Need Help On How To Make My Wife Sexually Active?

[bossy_miaomiao]

Originally Posted by Anel King

Hi Sis.

Finally a female prospective to shed light on this issue.

I am trying my best to slowly talk to her. will need abit more time. Same time i am going to the gym to beef up some muscle to woo her as well.

Spice things up... HHMMMM!!!

Can advice please. So far from marriage till now, she only like Missionary, once in a while Cow Girl (other she don't want to try). BJ she hardly give, may be not used to it (I wash & clean my small head nicely.)
Likes me painting her upper body but not waist down, including her pussy. She feel not clean. We used to bath together, but ever since the kids came, no chance.

Any other way to spice things up.

Give her compliments, lady love it... such as " sexy, nice, this dress fit you, you look great today, you make me think of doing with you dear.... etc" make her feel good, comfortable and may turn her on.

Perhaps I know her feeling well, lady turn to low sex drive. Busy with kids and tired are reasons, BUT mainly caused lack of confident after giving birth.. we need sometimes and expect to receive compliment, confirm and assurance to re-gain the confidence to our figure, as well as to turn on sex drive.

[bossy_miaomiao]

Originally Posted by adrx

...same as my wife..chasing me to workout....Normally she dont mind wearing (she had a topless sun bathing during our honeymoon) .. but due to her figure out abit.. dont wear it anymore...

same here, after gave birth, figure out abit... don't even go swimming anymore.. feel lousy..

but now, re-built my confidence and had brought few bikinis during HK trip.. will put on and show off killing body again.. (although not slim as previous, but the important is i feel confidence to myself)

thus, give her continuouesly compliment and encouragement.. sure will work it !!

[bossy_miaomiao]

Originally Posted by Anel King

Hi Sis.
..... Spice things up... HHMMMM!!!

Can advice please. So far from marriage till now, she only like Missionary, once in a while Cow Girl (other she don't want to try). BJ she hardly give, may be not used to it (I wash & clean my small head nicely.)
Likes me painting her upper body but not waist down, including her pussy. She feel not clean. We used to bath together, but ever since the kids came, no chance.

Any other way to spice things up.

try to seduce her, like clean shaven yourself if you never did that... sure will attract her attention.

try to naked / with only a towel around your waist after shower.. hug her from her back and kiss her, might turn her on.. * personally i like the feeling , feel loving, caring and sexy..

During pregnancy, small baby/kid around really make lady's sex drive low, pls bear a bit it is due to "act of hormones". When kid growth elder, lady turn to more horny and would try out whatever pattern you name. Trust me, by time can't promise horny for you or others?

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by kgbkgb

whoah. i'm surprised so many women are disinterested in sex. Mine dun mind to have it evryday. I have an intimate female fren who also said she doesnt mind evryday.

Originally Posted by tomvoyeur

Women like sex too. They just did not find the right man. So to all husbands - be wary when ur wife is not interested in having sex with u - they just released it somewhere else.

Yes above-mentioned bros are rite....women do like sex and as bro kgbkgb said some even want it everyday !!. But tis applies to the young married ones from teens to say 50 yo, to those just married, recently married etc.

BUT when the novelty is over and as they age and age catches up wif them, they begin to lose interest in sex esp after the children come along wif its attendant problems, tis is when it spells trouble for the marriage. HBs are being rebuffed and refused sex by their OCs for all the various reasons they give, some of which are of course valid. But watever it is, it all boils down to the fact tat they are no longer interested to have sex with their HBs anymore, they have other interests or other better things to do or life's matters to attend to. So most of us bros here and outside of SBF are left stranded n the problems we are having wif our OCs are at tis stage... perhaps tis is no one's fault, we are made by nature tis way...

As i hav mentioned, tis is somewat like the econ principle of diminishing returns in operation. I tink Nature has a big part to play in tis and the high divorce stats tell part of if not the whole story. I tink we cant expect all 60, 70, or 80 yo women to be still interested in sex even if they are still healthy. Tis is nature, we can't change nature, we hav to accept tat they no longer want to have sex at a certain point of time in their lives.....when and at wat age depends on the individual, but the ceassation of sex and the consequent likely break-up will happen 1 day if HBs cannot continue to command the love n respect of their OCs. even for the best of reasons

Sigh...wat a difficult and problematic world we live in.....

[SeaKing]

Wonder if this problem only happened to Asian women?
Always not interested in sex after giving birth.....

I stayed in the States for about 7 years and the Ang Mo women don't seem to have this problem....
Still super active even they are already like 40 years old (though they usually looked much older....)

[freezetheDB]

I think its a natural outcome eventually as we humans tend to get bored of the same thing.

For me the main reason for staying off the playground is if one day my dick cannot perform, will I want my gf/wife/SO to go outside and play?

I still have sex with gf but not as frequent. Living together seem to kill that urgency to have sex compared to when not living together. You think you have all the time in the world at home but then you get tired from other stuff like work or other serious hobbies.

Trying my best to stay loyal. Only time will tell if the beast within me force itself out of my skin.

[PepperO]

Originally Posted by SeaKing

Wonder if this problem only happened to Asian women?
Always not interested in sex after giving birth....

Actually, I think it really depends on the individual.. For me, I actually find my sex drive higher after giving birth to 2 kids.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by SeaKing

Wonder if this problem only happened to Asian women?
Always not interested in sex after giving birth.....

I stayed in the States for about 7 years and the Ang Mo women don't seem to have this problem....
Still super active even they are already like 40 years old (though they usually looked much older....)

Originally Posted by PepperO

Actually, I think it really depends on the individual.. For me, I actually find my sex drive higher after giving birth to 2 kids.

Rite again, sis PepperO is correct in her statement above. It is fortunate for us to know tat she is 1 of the few special women who hav HSD, lucky hubby !! But for the larger conservative majority, they simply lose interest in sex esp after the babies come....maybe to them they tink they hav done their NS to bear children.....wat more do u want from them, har ??....now other life's matters interest them more... sigh

And i believe bro Seaking is oso rite too. The Ang Mohs are in general more open to and love to hav sex more than their Asian counterparts esp the European women, i heard..

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by bossy_miaomiao

try to seduce her, like clean shaven yourself if you never did that... sure will attract her attention.

try to naked / with only a towel around your waist after shower.. hug her from her back and kiss her, might turn her on.. * personally i like the feeling , feel loving, caring and sexy..

During pregnancy, small baby/kid around really make lady's sex drive low, pls bear a bit it is due to "act of hormones". When kid growth elder, lady turn to more horny and would try out whatever pattern you name. Trust me, by time can't promise horny for you or others?

Thanks for your many good suggestions, sis bossy_miaomiao. But many bros/sis here n elsewhere i believe, hav tried them and others in the books but regrettably none were able to turn their partners on... they seem to be as hard as stone.. But its good tat sis miaomiao is an understanding lady who can appreciate and enjoy sex wif HSD. There's another Lucky hubby again !!

[bossy_miaomiao]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Thanks for your many good suggestions, sis bossy_miaomiao. But many bros/sis here n elsewhere i believe, hav tried them and others in the books but regrettably none were able to turn their partners on... they seem to be as hard as stone.. But its good tat sis miaomiao is an understanding lady who can appreciate and enjoy sex wif HSD. There's another Lucky hubby again !!

now the lucky one is my BF..

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by adrx

hmm... tell her straight to the face...go direct.. but in a calmly manner.. she need time for u... once a while, should leave the kids alone.. better still, put the kids on the hand of mother-in-law.... even just a day... preferably 2-3 days...

Well Bro

Thats already in the pipeline. In a weeks time. Will keep updated

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by PepperO

Hi bro.. I can understand your situation 'cos I also have 2 kids. Recently, HB and I ended up making out in the living room after the maid and kids were asleep in their rooms. It was thrilling and exciting, trying to keep myself from moaning too loud.

I guess it's about knowing what makes your wife tick.. or horny, in this case.

Hi Sis

Lucky you and your Hubby.

Am still trying to find out what makes my wife Horny though. I might have found it but need a confirmation

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by darrenlai

Bro, sometimes it is not doing things that you like but things she like.
she says you not spending time with her, means she wants to spend some quality time with you (maybe together with your kids)

Bro

I honestly think that my wife & me are both guilty on this.

She spends alot of time with the kids. the whole day actually.
I only get a precious 3 hours from the time i get home to the time they sleep

So when they sleep, she is already tired out and have no energy.
I go back to doing my work.

But For my work i am already seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. So thing should improve on my end. will look for a solutions her as well.

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by bossy_miaomiao

Give her compliments, lady love it... such as " sexy, nice, this dress fit you, you look great today, you make me think of doing with you dear.... etc" make her feel good, comfortable and may turn her on.

Perhaps I know her feeling well, lady turn to low sex drive. Busy with kids and tired are reasons, BUT mainly caused lack of confident after giving birth.. we need sometimes and expect to receive compliment, confirm and assurance to re-gain the confidence to our figure, as well as to turn on sex drive.

Well i have tried saying that she looked nice and sexy twice when she wore a sexy singlet and jeans at home. Ans she honestly looked great in that. All She said was, All guys only One track mind, Sex!!! in an annoying look and manner.

So tell me what else to tell her?

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by bossy_miaomiao

try to seduce her, like clean shaven yourself if you never did that... sure will attract her attention.

try to naked / with only a towel around your waist after shower.. hug her from her back and kiss her, might turn her on.. * personally i like the feeling , feel loving, caring and sexy..

During pregnancy, small baby/kid around really make lady's sex drive low, pls bear a bit it is due to "act of hormones". When kid growth elder, lady turn to more horny and would try out whatever pattern you name. Trust me, by time can't promise horny for you or others?

Will like to try your suggestions

Thanks

Regards
Anel King