Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[WillamSexsphere]

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Many people's ( both men and women ) perception of love is of someone who is more than just a doll - an intelligent being who can hold a conversation, comfort you, a slave, obedient and wont talk negatively back, and all that we ever desire and more.

We want someone who gives and gives without taking. We ourselves have no intention of giving or what we will give is only miniscule, just to satisfy our own ego that we 'gave' too and not just 'take' all the time.

Time to face up to the brutal truth, bros. Self pity will get us nowhere, for what we desire is non-existant, a piped dream, a fantasy.

The reality of love is to be able to give and take between 2 persons. But the problem arises when one starts to place a value on the 'giving' and 'taking' part. More so in our pragmatic ( politically correct term for kiasu ) Spore society.

How to quantify a value on something as intangible as love? If she kisses me on the cheek, but i kiss her on the lips, am i giving more to her than she to me? She cooks and cleans the house, i bring home the bread, who gives more and who takes more?

It's often our calculative nature over small and trival matters that leads us to fantasize for something better and free if possible too - affairs, separation, divorce, etc.

When love is weighted in pratical terms, placed as a commodity with a value, it loses its magical allure. Thus we loose sight of what love is and will never find it if we continue along life with such calculative attitude.

My suggestion is:- drop the calculative nature and experience the joy of giving, within your means. If it is appreciated, you will have found a worthy love.

If not, or your giving is abused, never fear to let go and find another. 6 billion in the world, someone would be waiting to be found by you.

What we can freely and truly give away with no expections for return and with no regrets, we can make it back again, eg, money and emotions of joy.

Only time cannot be returned, but what is time when true love is eternal and in our descendants, our love story is immortalized? Even a 60 year old can find his true love, what more a person of 22 or 27 years old?

Let not my words fall on deaf ears. Show this post to your significant other and allow her to consider if my words hold meaning. Or show her the true meaning of love, for not many know what is love, only knowing self.

Love and may you live forever. Cheers!



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[shuaige84]

we guys also have to make ourselves look better ... we can groom ourselves to look attractive eg style ur hair with wax, dyed ur hair to look trendy, buy nice clothes to look presentable etc... girls will tend to like well groomed guys more trust me

[Peregrine]

Originally Posted by surfer888

If that is the case, perhaps someone should start a social club for the

Low
Income,
Fat,
Education-deficient,

Short,
Ugly,
CMI,
Kiasu,
Single.

Haha, this group seem to be quite unwanted. I wonder how many are there in the society...

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by BANANASKIN

Dun be so sad lah, go church or join group activities(sure got lots of opp sex).
Methods
Improve on ur appearance,
learn how to speak properly,
Set ur standard lower,
Mix ard with ppl
etc. stuff like tat
Instead of blaming the world, have u try asking urself if u have done enough?
If u have those fucking lonely thinking, u will forever think like a loser.
Nobody is born stupid, only lazy.
Go change ur atitude bro!

agree with u on most of the things..except that nobody is born unwanted sometimes its our attitude towards life that turn pple off..juz ask ourselves whether do we wan to keep mixing ard with pple who keep complainin abt life being unfair to them and yet dun do anything abt it?

we cant change how the world think abt us..we can only change ourselves so that the world can think beta of us

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by shuaige84

we guys also have to make ourselves look better ... we can groom ourselves to look attractive eg style ur hair with wax, dyed ur hair to look trendy, buy nice clothes to look presentable etc... girls will tend to like well groomed guys more trust me

haha bro..if style our with wax and dye our hair..we will be shuai ge liao juz like u

i think we juz need to be well groomed..ie cut our hair at least once a mth..no nose hair showing..wear clean n ironed clothes..tats ok lioa..after all not everyone of us can look like brad pitt

[WillamSexsphere]

Most important of all, ask yourself : what is it you are after?

1. Lust?
2. Companionship? or
3. Love?

Once you have set your priorities, only then will you find 'true love'. Remember always, the BASIC of the journey into love is FRIENDSHIP. You cant just jump into love, for you have no foundation for true love to be built upon. Love needs time and a strong foundation to sustain the longevity of time.

It is from being friends that you can relate to one another, and over time, you will be able to determine the other's overall good and blemishes. From there, one will choose the person whom he/she can call a good friend, a best friend, a confidante.

Within that closeness will only love blossom and grow, standing strong through life's journey of trial and tribulation. That's true love. Some make it, some give up. If you seek true love, then be prepared to pay the price, for not everyday will be a bed of roses, but some thorns along the way. If the foundation is strong, then you both will bloom beautifully into old age.

BUT if it is lust you seek, then drop the 'love' thingy. Dont kid yourself. Go cheong and geylang to satisfy the crave.

True love doesnt operate just on sex alone. It means more than appearances and sex. Its about giving the all of yourself, being yourself and being accepted by another, loved the same in return.

Have fun.

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[slyer]

for me now i am lookin for true love rather than sex... a gf who can share happiness as well as woes with the guy... quite hard to find such gal now sometimes really no choice but to accept gals or woo gals whom nt really fit into the criteria we set for ourselves as there is this saying no fish dried prawns oso nt bad


imho
if u lookin for companionship then most prob u lookin for long term gf or wife.
if u looking for lust its best to go for fl, gl or ons

[GLHunter]

[QUOTE=slyer;2060962]for me now i am lookin for true love rather than sex... a gf who can share happiness as well as woes with the guy... quite hard to find such gal now sometimes really no choice but to accept gals or woo gals whom nt really fit into the criteria we set for ourselves as there is this saying no fish dried prawns oso nt bad


Well, i have to agree that true love is hard to come by with local girls. However, there is still plenty of opportunities if you are willingly to look beyond this tiny island. I tell you, you'll be surprised.

Well I am..

[shuaige84]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

haha bro..if style our with wax and dye our hair..we will be shuai ge liao juz like u

i think we juz need to be well groomed..ie cut our hair at least once a mth..no nose hair showing..wear clean n ironed clothes..tats ok lioa..after all not everyone of us can look like brad pitt

bro i am nt shuai4 ge but i am shuai1 ge (suay guy) hehe

no one is born handsome or pretty...how many guys can look like andy lau or takuya kimura?
hence grooming is very impt too. nice hairstyle with nice clothing will enhance a guy's looks. even an average joe can look good.

same for gals, w/o makeup most gals look plain or below ave but then there will be a handful who look naturally prety w/o makeup... but with makeup gals can look gorgeous...

[playboy82]

its weekend again, nowadays, sat n sun seems to be the worst days in the week, at least weekdays still can work, can +++ to colleugue... buut once come weekend, the familiar loneliness will resurface. Even after work, everyone seems to have some where to go.., someone to go out with, while i, can only went back home, go jogging... sometime i wonder.. why am i so alone, its not i dun hav friends, haiz... all either not tat close, or hav gf liao, or work shift.. want to hang out also difficult. So weekend is also drinking time, alone, at home... Sad rite.. drink also drink at home , alone, listening to some sad music..
Some times i really think that life sucks...is it all predestine? if so, why we still fight so hard for the things which will never be ours? If there is a god, i will ask him wat sort of life am i leading now.

[Know_yr_role]

Originally Posted by playboy82

its weekend again, nowadays, sat n sun seems to be the worst days in the week, at least weekdays still can work, can +++ to colleugue... buut once come weekend, the familiar loneliness will resurface. Even after work, everyone seems to have some where to go.., someone to go out with, while i, can only went back home, go jogging... sometime i wonder.. why am i so alone, its not i dun hav friends, haiz... all either not tat close, or hav gf liao, or work shift.. want to hang out also difficult. So weekend is also drinking time, alone, at home... Sad rite.. drink also drink at home , alone, listening to some sad music..
Some times i really think that life sucks...is it all predestine? if so, why we still fight so hard for the things which will never be ours? If there is a god, i will ask him wat sort of life am i leading now.

bro get a dog or a new hobby it may help u pass this stage in life....its common to feel down in some part of our lives....always ups n downs....its how life works... think abt it, after you are at the bottom of the roller coaster there is only one way and its up...so after sadness and sorrows come laughter n joy...cheer up bro...there is always something at the end of the rainbow for everyone.... think abt tat

[Papa Shango]

True love can exist in a bottle. Magic powder mon make the girls fall madly in love with you. But you need to pay the loa.

[STK01]

Originally Posted by playboy82

its weekend again, nowadays, sat n sun seems to be the worst days in the week, at least weekdays still can work, can +++ to colleugue... buut once come weekend, the familiar loneliness will resurface. Even after work, everyone seems to have some where to go.., someone to go out with, while i, can only went back home, go jogging... sometime i wonder.. why am i so alone, its not i dun hav friends, haiz... all either not tat close, or hav gf liao, or work shift.. want to hang out also difficult. So weekend is also drinking time, alone, at home... Sad rite.. drink also drink at home , alone, listening to some sad music..

Hey bro, cheer up. Perhaps after work, u can jio frends for dinner, etc. No gf u can still jio yr other frends. Maybe other than jogging, u can try out other activities or hobbies?

I have a gf but still sometimes things can get quite routine and bored.... and also I spent a lot of time with my gf so sometimes, also I feel lost touch with some of my good frends.

So, nowadays, I always try to ask my other frends out for makan, etc. And I am now considering to learn taijiquan from Nam Wah Pai, just to break out from the usual routine life and at the same time stay healthy.

Just go outside and do anything

[no_faith]

@ bro kukujiao & playboy82, i understand such feelings. i maybe worst.
everyday is colourless and dull, everyday is a routine, itz juz another day again.
sumtimes, u wonder why u came to earth, r u alone in tis earth.
but hor, i change tat tots in negative way. no matter wat we still have to go on. so i decided to take such path.
juz for info, tis maybe one of the weakpoint we can easily fall in love wif WL/FL. be stong bro.

@ bro slyer, same same lah, gd gals hard to find.
imho, we lower our expectations and at the same time, the gals have to lower their expectations too. gonna be 2 ways traffic.


peace

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by WillamSexsphere

Love needs time and a strong foundation to sustain the longevity of time.

Time? How about 7 years? Long enough? That also doesnt guarantee Love would work. Mine is a disaster.