What is the most important factor in finding girls for sex?

[JordanHendo14]

Very good share bro warbird. Thanks!

[warbird]

Originally Posted by JordanHendo14

Very good share bro warbird. Thanks!

Bro, you're welcome.

THE single most important factor in finding and keeping ATTRACTIVE girls of your type for sex is:

Having An Abundance Mindset or Mental Frame

(Which must come from your subconscious mind because you can't fake it.)

Everything else is secondary.

Very few men could grasp this simple concept and even fewer men truly have this miraculous mindset. It's better than gong tao and voodoo magic.

Cheers!

Bro WB

[antartica]

for me when you say SEX it means "eating out"
So my factors are:

1. Price
2. Services rendered
3. Reviews
4. Location

[warbird]

My newest post in my thread:

Originally Posted by georgie1994

other dating site such as sugarbook.live or facebook dating. The main advantage is can choose the profile that you are interested to proceed

Originally Posted by georgie1994

some good sentences to tackle the girl

Originally Posted by georgie1994

sure can, now tech is so advanced

Originally Posted by georgie1994

perhaps the position there, some differences

Tks for your posts.

Originally Posted by Romeo93

Thank you Bro WB for the awesome thread. Best thread in SBF imho.

I have just finish reading from start to end and took a lot of notes.

All of the info here are very Valuable and are Timeless!

And have proved to be very useful…

Thank you Bro WB for the awesome sharing for past 11 years lol.

Bro, tks for your post.

You have made my day!!

Yeah, I started this thread 11 1/2 years ago.

I have learned a lot from everyone here, including the naysayers who have forced me to reanalyze my strategies and practices more critically. I have tried to rectify my mistakes and to improve constantly.

Unfortunately, my improvement has been painfully slow. I have to overcome many negativities in my subconscious mind, imprinted during childhood.

If I could sum up the most crucial revelations about getting attractive girls I have learned in the past 11 1/2 years, after extensive reading, researching, personal hands-on experiences, and reflecting on mistakes by myself and others, here they are:

THE most attractive masculine character trait and the hardest to achieve?

ABSOLUTE EMOTIONAL/SELF MASTERY

What would be the next most important factor?

The frame of a high-value man (aka the Prize) with an abundance mindset, at the subconscious level.

Third? Health and virility.

Originally Posted by beneco

Please la, bro warbird does not need sugarbook

Bro, tks. Everyone may need sugarbook.

Good evening to all samsters,

Cheers!

Bro WB

[Nicktamer99]

Originally Posted by warbird

My newest post in my thread:









Tks for your posts.



Bro, tks for your post.

You have made my day!!

Yeah, I started this thread 11 1/2 years ago.

I have learned a lot from everyone here, including the naysayers who have forced me to reanalyze my strategies and practices more critically. I have tried to rectify my mistakes and to improve constantly.

Unfortunately, my improvement has been painfully slow. I have to overcome many negativities in my subconscious mind, imprinted during childhood.

If I could sum up the most crucial revelations about getting attractive girls I have learned in the past 11 1/2 years, after extensive reading, researching, personal hands-on experiences, and reflecting on mistakes by myself and others, here they are:

THE most attractive masculine character trait and the hardest to achieve?

ABSOLUTE EMOTIONAL/SELF MASTERY

What would be the next most important factor?

The frame of a high-value man (aka the Prize) with an abundance mindset, at the subconscious level.

Third? Health and virility.



Bro, tks. Everyone may need sugarbook.

Good evening to all samsters,

Cheers!

Bro WB

Excellent sharing. Thank you!

[expatamerican]

Originally Posted by WAPRoseCave

In short; you’re asking how to get laid for free.
First and foremost, It’s quite disheartening to see that Escorts/Fls are labelled as non normal girls. Sorry to burst your bubble but we are all under the Homo sapiens umbrella. I found these stereotypes and and misconceptions about escorting experience to always be false during my 3 months dabbling in this alter ego. (Feel free to check out my thread) (and NO; I’m not here to promote my arse but to shed some lights to the ‘stereotypes’ and ‘labels’). Disclaimer: I do not speak for all the FLs out there but me.

1. Apologies amigo, but nothing is free. You’re actually trading your precious time for a ‘chance’ to get laid liken to a baccarat; the date being the ‘house’ at most instances. And most times; a date wouldn’t be free as well.
2. When it comes to the matters of the intangible; blanket statements eg.singaporeans are fat, lazy doesn’t apply as it boils down to individuality.

To answer ur ques..imho,
1. Statuo quo of the person (being a female or Male) and what they are looking for; just after a horrible break up or business traveller/backpacker or in the mood for sexual adventures or they are just looking for sugar daddies..it boils down to their status quo
2. Materials and looks to a certain degree helps a little but it’s easily written off if he has impeccable personality (but it boils down to no 1; if someone is looking for a daddy or to be pampered by then it’s tough to get free sex from them).
3. I think humans are dynamic creatures and in constant evolution..being in the right place and time plays an important role as well.

This is my confession,
I enjoy transient non-committal companionship
With mind blowing fuck as pre-requisite
And token of appreciation as the physical validation to my alter ego.

I’m pretty liberal when it comes to the carnal needs (being abroad for half a decade of my adolescence). When it comes to the carnal needs, it’s never about the checklist of whether he has a Richard Mille watch or takes me to expensive venues; it has always been the vibe and my mental/emotional statuo quo at that point of time. (The irony is I’ve got a soft spot for roadside baskers; hence, not all singaporeans are $$ driven).

Hope the above will be some sort of a tangent or help to you.

All the best! ����

Sorry but working girls ARE different and your post here exemplifies the mindset. "Normal" girls dont equate relationships with gambling. Escorts and Prostitutes have connected directly the act of sex and getting paid and cannot easily set that aside. If working girls do have relationships they are often with men of less income and means than themselves. If they date richer men its always some version of Sugar Daddy or John. Not saying this is 100% true and I am sure there are exceptions. But I would say it mostly holds true. Having said that I have no judgement of working girls at all, just that it brings a certain kind of baggage to a relationship that is hard to overcome.

[lovemachine]

SBF kinda document an aspect of my life. So apart from replying to your thread, I am also penning this as a "journal".

Im not handsome or rich. But I have first hand and seen first hand info what girls might like.

For me back in my teenage years, I was in a top JC and dating a very pretty girl and known openly for being attached.

I was pretty ok in school and super active in sports (track and field team, soccer team and a few other sports).

I have gotten "secret letter" addressed to me and 3 girls back then openly told me they liked me even though I had a gf then. One of them even asked me to go her house for "adult games".

I think girls are hardwired to like guys who are active and full of life? Im certain they like rich and handsome guys too but every girl is different.

Another one (hot Indon Chinese) asked to meet me behind the school hall and we chatted and hugged a bit. But I was 17 then, so no sex in school. This became one of my biggest regret.

My own conclusion: I think at least for that age, being good academically + being sporty help a lot before the women start looking at your career and networth. Women are hardwired to seek out healthy strong men?

When I was in Uni, I was very chatting, humourous and doing my sideline biz outside to supplement my income. This was well known to my peers.

So met a PRC classmate who was doing a module with me and we exchanged contact and kept in touch via MSN messenger.

I didnt think of boning her and we jus hit it off well. So we met up for lunches and chats fairly frequently. One late night while we were chatting, somehow we talked about sex and I told her about my taste in "rough sex" from watching jap porn, she was intrigued to know more and asked me to show her the porn.

So I told her i can pop by her dorm to watch together which she agreed. So the next day when I was free, I sneaked up to her dorm and watched porn together. Barely 5 mins into the porn, I just pounced on her and feast on her.

She like my rough handling and we kept at it for a pretty long time. The most exciting part was sneaking up to her dorm while most of my gf's friends was staying there.

I was a fucked up bf and she enjoyed every moment of it cheating with me behind my gf's back. Going out shopping nearby the uni was a very jittery moment for me then.

My own conclusion: She is a PRC and is prob lonely in SG. I think i am fun loving and engaging (compared to all the engineering nerds in my cohort). So I guess I happened to meet her at the right place and right time.

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In my Uni days, becos i started my business on the side, there is a SG girl who quite like me. We are a group of friends who went clubbing together and she likes the idea and I am very motivated and fun loving (I really enjoy clubbing and having fun and we do not go clubbing then to look for ons). She was a virgin and in the club I often teased her that I am a virgin too (i was just trying to be funny) and without meaning it, I would tease her and say we should exchange our virginity from time to time.

One day, she called me and told me her computer was spoilt and asked me to go to her house (Im pretty IT savvy). I was quite reluctant to go initially (shes not so pretty) and then she told me her parents weren't at home.

I got the hint immediately and just went over. As soon as I reached her place and once I ascertained that there was nobody else but her, I just carried her up and threw her on her bed and just started to take off her clothes in a pretty rough manner. Her groans suggest that she likes it and I screwed her pretty hard in her room. I still remb she has a portrait of Mother Mary on her wall. While I was screwing her, I asked for forgiveness (im not joking) in my heart.

My conclusion: I tried small businesses at a fairly young age and maybe it seems cool to her. Again i think im fun loving and she likes my personality. And no i didnt spend on her (as in buying gifts specially for her). But if we meet up, I will buy her meals and all. But I do this for all my friends.

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Overlapping with the above was a hook up with a SG ah lian. She is a regular clubber in Devils Bar (now closed le), I was learning dancing then and would dance kinda non stop. For her, she "hit" on me by throwing ice cubes at me initially. Actually it kinda hurt but she was just giggling away. She is pretty and tall and I still remb her body art. We started drinking together regularly (dance together whenever we bumped into each other). I didnt even take her number.

One day after drinking, she was bored and asked me out for supper, I said yes and we went to a nearby supper place and went to my office for a chat. In my office, I offered to give her a massage and started with her calves, working my way up her thighs, she was moaning and before long I started massaging her pussy. We then proceeded to have sex in my office. This was a wild girl who later become my gf for 3 years and we used all kinda sex toys and had sex almost daily and everywhere. From hdb stairs, playgrounds, shopping center toilets, parks and even beside the book shelf in the public library! I think to her, she prob found me fun loving as well.

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Devils Bar

In the same club while clubbing with friends, was chatting with this nice Malaysian girl who was really eloquent. I had a good conversation with her and that same night she asked me to take a walk outside the club which I did. Then we held hands and her boyfriend called. While holding my hand she was telling her bf she was with her female bff. I teased her and asked her what she "took me for". She was sheepish and just laughed.

She is a hr professional and worked just 5 mins from my office in Tanjong Pagar. After that night, we would meet for lunch regularly in town and after work she will come to my office and work with me till late.

So knowing she's pretty ok with me, one of the nights i just grabbed her and pinned her in my office and proceeded to strip her. While she was at gun point (at my junior's mercy), she told me after she gives me sex, it means we have a bf-gf rs. I know you find this hard to believe, but I got my junior to stand down and I just masturbated her instead. Wasnt ready for commitment then and she was a really nice girl.

I think she had RS issues and she found me to be a fun loving and humour guy. Oh back then due to all the clubbing and crazy dancing, I had a flat tummy then. She always like to touch my flat tummy and squeeze my perky ass (or so she said)

My conclusion: She was prob feeling lost and looking for romance. And we happened to meet and she prob found me fun loving and entreprising.

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These are the more memorable experiences I had and I had done lotsa crazy stuff.

the human dynamics for knowing someone in different settings are different. So example, I was one hell of a great wing man for my 2 buddies in clubs. I was always able to go right up to a group of girls (or even guys and girls), talk to them (guys as well) and get different groups in a club to party together. I think not many ppl do that (i do that when im sober) and people probably find me confident.

At the same time, I got all my ex gfs from getting their numbers on the street. But I wnt say I do this deliberating to hit on girls to bed them.

I can the kinda person who can chat with anyone (guys and girls) in any social setting and I think it has become second nature. Most of the girls I do not end up doing anything funny, I just chat with them, maybe go out for meals and do periodical texting and usually most of them are already attached.

A few of them if i am at the right place at the right time, then sex happens.

I think being confident in talking to strangers (not just girls) help a lot. Having engaging conversations help.

I do realise the guai guai girls (SG) tend to be wilder than the ah lians or hardcore party girls in bed. They are into role playing and unusually sex compared to the party girls.

And it has been (for me) much easier to get numbers from guai guai girls then those girls who dress very hot and sexy.

I think being rich and handsome do matter (im neither). but if you were a girl and if you are dating a boring rich and/or handsome man, I think you will be bored in no time.

but if you were dating me (full of life, humour and crap), I think some girls will prefer my kinda profile.

Bottomline for me, I think I am generally a fun loving guy to be around with and this helped me bed some girls. But the thing is, I didnt try to be fun loving to bed girls. This is my nature and I realised that the sex happens when I least expect it.

So I guess its a number's game if you wanna bed girls? But I suspect if u do things naturally and be fun and caring, things will just happen naturally.

[warbird]

Good evening,

What an auspicious night!

About two weeks ago I received the following article on A HIGH-VALUE MAN. I have done very minor editing.

A High Value Man

by Stormrider


Your frame should be:

"Let me find out if this girl is interesting."

This is the frame of a high-value guy with abundance.

Women are used to guys rewarding them for being pretty and nothing else. So their default state is to give you the window dressing.

That's why she appears uninteresting.

You reward her for window dressing, which causes her to view you as a low-value guy with no standards.

A high-value guy asks for more than window dressing.

I qualify a woman on her interests, hobbies, goals in life, things she likes to do for fun, etc.

It is only when she opens up to me and reveals what is unique about her that I show interest.

Her effort = my reward.

I do not supplicate. I only appreciate a woman that has depth to her.

And the more I appreciate her unique self, the more I bring it out of her. In a sense, I am almost molding her to be her best self around me.

And after she's completely opened up to me and made an effort to express her real self, that's when I reward her with...

"I just realized that not just are you sexy but you are also (insert unique quality). I really like that about you. Let's hang out sometime."

This paints me as the validator.

I'm the source of validation, not her.

She was the one who qualified herself to ME.

This frame will probably skip over most people's heads.

It doesn't matter if I am on text, in the nightclub, at the gym, social events, etc. I prompt women to make an effort to open up their unique selves to me and show me more than just window dressing before I show them any type of interest.

This makes her see me as a high-value guy with standards and also makes her feel appreciated for being her, and not just another pretty face.

She feels comfortable showing me different shades of her. Something most guys don't see. This is what romance is. Being naked in front of another person. Metaphorically.

In short, my frame is she has to seduce ME with her feminine charms and interesting personality before I validate her and escalate things.

Now whether or not she is willing to submit to my frame is a whole different story.

I set the frame. If she doesn't submit, there is no romance.




Of course, being a high-value man is a lot more than having the right mental frames. However, if you don't have the right frames and an abundance mindset, nothing else matters. It's a prerequisite. Even if you're a very powerful, rich, intelligent, handsome, and sexy real-life prince.

Cheers!

Bro WB

[iluvbreast]

I especially agree to the part about having the right mind set will only get you so far...

One may have the right mindset but he definitely need other qualities to back it up....

The thing is, there are girls who are open to sex and there are girls who will only do it with their bfs (meaning you fuck her, you are her bf or you have to be her bf to fuck her)...if you are only looking for sex then best to stick with the first type, otherwise things can be quite sticky....

[warbird]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

I especially agree to the part about having the right mind set will only get you so far...

One may have the right mindset but he definitely need other qualities to back it up....

The thing is, there are girls who are open to sex and there are girls who will only do it with their bfs (meaning you fuck her, you are her bf or you have to be her bf to fuck her)...if you are only looking for sex then best to stick with the first type, otherwise things can be quite sticky....

Yes, bro.

Mindset or mental frames rule the world.

Cheers!

Bro WB

[sasafa1]

Girls love cumming uncontrollably and getting fucked out of their minds as much as guys love doing it to them.

There's no trick to it, they just need to feel comfortable enough with you to let themselves feel that way.

whether you do it by spending money, looking good or running your mouth off, all is fair in love and war.

[warbird]

Merry Christmas to all samsters,

I like to share some of the words of Mike Haines. BTW, I don't always agree with him...

What is FAR more important than how you look, is how you present yourself…
Your presence… your vibe…. your “energy” as a man.
“Vibe” is a weird word for something intangible which we’ll discuss more in
detail later.

But for the time being, just understand this:

Men are attracted to a woman’s appearance
more than anything else.
But women are attracted to a man’s vibe more
than anything else.

And you’ll be approached by women far more because you have an attractive
vibe, than for your looks.

What is “vibe” exactly?
It’s hard to put into words, but I’ll try to explain it using a little analogy.
“Vibe” as the music of the snake charmer

Having an attractive vibe is like being the snake charmer.
And the “snake”, in this metaphor, is the woman.


When you have an attractive vibe….
it has an almost HYPNOTIC effect on the women
around you.

Despite being a fairly “ugly” guy, I’ve cultivated a
mesmerizing, hypnotic sexual vibe that draws
women to me like the music of the snake charmer.


So as we go forward, keep this in mind.

Making yourself look as good as possible is an important ingredient to getting
female interest and attention, and being approached by women who find you
attractive. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

But there is a much bigger part of this that is not as obvious as looks are — and that’s your VIBE.

THE “RELAXED, CHARISMATIC VIBE” IS
THE KEY TO BEING APPROACHED


It’s hard to “define” vibe in a single word, but here are some rough definitions.

Your vibe is:
- the way you walk into a room
- the way you look at her
- your posture and body language
- the way you move (slow, deliberate gestures and movements)
- being relaxed and loose
- being carefree
- feeling as comfortable in a loud, intimidating nightclub as you would standing
in your own bedroom in your pajamas
- being completely at ease around people
- being able to project “smoldering sexual intensity” with your eye contact,
body language and other non-verbal cues
- having a relaxed, easy-going demeanor


Yes, I have to agree with Mike.

Strong masculine (mental) frame = Awesome sexual vibe

Watch Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca. He had an awesome masculine frame and sexual vibe. He was only 164cm in height.

Good night!

Bro WB

[warbird]

Good evening,

Happy Lunar New Year to all of you!

I quoted a guru in Oct 2014 (posted on my thread).

It's worth reading again and again, for me.

When you behave as THE MAN, you are giving her the most DIRECT “SIGN” of your sexual worthiness - the sign that says you are her missing component, you are the masculine to balance her feminine.

The other “signs” of power are like a roundabout route to a destination instead of the direct route. The other signs are unclear from a sexual perspective since they are not distinctly sexual. After all, a woman can have money, and a man’s looks may be deceiving.

But a man’s actions speak louder about his sexual attractiveness than his wallet, his looks, or his words:

If he BEHAVES like a MAN, he probably IS.
DING! Sexual desire in a woman is now stimulated.

Think of it this way:

Great looks/great wealth/etc. = signs of power = possible sexiness

BUT BEHAVING as A MAN= “proof” of power = definite sexiness

By directly stimulating the “nerves” responsible for triggering a woman’s sexual desire, you BYPASS all the inefficient methods and create an expressway to attraction.

Behaving in a MASCULINE way means being relaxed while also being confident and dominant, and not having emotional reactions to things.

And what do all these behaviors have in common? The answer is EMOTIONAL STRENGTH.

EMOTIONAL STRENGTH

My theory is that women respond to this like nothing else on earth because the truth is that this is the greatest sign of power, and the most difficult to achieve, the most difficult for a woman to find in a man.

You see, money can be given or lost by sheer good or bad luck, looks can fade and be deceiving, but emotions are the great equalizer. Everyone is challenged by their own fears, so the man who conquers his own emotions is usually the ultimate victor.

For example, let’s say you are faced with a great challenge in your life. Whether it's financial, social, or anything else, the fact is, if you are emotionally secure, calm, cool, and confident, you will usually end up conquering the problem and getting back on top of things.

But if you start to fall prey to negative emotions, you will be at the mercy of whatever happens to you and you will be relying on your luck. We all have heard of successful people who have had it all go down the drain and then commit suicide. Do you see how your emotional strength is the truest sign of your personal and inherent power?

A guy who does not get emotionally “messed up” or “bogged down” by life’s challenges, is a guy who will overcome those same challenges.

He will be a man in FAR GREATER CONTROL of what happens in his life, than a man who is a millionaire and is not an emotional winner.

A guy who has his emotions under control and has banished his fears has the power to achieve almost anything and overcome almost any obstacle.

Women understand this on an intuitive level, beyond the conscious.

Women desire to be with this type of man because he makes them burn with pure sexual desire.

As I explained before, at first, you may have to just ACT like the MAN. This is a good start. But don’t stop practicing until you become THE MAN, instinctively.

The irony of it all is that when women sense that you are THE MAN, you will then suddenly be flooded with all the things you have learned NOT to need- affection, support, love, sex, kindness, etc.

Being emotionally strong means you don’t need any particular girl, it means you don’t get jealous, it means you dump “problem” chicks immediately, and don’t play into their games since you know you can find better.

It means that you do not do anything to “win” a girl. You are THE MAN and that’s enough. This means not ever buying a woman something out of the fear that if you don’t, she will “like you less”. If you allow such fears to show, to exist, she will think lowly of you. Put simply, she will think you must be pretty inferior if you feel you need to buy her things.

Most guys talk too much and smile too much in an attempt to win a woman’s approval. Forget the song and dance. All the extra effort to please women comes from fear or belief in romantic lies.

And it always backfires. Women are repelled, feeling that these guys are UNSEXY or they would not be trying so hard.

That doesn’t mean you should not make yourself as good-looking, intelligent, and accomplished as possible. But notice these traits have nothing to do with her. You make yourself sexy by concentrating on improving your confidence, your looks, your personality, etc.

Now, there is a difference between doing something out of ass-kissing and doing something because you would do it for a buddy. Women can tell the difference, and if you do something friendly that you would do with a guy buddy, it’s all right. But it must be clear to her that you are only doing it because you felt like it, and not because you felt you needed to impress her.

When you first meet a woman, be safe: NO FAVORS, COMPLIMENTS, OR GIFTS. For at least 3 or 4 months. And have NO emotional responses to things, period.

If/when a woman says you are so cool and distant, don’t you dare change and become too mushy, because the truth is SHE CRAVES A GUY WHO IS COOL AND MASCULINE.

So become THE MAN. You will never, ever become fearful abt anything in LIFE. You'll never be zealous or emotional or angry, ever...

Does your wife/lover want to leave u? That is her loss! Many prettier gals r lining up for u. Secretly in love w/ a gal for yrs? She will beg u to make love to her n become sexually addicted to u soon! Facing bankruptcy? You will make a comeback n become a billionaire...

Aspire to become THE MAN in the poem "IF."

Cheers!

Bro WB

So become THE MAN. You will never, ever become fearful abt anything in LIFE. You'll never be zealous or emotional or angry, ever...

Your wife/lover wants to leave u? That is her loss! Many prettier gals r lining up for u. Secretly in love w/ a gal for yrs? She will beg u to make love to her n become sexually addicted to u soon! Facing bankruptcy? You will make a comeback n become a billionaire...

Aspire to become THE MAN in the poem "IF."

Cheers!

Bro WB

[Peacekeeping]

Bro warbird are you teaching us to become terminator

[warbird]

Originally Posted by Peacekeeping

Bro warbird are you teaching us to become terminator

Bro,

No, don't become a terminator.

A real MAN has all the positive emotions and traits such as compassion, kindness, generosity, industry, optimism, courage, confidence, trustworthiness, reliability, sense of justice, empathy, n love, etc. Without the negative emotions.

He is a master of his emotions. He has enormous emotional strength and self-mastery, like a supreme zen master.

Become such a MAN.

Cheers!

Bro WB