The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

i know wat u mean bro.......go ahead with wat u should do....... as long as wat makes u happy

After thinking it through.. I guess the most simple way is still the best. Just gonna pass her back the watch and just a letter..nothin fanciful...for these past 2 weeks, we did not contact each other at all and i also find out some of the little things she do..not sure if i shld b happy or angry tat she did some of the things..mayb she did the thing unintentionally and i juz think too much again

[jinrenhe]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

..sometimes when she wan to go to other dept to get something..she wld ask me along even tho it might be only for 5 mins..she is quite an independent ger so i dun think its bcoz she is scared or wat..we even came out together with a list of places tat we wan to go together
come to think of it..wat we quarrel is really over such trivial stuff..basically is bcoz i choose to defy her naggings n carry on doin somethin juz to piss her off..during moments of close talks together..she has revealed that it is hard to let go of the old float n go for the new one when she doesnt noe tat the new one might be beta

Actually that's quite sweet... bro, i think u stand a pretty good chance. And even if u failed, at least u can still remain as good frens since both of u have a rather strong foundation for friendship.

ur situation is still better than mine.. the gal i like is alway so friendly & diplomatic towards me. But she wld also never call or sms me jus to find out how i am. We cld chat & joke when we are in school (we're classmates), but after class, i wld like jus disappear from her life.

Indifferences is the worst feelin to experience

anyway good luck to u.... hope u would find the happiness u deserve

[jinrenhe]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

..sometimes when she wan to go to other dept to get something..she wld ask me along even tho it might be only for 5 mins..she is quite an independent ger so i dun think its bcoz she is scared or wat..we even came out together with a list of places tat we wan to go together
come to think of it..wat we quarrel is really over such trivial stuff..basically is bcoz i choose to defy her naggings n carry on doin somethin juz to piss her off..during moments of close talks together..she has revealed that it is hard to let go of the old float n go for the new one when she doesnt noe tat the new one might be beta

Actually that's quite sweet... bro, i think u stand a pretty good chance. And even if u failed, at least u can still remain as good frens since both of u have a rather strong foundation for friendship.

ur situation is still better than mine.. the gal i like is alway so friendly & diplomatic towards me. But she wld also never call or sms me jus to find out how i am. We cld chat & joke when we are in school (we're classmates), but after class, i wld like jus disappear from her life.

Indifferences is the worst feelin to experience

anyway good luck to u.... hope u would find the happiness u deserve

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by Archduke

Pride is your worst enemy so keep it in check.

Agree - "It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride."

JWNY

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by Archduke

Pride is your worst enemy so keep it in check.

Agree - "It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride."

JWNY

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by Archduke

Pride is your worst enemy so keep it in check.

Agree - "It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride."

JWNY

[Know_yr_role]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

A man got to do wat a man got to do but the timing is not rite now..everything has its time n place..meanwhile its a gd for me n her to think of wat we really want..lovers? gd frds? or juz strangers who understand each other

so bro, how u doing, never see u post for sometime already...so wassup

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

i know wat u mean bro.......go ahead with wat u should do....... as long as wat makes u happy

i did wat i hv to do lioa and she did wat she had to do also..tat is returnin me the watch

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by Archduke

Pride is your worst enemy so keep it in check.

Agree ~ "It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride."

JWNY

[suteerak1099]

where marriage is concerned, there must've been sufficient factors in the relationship that matured over time during & throughout courtship, prior to decisions to take that leap of faith to tie that knot. some say marriage is eternal bliss, whilst some say its eternal BLISTER. no right or wrong in context i reckon...

marriage is a relationship that's being legally bonded, and would mean that parting ways would be a little more inconvenient compared to dating/courtship, and in doing so.. implicates some $ matters too.

am no love guru here, but from observations, a lot lies within the couple involved. and much as we hear, takes 2 to tango/clap. if the giver is giving, while the receipient takes things for granted... nice, but not so nice. if the giver doesnt give, while recipient yearns... not that nice too. ideally, would be more comfortable for both parties to be chipping in...

[suteerak1099]

(source: forwarded email)
*The Ten Commandments of Marriage **

*Commandment 1.
Marriages are made in heaven. But, so again, are thunder and lightning.

Commandment 2.
If you want your wife to listen and pay strict attention to every word you
say, talk in your sleep.

Commandment 3.
Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!

Commandment 4.
Married life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man
speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

Commandment 5.
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one
thing: Either the car is new or the wife is.

Commandment 6.
Marriage is when a man and woman become as one. The trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

Commandment 7.
Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you
say. After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish.

Commandment 8.
Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a
good cook. But the law allows only one wife.

Commandment 9.
Marriage and love are purely a matter of chemistry. That is why a wife
treats her husband like toxic waste.

Commandment 10.
A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

i've been told that the 1 to marry usually aint the 1 that u truly madly deeply love. some frens actually settle for 2nd best, and their reasons; if she's the 1 that you can't live without... you'd be brewing jealousy for nothing, and cant set your mind at ease when you outstationed...etc.

so if she's the 2nd best, there's less to think about, and where work involves some ECA after hours, there's also less guilt.

i dont know if i'd ever agree with that sorta rationale, but i suppose it being tried n tested, probably has some truth in it...

Its not only that. Sometimes love has got very little to do with marriage. IMHO marriage is about choosing the person you can live with and NOT the one you think you cannot live without.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Its not only that. Sometimes love has got very little to do with marriage. IMHO marriage is about choosing the person you can live with and NOT the one you think you cannot live without.

as some of my frens who're starting to regret their folly of commiting themselves in marriage, always tell me these when we binge at the kopitiam, downing some ice cold beer...

they say:
1. "its always better to be alone, than to be attached to the wrong one."
2. "singlehood has it's pros & cons, when compared against marriage... singlehood wins hands down"
3. "finding the right 1 for eternal bliss in marriage is just a myth"
4. "they say love is blind... i was more than blind, i didn't know what i was thinking"
5. "putting the pen to the paper looks good on photo, but the photo is only for a moment, the torment is for a lifetime"

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

as some of my frens who're starting to regret their folly of commiting themselves in marriage, always tell me these when we binge at the kopitiam, downing some ice cold beer...

they say:
1. "its always better to be alone, than to be attached to the wrong one."
2. "singlehood has it's pros & cons, when compared against marriage... singlehood wins hands down"
3. "finding the right 1 for eternal bliss in marriage is just a myth"
4. "they say love is blind... i was more than blind, i didn't know what i was thinking"
5. "putting the pen to the paper looks good on photo, but the photo is only for a moment, the torment is for a lifetime"

Some of these quotes have turned up at my kopitiam past midnight as well. Fully agree with point 2.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Some of these quotes have turned up at my kopitiam past midnight as well. Fully agree with point 2.

well, i'm not married yet, and i dont know how tormenting it really is like to be married, so i shall not comment if point 2 can be verified.

come to think of it, since products these days have trial period.... perhaps marriages too should also have trial period, before putting the pen to the paper.. hahahaha.