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#32
11-08-2010, 02:07 AM
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Do you know why you're here so often and for so long a duration (if any)?  I can understand if you're here for the stories or photos or checking out the FR with intention to hook up a pros. Prob for me is that I don't know 
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与其诅咒黑暗，不如燃起蜡烛。 
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#33
11-08-2010, 02:11 AM
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well, i don't check out the fr links, read all the stories... just hanging ard, don't knw for what reason, looking at my posts to see if anyone replied, or my pms if anyone msg me... refresh it every now and then, just to see it same as 1 min before... my joining date is new but have been here looking for quite a few years already... lasttime never join is becaz scared kana caught by gf with sbf on my com...
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#34
11-08-2010, 02:11 AM
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Most of the above applies to me too  Whenever I go to foodcourts near to hotels and I see a good looking babe having a meal with a guy, I auto go - New babe ?? Make haste to go check out SBF for new entries   Quote:
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#35
11-08-2010, 08:38 AM
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i always think to myself when i see some chio bu : did they ever CIM and swallow ... ...
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#36
11-08-2010, 05:38 PM
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i think the clue lies in "ANXIETY-REDUCTION" ... when i am overwhelmed with lifes challenges, personal & work wise ... i surf sbf ... think it does reduce anxiety for me cos i can drift into sbf world & avoid taking on life's challenges head on .. days when i am busy taking on those challenges i never miss sbf & surf here...its only when i am feeling overwhelmed that i do ... so it is a reaction mechanism for me ... i got the heads up from this article on sex addiction ...but what the doctor says can be said about any addiction in general .. it reduces anxiety to address the real issues... to me what i call AVOIDANCE MECHANISM .... i am not a sex addict ...yes i have high sex drive ... but my addiction is sbf i paste here the full article with my own highlights ... cheers all Helping sex addicts Out of crisis comes opportunity, an old saying goes. The beleaguered golf No. 1 Tiger Woods has been slammed by critics for his serial infidelity and gossip columnists gleefully latched on to his supposed "sex addiction". I would like to take this opportunity to clear myths swirling around this term and how help can be given to those in need. There has been no shortage of opinions on Woods' dalliances in spite of his cultivated, wholesome family-man image. Addictions manager at London's Priory clinic, Mr David Smallwood, spoke about the golf celebrity's "uncontrolled craving for sex". Outdoor sex gave Woods a "high" while his having many mistresses was an illness. The suggestion here is that his "cravings" and "illness" are part of a mental disorder. A sex addict is somehow "broken" and can be fixed. However, addiction of any sort is a complex condition with no simple solution. It is perhaps better here to use the term "sexual compulsiveness". Dr Drew Pinsky of the hugely popular American TV show Sex Rehab touched on this aspect when he speculated that Woods has a larger problem - chemical addiction. It is true that people said to be sexually compulsive have often - when thoroughly assessed - admitted to multiple addictions, such as to heroin and alcohol. Here again, there is no easy linkage. Underlying a compulsive behaviour may be a history of early abuse or neglect, as well as difficulties with intimacy and emotional closeness. What then do we know about sexual compulsiveness? For a start, the sex drive is part and parcel of our being human and there is such a thing as a "sexual peak", especially when one is young and sexually active. However, a high sex drive is not automatically a sexual addiction or compulsion. What is sexually appropriate varies from culture to culture and from one time in history to another. So when a client comes to see me, what is normal sexual behaviour, problematic behaviour and behaviour that is a symptom of underlying psychological distress has to be sorted out. The research has shown that sexually compulsive clients are driven by anxiety-reduction mechanisms rather than by sexual desire. In short, their behaviour reduces anxiety and distress, which lead to an ongoing cycle and further anxiety and distress. Here is the nub of the problem. As clients do not typically recognise their sexual compulsion as a problem, they are likely to keep behaving that way for many years, making it a highly reinforced behaviour that is resistant to change. The key is to try to eliminate the most destructive elements, rather than try to stop immediately all compulsive sexual behaviour. Helping clients to understand the source of their fears and anxieties will help them to manage their behaviour. This might include memories of childhood. What is now clear is that there are people who - without help - cannot curb, control, or modify their sexual behaviour, even when they are aware of the negative social, medical or financial consequences. Their sexual behaviour usually stems from over-control, guilt and anxiety. I would advise a client to not demonise sex and sexuality but to develop an understanding of sex as something that is good and an important part of who they are. Couples need to learn to improve marital intimacy with communication skills, negotiating roles and rules in the relationship and improving conflict-resolution skills. Sex therapy exercises can be helpful to improve their sexual and intimate relationship. Indeed, a support network and consolidation of gains are necessary, as these enable clients to discuss difficulties encountered and to help avoid any relapse. They become a window into how one would handle difficult situations in the future. Working with sexually compulsive clients can be a long-drawn process, often with twists, turns and obstacles, Success is achieved when clients become motivated and are armed with the resources to return to healthy sexuality. The results are gratifying. Dr Martha Lee is a clinical sexologist. She holds a doctorate in human sexuality and provides life and sex coaching at Eros Coaching.
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#37
11-08-2010, 06:27 PM
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guess 1 word for me, but dunno apply to u guys or not.... BOREDOM
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#38
11-08-2010, 10:41 PM
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. Work can get boring sometimes, so just a way to amuse myself, but It does become addictive . Cheers to all bros here ........
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#39
11-08-2010, 10:53 PM
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(It's not just about boredom, for me.) This is it - explains everything why I'm here and my behavior. I do notice it's somewhat "seasonal" too, given that I can totally forget about SBF for many months only to find myself back again for a very intense and frequent period. Too bad I'm channeling my attention here so as to avoid the other "life challenges" which you rightly diagnosed. Unfortunately it's a waste of time; wish I could channel the energy to something more productive  Fact is that I'm super busy, and definitely have many other productive things to do even if it's being online too, instead of checking out new threads and making silly posts. Need to get out of this "addiction". Incidentally, I was just checking out this article: The Truth About Sex Addiction while trying to self-diagnose thinking that I'm having somekind of sex addiction... which is not (well, maybe just the part on "Using sex as a way to deal with problems and stress" mentioned) Good to know I'm not alone with this ANXIETY-REDUCTION thngy! Will see how I can utilize these energy more effectively... Thanks man!
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与其诅咒黑暗，不如燃起蜡烛。
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#40
12-08-2010, 02:46 AM
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everynight i go to sleep and wonder if i got tio zap or up anot.
like stock market likdat sia, even forex market weekend close but this SBF market 24/7.
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12-08-2010, 10:03 AM
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#43
12-08-2010, 02:48 PM
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 Serious problem you having man... Quote:
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与其诅咒黑暗，不如燃起蜡烛。
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#44
27-10-2011, 03:15 AM
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KNN... yet another year over!
Lately again my visits here increased tremendously; keep checking for new threads & post to talk cock sing song. What's wrong with me recently!?? 
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与其诅咒黑暗，不如燃起蜡烛。
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#45
27-10-2011, 07:27 AM
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Perhaps is the one more point to 1,000 that make you ….. too bad I up you before Nevertheless this website is quite a antidote to boredom and stress from work though ….
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