Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[playboy82]

lol.. come, dun stop posting, lets make this a 100 over pages thread..

[slyer]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

It's certaintly a good time to revive this thread as the year end is near - a time when it's natural for one to reflect on the past and take stock of one's life.
It's also interesting to see how things have changed (or not change...) over the times...

hey bro long time no hear from you. how's life?

sad to say in 2008 my love life is yet another disappointment and filled with emptiness. hope to meet my special one in 2009...

wish u happy new year

[huanggua]

Love begets love.

[cmelater]

For the bros who felt left out in this dating game and courtship, just want to share some pointers with everyone.

One is that dating a singapore gal is not for any guy in the street. Expectations are generally higher and, as a guy, you are easily expected to be able to folk out some money for your date's food and entertainment expenses. If you can't do this, most of the gals in the street will easily write you off.

2nd is that you should be relatively financially stable. ie, guy should ve a job which pays decently. Having a car is a plus. Staying alone in ur own house is a very big plus (think red cross). Means that the gal if she likes you enough, she has an option to move in with u and things should move even faster.

3rd, the guy should be a pretty good conversationalist and host. Gal who enjoys guy's company means that the guy stands a better chance. Packaging matters. Gals want to be seen with a guy who can make the rest of the female population jealous and sleepless.

4th, the dating game is not for the faint hearted. Each new date with the gal means more money, time and effort at stake. Anything can go wrong at anytime and anywhere. What you invested may all go up in smoke, in the blink of an eye. Think about how citibank lost 90% of its market value over a short span of time. Its that dramatic. No one knew that the world no.1 GM would be forced onto its knees one day. If you think you cannot stomach such high losses and you just write these off as bad investments, dating the sg gal is really not an option for you.

Finally, you prob realise that you need to be a jack of all trades. Yes, for the sg guy, you need to know everything and anything. Else, the regular sg gal is really out of reach. It wouldn't then be a surprise to realise why foreign wives are so popular. It isn't that the average sg joe is no good, but the cost of courting the gal next door can be that high. Soon, sg garment has to introduce additional dating courtship offset packages, so that they can get pple to start dating.

To be honest, all these are the the results of a westernised society. If garment really want back the good old 7 kid family era, it has to undo all these changes in the dating game rules, which have grown so entrenched and so... or rather too well accepted.

[giggz83]

But still never try never no. I truely believe not all SG girls are as bad as what we think ..

A new year ... i hope all bros out there can find the other half we're all waiting for .. good luck and happy new year 2009.

[playboy82]

Originally Posted by cmelater

For the bros who felt left out in this dating game and courtship, just want to share some pointers with everyone.

One is that dating a singapore gal is not for any guy in the street. Expectations are generally higher and, as a guy, you are easily expected to be able to folk out some money for your date's food and entertainment expenses. If you can't do this, most of the gals in the street will easily write you off.

2nd is that you should be relatively financially stable. ie, guy should ve a job which pays decently. Having a car is a plus. Staying alone in ur own house is a very big plus (think red cross). Means that the gal if she likes you enough, she has an option to move in with u and things should move even faster.

3rd, the guy should be a pretty good conversationalist and host. Gal who enjoys guy's company means that the guy stands a better chance. Packaging matters. Gals want to be seen with a guy who can make the rest of the female population jealous and sleepless.

4th, the dating game is not for the faint hearted. Each new date with the gal means more money, time and effort at stake. Anything can go wrong at anytime and anywhere. What you invested may all go up in smoke, in the blink of an eye. Think about how citibank lost 90% of its market value over a short span of time. Its that dramatic. No one knew that the world no.1 GM would be forced onto its knees one day. If you think you cannot stomach such high losses and you just write these off as bad investments, dating the sg gal is really not an option for you.

Finally, you prob realise that you need to be a jack of all trades. Yes, for the sg guy, you need to know everything and anything. Else, the regular sg gal is really out of reach. It wouldn't then be a surprise to realise why foreign wives are so popular. It isn't that the average sg joe is no good, but the cost of courting the gal next door can be that high. Soon, sg garment has to introduce additional dating courtship offset packages, so that they can get pple to start dating.

To be honest, all these are the the results of a westernised society. If garment really want back the good old 7 kid family era, it has to undo all these changes in the dating game rules, which have grown so entrenched and so... or rather too well accepted.

well, thanks, u have enlightens me, allow me to up u with my humble 3 pts, i think even worse is that, even those fat, ugly cmi one also demand like those average standard one.. IMHO..

[K1177]

well ..

i also caught in the same situation as most of the bros here .. no gf ..

good friends most of them have gfs ... when going out together see them "tian mi mi" ... heartache to the max ....

can sae i being suay maybe ? gals tht i like are always attached .. don ask mi why ? Coincidence ? too much of Coincidence ? don u think so ?

so failed umpteen times already .. decided to give up chasing gals ..and i realised without $ .. u can't hook up a gal .. why ? in other post bro cmelater posted .. sg gals always see how much u earn wht is your educational lvl ...

ask ard the gals ard u .. they definitely sae no .. in deep down they will agreed wht i posted .. those who sae they don "lust" for $ ? bullshit ..

so nowadays i don really go and find ... sick of it...

now currently trying to concentrate on buying a car .. mod car , play on streets and track ... imho is much much better than a gal ...

[cmelater]

Originally Posted by giggz83

But still never try never no. I truely believe not all SG girls are as bad as what we think ..

A new year ... i hope all bros out there can find the other half we're all waiting for .. good luck and happy new year 2009.

It isn't an easy find. I truly would want to believe that there are nice sg girls out there. I came across some. They are so good that they can win a Miss Singapore Wife pageant (if there is). Pretty, faithful and devoted.

But, nice ones also mean that (for us guys) we need to ve some form of financial stability and financial spending power. If dun ve enough spending power, its also tough to court these nice girls. Not to say they are materialistic. More like, there will be other guys courting the same girls. Some money has to be spent to impress these gals. How much is some and whether its enough... no way to confirm one. End of the day, after doing everything, to be rejected is a very real risk. This risk cannot be completely eliminated. Its like a biz risk. You are in biz, so you really have to bear it and accept that it may hit you anytime. Only thing that you can do is to be able to pick yourself up and repeat the same process of subjecting yourself to the same dating expenses, risks and stresses again. :P

Dating is a really not a game for underpaid folks. Not saying this to insinuate or insult our more humble background bros. Essentially, the guy (with the most money, creativity and time to burn) get to win the game. The pt is the gal has to feel impressed by the guy.

I wish I can find one soon. Its really much easier than dating girls whom you have no idea what the outcome is. Speed dating is like throwing money away. Everything so random. Dating agencies also super money driven. wtf. Personality match or not, they only care about collecting the money first.

[cmelater]

Originally Posted by playboy82

well, thanks, u have enlightens me, allow me to up u with my humble 3 pts, i think even worse is that, even those fat, ugly cmi one also demand like those average standard one.. IMHO..

u r not wrong. Let me quote this random saying I read from friendster. "Where there is a hole, there is a demand."

Girls all got their own demands siah. Just like us guys, we want our gfs to be at least presentable and dun need hide behind the curtain or coat face with a layer of make up powder.

[tabbilicious]

although girls are materialistic. but there are alot of guys who are looking for no strings attach kind of relationship.

true love does not exist in my own opinion.

merry new year to all the brothers and sisters here!
get out and know more girls and guys!

[slyer]

Originally Posted by giggz83

But still never try never no. I truely believe not all SG girls are as bad as what we think ..

A new year ... i hope all bros out there can find the other half we're all waiting for .. good luck and happy new year 2009.

i believe there are some nice sg girls out there for each of us. it depends on the right time and the right girl. hope 2009 will be a good year for relationship for all bros here

[Erasure]

Love works in mysterious way,
Love is all around us.
Those who are loveless,
May you find your love soon.
Those who gave up trying,
There is still hope.
Love conquers all,
Love fills our heart,
Human needs only love.
I want love.....

[hose_lover]

For those who are unattached, let me give you one advice.
Gals are nothing but trouble.
They may seem attractive to go after. But after you get one and maybe settled down, you will regret your decision.
So enjoy your singlehood while you can. It is not a sin to be single.
It is a privilege that you will not want to give up.

[cmelater]

True love may be exists, if we believe in it. Or may be, it never existed.

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by cmelater

Girls all got their own demands siah. Just like us guys, we want our gfs to be at least presentable and dun need hide behind the curtain or coat face with a layer of make up powder.

During my younger days, I used to have high standards for girls. Like you have mentioned, "at least presentable". As years passed, I lowered my requirements, notch by notch. Even to the extent that I don't mind even if she has a small tummy or less than desirable skin condition.

Despite my requirements have lowered over the years, I have yet to encounter a local lady who can accept me. Even a Plain Jane dares to reject me straight into my face. I have gradually understand that it is my solely my issue, mainly our local girls' requirements are too high. I have a degree, a decent paycheck and some sense of humour. But to them, they just want something more to come with the package, e.g. car, a 5-figure monthly salary, a wealthy family background etc. If SIA describes the guys of this class, I'm just Tiger Airways. No frills, no perks.

Well, I got no ill feelings. Maybe just that I'm no saint, for cheonging these years. Or maybe true love needs time to brew. Or maybe there's no true love after all. Fairy tales don't exist in real life, isn't it?