I've learned a lot by reading the old posts by various gurus. There is always room for improvement.
IMHO, THE most attractive man is trustworthy, responsible, reliable, bold, decisive, ambitious, assertive, relaxed, calm, self-assured, confident, healthy, clean, virile, intelligent, educated, kind, compassionate and caring. Yes, he has awesome emotional mastery and strength. He has class and 气质.
And, he adds VALUE to society and mankind. He is the MAN.
He is the prize to the most beautiful SYTs and young women of his type.
His behaviour, actions, posture, movements, body language, facial expressions, eye contact, voice tonality/inflection are congruent w/ his inner beliefs that he is the MAN.
Here's the truth - being attractive is done from the INSIDE, and
not from anything you put on. Being a manly man is not the cologne
you put on, or the car that you drive.
Neither is it the kind of clothes you wear nor is it how your beard
is trimmed. In other words, all that EXTERNAL stuff doesn't make a
man who he is.
The heart of attraction lies in the truth that opposites attract,
plain and simple. The kind of energy you have should complement or
balance the traits of the woman you're trying to win over.
Think of the forces of attraction like the contrasting poles of a
magnet. The only thing a positive charge could ever hope to
attract is its OPPOSITE.
This is where the famous expression "opposites attract" comes from.
Fortunately, this simple reality also applies to human
relationships.
In dating, the two people in the equation will only be attracted to
each other if one person's set of qualities "fills in" the natural
"gaps" of the other. This is where the concept of MASCULINE and
FEMININE energy comes into play.
You see, a masculine person is more likely to attract a feminine
person simply because of their opposing "charges". That's why if
your masculine energy isn't as high as it should be, you'll have a
hard time appealing to the feminine folk.
Traditionally, masculine traits have been associated with the male
gender, and feminine qualities with women. However, the
increasingly changing socio-political landscape has given rise to
"feminine men" and "masculine women".
In this day and age, you'll see men and women performing functions
that, just a few decades ago, couldn't be interchanged between the
genders. It isn't rare to find men today doing the cooking,
cleaning and other "girly stuff" while the women are out there
taking on managerial or supervisory roles in the corporate world.
All of these developments are awesome because it's paved the way
for a higher sense of equality in the family and workplace. Let's
face it, the different situations in our lives will require us to
tap into BOTH our masculine and feminine sides as needed.
However, being a masculine man and a feminine woman is still
necessary when it comes to pair-bonding. In dating, it's still
your duty as a man to espouse your masculine traits to attract the
ladies.
Now, before we go any further about unleashing your masculine side,
let's get briefly into the central traits of a masculine and
feminine essence, shall we?
Masculinity is largely defined by the strength of purpose and the
determination to move in a desired direction. A masculine essence
is all about the focus of achieving a given set of goals and fully
realizing the end result of your efforts.
You might even say that being masculine means having a bit of a
one-track mind, but in my opinion it's more of having a singular,
unstoppable purpose. Furthermore, it's also about being
analytical, logical and cutting through the murkiness of matters.
Above all, masculinity has a great deal to do with providing for
the family as well as protecting friends and loved ones from harm.
What it's NOT about is being a booze-guzzling, idle slob who has
nothing better to do than veg out in front of the TV while shirking
"ladies' stuff" like dishes, laundry and meal preparation.
On the other hand, a feminine essence is all about being a nurturer
and a caring, gentle companion. Feminine energy thrives on
exploring relationships and humanity in general. It's defined by
artistic and emotional expression as well as pursuing the finer
things in life.
Conversely, being feminine is NOT defined as crying over a broken
nail or acting like a helpless victim. Purposely playing the
eternal "damsel in distress" may be endearing at first, but it'll
soon lose its charm and is more fitting to be labeled as "annoying
neediness".
With that said, being a "man's man" in the context of our little
discussion is the key to making a woman's heart MELT. So, I'll be
giving you a quick primer on how to make the most of your masculine
gifts, starting TODAY:
#1: Have the determination to be committed to an ideal, a way of
life or a set of principles. As we've just discussed, the feminine
essence is naturally drawn to an attitude that just reeks of GRIT.
When you stick to your guns or ADHERE to certain cause that's close
to your heart, that's a sign of PASSION. And I gotta tell ya, this
one trait is like "chick crack". Even the hardest of women are
impressed by a man who has the strength (not necessarily in the
physical sense) to be CONSISTENT in his actions, beliefs, thoughts
and values.
#2: Be really good at something. Nothing gets a woman's engine
revving better than a guy who rocks in his element. When you have
the ability to be an authoritative voice on a subject matter, it
really does plenty to polish the brass on your balls.
It's an incredible turn-on for women to meet a guy who's
passionately dedicated to a certain field of knowledge, whether
it's science, literature or sports. Besides, being able to teach
them something they didn't know before makes you an interesting
guy.
#3: Be committed to achieving various life goals. Like I said
earlier, masculinity is about attaining objectives. What I mean by
this is to have a purpose-driven approach to life.
If you're dedicated to being more than who you are at this moment,
it makes you hungry for life. The feminine essence is helplessly
drawn towards a person who's totally engaged in squeezing the juice
out of living.
That's why having a set of meaningful goals makes the possibility
of sharing a life with you an EXCITING one. She'll be thinking,
"Wow, this guy sure has a happening life going on - I'd LOVE to be
part of that!"
Being focused on your life makes you slightly unavailable, or a
"wild child" from a certain point of view. Feminine eyes see this
as a challenge to "tame" your fiery nature.
In fact, lots of women are fueled by the desire to uncover your
feminine side. The thrill of the pursuit lies in the pleasure of
trying to "have you 100%".
#4: Be savvy about personal style, but don't be obsessively VAIN
about it. Looks are important in the sense that they say key
things about your personality.
However, don't mistake looking good for making appearances the most
important thing in life. The main idea is to be clean, neat and
presentable so that you give the impression that you've "got it
together".
Having a good sense of style means being up-to-date on your looks,
but not to the point of being too picky with brands. Investing
JUST ENOUGH on quality items is cool, but don't go overboard with
the compulsive shopping.
A healthy and respectable physical appearance is essential in the
context of implying that you have your life UNDER CONTROL.
However, anything beyond that purpose is superficial.
As long as you have well-fitting clothes that suit your body frame
and don't smell like a gym bag, you're on the right track.
In essence, women want a MAN, and not a kid in adult's clothing.
They're into mature guys who are absolutely decided on a SOLID
course of action and aren't easily swayed by impulses or whims.
It's about having the lack of fear to go for what you really want,
and having the RESOLVE to accomplish it.
All in all, these masculine-boosting tips boil down to cultivating
an intangible "hardness" that women look for. If you possess this
"X-factor", reeling them in will be a cakewalk.
I'll see you around.
Mr. Guru
Bro WB: Your purpose-driven life n the "hardness" of ur manly character depend ultimately on ur SELF MASTERY.
Rejections is a good sign. Meaning you are PRIZE and some not ready for you and can be many reasons.
One reason the gal may have other Bao-er.
Sometime is about timing.
Life is short and just be happy.
I dun like if gal easily just accept and will make me lose interest very fast. Best if slowly can go play and then slowly accept.
But I am a beginner too.
So need to learn more from all the seniors.
Cheers
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good morning!
Life has many unexpected twists n turns...
Despite being a lao chi ko pek, I now hv more chio SYTs of my type as my wives/lovers/mistresses or whatever u call them, than when I was in my 20s.
I had rejected or dumped some gals whom I later missed badly. I got a few back but a few were gone forever.
On the other hand...I hv been rejected by some chio SYTs for BY n dumped by a few BAO-ees in the last 2 1/2 yrs. But my persistence n self assurance had paid off n ALL of them, including those who dumped me, later said YES. EVERYONE of them. Many actually took the initiative to pursue me, hehe. The last one was KK.
Two wks ago I only had XW, TC plus 2 new gals to be imported from PRC. Since then KK has suddenly entered my life again. How could I resist her? She is still only 19, 170-171, still very fair n has voluptuous figure n natural D boobs. And she begged me to take her back. She is also a very naughty gal now...hahaha.
“When you don't get what you want, you suffer. If you get it, ... You will suffocate. The only way to get anything in the physical universe is by letting go of it. Let go & it will be yours forever”.
Nice meaning words. Simple yet chim.
Bro had shared so many useful to help cheong here. I hope Boss will highlight your thread as many threads cannot last a decade.
Kudos to all bros who contributed here.
Long live to Bro WB!!
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good morning!
Everything changes constantly and unexpectedly.
Paradoxically, letting go of what we want is the only way to get it.
Lao Zi said: "When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need."
A modern guru writes: “When you don't get what you want, you suffer. If you get it, ... You will suffocate. The only way to get anything in the physical universe is by letting go of it. Let go & it will be yours forever”.
I lost XW in Dec of 2009 n KK in April of last yr. I let them go n didn't beg them to come back. And of of course I "lost" XX when she went back to PRC in April 2009.
I had completely forgotten abt them...
I hv several pleasant surprises this yr.
My one key investment has gone up n paid me a big bonus in a very tough yr for equities markets. Is it bcos of TC, my good luck charm?
Then my 1st BAO-ee XW made overtures to me in Jan this yr n became my lao po shortly later.
Exactly a month ago, KK reestablished ctc w/ me n begged me to take her back. She broke off w/ her 21 yo BF for a no of reasons. He is a tall 帅哥，a PRC student from a well to do family. He has spent over 50% of what I would hv paid her over the past 14 months...but they hv had many problems n conflicts while together...but I suspect one crucial reason is his inability to give her COS, hehehe. She hinted that she had suffered greatly n is sexually very hungry. She will go to Changi at very inconvenient hrs to welcome me back. She will don a sexy new dress to show off her natural D assets. I jokingly said that I might lose control...she replied that 耐不住才好呵，证明你是个正常的男人, hehehe.
Will I ever see XX again? She is 22 n may be married now.
One of my most respected gurus sent this email to me the other day:
Creating 'Subliminal' Attraction
Hey Bro Warbird , what's up?
Today, it's time to talk about how to connect
on a SUBLIMINAL LEVEL with females. More
specifically, I'm talking about how to SEEM like
an extremely confident guy.
Now, clearly this sounds a little at odds with
my usual policy. I'm not a big one for 'faking it
til you make it', because I think it's pretty easy
for women to sense any kind of inauthenticity and
be instantly and MASSIVELY turned off by it. It's
like a bucket of cold water in the face: any
progress you've made so far gets instantly reversed.
Another reason I don't tend to advocate the
'fake it til you make it' approach is because
there's often a lot of stuff to REMEMBER, and that
gets in the way of your ability to relax, get into
the momentum of what's happening, and involve
yourself intensely in what's happening around you.
It's a little difficult to be spontaneous and
chilled-out if you're repeating bullet-points
inside your head to 'keep you on track'.
But fortunately, today's subject matter is a
horse of a different color. Yes, there's going to
be some stuff to remember here - but this isn't
'bullet points' that we're talking about here. No
factoids to learn by rote.
Instead, this about showing you how to get in
touch with your own, physical confidence and then
portray it to those around you.
This is about positioning your BODY in such a
way that her instinctive impression of you is that
you are an at-ease guy.
It's another way of LEADING her: you're setting
an atmosphere of easy relaxation which she can
then enjoy and contribute to.
So just to clarify: this isn't about 'faking'
ANYTHING. It's about making an EFFORT to man up
and prove to her on a subconscious, GUT LEVEL that
you're a calm, competent, laid-back kinda guy.
And after we've dealt with the physical aspect
of confidence, I'll have a few words to say about
the importance of congruence, as well. But that
can wait til later.
Onward ...
There's a phrase that's remarkably appropriate
to today's subject matter, and that is: 'Motion
creates Emotion.'
In other words, your body and what you're doing
with it has not only a massive impact on how
OTHERS PERCEIVE YOU, but - first and foremost - it
actually impacts HOW YOU FEEL inside yourself.
So if you STAND like a dude who's in control,
chances are, you'll start FEELING like one too.
Authenticity guaranteed and 'on the house' ... which
means your CONGRUENCE is ALSO guaranteed.
Meaning, you're not going to be attracting
females using a 'trick' that they'll soon figure out
... it's actually the REAL DEAL.
Not bad for a quick postural realignment.
Think about most of the 'nervous' guys that you
see who are trying to forge connections with
women.
Chances are, they're looking pretty
uncomfortable. And that winds up making HER
uncomfortable.
Once again, this is because most women will
unknowingly FOLLOW YOUR LEAD. If you seem anxious
and weird, she'll pick up on it and start feeling
that way herself ... and she'll rightly blame you
for it.
So let's take a closer look at the unseen
pitfalls that your body's setting up for you.
Here's something that literally MOST MEN
unknowingly do when they're not 100% at ease: they
actually can't even stand up straight on their own
two feet.
I bet you know what I'm talking about here.
They're rocking all over the place, they might
have one ankle hooked around the other one, or
they've got one foot kind of heeled over to the
side, or they're leaning on the wall, or they're
leaning on a chair ...
This connotes a very strong message of UNEASE
to whoever happens to be around. It's very simple,
but not even being able to stand comfortably on
your own two feet makes it quite clear that you're
not at home with yourself. And if you're not
comfortable with YOURSELF (so the logic goes) how
will you ever manage to be comfortable with HER?
... and if you're not comfortable with her, you
can just bet that you're going to transfer that
discomfort onto her ... so that EVERYONE'S having a
nervous, anxious, and all-round low-quality time.
Hmmm. That's a lot to infer from just one
little postural imperfection.
But unfortunately, it's true. Think about any
'alpha males' that you know. Now think about how
they hold themselves. As a general rule, men who
are 'high value' tend to KNOW IT, and hold
themselves accordingly - in a way that's very
calm, very powerful, and with very little 'wasted
movement'.
- Midsection tight and sucked in toward your
backbone.
- Feet a good distance apart.
- Hands hanging relaxed at your sides.
But WHY are these things attractive to females?
Haha, not sure why but think no hard tryin.
Will cont to read more and share my views after trying out.
Bless all.
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Originally Posted by warbird
So now might be a good idea for you to get a
full-length mirror and practice striking some
poses in front of it. Pay attention to the
difference between how comfortable and at-ease a
posture LOOKS, and how it actually FEELS.
Most guys get fidgety because they can't slot
themselves into a posture that feels as though
it's going to look natural, so they end up
squirming all over the place.
But if you actually pay attention here, you'll
notice that postures that might FEEL WEIRD at
first actually LOOK very natural and relaxed. So
take a look and get used to how particular
positions feel so you can use them in public.
A few quick pointers:
- Shoulders relaxed and down.
- Midsection tight and sucked in toward your
backbone.
- Feet a good distance apart.
- Hands hanging relaxed at your sides.
But WHY are these things attractive to females?
Does it REALLY matter if your feet are a couple
inches apart or not?
It's like this. None of these things are
attractive PER SE. For example, a woman won't take
a look at a man's relaxed hands and think, 'Wow,
check it out.'
But it's the UNDERLYING OBSERVATIONS that are
CAUSED by these little physical details that DO
count in a very big way towards gut-level
attraction.
Specifically, all of these physical postures
have the cumulative effect of portraying you as IN
CONTROL and RELAXED.
In other words, they're the physical hallmarks
of a high-value, confident, dominant man. And as
you know, these are the types of men who tend to
CONSISTENTLY SUCCEED with quality women.
It's a little like the little physical details
that we, as guys, pay SUBCONSCIOUS attention to
with women.
For example, something that I've noticed is
that men tend to be attracted to females with small
noses and long eyelashes.
Now, neither of these characteristics is
necessarily something that we'd bother noticing in
and of itself. You don't usually hear a guy
talking about what a 'sexy nose' a woman has, or
going on about her eyelashes.
But if you take a look at some pictures of
really attractive females, not a ONE of them will
have short eyelashes or a big nose.
Just as things like long lashes connote
FEMININITY for women, certain POSTURES connote
MASCULINITY for men.
Know it. Use it.
The 'little details' are more important than
most people believe.
Your body screams out the truth about what
you're feeling and thinking, long before you could
articulate it verbally.
If you want proof of how important, and SUBTLE,
body language is, then check this out:
... the case of the Counting Horse.
About 20 years ago, this horse trainer claimed
to have taught his horse to be able to add,
subtract, and multiply mathematical figures. He
actually proved it many times over, throughout
county fairs, vaudeville acts, and theaters
throughout the country.
Audience members would call out complicated
equations, and the horse would tap out the answer
with his hoof.
And every time, the horse got it right. Nobody
could figure out what was going on. Scientists
examined the horse closely. They screened for
electronic cheating devices - none were found. The
trainer stood absolutely motionless every time -
no cheating there, either.
Finally, a communications expert videotaped
what was happening. It was discovered, after many
YEARS of debate about this phenomenon, that the
trainer wrinkled his brow slightly and blinked
whenever he expected the horse to stop tapping his
hoof.
I.e., whenever the correct answer was tapped
out, his HOPE that the horse would get the answer
right showed itself upon his face. The horse
noticed this TINY little change in his expression,
and stopped tapping.
Here's the weird part.
The trainer didn't even know he was doing it.
He wasn't TRYING to help the horse cheat. But
his face twitched just a TINY little bit when the
horse reached the 'right answer' ...
... which was all that was needed for the horse
to cotton on, and stop tapping.
Now, granted, women are not horses. But the
fact remains: YOU ARE TELLING PEOPLE THINGS WITH
YOUR FACE AND BODY, EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW IT.
You need to accept the fact that right now, you
are communicating things to others via your body
language that you are NOT EVEN AWARE OF. That's
spooky stuff.
Obviously, this isn't something to get bogged
down in. It's just a small, but IMPORTANT, detail
to consider in the overall scheme of reinventing
yourself as a top-notch, high-caliber, EXCELLENT
human being who's worthy of the women of his
choice.
macking - flirting with gals. Thanks so much for sharing. Reading your thread improves my vocabulary.
"He also understands that one woman's frog is another woman'sprince."
Very chiminolgy what I learn from above.
Please continue to share more so that I and many bros can learn from you.
Have a good weekend coming up!
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Originally Posted by warbird
The mark of a real MAN is his icy calmness, confidence n self mastery, when confronted by the most stressful n life-threatening situations. We should all aspire to be a real MAN.
I came across an interesting book on "macking" recently.
Nasheed Tariq of "The Art of Mackin" fame described a fren whose face was disfigured by a car accident, who was not rich n yet, "And even
with his disfigurements, my friend still has a
different female at his crib every night."
"Why?
Because he knows how to "put his bid in." He
keeps "fishing for females" until one of them
takes the bait. Plus, he has become totally
immune to getting dissed."
"He also understands
that one woman's frog is another woman's
prince."
Very sound advice, hahaha.
BTW, I picked up a very fair skin PRC gal yesterday evening as she was waiting for taxi. She was QQ, abt 22-23, 165 w/ nice figure. Unfortunately, she works at a HFJ. I told a fren if I really like her I would buy all her sessions for the month. My fren's advice is to do it for a month then get her to return to PRC n apply for a different visa to come back. I could save half my money that way. A bit too complicated for me.
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