Attracted to married ex-gf!

[lawry]

Originally Posted by BigGuy

hey seasoned ppl like us talk w peace okie

i dun refute what u had say.....now say if u know n she chose to screw wud u pull back? there's a unwritten rule then we should not.....but again bro......in reality who cares......it has happen and will never stop to happen......

hahahaha....think a couple of buddies we know including me has gone thru this situation.....worst is the ppl screwing r not just from somewhere outside but w a few from the forum lor.....

Case close shall we????

hmmm.. i get to know who u mean.. pm u..

[casannova03]

all bros, what i think is that this type of issue is very subjective....what i meant in the earlier post of mine is that if we have to do it, let it be an unforgettable night of passion and forget about it altogether... i know a lot of bros will think otherwise of disagree but trust me.....it is very very hard to resist...bros who have been in this situation should know.

I am not saying that by going ahead is correct but then again what you deem right might be wrong to another person....so although we can give a lot of advice. it is still up to bro tanalfred to assess the situation based on real time and take his own course of action.

one thing for sure....all bros will support you no matter what you do!!!

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by BigGuy

Allow me to put some scenarios:

1) you happen to meet a er while clubbing.....went to bed and after awhile u learnt she had a bf.....wud u still continue to screw her if she wants? wud u do it w an xcus like well she is not married?

2) you happen to bump onto a lonely ger/wife w unsatisfied sex life.....wud u do it?

3) u have a gf.....not sure if u wud marry her.....wud u refrain from screwing her? wud u do it simply u think u have the rite as a bf/gf?????

Scenario 1 says that "after a while", than you know of her background.

Scenario 2 says you "bump" onto a lonely ger/wife.

Scenario 3 says doing it with "your own gf."

None of your scenarios say doing it knowlingly with an ex-GF who is already married or meets with the same situation as bro tanalfred.

All in all, we're just giving our 2 cents worth not to do it but if bro tanalfred wants to go ahead, no ones's to stop him. If he can live with it, so be it. If he doesn't care should the ex GF and her hubby breaks off when he finds out, so be it.

There are different types of people which makes up this world. Some guys don't give a damn to others as long as it is not their heartaches. I mean, some guys don't even care if the girl commits suicide should her marriage breaks down.

Our advise to bro tanalfred is based on the undertanding from his past postings that he isn't the type of guy. Of course we could be wrong.

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[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by casannova03

all bros, what i think is that this type of issue is very subjective....what i meant in the earlier post of mine is that if we have to do it, let it be an unforgettable night of passion and forget about it altogether... i know a lot of bros will think otherwise of disagree but trust me.....it is very very hard to resist...bros who have been in this situation should know.

I still meet up with my ex-wife. In fact, she employed me to work as her personal administrator for a period while I was "jobless". I drove her mercedes while she's outstation (half the time she's outstation) while her husband still takes the company transport to work. Sometimes I travel with her outstation too. She sent me for a 3 days course which her husband was attending where we sat together. BTW, her husband paid his own while she paid for mine. Does my ex-wife still love me? Yes she does. Do I still love her? You bet. But there was never a doubt in her husband's mind that we might have a secret affair, etc simply because, my ex-wife and I knows how to respect each other, and also respect our own selves. So before we even think of resisting, take a good look at ourselves and assess how much self resect we have first.

I am not saying that by going ahead is correct but then again what you deem right might be wrong to another person....so although we can give a lot of advice. it is still up to bro tanalfred to assess the situation based on real time and take his own course of action.

Let me assure you that if bros here feel that their advises to bro tanalfred not to going ahead to have an affair with his married ex-GF is right, I do not think anyone will come in and say the advises are wrong.

one thing for sure....all bros will support you no matter what you do!!!

Don't bet on that.


thaivisitor
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[BigGuy]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Scenario 1 says that "after a while", than you know of her background.

Scenario 2 says you "bump" onto a lonely ger/wife.

Scenario 3 says doing it with "your own gf."

None of your scenarios say doing it knowlingly with an ex-GF who is already married or meets with the same situation as bro tanalfred.

All in all, we're just giving our 2 cents worth not to do it but if bro tanalfred wants to go ahead, no ones's to stop him. If he can live with it, so be it. If he doesn't care should the ex GF and her hubby breaks off when he finds out, so be it.

There are different types of people which makes up this world. Some guys don't give a damn to others as long as it is not their heartaches. I mean, some guys don't even care if the girl commits suicide should her marriage breaks down.

Our advise to bro tanalfred is based on the undertanding from his past postings that he isn't the type of guy. Of course we could be wrong.

thaivisitor
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yap but to sum it all up, if you bump on to yr ex gf/wf who is attached or married but wud still want to sleep w u, wud u go ahead?

Personally I dun think of hard n fast rule as it lies simply on each individual. if one chose not to i applaud him/her. However if one chose to, I still respect it as individual's choice.

I try not to put it as right or wrong but just own choices lor. Cheers

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by BigGuy

Personally I dun think of hard n fast rule as it lies simply on each individual. if one chose not to i applaud him/her.

i concur.

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[BigGuy]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

i concur.

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My respect to u too......

I have a good relationship w my ex-gf who is also happily married w kids.....showered me w expensive gifts and talk anything and everything under sun and could have gone to bed......but we respect each other too much to do that. So like we mentioned, it lies on each other and has no right and wrong.

Well w my other ex i dun think so much lor.....my worthless comment la

[guru888]

Originally Posted by Wins88

Bro, dun touch other people's wife lah. They may actually have a happy home. Just remember - what goes around comes around. Some guy tried to screw with my marriage simply because I was too busy with my business to "take care" of my wife for a few months. Really pissed me off. Still haven decided what to do with the asshole yet! I
n fact, any bros want 2 recommend what to do with the offender? Any suggestions?

Wins88, before you go blaming the other guy for everything, remember that your wife was a willing party too. If your wife resisted his advances, nothing would have come out of it. I do understand how you feel but please work things out with her first, make sure that she is still not seeing the other guy behind your back. If she is still unfaithful to you despite what had happened, my advise to you is to bail out immediatly, don't was time and experience unnecessary anguish over the relationship, afterall, if it can happen once, what makes you so sure it would not happen again. Can you guarantee 100% that it won't happen again? Just my advise, no hard feelings......

[casannova03]

hmmm....after much pondering i will have to say that bro thaivisitor is very right!
dun look at it as i change my mind very fast but after all i am still young and have not experience what some senior bros have gone thru. so all suggestions are based on my current experiences under my small belt....haha..i dunno if i would have the same self control if i were to get in such situations....haha

[lawry]

all u guys should have watch desperate housewives and tell me how u guys feel.. the brazilian housewife having an affair with a kid.. sigh..

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by Wins88

Bro, dun touch other people's wife lah. They may actually have a happy home. Just remember - what goes around comes around. Some guy tried to screw with my marriage simply because I was too busy with my business to "take care" of my wife for a few months. Really pissed me off. Still haven decided what to do with the asshole yet! I
n fact, any bros want 2 recommend what to do with the offender? Any suggestions?

bro, I sympathise with you.

Much as I would like to advise you to beat the shit of of the guy, I can't since there will be legal or criminal repercussions.

So I can only advise you to bring your wife go and visit the guy in his home, in front of his family members, and ask him whether he's willing to marry your wife as you're going to divorce her. Hopefully, the guy is also married with kids. Even if he's not, make sure his parents are around.

Let's see how he answer in front of his family.

As for your wife, I don't know how you're going to deal with her. For me, if my wife betrays me, don't care how much I love her , kids or whatever.... she's history. Too bad if I'm an MCP.

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[tanalfred]

I'd like to thank all who have offered me advice. You have all been a great bunch to take time to listen to my question and providing me with constructive and mind-challenging thoughts. I admit that my flesh is weak and the memories of past closeness tempts.

To set the records straight, I do know her husband as he was her collegue. For all our meetings, she has informed him, and he is well aware. In fact, we bumped into him and his friends while we were walking from our meeting point to the restaurant for our lunch. They both work in Raffles City.

Regardless, I appreciate all your comments and I will abide by them to keep the friendship clean and alive, and while there remains the memories of good feelings of each other between my ex-gf and myself and while we silently know its special since we were each other's first love, life goes on.

Thanks!... and especially to a Samster who had private messaged me and shared a great deal which will remain in my mind to steer me from doing wrong. Thx!