Need Help On How To Make My Wife Sexually Active?

[sgboy89]

Originally Posted by Anel King

Well Bro

I have recently started to work out in California Fitness with a trainer. Will see the result in 2 months time.

Hopefully it works.

Regards
Anel King

bro how much you paying per month? package or what?? sorry to hijack this thread ~.~ off topic

[bossy_miaomiao]

Anel King

Situation sound familiar to me...

My suggestions:

1-Since not short handed in taking care kid, try not let kid sleep with your room, to create a love nest for 2 of you only

2-Talk to her again

will try to write more during weekend...

Guo Lai Ren

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by Anel King

Bro

Although what ever you said sounded funny, but I think it sounds very correct.


So I am lost again and might end up in my playground again and follow what you mentioned:

Let me unfold the whole thing in completion for ur perusal. I will type slowly so that u can really understand it clearly.

Somehow most (I would not say all, but most here means anything between 98 to 99%) feels that sex after kids is really what the chinese saying "draw snake add legs". In fact if a whole bunch of mummies get together, the talking topic will be kids, or shopping, fashion, and if 1 of them says "and I still like very much about making love with my husband", do you know what will happed to her???? She will immediately be seen as out-cast and will not be invited for the next group outing. I am not making this out, this has been written in one of the magazine before (either Female or Her World kind of mag).

IMHO, there is NO WAY to escape from this for those who married the 98 to 99% of Singapore girls... u can take whatever precautions but u will get into this trap 98 to 99% of the time. Some brudders here have suggest various ways.. such as :

1. To know if she likes sex before marrying her
2. Dun let her do too much housework, otherwise she tired and stressed
3. Plan time away from kids..
4. The stupid list goes on...

Let me tell u the facts... my wife (by default referring to the Singapore one.... I still got a few others outside of Singapore by the way..) before marriage, we quite active sexually.. after marriage, very active quarreling (as a means of communication, which is still ok), and a lot less sex.. after 1st kid, 1 more time and kenna 2nd kid and no more.... and that was 6 years ago.

Most of my friends go thru this... kids stick to mummy, mummy sleeps in kids room ... etc.. and then SUDDENLY when kids reach teens, they usually dun want mummy anymore.. that is when trouble starts... wify by then either late 30s or early 40s, she suddenly want the husbands again.. by then husbands used to greener pastures already and dun want old vege anymore.. guess wat happens??? Divorce!

By the way, my wife (the default one) does not have to work.. house got maid, no need to worry about money as every month I gave her a lot more than the average income of Singaporean (>$3k) to spend. Even bought her a car at a point in time until 1 day damn fucking frustrated with her, sold it! So if u look at the check list above... even if u check everything on that list the wife reserved the rights to add couple more things to the list without prior notice one!

From what u wrote, i can tell that u are probably age 30-35. If u talk to people who are 45-50... especially those travelling biz people, u will see what I mean.

So nowadays, when some young men tells me they are going to ROM with their Singapore gf.. i tell them ROM = Registry Of Mistake. I even tell them dun ever invite me to their wedding if they are marrying a Singapore girl.. because it will be no different from attending their funeral...

Since u have already married a Singapore girl (my deepest condolences to you), i suggest that u should live ur life in such a way that u will have little regret if you should die in ur sleep tonight and not wake up tomorrow. Go for what u think u deserve, but try not to jeopardize the family... and trust me that this is a lot easier and better than to try to convince ur wife that u need sex to stay sane.

As the saying goes, what kind of wife a man wants.. well, they want:
a wife that can cook
a wife that bear child and take good care of the child
a wife that is good in bed
and a wife that is like a best friend..
I really took that advice and so now I have 4.

[pottter58]

Hi Bro

why do you discuss wif wife on tie up the so that it would be safer on sex with each other. at least she won't get prenant... oop spelling mistake...
btw it safe when before birth tell doc so that yo wont have to pay extra.

Then both of you can enjoy sex again. lah

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by hotspurs

hi all. I guess this is a common issue for many bros considering numerous similar threads now and in the past. I have been married 10 yrs and have a 6 yo daughter. we hardly have sex, maybe 1-2 times a month many times when we do, she does it grudgingly, make me feel a begger. Sometimes i just fantasize about another girl and pump away or I just walk away. Things got quite bad as I resented her and would give her the cold shouler treatment. sometimes I get paranoid at times thinking she may be fucking around outside.
but I soon "saw the light". if she does not want sex and I need, just go find FL, fuck and pay up. for the past few years, I have been regular to HCs, KTVs, FLs. My thinking very simple - play, fuck whatever then at 6pm sharp, I go back to my wife & kid and we have dinner, shopping etc. This way, everybody happy. My wife not pressured and I don't resent her anymore. I find my mood much lighter since then and I enjoy my family time better. Although sex is important to me, my wife is an excellent mother, works hard to bring home $ too, respects my parents etc all these are impt in marriage too.

Bro Chef, thanks for the encouragement.

Bro hotspurs,

Even though we are in the same boat, at least you get 1-2 in a month, i only got 1 in the last year.

I am not much of a good liar and i don't know if i can hide the fact the i am going to meet women outside for a f**k time. Plus financially i may not be able to sustain as of yet. (Take home is only 2.5K. have to pay loan for house)

The more i read you brothers responses here, the more i think i might just end up in the old playgrounds or look for a cheap FB. (Nothing is free right bros)

But bro, there is so much of similarities i see in you with me, especially the last sentence about your wife.

I just hope things turn out better in a few months.

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by analicious

Hi bro i'm going through what you are going through and i tot my 3 weeks was bad but your's 3 years Even now i'm feeling bored of releasing on my own.
Same like you dont wish to go back to the old hunt.

Anyway i'm new here noe nothing abt this site until saw my friend log in and was surprised there such a site in sg but i like what i see now i'm into reading the stories here to pass time and forget abt going back to the old hunt .

Seriously the the story telling part . Now more into reading abt it rather than doing it .

Cheers everybody.

Hi Bro
My sympathies with you as well.

I was actually a follower of Sammyboy since it was in delphi forums, more than 12 years ago. My user id was Anaconda. (had a number of posting as well as starting the PB HC Girls thread, as i was a regular in PB HC.)

When i was dating my wife, i stop logging on to the forum in 2005. At the same time, stop going to the playground. After my 1 st child when sex took a nose dive, in joined back SBF, but could not get back my old ID, so reregistered. Only for JG, to read stories & see he pics in the free section. (Similar like why you came here.)

But it is getting harder to avoid going back to the old playground.

But am hopping for the better. And hope the best for you as well.

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by samyboys

u have a fairly reasonable time frame to see if its worth your efforts.

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live and let live - i would seek my own solutions than to be feeling disappointed and allow my happiness to be controlled by others/situation
we adjust ourselves to the environment and not expect it the other way round

Bro samyboys

I hope that it will work out by the end of the year.

I agree with you last line with a minor tweak to it. We adjust ourselves to the environment and not expect it the other way round, to make our lives better or worse.

If i decide to cheong the old playgrounds with my wifes consent, it can make me happy, but need to see how the family reacts.

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by sgboy89

bro how much you paying per month? package or what?? sorry to hijack this thread ~.~ off topic

Well bro

All you need to do is negotiate as low as you want. Dont settle for the 1st price they give you. even if you have to sit 1 hr just do it. they will get tired and give you the bottom price they can, and not what they want.

That is what i did and i got a very good deal. With instructor of course.

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by bossy_miaomiao

Anel King

Situation sound familiar to me...

My suggestions:

1-Since not short handed in taking care kid, try not let kid sleep with your room, to create a love nest for 2 of you only

2-Talk to her again

will try to write more during weekend...

Guo Lai Ren

Bro

Suggestion 1; Tried so many times, but both mother and daughter not letting go of each other. son sleeps in the cort.

Suggestion 2; Will try again in 2-3months time when my body is toned and muscular. Hope to lure her back.

Will be waiting for you post.

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

Let me unfold the whole thing in completion for ur perusal. I will type slowly so that u can really understand it clearly.

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As the saying goes, what kind of wife a man wants.. well, they want:
a wife that can cook
a wife that bear child and take good care of the child
a wife that is good in bed
and a wife that is like a best friend..
I really took that advice and so now I have 4.

Bro, I like you lah. Very Direct.

On your 2nd Paragraph, her friends and cousins are opposite. they are actually encouraging her to her a 3rd child, but she is resisting.

My 2nd kid is just 8 months, so i pray i don't get hung dry. But from active sex to active quarreling, we are the same. And hopefully i don't get to even speak or think about divorce.

I'm not as lucky as you on the money part but i have decent income and to give her what she needs.

I am 31, going to be 32 in Oct. Just for everyones info, i am a Bhaiyi with turban and beard. And i travel to China almost every month and to Africa 2-3 times a year.

On the Rom part, i have joked with my friends before, "Why you want to commit suicide by jumping into the well and have a onegina policy(one vagina)." But i know what you are talking about.

I accept you condolences half heartedly. Like i said earlier, if i cant convince her in a couple of months time, i will look for greener pastures discreetly, like you have.

If i fail, then i hope to be like you, 4 wives.

Thanks Bro

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by pottter58

Hi Bro

why do you discuss wif wife on tie up the so that it would be safer on sex with each other. at least she won't get prenant... oop spelling mistake...
btw it safe when before birth tell doc so that yo wont have to pay extra.

Then both of you can enjoy sex again. lah

Hi Bro

She actually want to tie up, but i would like to have 1 more before that.

And it's not about getting pregnant that she is worried about. She don't know how to delegate baby work and trust others, including me and family members, to take care of the kids. if she can do this, then i think i will have so much better chance.

Regards
Anel King

[unger]

Bro TS,

I have quite some lady friends whom we talk openly. I understand from them,
that some women, after birth, will lose interest in sex. They become very dry
, even with KY.

Personally i felt that singapore women, not all, tend to be too, overly self-centered. Like one of the brother here said, His wife commented, "not happly eat outside........." see, women tend to say this but when they file for divorce, this are things they used against you, but alway forgooten that they have neglected their husband, and they think it is legal and right. They think they are there just to bare the family 1 or 2 kids and they have done their duty. So they are not for their husband to f*&k.

I do feel sorry for you and those suffering the consequences.

My advise to all brothers out there, try to talk to your wife to solve the problem. Once you head back to your younger days, it will be harder for you to walk out again. And it will be more frequence than you used to do. Not forgetting the money is different, You have to bring home and you have to pay out.

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by unger

Bro TS,

I have quite some lady friends whom we talk openly. I understand from them,
that some women, after birth, will lose interest in sex. They become very dry
, even with KY.

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My advise to all brothers out there, try to talk to your wife to solve the problem. Once you head back to your younger days, it will be harder for you to walk out again. And it will be more frequence than you used to do. Not forgetting the money is different, You have to bring home and you have to pay out.

Hi Bro

Interesting fact. But, like i said earlier, a few weeks back i had 1 session with my wife(after a year), when i fingered her, she got really, really wet. Not to mention, the next few days we were all happy and work was good for me.

Like you say, touch wood, if things take a turn for the worse, divorce, then she can use everything against me. So have to be very careful.

Will try talking to her soon.

Regards
Anel King

[yang punk]

Women are so fucking strange...own husband don't want but other's husband than want!

Why I say this? Cos my experience similar. Wife when busy climbing career ladder and caring for 2 kids (with my help of cos) was not interested in sex. Had to pcc myself whilst sleeping next to her! Until I connected with an office wife. She was married with 2 kids and a busy husband. So we took care of each other at the end of each work day and both go home to our respective families happy.

Even after the relationship ended cordially (she was transferred to another office) I had no problem finding another replacement. Another married woman with busy bizman husband. So no sex at home but got sex in the office! Can't complain.

But funny thing ... now with one foot in the grave wifee wants intimacy but I am not interested!

[laudiko]

mine only allow sex every 2 weeks....so consider lucky???