Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[playboy82]

Originally Posted by ageis

Oh gosh… I just happen to be browsing and saw this thread… Sorry guys.. but I just feel like making a post 1st prior to reading the 43 pages of the thread so I might miss something or repeated something while typing this msg. Well.. after reading what the thread starter wrote… I felt that it’s so true and he really wrote while looking into his heart.

This is really a very sucky feeling.. well.. I consider myself as an above average looking guy.. pretty alright body build.. and average or above average family.. but still.. all that I been through had shown me otherwise.. Back in the school days when I was young.. I was an introvert.. so I resort to playing computer games.. card games… and mixing around with guys… cos I’m from a boys school.. so that leads to a minimal interaction with gals... eventually I started to put on weight…

My life had been like that till I got to junior college.. wow.. gals… but still.. I wasn’t very good with gals… and it was the army that maybe help abit to shape up the body and gain some ego and confidence boost.. but still that wasn’t enough.. after time of mixing around with different people and friends… i’m tried to get them to accept me… try to know the gals.. but.. I’m just not daring enough.. cos maybe the guys around are more aggressive..

Of course.. there will be flings and a couple of ex gfs.. but.. each of them just leaves me a bad impression… maybe due to my carefree childhood.. so I tend to want a somewhat fairy tale happy ending story.. but it’s never the case.. the timing and situations always tends to mismatch… when I get a gal who might treasure me.. that’s when I’m a the peak and had plenty of egos and I let it go.. when I wanted love.. the gals are just playing around.. and money and fame seems to be the thing that attracts them.. it’s bcos of ur money or ur fame that attracts them to u…

There are so many times that I’ve tried to treat a female fren well and close.. so over time u tend to develop feelings for them.. but they seems to treat u as a very close friend as well.. and be it a fact or excuse.. they will want to remain as friend with you cos they treasure ur friendship so much… that they dun wanna loose it after they become a couple with you and break up in the end… so I myself had to see the gals going into the arms of another man.. and u knew that the many is no good thing and will definitely break up with her eventually… the worst situation is that when the gals are in depression.. u brought them out to cheer them.. and maybe asked along a few frens… and what happens? She falls in love with your fren.. and after a couple of days.. French kissing and hugging right in front of ur face and u just gotta smile..

And when some gals (the betta looking ones; I’m not trying to stereotype here)went out with me.. it’s mostly of different motives.. there could be tons of reasons.. ranging from helping their bf to raise money, be close to u and get a nice dinner and ignore ur messages for a couple of days and only contact u whenever they needed u, hoping u could introduce some guys to them… it just seems too materialistic…

I chose to live a carefree life and became rebellious after I enlisted army.. cos my family had been very strict to me and sort of like map out my future… so I felt as if I was like in a bird cage and had no freedom and just gazing at my frens havin fun… but after all these years… it seems that in the process of pursing happiness and love… it just seems so impossible and impractical… after I felt that how gal sees in guys and that they want from us.. it just make me feel more remorseful and regretted what I did for the past.. that I muz well become a pet at home and just follow the path my grandparents hoped for.. and chose to live a monotonous life and in a few years time hoping to harvest… cos I just felt that I couldn’t trust love anymore and only money will not turn it’s back on me…

U know… whenever I watch those movies.. where there are good guys.. and bad guys.. any films… well it seems that the good guys always prevail at the ending and the evil will loose.. but I sense a deeper meaning or message… is that.. whenever the good guys wins in the end.. it’s sort of projected to me that it’s one out of X million cases and it’s so rare that it could only be a fiction or in such films… and being the evil.. it’s so much like the reality… it’s not ethically right.. but.. it’s definitely going to work in reality.. after all.. I rather bet on the 99% statistic then the slim chances of being too idealistic.. There’s so much that I wanna write but I dunno where to begin… u can see my post is a little messed up with the timeline and topics..

yo bro, dun worried abt it... i myself now dun even know wat love is anymore... it become so complicated that i dun even recognize it, n recently i manage to hold a gal 's hand n even kiss her, but she is not my gf... n she never even sms me when free n care for me... well, this kind of feeling to me is so common.... strange enough, i keep getting into this type of play play thingy...
All i hope is someone to really care for me, to ask me hows my day, to lighten me up when i am sad.. is that so difficult?

[playboy82]

Originally Posted by ageis

playboy82:

Well true enough.. love do exist.. but not always there... There maybe love at the initial stage.. but over time.. things might change... we evolve over time due to different environments, situations and other influences. So which ever feelings might develope into something else.. like love to commitment for instance.. seldom vice versa..

And the sad thing is that at our age.. it's hard to meet up or know 'nice' gals already.. cos the gals reaches that age... since they are that 'nice' they are probably happily together with another guy that knew her way back then and living happily ever after and won't even pay attention to... i mean since she had such a nice character guys out there would have noticed it way earlier too.. and cos of their 'nice' nature... they tend to be faithful and love their bf alot... any gentleman won't even try to break up this couple just to get the gal... so the pool of 'nice' gal out there now that are single and availiable are... phew...

well said man...

[no_faith]

bro ageis, it is reality and the truth hurts.

a gal made me believed there was true love.
same gal make me believe there is no true love.

[Xdecepticon]

They (gils) are all alike. Fickle minded!

[Deztruct]

Originally Posted by ageis

and within 2 mths.. she just left me giving me the reason... there was no feeling where we were so close and passionate all the while... i was left devastated.. and the day was new year's eve... wat a new year...

at least a new year and a new start..i am not a saint or wat..juz like u and everyone else..i am lookin for my true love also..but at least for you..you can tell urself tat you experienced it once..bu neng zai hu tian chang de jiu..zi zai hu cheng jing yong you

[jinrenhe]

Originally Posted by ageis

... i was left devastated.. and the day was new year's eve... wat a new year...

Originally Posted by playboy82

All i hope is someone to really care for me, to ask me hows my day, to lighten me up when i am sad.. is that so difficult?

I broke up with a gf on a new year's eve...still remembered how i drink myself silly at the pub, pretending to be drinkin so much cos it's new yr, smiling and shaking hands with everyone.. whilst i'm nearly drowned by the pain inside

Everytime i see couples outside having dinner together or jus simple things like accompanying each other shopping for groccery at the supermart, it would fill me with a bittersweet feeling.
I always thought my problems would be solved the day i found a gf.. but as luck would have it, I met a gal who behave like the last thing she wants is to spend time with me - every weekend she would go clubbing, watching movies with her vast network of friends. meeting my own gf becomes like something i've to make advance booking..

So my friends prioritize their own bf/gf over me (which is understandable). Then my own gf prioritize her friends over me.
so little wonder sometimes i feel like the most rejected person in the world

[no_faith]

itz so sad. when i didnt wish to commit, her love moved me to commit.
when i commited, she told me to fuck off.

[Swastikanian]

True love i think true love very few nwadays, now all gals want u to have career and $... Its a realistic world now

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by no_faith

itz so sad. when i didnt wish to commit, her love moved me to commit.
when i commited, she told me to fuck off.

Most gils are fickle minded. Just like mine. Told me she seriously committed with me when I told her we just friends. But as time passes, told her I am seriously in love with her. That was 5yrs back. Now she changes her fxxking mind and told me she love someone else.

[no_faith]

one is lucky always met the right partner.
one is unlucky always met the worng partner.

sumtimes a sour relationship can make a person lost their humanity and become insane.

[hubber27]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

I broke up with a gf on a new year's eve...still remembered how i drink myself silly at the pub, pretending to be drinkin so much cos it's new yr, smiling and shaking hands with everyone.. whilst i'm nearly drowned by the pain inside

Everytime i see couples outside having dinner together or jus simple things like accompanying each other shopping for groccery at the supermart, it would fill me with a bittersweet feeling.
I always thought my problems would be solved the day i found a gf.. but as luck would have it, I met a gal who behave like the last thing she wants is to spend time with me - every weekend she would go clubbing, watching movies with her vast network of friends. meeting my own gf becomes like something i've to make advance booking..

So my friends prioritize their own bf/gf over me (which is understandable). Then my own gf prioritize her friends over me.
so little wonder sometimes i feel like the most rejected person in the world

I understand how you feel. For me, sometime advance booking will have to cut short due to her fren's last minute arrange. Very CB one but bo pian, we have to keep our relationship a secret and I am the one keep giving in. Saddddenn...

[Goondamit]

Have very much the same feeling like some of the bros here. You just sometime wonder why do we have to be like their reserve. The time, sacrifices and $ just do not touch them.

[Xdecepticon]

Yes. Time wait for no man. We are not getting younger each passing day. Some say its better to let it go rather than after marriage and then resort to divorce which is worst. Either way, we are still the losers.

[aj5122003]

i am another one who share your plight!!!
i am studying in a poly but my class mostly all guys no pretty gals, my parents are divorced and i am staying with my father. no woman had ever care for me in this life time all i want is a girl be it she is pretty or ugly as long as we love each other it is okay i just want someone to care about me and we can talk about our heart things!!!
why is it so difficult,,, why some guys althought ugly also can get girlfriends me quite okay but still no gf????
i am now finding true love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[playboy82]

Originally Posted by aj5122003

i am another one who share your plight!!!
i am studying in a poly but my class mostly all guys no pretty gals, my parents are divorced and i am staying with my father. no woman had ever care for me in this life time all i want is a girl be it she is pretty or ugly as long as we love each other it is okay i just want someone to care about me and we can talk about our heart things!!!
why is it so difficult,,, why some guys althought ugly also can get girlfriends me quite okay but still no gf????
i am now finding true love !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How old are u? Anyway in life, we lose some n we win back some, jus like in Toto, if u lucky, u win, if u sway, u will miss by 1 num, or miss all the num,
And i do believe all that is predestine, i felt that the moment we ar born, each n everyone of us is to endure different kind of suffering, And in the lonely night, i can't help but to wonder, if all that is predestine, then why are we fighting so hard to change something which can't be change?