If you can get hard through masturbation, then highly likely your problem is in the mind or too much porn. I once visited a specialise doctor through some polyclinic referral and i address my issue of being able to get hard through masturbation but semi-hard unable to penetrate for sex or go limp during the act even if i managed to enter. He immediately dismisses my concern without explaining much and ask me to exercise, stop watching porn, masturbation and alcohol then abruptly ended the consultation making it seems like some nonsense without further check/follow up (waited for like 2 weeks for the appointment but consultation only lasted 2-3min haha). I've followed the advice for a month but still similar issue, it takes too much dedication to commit. In the end, i found the blue pill and my sex life have changed ever since. Probably the cheapest and easiest solution with minimal side effect for those who are troubled. I just take half a pill before sex and it works wonder. (Rubber Cock ring works too, but it's quite uncomfortable for me)
Just some background. I am in my 30s now, rarely get morning woods as i watch porn and masturbate almost everyday/alternate day for almost 10years. Recent years i also picked up on whisky, and i sip on it almost everyday but just a little though. I like to edge, so each solo session last quite long and i feel my penis is desensitized from the death grip already. So now it takes quite a bit of patience from ladies for me to reach ejaculation. Sometimes if my physical cannot keep up the sex, i'll have to remove and use hand to finish it myself instead.
I have the same problem as well. Previously was on tongkat ali, not sure if the effect was good cus just started not long with fb. Finished the supplements and also didnt really carry on taking. Recently started to go limp halfway through sex again
Hi bros, understand there’s another dome for sexual health topics, but figured since this dome is more active and that I’ve seen similar threads here before, I could ask here for your advice.
Recently had some issues with staying erect during intercourse. First time I noticed this was about end May, when I had a hookup but cannot stay hard after putting on the condom. After around mid June, another hookup, then one raw but can stay hard. Just today, when I put on condom, instantly soft. Any advice? Could it be me thinking too much/nervous because I was a bit worried before meeting my sexual partner if I can stay hard or not (from the first experience in end may)
Edit: can still get hard normally during masturbation
Bro go get Juagen treatment and at least 2 times a month. I got many lobangs for that, legendary Soda, milfy Baobao,Keke &Mia, pretty one Una and granny type Coco. Try not to release after the JG, your tool will recover quickly. If not can cut away le
Recently I went to a ML for a quick fix (FB not free), and realize I was having issue staying hard.
When I am with my FB, no issue, though last time can stand 2 shot, now only 1 (but I do it raw).
But with ML totally cannot stand.
Not sure if it's the start of ED?
Don't worry, I think its psychological. So long as you can do it, not consider ED yet even though you may not last as long or cum as many times. Just like you I have a FB and we are used to each other's needs. So she knows how to make me high and vice versa and never have any issues. So it can also be a case that you are too used to and sextisfied by 1 partner who is your FB and somemore can do raw. And sometimes outside, the commercial girls cannot give this kind of feeling and gfe to you, that's why your little bro also cannot turn on.
Recently I went to a ML for a quick fix (FB not free), and realize I was having issue staying hard.
When I am with my FB, no issue, though last time can stand 2 shot, now only 1 (but I do it raw).
But with ML totally cannot stand.
Not sure if it's the start of ED?
I had the same issue,with ML works but with GF got issue. It got to a level there so much issues cause I cannot get hard with GF.
What I did was,:
Stop porn
Stop following all the sexy influencers
Start taking maca root and testopherone pill
Half a blue pill when doing it
Do keigels, and started running
I don't take oily food in the lead up and try to keep my mind positive. Most times thinking it will fails causes me to fail.
I wish U the best hope anyone suffering from ED gets better
I had the same issue,with ML works but with GF got issue. It got to a level there so much issues cause I cannot get hard with GF.
What I did was,:
Stop porn
Stop following all the sexy influencers
Start taking maca root and testopherone pill
Half a blue pill when doing it
Do keigels, and started running
I don't take oily food in the lead up and try to keep my mind positive. Most times thinking it will fails causes me to fail.
I wish U the best hope anyone suffering from ED gets better
What worries me the most is that it is the start of something and I want to see if I can prevent it.
Especially when age is catching up, in my 40s.
do you exercise often?
I am in my 40s too. During Covid, I was drinking quite heavily and did not exercise much, it affected my ability to maintain my erection.
Fast forward to today, I do one hour of cardio(running/cycling) for at least 3 times a week, I get stiffer erections and sometimes even wake up with morning wood.
When i was having trouble maintaining the hardness, I took Cialis. It helped with boosting confidence. Now I hardly need it, but still do take it from time to time when I want to have a more steamy night.
do you exercise often?
I am in my 40s too. During Covid, I was drinking quite heavily and did not exercise much, it affected my ability to maintain my erection.
Fast forward to today, I do one hour of cardio(running/cycling) for at least 3 times a week, I get stiffer erections and sometimes even wake up with morning wood.
When i was having trouble maintaining the hardness, I took Cialis. It helped with boosting confidence. Now I hardly need it, but still do take it from time to time when I want to have a more steamy night.
I don't drink and exercise 1-2 times a week, 30 minutes of cardio (running) with 30 minutes of strength training (biceps curls, Arnold press). BMI wise is still considered overweight with belly fat, and it is hard to lose it since passing 40.
Tested again, and went for another ML again, but this time it was in a parlour, more calming. I was able to stand for awhile, but after 5mins it went soft again. Luckily the ML was very nice and kept on till I released it.
I tried it on my FB and it worked normally but needs more stimulation (foreplay) before it can stand properly. With the wife is almost the same as the ML, totally went soft after a while.
I don't want to take any meds, but will maybe try some TCM. Hopefully, it will help to regulate my body.
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I get hard when masturbating thru porn but had problem when try to do my ex-gf. It was embarrassing.
Then I read that was the problem of the mind...
So I experiment with doing with hookers, at first I also couldnt get it hard and even if I do, its not for long... Then I slowly realized that I was treating having penetrating sex as some sort of mission, thus adding stress to myself...
Then I learn to tell myself to just relax and just enjoy the process. Enjoy the the BJ and dont be shy to moan when having a good bj.
When I get a hard on after a BJ, I would request the hooker to immediate ride me... Once I am in the zone, I can change position.
Also learn how your body get arouse. For me being sucked on my nipples get me arouse and hard on even before bj. Having passionate french also helps.
Of cos, having a hooker with good skill is also important.
I also take supplement like Tengkok Ali and L-Arginine in the morning works.
Now in my early 40s, I sometime cant get a hard on with my regular hooker and I realize I was just feeling tired. These days I just visit a hooker only when I feel I am horny enough AND I am well rested. There are days I can extend my session and have 2 pops if my condition is good.
Bottomline is, dont treat sex like a mission and just enjoy the process.
When you feel a good hooker or a partner, stick with her...
I had the same issue,with ML works but with GF got issue. It got to a level there so much issues cause I cannot get hard with GF.
What I did was,:
Stop porn
Stop following all the sexy influencers
Start taking maca root and testopherone pill
Half a blue pill when doing it
Do keigels, and started running
I don't take oily food in the lead up and try to keep my mind positive. Most times thinking it will fails causes me to fail.
I wish U the best hope anyone suffering from ED gets better
Thanks for sharing.
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Don't worry, I think its psychological. So long as you can do it, not consider ED yet even though you may not last as long or cum as many times. Just like you I have a FB and we are used to each other's needs. So she knows how to make me high and vice versa and never have any issues. So it can also be a case that you are too used to and sextisfied by 1 partner who is your FB and somemore can do raw. And sometimes outside, the commercial girls cannot give this kind of feeling and gfe to you, that's why your little bro also cannot turn on.
You’re right. It’s that mental block. Sometimes I find it harder to cure that than the actual ED. If it’s a scientific and physical hurdle, at least with medicine like Cialis or Viagra there’s still help there to aid you in overcoming it, but for physiological ones it’s damn tough.
Wonder if there’s any way out of that mental block? Hipnosis?