!

[entering]

Originally Posted by Neoguri

Next, I just stoke her hair, kissed her forehead, then kissed her lips, and the rest is history.....

The key is to watch for resistance at each step. - Never force it, as it is wrong and could get you into big trouble.

Anyway, good luck!

Master Shifu, must learn from you.

[arl127]

The best is to have a normal colleague conversation with some flirty stuff which makes her smile, a dinner and drink invite on casual basis depending on the girl if she is into drink will make it easy, or a dinner on 1 on 1 basis couple of times will get her to speak openly on her personal matter will get both of you as close friends from office colleagues and then go with the flow, as long as you don't give any hint to bed her, eventually things will unfold.

[promiscus]

Thanks bro @Neoguri

Yeah I think being colllected and patient is the key here. Heck, if it doesn’t work it doesn’t. Not the end of the world though I’ll be a little miserable no doubt.


And your gimme a hug trick is priceless! I can imagine that done with the right confidence it would be irresistible to any woman who is attracted to you..

Originally Posted by Neoguri

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You should not behave overly desperate. Sometimes, a relaxed attitude works better.

....
Next, I just stoke her hair, kissed her forehead, then kissed her lips, and the rest is history.....

The key is to watch for resistance at each step. - Never force it, as it is wrong and could get you into big trouble.

Anyway, good luck!

[donut88]

Originally Posted by promiscus

Now this is something I have no clue how to go about given I’m married. Can’t be on those dating platforms and show my face lol. But on a side note, I have managed to get the number of a good looking milf waitress at a bar I frequent near my office. She has hinted on getting drinks sometime but I am not sure if I want to do that.

Bro, learn to read body language

Watch her eyes. The eyes will tell you alot about her feelings about you.

Another tip. Even if she show very obvious that she wants you, you still have to take it slow. Dont be a pervert and rush your hands and dick into her. Continue to play the cool guy who likes to chat with her.

Then look for opportunities to have more time with her.

[promiscus]

Very important point here to not come across as someone who just wants to get in her pants. But I guess the trick is how you balance it with some light flirting. I guess body language plays a huge part.

So cook it slowly and let it simmer. If she wants me as much as I want her, things are bound to get tasty!

Originally Posted by arl127

The best is to have a normal colleague conversation with some flirty stuff which makes her smile, a dinner and drink invite on casual basis depending on the girl if she is into drink will make it easy, or a dinner on 1 on 1 basis couple of times will get her to speak openly on her personal matter will get both of you as close friends from office colleagues and then go with the flow, as long as you don't give any hint to bed her, eventually things will unfold.

[promiscus]

Her eyes do say a lot bro. Whenever we are together, there is underlying sexual tension. And if we are physically close together like on an escalator, her body language becomes a little tense as if she is trying to cover up something. Averts my gaze and at times bites her lips.

And no I would never rush my dick into her I can’t be creepy even if tried lol.

Originally Posted by donut88

Bro, learn to read body language

Watch her eyes. The eyes will tell you alot about her feelings about you.

Another tip. Even if she show very obvious that she wants you, you still have to take it slow. Dont be a pervert and rush your hands and dick into her. Continue to play the cool guy who likes to chat with her.

Then look for opportunities to have more time with her.

[Neoguri]

Originally Posted by promiscus

Her eyes do say a lot bro. Whenever we are together, there is underlying sexual tension. And if we are physically close together like on an escalator, her body language becomes a little tense as if she is trying to cover up something. Averts my gaze and at times bites her lips.

And no I would never rush my dick into her I can’t be creepy even if tried lol.

Keep going and let us know how it work out?
Pretty interesting story too!

[promiscus]

I fear I may be the one who develops feelings but you never know. Hope you guys find some balance. How did it start for you? Was it mutual or one of you took the lead?

Originally Posted by Interested09

Tough bro. Also in a similar situation. Got a colleague who I have been hanging out with. Even invited me over but I am also taken. The only thing stopping me is that I fear it can't just be a physical, thing. I fear that she (not me) will develop emotional attachment that I am not able to deal with. We also know way too many mutual people. And of course I am techincally unavailable..

[Neoguri]

Originally Posted by promiscus

I fear I may be the one who develops feelings but you never know. Hope you guys find some balance. How did it start for you? Was it mutual or one of you took the lead?

Bro, if you have regular sex with a person, it is inevitable that some feelings will develop over time.

I have a personal story to tell about this.
My first ons/FB is my neighbor who lives about 200 meters away.
She studied sexology in China and did her thesis on - Will feelings developed over a purely sexual relationship?
Her conclusion is yes, it will.

My mistress over 3 years.
Initially, I treat her purely as a FB.
In fact, in the beginning, I find it difficult to cum pumping her although she gives very good GFE and BBBJ readily.
However, we make love about twice a week over 3 years and did a lot of fun stuff with her kids too.
I developed feeling for her and it was quite difficult for me when it ended finally.

[Xgenre]

Better don't shit where you eat. Once you bedded her, you cannot unbed her. She may get more sticky over time or leave more tell tale signs for your wife. If you lose your job due to this affair, can you imagine what will happen when your future companies calling your present company for a reference check?

Plus imagine after all the effort, you discover she has CCB when you undress her. No option to dress her up and go back to being just normal friends by then

[promiscus]

Lol bro you are funny

But valid point that if it goes wrong and affects my job then CCB will be the least of my problems. But then what if it doesn’t...

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Better don't shit where you eat. Once you bedded her, you cannot unbed her. She may get more sticky over time or leave more tell tale signs for your wife. If you lose your job due to this affair, can you imagine what will happen when your future companies calling your present company for a reference check?

Plus imagine after all the effort, you discover she has CCB when you undress her. No option to dress her up and go back to being just normal friends by then

[candeo_88]

Feelings and emotions will build up and grow in any relationships...This is human nature...So most importantly, know when to draw the line and when the it is time to cross the line, cross it bravely and confidently. It will lessen the pain.

Some lines are short like a 100m sprint whereas some are like a full marathon...Just gotta know your own ability and capability...

And that's all I have to say about that...

Originally Posted by Neoguri

Bro, if you have regular sex with a person, it is inevitable that some feelings will develop over time.

I have a personal story to tell about this.
My first ons/FB is my neighbor who lives about 200 meters away.
She studied sexology in China and did her thesis on - Will feelings developed over a purely sexual relationship?
Her conclusion is yes, it will.

My mistress over 3 years.
Initially, I treat her purely as a FB.
In fact, in the beginning, I find it difficult to cum pumping her although she gives very good GFE and BBBJ readily.
However, we make love about twice a week over 3 years and did a lot of fun stuff with her kids too.
I developed feeling for her and it was quite difficult for me when it ended finally.