Sick and Tired of family life

[hotstuffm8]

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[larue]

Originally Posted by hotstuffm8

Bro it takes 2 hands to clap. You say life is repetitive and boring, did you do anything to try changing it? Can't just blame your circumstances for your ennui. Why are there other married folks who are always able to spice things up despite their busy schedules?

Think about what made you fall in love with the lady in the first place. Think about your joy with your kids are born. Think about the care and concern your parents showered you in your life. Are these not good enough reasons to continue soldiering on?

Good points my friend. That it takes 2 hands to clap is something that I am always aware of. Rarely is the breakdown of any relationship the entire doing of just one party.

It's just so hard when it's happening to oneself.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by arsepool

Brother

Classic case of Familiarity breeds contempt. You are taking your children, wife and family for granted.

Think about what will happen to your life without them?
For a start, you may find it relaxing, refreshing.
Going out for drinks, visiting FLs, going for tour with pretty ladies (escorts).

After a while, you will realise, you cannot do this forever.
You cannot drink everyday, cos most of your frens has family.
Fucking Fls? after a while, they are all the same, and worse of all, you need to wear condoms
Going tour, taking up course, taking up sport, etc, etc
all these are only temporary.

What is eternal, is the vows which you took when your swore that you will take care of the woman who now lay beside you forever.
What is more fulfilling than is watching your children grow up to become useful man and woman and in turn, have their own children.

Brother, start to appreciate more of the little things in life.
I believe many single guys like me, would appreciate a woman who to talk to every night, before you sleep.

You can try talk to a FL, maybe she wun even bother to entertain !!!

Great summary there for anyone having same thought as TS.

Others may find life as a Single fulfilling too; just a different level of fulfillment and as long as you're contented (and happy) with the path you choose. Just remember that everyone will grow old, all these life choices and implications are the same and repetitive.

天地有情尽白发，人间无意了沧桑。

[LengKia]

any views from married men.

I would choose to remain single if i can turn back the clock...
Married life and kid is not simple as what we see....not only bread butter issue, there are many factors/problem in daily life you have to cope with.

[larue]

Originally Posted by LengKia

any views from married men.

I would choose to remain single if i can turn back the clock...
Married life and kid is not simple as what we see....not only bread butter issue, there are many factors/problem in daily life you have to cope with.

Same here bro. We think it's all good, getting married, settle down. And that having a child or children is a natural continuation of that process.

But you are right, it is never that simple. People move from BF/GF to married couple. Expectations of each other change.

But having children is a much bigger leap than getting married because there is a whole new individual whom both parents surely love very much (side note: people who abuse children should have a needle shoved up their genitals and sliced to death slowly), and who is 100% dependent on the parents for every kind of support for years.

Then one's expectations of one's partner will change again, and this time it is much greater than just getting married. Expectations pertaining to duties and responsibilities, child's upbringing and so on.

And if these are not managed properly, doubts and resentment creep in. I am sad to say that is exactly what is happening to me.

Can I honestly say I tried and am trying? Absolutely. Have I tried my very best and hardest? Probably not, and I cannot say with confidence that I really want to anymore.

I pour all my energy into my child, and look to bury my sorrow outside.

[LengKia]

Originally Posted by larue

Same here bro. We think it's all good, getting married, settle down. And that having a child or children is a natural continuation of that process.

But you are right, it is never that simple. People move from BF/GF to married couple. Expectations of each other change.

But having children is a much bigger leap than getting married because there is a whole new individual whom both parents surely love very much (side note: people who abuse children should have a needle shoved up their genitals and sliced to death slowly), and who is 100% dependent on the parents for every kind of support for years.

Then one's expectations of one's partner will change again, and this time it is much greater than just getting married. Expectations pertaining to duties and responsibilities, child's upbringing and so on.

And if these are not managed properly, doubts and resentment creep in. I am sad to say that is exactly what is happening to me.

Can I honestly say I tried and am trying? Absolutely. Have I tried my very best and hardest? Probably not, and I cannot say with confidence that I really want to anymore.

I pour all my energy into my child, and look to bury my sorrow outside.

bro take it easy, only time will tell when enough is enough

in fact alot of married men are in this shit situation now. U are not alone

maybe one of these day i will be single again...

[dyeeng]

Familiarity breeds contempt...well said...

Marriage is made in heavan...that's sacred...

You are still having a wandering heart and find it difficult to settle down without "giving up" your manly ego... do not attempt to compare yourself with others...you don't know what they are facing in reality...

If you find your routine boring, bro, chances are..you do nothing to break out of the routine...try something light for a change...like weekends go do some adventures...go to a park...a beach...these activities doesn't cost you much...
Try hikings, picnics, nature reserves venturing...not unless you are just plain lazy and just like to sit and whine...

otherwise, bro...if you fail to plan...you plan to fail..

When life gives you lemon...make lemonade lah...

[Canoneos]

When have you taken your family for a holiday? You should watch the National Lampoon movies. I love them. To my family I'm Clark Griswal, always trying to do the best for the family but doesn't work all the time. Go watch the series, they'll make you feel better!

[roadster33]

Originally Posted by me05

I am a regular bro with a family. Wake up same time Monday to Friday. Bring kids to schools and sent wife to work. After work, pick up wife and kids from grand-parents' place. Go home, spend some time with kids, put them to bed. talk a while to wife and sleep.

Sat and Sunday is all family life. Life is so repetitive and boring. I want to pull out my hair in frustration. My kids are still so young. How come I have such feelings?

bro,sometimes just go out n steal eat n u wont find family life boring.only family members will stand by u when bad things happen,outside woman is for play only, not to talk love!不要失去了才来后悔!

[roadster33]

Originally Posted by joew2005

u will feel the joy of seeing yr kids grow up day by day ..... yr life is abt them.

well said!!

[MP5F]

Originally Posted by me05

Sat and Sunday is all family life. Life is so repetitive and boring. I want to pull out my hair in frustration. My kids are still so young. How come I have such feelings?

1. when was the last time you have sex with your wife ?

2. call up your frds for a makan session and tel them about your problems. c where it leads u to, they might ask u wanna go pubs ktv/gl , whether u wanna go or not it's up 2 u. remember to use cd when bonking, stay safe and not sorry.

3. Dun always stay at home during the weekends, plan for outing with family.

4. ask your wife wanna go holiday ? dun bring the kids along.

[mentholfresh]

Once a while, on weekends, leave your kids with your parents or in-laws, enjoy couple time with wife, spice up your life... If no time, find and create time...

[larue]

Originally Posted by MP5F

1. when was the last time you have sex with your wife ?

Last time I had sex with my wife and came? 4 years and 3 months. Last time I wanted to have, and initiated sex with my wife? Also about that time. Number of times we'd had sex since that 4yrs3mths back? Maybe 5 times?

Originally Posted by MP5F

2. call up your frds for a makan session and tel them about your problems. c where it leads u to, they might ask u wanna go pubs ktv/gl , whether u wanna go or not it's up 2 u. remember to use cd when bonking, stay safe and not sorry.

My friends don't go ktvs. Either very happy, or really good at pretending.

Originally Posted by MP5F

3. Dun always stay at home during the weekends, plan for outing with family.

I hate staying at home, I always plan outings with and for my family. I am very tired.

Originally Posted by MP5F

4. ask your wife wanna go holiday ? dun bring the kids along.

Just came back from one, but had to bring kid. Somebody has to take care of the child. That somebody is me.

[maxsee]

One thing i definitely agree...not everyone is suitable for marriage/family life....it has nothing to do with the sex, toking with ur wife..blah blah....

Marriage/ family life involves compromises.....not forgetting problems are twice as much...i got so many friends tat got into marriage life and complain every single day how they miss single life....

Of coz there are also a few that really enjoys marriage life and wouldn't see life as complete being single....

End of the day, watever choice a person make....one must be sure it is the life tat one wants to lead....be it marriage life or single life.....

Single life less worries, free to do wat u want....etc etc...only thing is if u are a person who fears loneliness u are better off getting married....

[RealEstateGuy]

Braddah if you dun like family life and believe there is such a huge opportunity cost then consider the case of the lonely looking uncles in GL eating at hawker stands and shelling out retirement funds for a whore in GL. Braddah lonely uncle then meets hot GL gal who then fleeces him in a love exploitation illusion and the Braddah lonely uncle then loses all his savings and is later begging for food at the hawker stands or searching for table scraps from rubbish bins. Braddah the grass always seems greener on the other side but Braddah its an illusion in GL KTV and the world of FL. Braddah you have good situation in SG society and want to trade places with Braddah lonely uncle. SG society views you as a fool Braddah.