Divorcing a VN Gal - Bros, pls advise

[Scleropages]

Originally Posted by devilman

Is very hard and sad to gave up the child... i believe...

There is an alternative. Go to the courts and get custody and guradianship of the child. Total cost - in the ten of thousands. And, you probably need to wrestle the child back. She may not give the child to you, she may, it depends. But if even dhe give to you, it won't be free. So, that's more $$$ down the drain. And she may appear at your doorstep in the future. Eventually, you'll have to fork out more $$ divorcing her. This is all while you are supporting the child without a mother. That means maid which require more $$. Does that mean that this is a money issue? Well, the truth is, IT IS. Unless you are some Malaysian Prince with plenty of $$, if not, forget it. You'll probably have difficulty finding another wife too with the child. And the burden will stick with you for years. Over time, you'll forget the child. Let the episode pass, and you can move on. Divorce her, get another wife, but don't make the same mistakes.

[GeGe]

Just quietly and quickly divorce her in VN asap, if can. and get less publicity during the process, after finish then talk abt the kids then.

Dont give her the chance of using the "wo... charter" otherwise dead lao

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by Max77

May i speak a few humble sentence?...

TS plse tell ur cousin, without sacrifices, he won't experience true love. If he jus want someone to ease his desire ONLY, might as well stay single, fuck around.

I don't mean to offend anybody, jus wanna state some fair opinion IMHO.

I think many bros here have given very good ideas about the divorce process liao and there is also a Sticky on the Main Page on this matter so reading up these should be enough to start engage a real Lawyer and talk about options. This being a Forum, and NOT a Legal Consultation Website, I believe it is appropriate to share some views here (even though TS says he is NOT interested to listen to any views) as I believe some readers may benefit from it.

I read Max77 humble opinions and I totally agree with him. I guess Max77 must be a person whom understand other countries culture quite well.

I feel that many Singapore men, armed with the Singapore mentality, thinks money can buy anything and the whole world owes it to them... buy a mail-order-bribe and expect the bribe to be like a Electrolux vacuum cleaner.. gives him regular blowjob with lifetime guarantee...

Sure.. the man choose the easy way to get acquainted to the girl, and paid for a service to get the papers done.. and expects to get what he wants... but what about what she wants??? To the man that paid the money... and after signing the papers.. he thinks the deal is DONE.. to the girl.. it may only be the beginning of accessing if this is right or bad idea... sure.. she has bf back home.. but doesn't she have the rights to have bf back home??? If she is attractive and she grows up there and she have bf before contacted by the agency and found her a husband in Singapore, is there anything wrong with that??? Or was it that the Singapore husband already placed booking and start paying maintenance the moment she was born???

To those bros who just jump to conclusion saying .."forget about these bitches.. they are just out for money..." I think that we should not judge all Vietnam girls in such negatives ways so fast, its just not fair.

I believe that for brothers with the idea that money can buy everything will usually end up meeting more girls who are just after their monies and brudders who are more sensitive to needs of others will meet with more fortunate opportunities..

Lets look at things in this perspective.. a poor girl in Haiphong... willing to marry to a 40 year old man in Singapore which could not find a wife in Singapore for 40 years... what kind of man do you think he is??? very handsome and desirable??? I doubt so. And her reasons to marry such a man? for Love?? No, to escape poverty as the main reasons.

So when the papers are finally signed.. i am sure the bribe is more happy than the groom.. but soon the bribe begins to understand the side-effects of such an arrangements and eventually felt that Cons far far out-weighs Pros and that is when she decided to forgo her orginal idea and better to go back and suffer poverty, happier that way. What makes her come to such a conclusion??? I dun think MIL alone is to be blamed.

I hope for any readers who are considering mail-order bribes.. i suggest that you should not start calling agents to see catalog of how pretty are the available bribes and how much is the fees.. but first its important to examine your attitude towards this approach .. If you can recognize the fact that if you are 40 or more and still need to go for mail-order bribe, that means no sensible girls in Singapore wants to even consider giving you a chance, and by completing the process with the mail-order bribe, you have just found someone who is willing to give you a chance and you still have to work hard at it to convince that person that you are worth her love and the rest of her life with you.

[hoddioo]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

I think many bros here have given very good ideas about the divorce process liao and there is also a Sticky on the Main Page on this matter so reading up these should be enough to start engage a real Lawyer and talk about options. This being a Forum, and NOT a Legal Consultation Website, I believe it is appropriate to share some views here (even though TS says he is NOT interested to listen to any views) as I believe some readers may benefit from it.

I read Max77 humble opinions and I totally agree with him. I guess Max77 must be a person whom understand other countries culture quite well.

I feel that many Singapore men, armed with the Singapore mentality, thinks money can buy anything and the whole world owes it to them... buy a mail-order-bribe and expect the bribe to be like a Electrolux vacuum cleaner.. gives him regular blowjob with lifetime guarantee...

Sure.. the man choose the easy way to get acquainted to the girl, and paid for a service to get the papers done.. and expects to get what he wants... but what about what she wants??? To the man that paid the money... and after signing the papers.. he thinks the deal is DONE.. to the girl.. it may only be the beginning of accessing if this is right or bad idea... sure.. she has bf back home.. but doesn't she have the rights to have bf back home??? If she is attractive and she grows up there and she have bf before contacted by the agency and found her a husband in Singapore, is there anything wrong with that??? Or was it that the Singapore husband already placed booking and start paying maintenance the moment she was born???

To those bros who just jump to conclusion saying .."forget about these bitches.. they are just out for money..." I think that we should not judge all Vietnam girls in such negatives ways so fast, its just not fair.

I believe that for brothers with the idea that money can buy everything will usually end up meeting more girls who are just after their monies and brudders who are more sensitive to needs of others will meet with more fortunate opportunities..

Lets look at things in this perspective.. a poor girl in Haiphong... willing to marry to a 40 year old man in Singapore which could not find a wife in Singapore for 40 years... what kind of man do you think he is??? very handsome and desirable??? I doubt so. And her reasons to marry such a man? for Love?? No, to escape poverty as the main reasons.

So when the papers are finally signed.. i am sure the bribe is more happy than the groom.. but soon the bribe begins to understand the side-effects of such an arrangements and eventually felt that Cons far far out-weighs Pros and that is when she decided to forgo her orginal idea and better to go back and suffer poverty, happier that way. What makes her come to such a conclusion??? I dun think MIL alone is to be blamed.

I hope for any readers who are considering mail-order bribes.. i suggest that you should not start calling agents to see catalog of how pretty are the available bribes and how much is the fees.. but first its important to examine your attitude towards this approach .. If you can recognize the fact that if you are 40 or more and still need to go for mail-order bribe, that means no sensible girls in Singapore wants to even consider giving you a chance, and by completing the process with the mail-order bribe, you have just found someone who is willing to give you a chance and you still have to work hard at it to convince that person that you are worth her love and the rest of her life with you.

very well written thks

[kissu]

TS, any updates for the divorcing process or results ?

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

" I think that we should not judge all Vietnam girls in such negatives ways so fast, its just not fair.

I believe that for brothers with the idea that money can buy everything will usually end up meeting more girls who are just after their monies and brudders who are more sensitive to needs of others will meet with more fortunate opportunities..

Fully agree with this statement