Providing a gift on your first meet up?

[Apocalypse]

I will put gifts at lockers around the areas we are going to meet up

If I like the girl, I will say some mumbo jumbo leading up to me passing the key to the girl to go to the locker and pick up the gift, not knowing what she is going to get.

of cos if I meet some ogress, I will try telling her that I have given her the most precious gift of all, my time which I can never take back from her ever again. the key to the locker I keep in my pocket, and later I get my bangala to pick up for me, and bring it back to office.

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

braddahs should just gift money.

don't you just give your maids used food wrapers for them to do scrap bokking as gift?

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Give money? As in ang bao? On the 1st date? Or shove straight into her hand like giving WL for the time she spent wif U?

Braddah, of course not. Just hand out like offering candy or gum.

[hamsapkwai]

Buy a gift on the first date? Is`nt that like starting the relationship on a wrong note?

Will it not make the other party always expect something every time?

Will that not set the stage for a materialistic relationship?

[sean69]

Originally Posted by hamsapkwai

Buy a gift on the first date? Is`nt that like starting the relationship on a wrong note?

Will it not make the other party always expect something every time?

Will that not set the stage for a materialistic relationship?

depends on the gift... if it a rose-flavored condom, i'll say the relationship is starting on a FANTASTIC note!! ... provided she dun give you a tight slap...

[sean69]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Braddah, of course not. Just hand out like offering candy or gum.

Braddah !!! ... at the risk of getting zapppsss... Braddah !! .. it is one of those rare day/post which makes me laugh... thanks for bringing a smile to my miserable monday!!


cheers...

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by alan0338

wah, tis scene reminds me of many years ago i kena b4 leh...

years ago got a auntie ( neighbour ) intro me ( cos i always home stayer and she tot i am the guai guai type ) her indonesian chinese niece ( can speak mandarin and cantonese cos she stay in SG very long liao ) to be frenz, then before the meetup few days the auntie told me the gal already standby present liao, so stingy me also lan lan go and buy a necklace with a heart shape pendant as present for her.

sekali when we saw each other, the chemistry not there and we suan each other until jialat jialat ... but she steady leh, still give me the present a branded wallet and i steady also give her the present...we accepted the presents ( with suaning ) and she asked me y we buay gum and i still give her the present, i asked her back and she told me 麻烦 to bring back and she nobody to give the present, so my itchy mouth also say best is u always many 麻烦 in the future and can give me many presents if she dun have ppl to give the presents to ... ..

then she chase me for my answer as to y i give her the present and since i dun wan give her the same answer, i told her tat 丢锅不丢盖， 有空来场友谊赛, she laf until peng and we seperated ways ...

the shocking part was few months later, she jio me go to drink and we fuck for almost a year till she found her BF and say bye bye to me...the day was a sad day for me cos i ask her whether still have 友谊赛 or not and she very firmly said NO!!!

Dear Bro alan0338,

"Bu zai hu tian chang di jiu... zhi zai hu cheng jing yong you".... suits your shared experience well... ;p.

thanks for sharing and given your "sense of humour".. i'm sure you will have never-ending of "FB"... ;p...

Gd day to ya...

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Was told to come to this thread so here's my 2 cents on this matter

wow... thanks for "patronizing"... ;p

This is self imposed stress but i think if she bot you a gift and you bot her a meal and movie, it kinda evens everything up ya?

Hmm.. subjective bah....... if it's me..... a reciprcate of a gift in return is needed....

Agree, very sincere and nice gesture, wud touch anyone's heart I'm sure.

I'm all for the--- a gift during first meet up--- campaign.... ;p ..... somemore the girl was petite and quite pretty.... ;p

I think this part is purely voluntary. A good intention may backfire like you mentioned in para 1, that poor guy feel so obligated to get her a gift back in return, so the atmosphere has progressed into a tense one, so to speak.

It will catch anyone by surprise bah.... what if you were in his shoes? ;p


Ok, the million dollar Q to this thread:


The intention was for something more to happen after the 1st meeting, but if there's no chemistry, I'd still give the gift I bought, can still have a friend who you may never know, will one day know someone whom you're chasing and just might say some good words for you because of that little gift

Yup.... bridges are not meant to be burnt... ;p

Keeping it for the next better player is an alarm bell that shud go off it anyone was to even think of it and yes, I dare to be certain that there are some super el cheapos around. Remember, the phrase here is sincerity, but a gift looked at the viewpoint of an investments spoils the intention for any meetup in the 1st place.


I feel..... some may actually do tht..... just maybe they dnt actually comment it out here as it is not very nice.... maciam... miser like tht... ;p break their future conquest of prospective FB.... ;p


Agree, cannot be lovers FB sex slaves but can still be friend wor and better to have a friend than none

sex slaves?.. wow..... tht is one kinkiness you have there ;p....


Dear bro do_you_bj,

thanks for your detailed comments... gd day to ya.

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by sane

I actually tot both will end up together.

Dear bro sane,

Thanks for giving your first post to me..... i'm "touched".. ;p

anyway.. "guo men jiu shi ker"..... ;p.....

in regards to your comment, it was the first and last meet up.. :s..... i;m not the male lead yah.. i was the "paparazzi" tht day... ;p

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by EatPrayLove

this is an interesting question that makes me think for a moment.

it's really nice of the lady to prepare a gift for the guy. I highly suspect this lady watch too much korean drama...

ok back to TS question:

if i am caught in the same situation, i will still give the present to the guy but make it clear that it's just a token of appreciation to him and hopefully we can still remain as friends simply because you never know when you might need his or her help someday.

Dear Sis EatPrayLove,

Kudos for "daring" to make it clear face to face....

What if .... he threw that back to you or in your face as he may feel "humilated" in your clarification to be as "friends"..... some guys/grls may be emo yah.... ;p..... The truth hurts at times.... ;p

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by FarAway

Well I guess history will teach you that a little gesture can go a long way! Talk about having fren with benefits for a year!

Hmm though I am not sure whats the practice nowadays on first meetups.. (I personally don't have much experience to boast of) I guess it will usually be better to have have a little gift rather than not.. I say a small box of chocs will do fine.. can't go wrong with that.. In case u meet a good catch you will be glad you scored cookie points.. even if buang, stay as friends also ok (but let your intentions be known clearly thereafter though). Is like I would rather be over-prepared than to need it and don't have it.

And I won't "save" the gift for another session/girl la.. If I brought this gift along during dinner or what just give liao. Cuz I would say if have this sort of kiam siap mentality very hard to score big also.. haha and bro alan will testify to that..

Dear bro faraway,

"life is like a box of chocolates..... you never know what you gona get" A quote from the movie... forrest gump........

Giving it out to her.. you really dnt know wht you gona get later on... if she is interested in you.. and stalk ya..... ;p

Anywya... yup... agree tht choco is easily accessible the best to obtain.. given the short notice......


thanks for your comments... gd day to ya.

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by 2centsworth

Rachel set me on a date
Meet her best friend, name is Kate
Kate treat movie, I treat meal
Make a new friend, that’s the deal
Should I prepare a present?
Was told Kate joined some pageant
Gift should help me impress her
How to impress pageant girl?

Present too big, hard to hold
Carry around she will know
Present too small what’s the point
Make me look cheap, my viewpoint
Plan a gift to suit the date
I think that will impress Kate
During movie, share a cake
Then tell Kate the cake I bake

Don’t bake cake then make sandwich
Finger food leaves Kate bewitched
Simple gift that feels quite smart
Through her stomach reach her heart
Date fail also never mind
Eat liao leaves no gift behind
No gift that may come haunt you
In ways you yet have a clue

Dear bro 2centsworth,

I missed your reply in this thread of mine... anyway.. to repeat...


Kamsia for using my thread.
Komment like yours makes me glad.
Idea of cake is really great.
Sweet and thoughtful great as bait.
Just be sure that there is toilet break.


.......... thanks for saying you like la..... (Ker qi hua).... ;p.......

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

braddahs should just gift money.

Dear bro REG,


hmmmm....... what is the reason for giving money? n what is the "reasonable" quantum?....... how to present the money?...... in angbaos?.... white envelopes?........ or just... "nah.... 10bucks.... adios..".... ;p


Given your "high" EG, i dnt tink you will give money bah......... ;p


Try again? i give you "samula"(sorrie.. forgot the exact malay spelling) ;p


anyway.. thanks for your comments.... dnt get so charged up yah.... ;p... cool as cucumber pls.... ;p

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by Apocalypse

I will put gifts at lockers around the areas we are going to meet up

If I like the girl, I will say some mumbo jumbo leading up to me passing the key to the girl to go to the locker and pick up the gift, not knowing what she is going to get.

of cos if I meet some ogress, I will try telling her that I have given her the most precious gift of all, my time which I can never take back from her ever again. the key to the locker I keep in my pocket, and later I get my bangala to pick up for me, and bring it back to office.

Dear Bro apocalypse,


lockers around? maybe only gym.. library...nia leh..... not much options..... under flower/plant pots maybe more feasible. ;p

First meetup and you perform the key act? ... if i'm the grl.... i tink you may be "trying too much".. unless i am totally smitten with ya.. tht i tink everything you do... even a fart from you... is cool..... ;p


time is money... you do have the same stance as REG leh... bros indeed ;p..... or "nemesis" indeed.... ;p.......... you sure you will say that to her?........... the bridge will be gone in a flash to me... ;p you may even get a real "kick" from her ;p..........


banlga?.. hmmm.. r you the "businessman" who had the ingenius idea to get the bangla to go into our casinos? and "roll" for ya...... ;p


Anywya.. thanks for your comments..... no offense to my "poking" yah... ;p
You always "poke" ppl....sometimes.. let others "poke" you abit la.... ;p....


gd day to ya....

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by hamsapkwai

Buy a gift on the first date? Is`nt that like starting the relationship on a wrong note?

Very subjective..... if everyone is mature enough... i dnt tink it will be an issue....

Will it not make the other party always expect something every time?

Same thing... maturity and sensibility prevails.

If the other party always give me gift,... i will freak out instead... i will feel she maybe garung guni..... have kept alot of things... and cant wait to give them all out ;p

Will that not set the stage for a materialistic relationship?

same stance... Subjective....


Dear bro hamsapkwai,


Well..... finally .... an opposition party to the "idea"...........
But IMHO, there shouldnt be an issue... if everyone is sensible and mature enough...

Thanks for the "ponder" comment...


gd day to ya.