Do you still wanna bonk your wife?

[nuclearkid]

On this topic, I suppose most of us blokes with longer marriages have spouses that can go without the do for awhile. Mine's almost 9 years and its getting moribund. Oh well...this joke give you fellow sufferers out there an idea of what to give this coming Valentines':

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One night Jerry brought home a dozen red roses to his wife. "How lovely, Dear," she said. "What's the occasion?"

"I want to make love to you," he said simply.

"Not tonight, Dear. I have a headache," answered his wife.

The next night Jerry came home with a big box of chocolates and explained that he wanted to make love with her. "I'm awfully tired, Honey," said his wife. "Not tonight."

Every night for a week Jerry brought home something, but each time his wife's answer was no. Finally he came home with six black kittens with little red bows around their necks and handed them to his wife.

"How adorable, Jerry!" she exclaimed. "But what are they for?"

The husband replied, "These are six little pallbearers for your dead pussy."

[TyLa_BaBy]

SinDellman:
Thanks for sharing! At least you found a solution for the problem.
I guess I feel like how you were last time: short-tempered, no motivation, feel like my life/marriage is bleak.


mr nice guy:
That's assuring to know. But yeah, he's tired/stressed most of the time. Bills, kids, work...
Ok lah ok lah, I admit it. I'm lusty.


nuclearkid:
Hahahaha! The husband also very patient hor?
So... maybe I'll eventually need to gift my man with a rooster.

[BBlick]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

Actually... I was secretly hoping by confessing to him, he will be angry and divorce me. Then I don't have to live like this anymore. Cos I don't have the heart to leave him, can only find ways to make him leave me.

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Sis baby, can see that you are a nice lady but unsatisfied by your partner. Talk to him and buy some toys for both of you.

Btw, are you sure he didn't eat outside?

[TyLa_BaBy]

BBlick:
I can tell you I am 1000% sure he's not eating outside. But I'm sure some fellas here will beg to differ.
We've got toys, but it doesn't help. Low drive is low drive.
I'm sure you also know if drive is low and desire is not really there, no amount of sexual aids will increase the drive/desire.

[mldue]

without the confidence and with all that guilt, how to satisfy each other?

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

Actually I already strayed twice in this marriage. First time I told him outright. The 2nd time I told him 1.5 yrs later. It was not easy carrying the lie/guilt for so long. But in the end he told me... He's sorry. Because he really cannot match up to my needs, therefore I ended up eating outside.

I am also very lost, man.

actually you have to make time for love making. that's a fact.
however busy, reserve a time for it. schedule it. send the kids out. stop whatever you are doing. it's couple (fuck) time!
call it whatever, but it is a core act of intimacy that helps to bind a relationship a level up.
when my kids were little, we will schedule their activities so that some weeknights and pockets of the weekend will be just couple time for us.
anything goes. walk in the park, outdoor sex, catch movie, shopping, more sex wherever we may be, etc.

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

Actually I don't get much temptations. I stay home all the time with the kids, hardly any chance to get in contact with men. It's not like I go clubbing then meet hot guys.
Even then, my friends are there on the rare occasions that I go clubbing, where got chance??
If I wanna cheat, it must be very late at night after everyone goes to sleep. Where got so many guys so free to bonk at 3-4am at last minute lah! Can only fantasise.

Divorce is never pretty even if it's mutual. It's a card I don't intend to play unless I'm really at my wit's end.

[Rain-Men]

Originally Posted by TyLa_BaBy

BBlick:
I can tell you I am 1000% sure he's not eating outside. But I'm sure some fellas here will beg to differ.
We've got toys, but it doesn't help. Low drive is low drive.
I'm sure you also know if drive is low and desire is not really there, no amount of sexual aids will increase the drive/desire.

Hey sis..just read some of your info here...dun meant to be rude in my earlier comments...hope you are coping along fine. Hang in there, k?

[jugesam]

Dear TS,

many of us still wanna bonk our wives, or at least i do, the problem is that she do not want to be bonk !!!! Thats the same excuses i get all the time, like some bro said here. i have given up asking or fighting liao. if i make the first move and get a negative response, i will just turn around and sleep. this attitude is bcos heart cold liao. dun want to waste anymore time talking abt it. anyway talk already also no use. Actually many articles say that woman need a lot of stimulation, and man do not. the fact is that man also like to have the same stimulation and attention, we are humans too!! so dun expect to play the little innocent gal and wait to be seduce!

but not bonking her is diff from not loving her. and loving her doesnt mean i will care more about her. confusing leh, bottom line is that although still love her, the feeling is already not like b4. now is more like the attitude of "whatever lah". nothing else matters anymore.

I think u start this thread cos u think that guys stop bonking their wives after some time. actually its not, from the stories here, most of the time is the wife who doesnt want. your hb maybe pre-occupied with work and watever else, but man are human too, just show your loving touch and concern just like u would like him to do for you. dun lose confidence in yourself, treat him well and you will be reciprocated. but dun do blindly lah, so as to protect yourself also.

hope you get out of your situation soon. while i just continue to ta pau as and when necessary.

[mr nice guy]

hey tyla baby.. wats up homi??

anyways, guess wat?? yesterday we turn in eraly as to get the baby to have a standard sleeping time.. so we bring the baby inside at about 2130hrs.. around 2200hrs my wifey ask me....

she: eh, you want to get it on??
me: huh?? now?? hmmm.. tomorrow can??
she: why??
me: no mood.. heheheh..
she: ok.. tomorrow on..

just like tat.. is tat easy or wat... heheheh

[Masterdebater]

I'm the opposite! I ask my wife u want? She said too tired...so tonight must....else I'm going to burst.

[TyLa_BaBy]

judgesam:
I don't know what's the reason that married couples stop having sex (or have very little sex) after some years. Contrary belief is that the wife has lost interest, especially after having kids, then sex becomes "redundant" cos no need to make babies anymore.
On the other hand, there are the men who get bored of their wives cos they now look like fat aunties and don't pay attention to their grooming anymore.

Both cases are common, I guess. But I wonder if there is simply cases where sex drive has been pushed to the bottom of priorities, especially when parred against mandatory stuff like work, children, parents, sleep, etc.

And I agree, not bonking doesn't mean don't love her anymore. It just develops into a comfortable stable relationship without the sexual sparks lor. Not necessarily a bad thing, except we all need our sexual release one time or another.

Honestly, I don't know how some women can don't have sex for years. Dunno is it their parts something wrong, or mine got something wrong.

You're right about the loving touch too. My man doesn't respond to blatant seduction, but if I snuggle up to him at bedtime and kiss his neck gently, I have a higher chance of getting laid. Provided he doesn't fall asleep first, or tell me "tomorrow ok?" Hahahaha.

mr nice guy:
Hahahaha So I guess you will be going home very early today, shower clean clean, then ask your baby to cooperate hor??
I think if you bring her flowers when you go home today, tonight you sure have banging sex lah!

We actually do that quite often. I ask, then he say tmr. But that tmr never comes one leh. (Like title of James Bond movie like that.) So end up I ask every night, then he tmr every night, until I even sian to ask already.


masterdebater:
I'm sure alot of the bros here will be able to empathise with your situation. But who can empathise with me huh?? Where are the sex-starved charbors?!?!

[TRYDRY]

Maybe you can try to bring in another girl for threesomes? I think your husband's sex drive will be triggered alive again once he sees her join in the action.

[mseveninch]

Married for the past 25 yrs. Not a single day go without it. I work so hard for the bread and butter ( Single income ).

OC daily do the deed without me request. She massage me and follow up with...........sperm withdrawal by all means..... Me so happy.

I still eat out whenever - oversea trip...........

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by mseveninch

Married for the past 25 yrs. Not a single day go without it.

Bro, how you manage to get it on every single day for the past 25 years? My God, that works out to a total of over 9,125 times assuming that you do it only once a day!!!!

For me, twice a week is comfortable. Anything more than that gets a bit strenueous.

You popping the Blue Pill bro?

[slider_72]

Sis Tyla, I hope you won't mind me asking you a question.

From a woman's perspective, how would you feel if you find out that your husband engaged the services of WLs, as compared with say having a girlfriend or mistress?

Do you think a typical woman would see it as a lesser evil since it is purely to satisfy a man's lust with no emotions attached (and therefore would tend to forgive the husband), or would a typical woman see any sexual intercourse by the husband with any other woman as being equally bad (and hence unforgivable)?

[old_yet_horny]

During dating days (just confirm her as GF)

We have sex every day.. almost crazy over it... in extreme cases.. we did 3 to 4 times in 24 hrs.. Everywhere.. living room.. toilet, staircase, carpark, garden, public toilet..etc etc..


After some datings (1 to 2 years)

Every alternate days.. maybe average up to 3 to 4 times a week at my place or her place.. overseas holiday trip etc etc..


After marriage(1 to 2 years)

Every week 1 time, in the bed room... on the bed


After few years of marriage

Once in a blue moon...