Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[WillamSexsphere]

c'mon guys, you are taking it too hard. I was once young, shy and thought like you. But I grew older and grew up as well, enough to say that in time, you will meet more girls than you can handle. So there is no need to despair nor is there a need to rush into it.

Most important of all is for you to concentrate on your career, or have an aim, a goal in life and start planning realistically for it, eg:- army, a job after that you will be productive in, the steps to achieving that job and staying there, financial planning, a roof over your head, a car or transportation requirements, number of kids you intend to have, etc - milestones set at every 10 years, by the age of 30, what do you hope to achieve, by the age of 40, what do you hope to achieve, by the age of 50, what do you hope to achieve,etc.

Ask for guidance from genuine people or friends who can realistically help you plan and not ridicule you instead. Nothing goes according to plan, but if you fail to plan, you plan to fail, and you will be living your life in failure.

Once you have worked something concrete, more so of what you want you life, then you will have a better and more realistic idea of what you hope to achieve. You will then be able to share it with someone who may have similar plans or may want to be part of your plans.

However, the tried and tested way to get that someone is still to be friends first. Friendship will give you that 'no obligations' trial run to see if feelings are mutual. Better than jumping into a relationship then finding out too late you both are not suitable.

To find such friend is easy - ex classmates, the foodstall or shopping centres sales staff you patronise, collegues, hobbies or hobby clubs, community centre activities, etc.

I would advise against going pub/clubs/ktvs to look for female friendships, for in such places, NOT ALL, but most of the girls there are more liberal and open minded, they love to party, can be addictive and unless you can afford to burn money regularly at these places, or am liberal as well as in a 'swinging' lifestyle, then look elsewhere if you are the more traditional, shy and conservative type.

Even though i may had suffered disappointments in finding true love, i know it does exist, just that one have to work hard for it. Nothing that is good comes easy, but when you achieve it, it's worth every sweat and sacrifice you made.

Good luck

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[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by playboy82

And in the lonely night, i can't help but to wonder, if all that is predestine, then why are we fighting so hard to change something which can't be change?

Most religions believe our future are predestine. But I believe it can be changed or altered by ones individual prayers to whichever God one worships. Or else whats the point of worshipping and praying and asking for help since its already predestine?

[Mighty Megatron]

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Most religions believe our future are predestine. But I believe it can be changed or altered by ones individual prayers to whichever God one worships. Or else whats the point of worshipping and praying and asking for help since its already predestine?

Either way that is still no excuse for living in the past my decepticon brother!

Learn from your past, live for your present and look towards the future.

The gods help only those who help themselves!

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by Mighty Megatron

The gods help only those who help themselves!

Precisely, bro Megatron. Predestine is one thing, but the Creator still have the power to change/alter our destiny with our sincere effort plus prayers too.

[kaff]

reading this thread makes me feel kinda downhearted.. esp in the wee hours of the night.

well had flings.. but dint like them but just for the fun, wake up to a new day everytime..wanna chase nice sweet gals, but always rejected..can only make it so far to become their gd friends and not more than that.. moreover the flirting and teasing are all cock teasers.. learnt a lot during these few yrs.. gals can be so nice and sudden change when u confess or when they find new guy friends.

just concentrate on career or goals 1st..whichever new gals u meet when u go social gathering, will eventually took place la..

[curious75]

Originally Posted by WillamSexsphere

c'mon guys, you are taking it too hard. I was once young, shy and thought like you. But I grew older and grew up as well, enough to say that in time, you will meet more girls than you can handle. So there is no need to despair nor is there a need to rush into it.

Most important of all is for you to concentrate on your career, or have an aim, a goal in life and start planning realistically for it, eg:- army, a job after that you will be productive in, the steps to achieving that job and staying there, financial planning, a roof over your head, a car or transportation requirements, number of kids you intend to have, etc - milestones set at every 10 years, by the age of 30, what do you hope to achieve, by the age of 40, what do you hope to achieve, by the age of 50, what do you hope to achieve,etc.

Ask for guidance from genuine people or friends who can realistically help you plan and not ridicule you instead. Nothing goes according to plan, but if you fail to plan, you plan to fail, and you will be living your life in failure.

Once you have worked something concrete, more so of what you want you life, then you will have a better and more realistic idea of what you hope to achieve. You will then be able to share it with someone who may have similar plans or may want to be part of your plans.

However, the tried and tested way to get that someone is still to be friends first. Friendship will give you that 'no obligations' trial run to see if feelings are mutual. Better than jumping into a relationship then finding out too late you both are not suitable.

To find such friend is easy - ex classmates, the foodstall or shopping centres sales staff you patronise, collegues, hobbies or hobby clubs, community centre activities, etc.

I would advise against going pub/clubs/ktvs to look for female friendships, for in such places, NOT ALL, but most of the girls there are more liberal and open minded, they love to party, can be addictive and unless you can afford to burn money regularly at these places, or am liberal as well as in a 'swinging' lifestyle, then look elsewhere if you are the more traditional, shy and conservative type.

Even though i may had suffered disappointments in finding true love, i know it does exist, just that one have to work hard for it. Nothing that is good comes easy, but when you achieve it, it's worth every sweat and sacrifice you made.

Good luck

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THUMB UP,bros

very well said.

[curious75]

during my teens,friends ard me after they broke up or cant get the gal they keep aftering will drink and keep saying those sad story which from their sad story i learned in teens which ever gals we met mostly just a passer by,i dont think can go to marry issue.so during my teens life,all my ex i dont pin any hopes for long relation.

i feel everyone will cheong till the day you feel like settle down and happen at that time you have a nice gf then you will marry her.during your cheong days,(mostly) no matter how good your gf is you will still hurt her and brake up and go for the next gl (same as the other way round for gal to treat us like tat).

during teenage,concentrate in studies and cheong without worries or pressure cos still a long long way to go.for twenties,its time to enjoy a upper level from teenage game but still career first then cheong.when reach thirties,jod and pay must be stable as majority had settled down,at this age lagi good to cheong but you will cheong with some presure in it unless you dont hack care abt your wife and family.as for forties,i havent reach yet so no comment.

to all bros,sorry for my broken english.just to share

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by kaff

gals can be so nice and sudden change when u confess or when they find new guy friends...

When they turn 30s, no takers, then they will be serious with us. Trust me.

[slyer]

Originally Posted by no_faith

fate, luck, chemistry, feel, stability, too troublesome. need so much to have a long run relationship.
furthermore we all know the gal chooses her guy not the other way round.
criterias the girl, if the guy got the qualities, he can do it.

when ppl telling me my expectations too high, i tell them, nah, my expectations are not tat high.
so, i feel sian and numb in such tingy..

most of the times the girls set so many unrealistic criterias for the guys they looking for as bf but they themselves shd look in the mirror n see if they have so many gd qualitites or nt right? girls usually say guys are visual n they always look for pretty gf with gd figure while they themselves go for feel or chemistry. but end of the day they stil go for rich, gd lookin bf really double standard

Originally Posted by playboy82

yo bro, dun worried abt it... i myself now dun even know wat love is anymore... it become so complicated that i dun even recognize it, n recently i manage to hold a gal 's hand n even kiss her, but she is not my gf... n she never even sms me when free n care for me... well, this kind of feeling to me is so common.... strange enough, i keep getting into this type of play play thingy...
All i hope is someone to really care for me, to ask me hows my day, to lighten me up when i am sad.. is that so difficult?

i oso dunno the true meaning of true love. i oso encounter same things as u. some gals i know will flirt with me by telling me their sexual encounters with their ex bf , hold hands with me etc. but then in the end we didn't end up as a couple. maybe they feel bored n just want to flirt around haiz.

Originally Posted by Goondamit

Have very much the same feeling like some of the bros here. You just sometime wonder why do we have to be like their reserve. The time, sacrifices and $ just do not touch them.

i hate the feeling when girls put me in their reserves. no one wants to be in reserves.

[curious75]

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

When they turn 30s, no takers, then they will be serious with us. Trust me.

but the problems is,we hiam them as most of them in this age are likely plump and ugly if they are still single and quite dangerous for maried man too cos they might be sticky

[no_faith]

guys need to strive hard in career hoping in future, his family can live a better life.
gals have the option to the need of striving hard or need not to strive as they can look for a more stability guy. in this way, they dun seems to look for love. they are looking for stability. love is secondary.

as long we can live our life to the fullest, have goals, dreams, ambitions, be happy, shelter to live, dun tink it is a must to find love.

[nitecrawllerr]

Originally Posted by no_faith

in this way, they dun seems to look for love. they are looking for stability. love is secondary.

Thats why true LOVE doesnt exist. Maybe 1 in a million.

[no_faith]

yup, they compare too much wif ppl they know. but they will always compare their boyfren love them more.
love? wow but when u listen to them...

gal a "my bf loves me, he juz bought a LV bag for me"
gal b "my bf loves me more, he juz bought a diamond ring for me"
gal c "my bf loves me most, he juz bought me a bmw roadster"

[WillamSexsphere]

Originally Posted by no_faith

guys need to strive hard in career hoping in future, his family can live a better life.gals have the option to the need of striving hard or need not to strive as they can look for a more stability guy. in this way, they dun seems to look for love. they are looking for stability. love is secondary.

as long we can live our life to the fullest, have goals, dreams, ambitions, be happy, shelter to live, dun tink it is a must to find love.

The line is bold is very true. But for the women, in all fairness, we neanderthal men must understand women and her role in society.

In the past, women were kept at home to take care of the home and kids. Our ancestors were wise, they had a reason for it. In time it became a tradition, and the reason was lost.

Women are biologically different from men, for they suffer from menses, a medical and mental condition affecting her regularly every month. We all have seen how our sisters or friends behave - 3 weeks of being sweet and then 1 week of being a monster, when PMS takes control of her mind.

In our present society, inorder to live just comfortable, the women have, unfortunately, been required to work to supplement the family income. When women complain of stress, it is not imagined, but a reality, espacially during her PMS.

Some girls had it easy, but most girls have it difficult. The PMS would love to rage against the bosses, but their rational mind don't allow it for they would lose the job. Thus they suffer in silence or wreck it on their brothers, boyfriends or husbands during that particular week of the month. It is something we men MUST bear, for we dont give birth unlike women. If they had an opportunity not to work, most would gladly choose not to, like their ancestors who were just houswives, for the stress of the competitive working environment in singapore is great and demanding.

So, to claim women want only money and dont want to work, it would be not be entirely true. All they want is security, or at least the assurances of it if a guy just started work and had not establish himself yet. That's why younger women prefer older men. ( the established ones)

Once she is assured of security, in that freedom will love grow. In conflicts and stresses, who cares or have time for love?



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[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by WillamSexsphere

That's why younger women prefer older men. ( the established ones)

But not my ex. Maybe shes the only exception.

Once she is assured of security, in that freedom will love grow. In conflicts and stresses, who cares or have time for love?

So, the bottomline is True Love is always secondary. $$ & security is 1st priority. But $$ doesnt always guarantee security.