Tips To Woo Girls - Page 37

Derelict · #**541** 17-02-2007, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by newbadass

It takes two hands to clap.

Charisma is good, but that is not enough. The woman also needs to be stupid enough to believe the bullshit from a guy's silver tongue. Maybe that's why many guys go for younger, more impressionable, less seasoned girls In Singapore, to me, that's any girl under the age of 30.

Hello newbadass,

I am not sure where you're going with the context for the word charisma but from reading your post I think I can safely deduce that you're associating 'bullshit' that spew from one mouth as a form of communication. Thats a wrong way to go. My believe is if you know what you're gonna say is going to be a lie than the chances are the people you're talk will also know it as a lie or at lease get the vibes that you're a braggart or a liar. That my friend is a total turn off. If one is charismatic than there is no need to lie in the 1st place.

Let me explain.

I will now go into the mumbo jumbo associated with charisma. If you know what it means than I suggest leaving this post and read my fellow post. So I dont bore you with it.

If you're curious than read on. The text below is from my studies as well as 'plagiarism' from self motivational books and sites.

To simply put charismatic is about helping people to feel good about you. It is NEVER about you but about them. When you're interacting with other people - whether it's at on a one-to-one level or in front of a huge audience - try to make the experience all about them. Most people are completely fascinated with themselves - their own interests, needs, problems and wants. These are powerful anchors to attach yourself to.

You see, most people are enthusiastic conversationalists, but talk exclusively about themselves. These people need a bit of a wake up call. Nobody cares about you, or at least, they do much less than care about themselves. They'll listen politely and question you about your own needs, but ultimately on their scale talk about you rates about a one, and talk about them rates about a ten.

Thus, the way to a woman's heart is to LISTEN. Than make conversation about what was spoken and than take it from there.

Try to find people's obsessions and build a conversation around them. This is an extension of the last point. One excellent technique for turning the conversation to being all about them is to seek out people's obsessions. We're all obsessed with something - pets, LV bags, cars, whatever.

I will not want to bore you with the point by point blow of what charisma or how to be more charismatic. My fellow reader mentioned bullshitting as a form of being charismatic. As I mentioned thats a major no-no. Lets change the bullshit into something more softer and call it gentle wit. Than again I can see where he is coming from. I do agree that being charismatic might require better than average communication skills.

My stand is still the same, if the conversation is about them than there is no need to bullshit now would there?

Again my apology for the long ass post. I do hope what I have written shed a lil lite on the charismatic bit.

no_faith · #**542** 18-02-2007, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Dedgen

Although some of what you bro says here are quite true. But some how I think if you're persistent enough, it will pays off. Defination of the word " Perserverance: Going in the own course of direction disregard past failure and obstacles."

perserverance vs reality = reality win
yes, u r persistent, patient but u got absolutely nothing to offer the gal?
wat will the gal choose?
there are so many options out there. gals nowadays getting more street smart, not juz perserverance will pay off.

maybe im been losing too much faith? but the truth hurts.

still wish u gd luck.

newbadass · #**543** 18-02-2007, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by no_faith

perserverance vs reality = reality win
yes, u r persistent, patient but u got absolutely nothing to offer the gal?
wat will the gal choose?
there are so many options out there. gals nowadays getting more street smart, not juz perserverance will pay off.

maybe im been losing too much faith? but the truth hurts.

still wish u gd luck.

Perseverance is very important OK!

Even if the girl doesn't intend to be your girlfriend or even give you anything, she will still want you to persevere. She still wants you to woo her.

Why?

Because then she can feel proud what... she can tell her friends "walao this guy... I not interested in him, but he still trying so hard to kao me... why ah?" You may contradict me and say that girls are not this selfish and egoistic.

But I tell you now, my friend... humans, regardless of gender, are selfish and egoistic. Men are capable of doing this as much as women. Just read the forums when you have time. You'll see all the hot air floating around and then you will understand.

newbadass · #**544** 18-02-2007, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Derelict

Hello newbadass,

I am not sure where you're going with the context for the word charisma but from reading your post I think I can safely deduce that you're associating 'bullshit' that spew from one mouth as a form of communication. Thats a wrong way to go. My believe is if you know what you're gonna say is going to be a lie than the chances are the people you're talk will also know it as a lie or at lease get the vibes that you're a braggart or a liar. That my friend is a total turn off. If one is charismatic than there is no need to lie in the 1st place.

Who says all lies have to be said with your tongue? A good liar lies using his eyes as well.

Let's face it, when men go all sensitive and caring and gentlmanly on a woman, they usually have an ulterior motive. If women are dumb enough to fall for that, who am I to complain?

Even acting like you're more interested in her than yourself, is one big fucking lie. You are a very expert liar... you lie with your actions rather than your tongue. I salute you!

dominion · #**545** 18-02-2007, 02:35 PM

bro newbadass is indeed very wise.
thanx for sharing your wisdom. newbie here look forward to learning more from you in the future.

no_faith · #**546** 18-02-2007, 04:09 PM

bro nba, i agreed wif u. we are not saints or perfect.

i juz voicing out my views based on the post by bro derelict.
sry if i did not make myself very clear.

peace

#**547** 19-02-2007, 02:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Derelict

Its a nice thread but half way thru it all I nearly fell asleep reading.

I will poke my sharp nose here and give my 2 cents (sorry if its a repeat from one of the few hundred post in here). What a MAN (notice I placed an emphasis on the word man and not boy) need to sum it up in a single word. CHARISMA.

You can be well educated, you can be well tone in your physical anatomy, you can have the 5C's but what you fish with those of the above attributes are only so-so catch if you're lucky that is.

With CHARISMA you can melt the hardest of hearts.

So to help you guys I would advice that you learn the word charisma. Practice it and you will be rewarded.

The word charisma (from the Greek word kharisma or gift), is often used in this form to describe an ability to charm or influence people.

Be a charismatic person today and dont leave home without it. I know its a BIG word to understand and that one word means so many things put into it. But if you adhere to the word than you will most certainly know what kind of research work needs to be done to achieve it.

Once you are charismatic. Your eyes, smile and body language can do all the talking for you. No need to open mouth to talk cock anymore.

there is a saying. Give a man a fish; you have fed him for the day. Teach a man to fish; and you will not have to listen to his incessant whining about how hungry he is...

Hehehehe sorry for the propaganda post. After reading all the advice. Just wanted to redirect some point into the topic.

hope it help.

I learnt that thing you are talking about from "The art of seduction". works like hell for me... not sure about others... hahaha :P

the look in your eyes, your smile and every little action in detail makes a big difference... but when i tell people that they don't believe me hahaha~

Lubber · #**548** 20-02-2007, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by poisonuser

I learnt that thing you are talking about from "The art of seduction".

And the book is called Mega Pack of Sex Books. Lotsa pick up lines,and some creative ways not only just pick up lines but actions too.

#**549** 03-03-2007, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by newbadass

It takes two hands to clap.

Charisma is good, but that is not enough. The woman also needs to be stupid enough to believe the bullshit from a guy's silver tongue. Maybe that's why many guys go for younger, more impressionable, less seasoned girls

In Singapore, to me, that's any girl under the age of 30.

but i loved milfs....and milfs love me!!!!!

jeromelee1 · #**550** 04-03-2007, 01:00 AM

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dna_gene · #**551** 10-05-2007, 02:00 AM

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Originally Posted by dnagene_gal

I agree with you on this. I was in love with a guy before... He doesnt have the nice build or smooth face or gentleman ways (quite MCP), BUT he managed to charm me nonetheless. Of cos, his nice smile helped him to get us to start dating then.

Looking back, he managed to charm other girls too, through his charismatic ways, funny jokes, and his smiles... I loved him but hated him as well...

Right...... -____-