"It's not the shortness that's the problem. It's the LACK OF
CONFIDENCE that the shortness produces in the man
that's the problem."
Put in another way, It's not 'shortness' or any other self perceived shortcomings (in looks, weight, age, physical defects, educational level, intelligence, financial and social status, ethnic group, creed, nationality, etc) that's the problem. It's the lack of confidence that the self perceived shortcoming produces in the man that's the problem.
The big scar between actor Joaquin Phoenix's lip and nose is obvious. Many men w/ such defect will be shy and withdrawn.That would be a big problem.
Take a look at two other celebrities: Nick Vujicic n Sean Stephenson. Quite amazing.
If I am the person will never marry till I am ready to settle down. Raising the bar will be key and expects to get more gals that meets the higher bar.
In many r/s marriage spoil the whole plan. Makes the couple very miserable trying too hard to please.
Really admire bro WB ability to handle all his LPs. I am trying to steal some of his secrets here.
Wish all happy weekend.
Cheers.
Quote:
Originally Posted by warbird
Good morning!
I received an e-mail from a RS guru yesterday. Although the topic is not directly related to this thread, it's a problem many of us will face, sooner or later. It's a situation which may arise in any long-term male-female RS, whether the gal/woman is a spouse, GF, lao po or mistress, etc.
"What To Do If You Get A Girlfriend But "The Grass Is Greener" Elsewhere"
Mr Guru,
I need to ask you a question.
I am in a VERY happy relationship. I am going to get engaged very
soon. But in my day-to-day encounters I do work with or interact
with attractive and cool women.
Since I work in a large group, there are some people at my
workplace that I don't see on a daily basis but enough to have
regular conversations.
I have an ongoing dilemma on how to deal with particular women at
work.
Take for example a girl named Christina I work with.
She is super cool and very attractive. But if I continue to
interact with her, inevitably I will end up wanting to get to know
her more, get a big crush on her, and maybe even starting thinking,
"Man, the grass might be greener here."
Maybe this is just a man's tendency to want variety. As I said, I
love my g/f dearly, so it's not secondary to unhappiness with my g/f.
So I can pursue a stronger friendship / more interaction with
Christina at work, because I am physically and personality wise
attracted to her...but at risk of torturing myself since I will
fall for her but not do anything about it (the ultimate masochism).
Or worst-case scenario I'll fall for her so hard that I compromise
my relationship with my g/f.
This Christina girl is just one example....as there have been many
Christinas in the past who I usually end up AVOIDING to not create
drama in my life.
What do you think?
XX (Chicago, IL)
=====
Thanks for the great e-mail, Bro XX.
So why is it that women named "Christina" always seem to be hotties?
Here's the cold hard fact of the matter: If you are still gazing
at "greener pastures", you're either not ready to get married
because there is more left to be done in your dating life, more
deep-thinking ahead first, or because you *could* be settling.
I hear you telling me that you have a great relationship with a
woman whom you intend to marry, and that you couldn't be happier.
And I greatly admire your discipline with regard to not wanting to
compromise that relationship in any way. Big ups for that.
But YOUR genuine concern over the possibility of being drawn away
by another woman concerns ME also.
Taking your message to me at face value, I'm pretty sure that if
you were able to make the "Christinas" of the world a "non-issue",
then you would be an even happier man than you may now even realize
is possible.
Some will be quick to say this is an "unrealistic" explanation.
But much like, "you can never understand women", such is the battle
cry of those who SETTLE.
When you've met the one who wins your heart forever, other women
will melt into the background insofar as any real desire for
romantic involvement is concerned.
Hang with me here and I'll show you what I mean by that.
This does NOT mean that no other women are ever going to be
attractive or endearing to you ever again. And you *can* acquire the
skill set of enjoying femininity without requiring sexual
fulfillment to come from it, by the way.
(And that is REALLY COOL, opening the doors wide-open to GREATLY
ENHANCED day-to-day interactions.)
What it DOES mean is that you never, EVER second-guess the decision
you made to be with one woman, because you always keep the
perspective of having been through the dating process and having
made your decision from a position of ABSOLUTE STRENGTH and a
WEALTH OF EXPERIENCE.
The greatest woman you've ever met--your "100 out of 100"--will
literally COMPEL you to cut ties with the other women you've been
seeing until then.
No kidding, man. I wouldn't have believed it myself five years ago.
And there's no compromise when that happens. No "giving away your
manhood", "sacrificing your freedom" or anything negative at all,
really. It will have been YOUR decision...and a GOOD one.
And you'll be able to tuck away that definitive notion for safe
keeping over the long-haul, no matter how many hotties catch your
eye over the years to come.
I have to be honest with you here though Bro XX.
My first thought after reading your message was that if you REALLY
believe Christina might possibly be the kind of woman who could be
better for you than your current girlfriend, then perhaps you
haven't "raised the bar" high enough just yet as far as the person
you are going to spend the rest of your life with successfully.
If that doesn't resonate with you, and you are indeed firmly
convinced that your current girlfriend is the greatest woman you've
ever met, then so be it.
Nonetheless, If you ARE second guessing yourself on the possibility
of being sexually drawn to other women such that it would
compromise your current relationship, it's time for some hard
consideration.
The questions to ask yourself include:
1) Are you comparing your girlfriend to someone you don't know as
well?
This is always a loser of an idea. There's too much opportunity
for idealism there. I can't tell you how many guys blow a
long-term relationship for a fling with a new chick only to wonder
what they've done when she quickly falls short of expectations as
he "gets to know her better".
2) Have you really dated enough women to know EXACTLY who you're
looking for?
Your girlfriend MAY BE the greatest woman in the world for you.
But unless you have a firm grasp of what you want, you'll never
really know if you've found it.
3) Is it YOUR DECISION to get married?
Do you WANT to get married, or do you simply fear losing a great
woman? Are you DONE dating, or does the timing feel a bit premature?
Please know that you may indeed be able to resolve all of these
questions VERY successfully vis-à-vis your current relationship.
If so, I imagine your resolve will be rock-solid going forward.
If not, you may be frustrated now (as may she), but take it from
the guy who has been in front of a judge before and paid the
divorce lawyer richly for my trouble.
It's like the old Fram Oil Filter commercial: "You can pay now, or
you can pay later".
If I am the person will never marry till I am ready to settle down. Raising the bar will be key and expects to get more gals that meets the higher bar.
In many r/s marriage spoil the whole plan. Makes the couple very miserable trying too hard to please.
Really admire bro WB ability to handle all his LPs. I am trying to steal some of his secrets here.
I hv some musings on the subject of cheonging n BY-ing.
In the last 6 months I hv had difficulty maintaining an erection whenever I put on CD. I feel very little, even w/ the thinnest ones.
However, I hv had no problems at all when I do raw w/ my long term mistresses. As a result I hv done fewer ST or short term BY.
I suspect that many bros hv similar problem w/ CD.
A word of warning. Doing raw w/ any girl/woman carries some risks even if she is ur spouse. Sadly, over 50% of legal wives cheat. Nothing in this world is 100% foolproof. I do advise testing her n yourself w/ Oraquick for HIV every 2 months.
Your wife/spouse/mistress/GF/lover will be much less inclined to cheat if she is sexually addicted to u. And the best way to get her addicted is to give her regular penetrative vaginal orgasms PVOs. I hv alluded to this fact in the past.
A woman will feel empty n discontented if she doesn't experience regular PVOs, often w/o knowing the cause herself. It's all in her subconscious mind.
The other day I just received the following newsletter related to this vital subject from a guru..
I don't agree w/ the guru that it takes at least 20 min to give a woman PVOs. if you can prime the pump by giving her clitoral n/or G spot orgasms using ur fingers, tongue, etc. first, lasting 10 min is more than sufficient.
I also don't agree that if u can't get give ur woman regular PVOs she can never be really attracted to u. Or that she will never love or be addicted to u. In the short term, say a few yrs, she can be addicted to u n love u.
BUT, in longer term, she will lose her love or addiction for u IF you can't give her regular PVOs. It's a CERTAINTY.
Bro WB
I think many senior guys aged above 50 may encountered such incidents. With condom on the erection diminished. Not sure if you had tried using viagra or cialis then capped. Think it may help.
Recently read about using electrical waves to stimulate the blood vessels around the penis. Not sure how successful this method.
Sex Secret # 1: Oral Sex Alone Is Never Enough To Truly Please A Woman!
A lot of guys think that going down on a girl is the best way to make her happy in bed.
I know, because I used to be one of these guys
But now, after having been with a whole lot of women, I can tell you that is absolutely FALSE.
Sure, girls like a guy who knows how to go down... but if you REALLY want to blow her mind, you've gotta first rock her BODY...
And the way to do that is through good ole' fashioned penetration sex!
You probably already know that women are biologically programmed to want penetration from a man... the same way we are programmed to want to penetrate a woman.
But what most guys DON'T know is this:
The orgasms a woman gets from penetration sex are literally TEN TIMES as intense and powerful as any orgasm she can get by any other means!
Ask any woman and she'll tell you... no tongue or vibrator will ever replace her craving to have a man inside of her.
But here's what's REALLY crazy...
Sex Secret #2: Women Don't Just LOVE Penetration Orgasms... They Actually Need Them!
Here's another CRAZY secret most guys don't know...
When you have sex with a woman, a special chemical is released in her brain that tells her whether or not you are a good mate.
I'm no scientist and I cannot spell the name but I do know the more of this chemical that is released, the more she becomes attracted to you.
If you ejaculate too quickly, her brain doesn't have time to register that she is having sex, and nothing happens.
On the other hand, if you last long enough to give her a penetration orgasm, her brain is literally FLOODED with this chemical!
She immediately becomes sexually addicted to you... and sees you as "the one" for her.
Women NEED this chemical in order to tell if a guy is the right mate... and if you can't give her a penetration orgasm, she's not gonna get it.
The next secret I had to learn the hard way...
Sex Secret # 3: If You CAN'T Give A Woman A Penetration Orgasm, She Can Never REALLY Be Attracted To You!
Because of this biological need a woman has for penetration orgasms... if a guy can't give her one, she begins to see him as less of a man.
This is ESPECIALLY TRUE if a guy she was with before you was good in bed...
When this happens, she starts to worry she is with the wrong man... and thinks about going back to her ex, or finding a new guy.
The BUMMER is that this happens no matter how perfect you are for her in every other way!
No matter how well your personalities click, and no matter how much fun you have together, if you're not giving a woman orgasms from actual penetration sex, her brain subconsciously tells her to find someone who will.
I learned this the hard way when a girl I was in love with cheated on me and then left me for another guy.
It wasn't until many years later I figured out what the problem was (I'll explain in a minute)... but first, get this...
Sex Secret # 4: Giving A Woman A Penetration Orgasm Can Actually Be Easy...
A lot of men make the mistake of thinking they need to be "huge", or know some kind of special technique to give a woman a penetration orgasm.
NOT TRUE.
All it takes is a firm, steady motion... and being able to last at least 20 minutes in bed.
It has NOTHING to do with your size, and your technique isn't that important either.
All that's important is that you can LAST LONG ENOUGH for her to have one!
Women aren't like us men. I know you've heard that women like a lot of foreplay. That's true. Because everything takes longer for a woman.
It takes longer for her to get warmed up and ready for sex... and it takes longer for her to get off.
Let me say this in a different way:
It doesn't take "tricks" to give your girl a penetration orgasm... but it does take TIME.
But... once you go the distance, it happens by itself!
I know what you're thinking. If you're like I used to be, lasting 20 minutes seems like an eternity in bed...
I used to be lucky if I lasted 2 minutes .................
Mr. Guru
What a nice guru post.
Agreed that oral sex is not enough for any woman. I ever experienced a woman who gets so upset after I shot early and she hasn't cum.
The whole day she blackface and did not want to talk to me. So I made up the evening and let her cum and cum. Then she relief and much more friendllier.
A woman if wanted sex and she didn't gets it will ruined her and partner's day. Dun be surprised no lunch or dinner serve.
Some RS masters hv mentioned that 'foreplay' begins the second you meet the gal of ur type for the very first time n is a continuous process...
But for most men, foreplay begins inside the bedroom n includes hugging, touching, massaging, kissing n using the fingers, mouth n tongue to give the gal clitoral n g spot orgasms a few times. It will take abt 25-30 min. This should be followed by penetrative vaginal sex for 10-15 min, so that she will experience continuous orgasms. Longer than 20 min is not necessary.
While you r eating her pussy, you could use a finger to stimulate her ass. It will double her pleasure. You may also feel rhythmic contractions of her anal sphincters which is an objective sign of orgasm.
BTW, in a longer term RS, every healthy gal secretly wants u to eat her pussy n tickle her ass. Once she is comfortable w/ u playing her ass, you could easily do AJ on her, if u want to. I hv little interest in AJ though.
Regular PVOs is most satisfying physically, psychologically n emotionally for a gal/woman. There is no substitute in a long term RS, IMHO.
I think many senior guys aged above 50 may encountered such incidents. With condom on the erection diminished. Not sure if you had tried using viagra or cialis then capped. Think it may help.
Recently read about using electrical waves to stimulate the blood vessels around the penis. Not sure how successful this method.
Agreed that oral sex is not enough for any woman. I ever experienced a woman who gets so upset after I shot early and she hasn't cum.
The whole day she blackface and did not want to talk to me. So I made up the evening and let her cum and cum. Then she relief and much more friendllier.
A woman if wanted sex and she didn't gets it will ruined her and partner's day. Dun be surprised no lunch or dinner serve.
Bro WB - congrats and keep this thread moving to sustain more years.
Indeed to start a conversation to many guys weren't a problem but to a shy chap that may be a humongous mountain to climb.
I have a few friends that were always shy to approach women but willing to go call hoes. So each time will just pay and settle. Finding gfs to them will deemed to be troublesome.
Nothing is right or wrong.
Below is great educational guides for guys to strike conversation with any woman.
Many men like to to talk about their accomplishments, possessions, status, wealth, power, sexual prowess, women, etc. Very bad idea. I hv been an offender too. Instead of talking, we should LISTEN n LISTEN.
The other day I received an e-mail on the subject 'How to Get Beautiful Women to Talk to You!'
Bro Warbird,
This simple secret changed my life forever.
And it transformed me from the loneliest man I've ever known to the man I am today
- with dozens of close friends, a powerful social network, and three gorgeous girlfriends (who I've been dating for years)... as well as other women, who come and go.
The secret is this:
Getting over your fear of starting a conversation and talking to people is the secret to having an active social life, tons of friends, action whenever you want it and the hottest girlfriend you can possibly imagine.
The "Stop Talking" Technique...
The secret to meeting people... getting over your fear of starting a conversations... and the secret to making people interested in you is simple:
You want to change your goal from impressing someone through talking to them, to letting them impress you, while you listen.
This seems very simple, but it's incredibly profound. Let me show you how it changes EVERYTHING:
Most people are stuck in lives they only kinda like.
Some people live lives they absolutely hate.
And for better or worse, most WOMEN feel very frustrated. They feel like nobody HEARS them. Or listens to them. Or understands them on a deep level.
However, when you start a conversation with a woman... what do you do?
You try to "talk her into submission!"
You tell her this amazing thing... or use this incredible line... or try to impress her with your confidence...
... While the whole time, SHE just wants to let off steam. And impress you with her amazing interests... incredible lines... and show you HER sexuality and confidence.
So you have this battle between two people who are both trying to "talk the other one into submission."
Really, truly, it's a mess. And it's a miracle people can talk to each other at all.
So next time you talk to a woman you like... or a guy you want to be friends with... you're simply gonna do this:
1) You're gonna start the conversation. This part is EASY. It's SIMPLE. You can say "Hi." You can say "Hey." You can say whatever you want. Your only goal is to get them to stop, make eye contact, and say "Hello" back to you.
2) Then instead of trying to talk them to death, you're going to say, "So, tell me a little about yourself. What do you like to do?"
3) And then you listen. You say, "Wow. That's interesting. Why do you like to do that?" You ask them questions. You listen. You nod when they say something.
And you add your own stories or insights when the time is right. But mostly, you just try to listen. You soak up all the information you can.
Then, after about two to five minutes, you have to make a decision: Do you want this person in your life or not?
If you say yes, you tell them, "Hey. I had a really nice time talking to you. I'm really glad I met you. We should hang out sometime. What's your number?"
And if you don't, you say, "Hey. Sorry to interrupt you, but I really have to run. It was great meeting you, and enjoy the rest of your day!"
This works because it's so unique. And because you get to choose whether or not you want this person in your life. Why be afraid of meeting new people when YOU'RE doing the choosing?
Why be scared when YOU decide where this relationship - or friendship - is going?
What's the risk? What do you have to lose?
Nothing.
And that's the secret.
When you make this shift in the way you talk to people, you can't lose. You can grab friends or girlfriends right off the street without risking rejection. Or risk saying the wrong thing. Or risk the fear wiping your mind clean of anything to say, before you get the words out of your mouth.
I truly believe this "Stop Talking" Technique is the most powerful thing I've ever learned about meeting new people.
So before I go any further, I want to give you a quick tip you can apply RIGHT now with women.
I want you to think of three questions you wish a woman would ask you about what kind of man you are.
Now translate these questions so they'd make sense if you asked a woman. In other words, ask women the questions you want them to ask you.
Let me give a couple examples.
I'm extremely passionate about my job, and I would love it if a woman asked me, "So what do you like best about your job?"
Now this would really get me talking.
I would say, "Well it's incredibly rewarding to see guys transform into better men right before my very eyes. I always feel a great sense of accomplishment and fulfillment every time a workshop comes to an end."
Now imagine if you asked a woman this same question!
Here's another one. I love to talk about culture - art, movies, music, books.
So I always get excited when women ask me about my favorite movies, bands, books, etc.
So here's a question to try:
"If you could make any kind of movie, what would it be about? Who would be your leading man/lady? Why?"
-Or-
"If you could make a living doing any kind of art, what would it be? Photography? Sculpture? Something really strange and avant garde?"
For some reason i have really bad experiences with Thai girls i mean they are know to be gentle and stuff but why i don't find them ever gentle at least the ones i met. but chinese taiwan korean viet girls are all okay to me but just thais..... and to my suprise most of my friends actually like thai girls is there something wrong with me lol hope is not out of topic
When I was traveling around on biz trip, I have no problem with women from various countries or cities.
Let me just give a brief on what I think personally (someone meat maybe another one poison)
Thai women -
these women can be simple and yet sophisticated. Simple depends on their family been poor and living a simple life. The more sophisticated women will be from the higher earning groups or richer family. The women will be chaffeur driven and behave well. All these women will still treat their partners well and very passionate.
Indonesia women -
my experience with these Indonesian women are mostly from the entertaining nightlife. I hardly have any biz partner who were women. The nightlife women varied from aged and where they work. The were not passionate enough and will never get the same gfe as Thai women.
Malaysia women -
here have to separate the race because just different. Malay women will give better sex gfe than chinese. However still missing the passionate gfe of thais.
PRC women -
this woman will be mostly very money minded and provide great service if you are regular and not so great service if you are unknown. However most unsatisfactory service can be from this group.
Vietnam women -
will termed these women as a in between the thais and the prc. Can be spicy hot or gentle dove. Really depends where and how experience they were.
A few days ago a RS n sex guru sent me the following article on 'Black Magic Words' that will turn a beautiful woman on n make her dripping wet w/o her realizing why.
In my personal expereince, every girl has a playful, dark, wild n animal side which can be unleashed if u know how. She has to trust u 100% n she has to know for sure u won't judge her.
I won't go into details the words I hv used w/ my lao po n mistress. There r dirty n animalistic even when I use euphemisms. 你要我做小狗？ 大狗？哈哈哈。。。
Here is the article.
Hi Bro Warbird,
Have you ever wanted to leave a hot woman speechless? Turn her polite smile into a genuine wicked grin?
All you need to know are a few key, powerful and dangerous words.
Black Magic Words
But before we get to that, let me ask you a question: Why was language invented?
If there's one true thing we've learned from Hollywood it's that it wasn't invented to communicate - but to seduce women!
And tell me, how do you expect to do that if you don't know the Black Magic Words?
These Black Magic Words are some of the darkest, dirtiest phrases in the English Language.
You wouldn't dare say them to a woman's face. But trust me, if you know how to whisper them into a woman's ear, you will witness some of the most amazing and shocking effects:
* You WILL turn her on without her realizing it!
* You can make a woman INSTANTLY fall for you, even if you are only average-looking. In fact, this is the very secret the regular Joes you see walking hand in hand with Hollywood hotties use.
* You can use these magic words on a woman you're "just friends with." Then sit back and smile as you see her stripping naked just for you.
...But that's not even the best part. You would think something so powerful would take you a long time to master, but no. The Black Magic Words are easy to learn. You can literally start learning them NOW and master a new one each ten minutes!
I am so sure that they work, that I am going to offer you the first three for FREE.
Let's begin:
Black Magic Phrase Number One:
* Deep Inside
"What does it feel like, deep inside you?"
Sounds Dirty, doesn't it? It should. This simple expression conjures very explicit images and the sounds of women moaning. Best of all, it doesn't matter how innocent the woman is, she is unconsciously wired to associate these naughty thoughts when she hears "deep inside". All you need to do is find the proper context to make her fantasize whenever you want.
Try slipping them into your normal conversations:
Her:" Oh my god! This ice cream is to die for!"
You:" Really? Tell me how does it feel, deep inside you?"
Black Magic Phrase Number Two:
* Dripping (Wet)
"Be careful now, it's dripping down your chin..."
This black magic phrase is even more sensual than deep inside. It will drive sensual women even wilder.
Imagine how often you get the opportunity to slip on of these into a casual conversation for devastating effects:
The SITUATION: It's raining and she forgot to bring an umbrella. Don't just state the plain and obvious "It's raining." It's boring! Try this out instead:
"Oh baby, look at you! You're just dripping wet..."
Black Magic Phrase Number Three:
* Come (For Me)
"I love it when you come for me..."
We all want to come. Women fantasize about this just as much as men. So this Black Magic phrase will put her EXACTLY in the right spot and will drive her wild:
Her:" OK. I guess I'll see you later then."
You: "I can't wait for you to come."
Still not convinced? Here some more proof that it works every time:
* TV Networks will slip them about everywhere: Soap Operas, Reality TV, Talk Shows, etc...and viewers almost never notice them. What's the result? Ratings go through the roof! (Especially in the category "Women 18-34 years old")
* Exotic Tourism Advertising relentlessly penetrates young women's minds with these black magic words. Last year, thousands of gorgeous young women abandoned their inhibitions and morals and flew to Cancun, Mexico.
...So if you have a crush on a beautiful woman, just shove one of these Black Magic Phrases into your next conversation. She may just squeal in delight...
Best,
Your Guru
We need to know those words in Chinese if we r w/ PRC gals hahaha.
Bro WB - congrats and keep this thread moving to sustain more years.
Indeed to start a conversation to many guys weren't a problem but to a shy chap that may be a humongous mountain to climb.
I have a few friends that were always shy to approach women but willing to go call hoes. So each time will just pay and settle. Finding gfs to them will deemed to be troublesome.
Nothing is right or wrong.
Below is great educational guides for guys to strike conversation with any woman.
When I was traveling around on biz trip, I have no problem with women from various countries or cities.
Let me just give a brief on what I think personally (someone meat maybe another one poison)
Thai women -
these women can be simple and yet sophisticated. Simple depends on their family been poor and living a simple life. The more sophisticated women will be from the higher earning groups or richer family. The women will be chaffeur driven and behave well. All these women will still treat their partners well and very passionate.
Indonesia women -
my experience with these Indonesian women are mostly from the entertaining nightlife. I hardly have any biz partner who were women. The nightlife women varied from aged and where they work. The were not passionate enough and will never get the same gfe as Thai women.
Malaysia women -
here have to separate the race because just different. Malay women will give better sex gfe than chinese. However still missing the passionate gfe of thais.
PRC women -
this woman will be mostly very money minded and provide great service if you are regular and not so great service if you are unknown. However most unsatisfactory service can be from this group.
Vietnam women -
will termed these women as a in between the thais and the prc. Can be spicy hot or gentle dove. Really depends where and how experience they were.
Never did try Indian, Caucasian, etc.
When I travel around on biz trip, I tried many European women. I find Eastern European women are the best.
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but chinese taiwan korean viet girls are all okay to me but just thais..... and to my suprise most of my friends actually like thai girls is there something wrong with me lol 
hope is not out of topic
