Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[WillamSexsphere]

Sorry to hear it didnt work out and 7 years do seems a long enough time. It never is a disaster, for so long as we still breathe, we still have the capacity to love again.

Only thing is, would you have the qualities a woman is looking for in a lifetime partner? Love cant be forced upon another and there may be issues that she cant resolve in heart for acceptance of someone, similarly with you as well.

Be glad within 7 years you found out your truth. Can you imagine what would happen if you were married and with kids over many more years then found out the truth?

That's why it is always good to give relationships a few years to know one another better before tying nuptials, no matter how long it takes. Better to leave a relationship with a clear and rational conscience that you gave your best and it didnt work out than to walk out on a relationship that you regretfully rushed in without a thought but with full commitment.

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by WillamSexsphere

That's why it is always good to give relationships a few years to know one another better before tying nuptials, no matter how long it takes. Better to leave a relationship with a clear and rational conscience that you gave your best and it didnt work out than to walk out on a relationship that you regretfully rushed in without a thought but with full commitment.

Let say after 7yrs of relationship, turn sour, we split. Start another relationship with another gil for another few years. Wat happen if it doesnt work again? We are not growing younger as time goes. Yes, its better to find out the bitter truth during courtship time and exit asap. But if these were to continue, we may end up being bachelor rest of our life.

[giggz83]

attitude.

one bro, pointed out this very good attribute.

attitude to strive for the better, rather than sit and watch sky, thinking of why why and more whys ..

but just never think of how to put it into reality. and this, i would like to know why?

have a good attitude to learn .. learn from mistakes .. and not to repeat the same mistakes or if need be.. keep it to the minimum. though saying is easy, but its better than sitting down and thinking of endless why?? rite!

be a bit sensitive to the environment. there are many opportunities to met girls. its either u adapt to it .. or you create your own environment. again, you cant just sit there and wait and wonder why..

with positive attitude .. naturally, you will feel more confident of yourself. take everything as a challenge and accept the challenge, though you dont really need to excel but at least pass that challenge. be it bgr, work, family or even friendship.

this world is fair .. you win something, someone else loses it.

think .. when you're deeply in the sea of love, did you ever think of the other guy who is out of love ? its non of our biz.

thats fairness .. u gain something .. someone loses something. its fair.

its only when emotional comes in. then you start to lose conscience and logically thinking.

think love as a game .. try not to 100% commit into it.. though it may sound very bad, but pls .. its a piece of good advice. cos, i dont really wan bros here, to climb high up the ladder of love. then fall down so hard, you break your backbone.

commit when u think its right. and when's rite? i dono, cos you have to know when's when. cos, if you dont .. then nobody knows.

no one say love is easy nor its difficult. we have to find out ourselves. and it is only through sheer hardwork and perservance and commitment to the relationship can we create this so called "true love"

it takes 2 hands to clap .. yes! BUT, going through motion and doing it geniunely is two different thing, alrite.

it took me 1yr+ to recover from a 3.8yr relationship where my gf broke up with me on my POP day. its a bitter pill to swallow. but hey, im still here .. im happy with my life and on the look out for better chicks.

though, i wouldnt mind my ex to com back, but its best not to think of it. hahaha..

okay, just my humble contribution. good luck to the fellow bros out there!!

cheers!

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by giggz83

thats fairness .. u gain something .. someone loses something. its fair..

Hmm...for 7 yrs me had sacrificed so much for her in terms of advice, aid and a confidante to her. Just wondering what do I gain? Yes, now I lost and she gain.

[no_faith]

bro xdecepticon, i do have similiar experience. but not 7 yrs, is 5 yrs.
after things ended, i get all sorts of advice/console saying
my time will come
i still young
the right gal have not appear yet

den when i look at them, dey did not go thru wat i have experience.
i also dunno wat i gain? but i do know wat i lost.

the ting is how many 5 yrs or 7 yrs i have?

[wolverman]

Like they said "Man propose God dispose". To avoid making mistakes, we plan way ahead, knowing the gils well, only to find out later after so many years shes not my type or vice-versa. Then call it quit. So many years being together and eventually to nothing! Life indeed is short.

[no_faith]

life is short, tis is so true.
the reality hurts.
sumtimes tings are beyond our control.

[WillamSexsphere]

bros, I know and can understand your pain. How's 15 years of giving and then realizing she does not love you? You aint alone. I am that guy. There was no 3rd party, but we were quarelling too much. When the end came, I felt guilty that the relationship brokedown, kept on blaming myself.

For 3 yrs i was not myself, living in guilt, for marrying her and wasted her time and youth. I hid from everything and everyone, tried to become a robot, someone without feelings or emotions, took on jobs that require no thinking for i did not want to think or be responsible anymore, or desire for anything.

Several times, from the high floor of my apartment, i stared down and wonder would the next life be better. I had been rich i could afford to buy a small yacht as an additional luxury item, and had been so poor a tau sar pau was my main meal for the day, and yet i had never felt emptiness, for there are always opportunities galore as long as one has the brains and prepared to strive hard.

But when one loses love, the emptiness is frightening. You want love, but you dare not try again for fear of losing again. You can only try to live with the emptiness and comes to term with loneliness. Nothing can ever replace the one you had spent years with, not riches, not work, not hobbies, not nightcats. Nothing seems to be able to cover that hole in your heart.

I've been thru this pain and had learnt to live it, used to it already, numbed and strengthened by it. I dont want any of you bros to go thru it, for the emptiness can weaken your mind and make one do foolish things. It gets a lot worse before it gets better, so before it spirals down to the rock bottom, open up your heart to others and find love again thru developement of friendships.

There is no need to suffer, or blame yourself if you had done your best and it was not reciprocated. What was freely given, must accept the fact it may and need not be returned. Life is short, enjoy it while you can and let real friendships at least fill up that gaping hole. Never too old to make friends...


Good luck and Cheers!


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[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by kukujiao

I cried almost every night of leading a lonely life.

i feel lonely come to this forum and tcss lor ~ bros here crack me up each time one ler.. kekeke

[strikeking73]

Let me say true Love still around but hard to find. I have a gf who with me for almost 7 years. 3 years back, i found out she having affair with a guy. I able to stop it before they grow further. I know that guy trying to play around. My gf had promised she will never be with him and never had sex with him. Few month or years pass, nothing happen. But someday that guy able to get my gf new hp no. So sweet talk begin. My gf was a simple mined ger. Trap begin. When i found out this thing again, i was angry and sad. She ask for forgiveness cos she found out he a cheater as he already marry to someone. I ask her did she had sex with him. She say only one before she know she was being cheated. Can love be continue???

[no_faith]

bro strikeking73, pardon me if i being offensive. for me, i dun tink i can accept wat she said. nxt time same ting will happen again.

bro kukujiao, relek lah, can come here tcss mah. alright?


peace

[jjdoggie]

Originally Posted by strikeking73

Let me say true Love still around but hard to find. I have a gf who with me for almost 7 years. 3 years back, i found out she having affair with a guy. I able to stop it before they grow further. I know that guy trying to play around. My gf had promised she will never be with him and never had sex with him. Few month or years pass, nothing happen. But someday that guy able to get my gf new hp no. So sweet talk begin. My gf was a simple mined ger. Trap begin. When i found out this thing again, i was angry and sad. She ask for forgiveness cos she found out he a cheater as he already marry to someone. I ask her did she had sex with him. She say only one before she know she was being cheated. Can love be continue???

There are alot of instances like these to be frank. True love can be in several ways. Its a matter of treasuring the times spent together, be it happy, sad, anger, in Life is never easy. Even though you are born rich like Paris Hilton, of course her $ can never finish, but you think she can get true love. Hardly.

True love is also treasuring and giving into each other demands. All humans make mistakes, be it small or big. Life still have to carry on.

I always said to my friends that we live an average of 70 years old, make it worthwhile. We don't have much time, just treasure it if not just carry on life, its not the end of the world but lifespan is running out on you.

For me, I do flirt and cheong once in a while, be abit notty. I have come across pretty girls and really I just flirted, even though I fucked them some...I will never fall in love with them, to me they are not my love. My wife is, noone can replace my wife. We had good time and bad times, but we give in to each other.

[no_faith]

bro jjdoggie, i might be blunt. but if ur wife also do the same ting as u, can?


peace

[jjdoggie]

Originally Posted by no_faith

bro jjdoggie, i might be blunt. but if ur wife also do the same ting as u, can?


peace

hehehe..good question. She does give in, but not all things, She will kill me if she find out I flirt

[Xdecepticon]

At time cos of kids, we just bear with it. LL just carry on the relationship with wife. But deep inside me hollow. Came along a 3rd party and I realized true love again.